| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:07:18 PM | In a world of over 6 billion people, there are over 6 billion sets of "rules". Follow your own path...this dude's idea of what a date is apparently is not the same as yours. Not a great loss on your part. And if it matters how many sex partners the woman has had, it also matters how many the man has had. Sex is after all, one of the strongest urges we have...for some, it is the strongest, bypassing even food. I would like to find a man who can think primarily thru his brain and not thru his winky. All this crap of sex is really the only thing men think about is just a bunch of hoo-ey. As a species, we would not have the pyramids, the Sistine Chapel, the space program or bubble gum if that were true. Stick to your principles...that is what counts these days.
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:31:03 PM | Rotti said: While I have a very healthy pulse rate I am not interested in sleeping with someone to get his attention. I had a too close encounter before Christmas and I have to admit I'm spooked again
Rothwielers (did I spell that correct) are like American Express .... Don't leave home without it...
On a more somber note... We need to realize men that have been out of the dating scene for a while themselves may not know what to do in certain circumstances... There's heavy petting going on, hummm now what do I do ??
" THINK THINK damnit you old fool THINK when you dated before what was the rule... !!!! Goes both ways I guess... HEY during dinner tell him.. OK after dinner we'll get into some hot and heavy kissing... But we stop there.... WONDER IF THAT WOULD WORK ??? | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:39:56 PM | Mac, glad you had a good laugh. I'd sure hate to believe that six honest men that I know well were liars, and according to the wikipedia, they weren't. Perhaps you never had to deal with a good Mormon girl holding on to her virginity, lol!
Personally, I don't much enjoy laughing AT peeps, and try to avoid it. Whatever floats yer boat. . . .
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:49:53 PM | "Us regulars know you have a few rules that against just about every dating situation you might encounter and they seem to be working quite well now for years."
Yes, I certainly turn down more than I accept, and it works well for me.
Like I have said before if people need to be part of a relationship most of the time, then they are welcome to jump in and out of relationships. Personally, I will pass on that lifestyle.
Rotteiler's make better companions that a lot of people. They have better manners, and better sense's of humour too, quite often. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 4:00:51 PM |
I'd sure hate to believe that six honest men that I know well were liars, and according to the wikipedia, they weren't.
Wikipedia as a lie detector? I don't think so.
I've heard all kinds of advise about how to get laid and fear of causing a medical condition ranks up there with the funniest.
It's not that I was laughing AT anyone I was laughing at some guy carrying around a picture of someone with deformed testicles in his wallet to get women to 'cure him' and at the women that fell for it.
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 5:09:53 PM |
Us regulars know you have a few rules that against just about every dating situation you might encounter and they seem to be working quite well now for years.
This is kinda below the belt hit, don't ya think?
Just because someone is selective, not desperate and has a life without a relationship,
doesn't justify wise cracks. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 5:46:24 PM | | SueCat has some good guidlines and sanity checks for all, but RULES? No! no rules for us boomers we are old enough to make them as we go. But don't think all men or women are alike. Some are keepers, some are throw-backs. You have to decide if it feels right; and if he seems like a jerk he probably is (to you anyway). Go with you feeling. As they say "whenyou meet Mr/Ms Right you'll know it" | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:15:51 PM |
We need to realize men that have been out of the dating scene for a while themselves may not know what to do in certain circumstances... There's heavy petting going on, hummm now what do I do ??
" THINK THINK damnit you old fool THINK when you dated before what was the rule... !!!! Goes both ways I guess... HEY during dinner tell him.. OK after dinner we'll get into some hot and heavy kissing... But we stop there.... WONDER IF THAT WOULD WORK ???
Kalico? You simply rock. I had to laugh when I first read the above, but then, I really got to thinking about it. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that a lot of men struggle just as you have described. Your thoughts, my good man, make a man much more human in my eyes as opposed to "the enemy" or "the one that's messed up"!
Thank you for that refreshing eye opener! Something we all need to keep in mind ya know? All human, all trying to find whatever it is that makes us happy! | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:43:57 PM | Dating ruleS?
I have only one dating rule.
Actually it's kind of a universal rule that has worked well for me on numerous and varying situations that involve interacting with other humans;
Carry out your own dead.
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 7:22:20 PM | I don't know about the other males but I follow the following rule that I followed when I was in foreign ports [I'm retired Canadian Navy]. When I went ashore, all I wanted to do was to find out all I could about the port I was in. I was interested in the people, the food, the culture and the sites of that port. If I met someone of the opposite sex and we had a good time exploring the port then I considered it was a successful port visit. If perchance we wound up in bed then it was icing on the cake. I never went ashore specifically looking for someone to bed.
I am trying to do the same thing as a member of pof.
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:23:23 PM | | Dating Rule Attention All Men We have the Pu**y so we get to make the rules, write it down and please try to remember it. its simple and rolls of the tongue very easily................carry one | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:44:21 PM | "This is kinda below the belt hit, don't ya think?
Just because someone is selective, not desperate and has a life without a relationship,
doesn't justify wise cracks."
Some people can't bear others being selective in anyway, and have to vent about it as often as they can. This person has been flaming me for a very long time, and flaming other people mostly women as well. I take it as a compliament because I consider the source. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:23:09 PM | Dating rules for Boomers? I've read every post in this thread. Quite comical actually.
First of all OP ,when you engage in a heavy necking, petting session with a guy and don't go for the touchdown, you're asking for it. You'll be labeled a C**K tease and you WILL cause blue balls.LOL Sure you will!!!
As a Boomer, you're expected to " go all the way" because likely you have had sex, before? .....Right?
Well, my advice would be...." Don't start something you don't intend to finish. And, don't use it as a manipulative ploy to keep him interested in you,either. Men just won't fall for that BS anymore, at this age.( Neither will women)Basically, it doesn't matter one iota whether you withold sex or not from HIM. That was a game girls played when teenagers and virgins. Times have changed. DON'T TEASE. They'll expect a follow-thru.
Obviously, you're not a virgin anymore???? but that doesn't mean you should be easy, either. So, I would suggest you look at your own agenda. Do you look at sex as bait? Or, as a reward to him if he keeps dating you? Did you think that maybe if you sucked his face off and teased him, yet withheld sex he'd want to keep seeing you? Have that second date? Only you can answer these questions and the motives you had for allowing heavy "stuff" without the "means to the end"
Having a code of ethics is commendable.Yet, based on what you've posted, questionable. What's ethical about leading a man on?
Here's how I see it, as a Boomer. A relationship entails having respect for another person, as a human being. A person with a heart. How is, how you behaved, respectful?
It sounds like you may like to BARTER for sex. In other words, I'll MAYBE give you sex if you promise to stay in a relationship with me.Kind of like a reward system. Is that the way it would be, if in a relationship/marriage?
I don't think, either men nor women, want to be viewed as a stud or a vessel to be USED for personal gratification, at our age. Most desire intimacy to be part of a loving relationship. If you do, then say so and govern yourself accordingly.
Bottome line. You teased him & made promises spoken or unspoken. Not cool.
This thread is sounding, just too high-school to me. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:28:33 PM |
We have the Pu**y so we get to make the rules, write it down and please try to remember it. its simple and rolls of the tongue very easily................carry one.
I carry my cootchie everywhere I go, but it is not a member of a legislative body.  | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:40:16 PM | This person has been flaming me for a very long time, and flaming other people mostly women as well
I've noticed this too! Is that a NEW dating rule for Boomers? Seduction via flaming? | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:07:12 AM | OP - umm i'm just wondering about the reason you would want to keep in contact...or have another date with the angry-cuz-he-didn't-get-any guy. i'm surprised he didn't try the old "let me just put it near there" trick like back in high school.  | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:34:03 AM |
Don't start something you don't intend to finish. And, don't use it as a manipulative ploy to keep him interested in you,either. Men just won't fall for that BS anymore, at this age.( Neither will women)
Phoebe, thanks for pointing out that by the time one reaches the esteemed ages of 45 +, he or she has ridden in his or her share of rodeos. There are no 45 year old rookie bull riders. We've all participated in the sport and after a brief warm up are ready to go.
Basically, it doesn't matter one iota whether you withold sex or not from HIM. That was a game girls played when teenagers and virgins. Times have changed. DON'T TEASE. They'll expect a follow-thru.
Withholding of sex. This probably occurs in a marriage as much as it did in junior high school. Old habits are hard to break but just as lack of nookie shouldn't be used as a punishment, the presentation of **** shouldn't be a reward. Those two things are demeaning to both parties.
Thanks for your input Phoebe. I've appreciated the discussion and differing points of views of everyone who has contributed. It is ashame that one of the most natural human acts becomes the punishment or reward for behavior. Human beings are too hung up on protocol. You don't see the rest of the animal kingdom making such a fuss over an act designed for procreation. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:44:06 AM | Dating rules apply for all generations:
1: Be sincere
2: Be truthful
3: Be open to new relationships
4: And I cannot stress this toooooooo firmly: Don't be married.
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:17:53 AM |
This is kinda below the belt hit, don't ya think?
Just because someone is selective, not desperate and has a life without a relationship,
doesn't justify wise cracks.
Just stating the obvious.
And selectivity would be a wonderful thing if a selection was actually made and it's just fine that she has a couple of dogs that are there to enjoy her humor.
I don't agree with a blanket rule against pop songs cause some of them have great meaning.
"You've got a friend", "How sweet it is (to be loved by you)", "If you love somebody" are great lyrical compositions but to reject relationships because someone likes them is pretty silly.
As far as thinking I'm flaming for stating how her 'rules' are working for her that's ludicrous.
And everybody has a life in and out of relationships, some are boring, some are interesting, some are happy and some are sad. When your dead is when you don't have a life. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:31:29 AM | i'm aware that this is another thread but since mac-get-a-leg-up mentioned it...i plan on having a fab life after death... 
and....is saying "i don't want to go further" withholding sex? seems like ummm a person having a voice to me. dang. does that mean i wouldn't be able to say "no thanks, i don't want dessert" either? all or nothing thinking is a cognitive distortion folks. are some of you saying that a grown (or groan) man can't handle limits? say it ain't so. | |
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