| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:35:18 AM | Some mornings I waste so much time looking for the day's "Bash-a-lot" thread. I wish POF would adopt some type of green flag system so I wouldn't have to waste so much of my valuable leisure time.
As far as dating rules for Boomers goes -- I just follow the one rule, The Golden Rule. "He who has the gold, makes the rules".
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 6:23:27 AM | | The only rules to dating are your own.!!!! I do not or will not have sex with anyone just because they try to "pressure" me into it with the possible threat of not seeing him again. We are adults and can decide for ourselves on our own values when it comes to dating. To do anything outside your own value system is settling for less than who you are. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 7:54:27 AM | ""If you love somebody" are great lyrical compositions but to reject relationships because someone likes them is pretty silly. "
That is not what I said. As usual twisting words goes with flaming.
My point is people who don't think for themselves, and don't speak for themselves wouldn't be people I would enjoy being around. If a conversation with someone produces answers that are lyrics from pops songs, I would be wondering if there is anything else going on it their grey matter except singing.
The flamer would be so much happier if I and other people like me had no dating rule. After all, we have no right to think for ourselves or make decision as to rules we want for dating. We are just supposed to sit around and be overjoyed to have folks we aren't interested in pick us for dates we don't want to go on.
I have always wonder why others would have any interest what so ever in other people's dating rules. I am too busy living my life, to have any spare time or energy to flame others. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 8:54:44 AM | Let's see:
Assuming 'the flamer' isn't happy is a fallacy.
Assuming people don't think for themselves is quite arrogant, If someone quotes some pop song, they are thinking and use the lyrics to show what they're thinking. If you ask people what they think, they usually tell you.
You wonder why others would have any interest in finding rules yet you state your rules for others to wonder about and your too busy to have any spare time or energy to flame others.
I say you've flamed everybody that quotes pop lyrics just about every time some one quotes them.
Looks like double standards to me. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 9:47:13 AM |
dating rules? since when did they start making rules and why wasn't I informed???
You were not informed because you are not a Baby Boomer. All Boomers have been obligated to abide by the Constitutional Laws dealing with dating.
Last I heard, we may be required to become bonded and insured in order to deal with damages caused to some men inflicted with the "blue balls syndrome"
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 10:51:30 AM | I have a rule about flamers twisting my words.
My rule is against people who prefer to "ONLY" quote pop lyrics as if the lyrics were a bible for relationships instead of taking the time to have an original thought.
Some people don't think for themselves. That is a fact, not a situation created by me.
I have no obligation to date or have relationships with people I am not interested in. Please stop trying to make rules for other people. You don't have that right, no matter how much flaming you to do try to get control. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 11:12:21 AM | | Gee I just can't imagine who would be so inflaming in this forum !!!! how dare they have a right to their opinion. what is that saying I heard somewhere DON'T HATE ME CUZ YOU AIN'T ME Darlins' | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 12:00:49 PM | Austinlady - in my experience, fast moving people get burnt out very quickly. Quick fix might deliver quick satisfaction but it is very short-lived.
My appetite for life might be giant, for food sensible but for  => g o u r m e t. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 1:55:09 PM |
I have no obligation to date or have relationships with people I am not interested in. Please stop trying to make rules for other people. You don't have that right, no matter how much flaming you to do try to get control.
I'm not trying to make rules for anyone and you certainly don't have any obligations to date anyone.
I've commented on your rules not flamed and you can't blame me for being part of a discussion and I certainly would not attempt to control you.
Just because you don't like what I've pointed out from your statements doesn't give you the right to call it flaming.
But if you want to call it flaming that's fine with me, I have a rule about keeping the conversation going.
Maybe you might not consider it flaming I f I agreed 'some people don't think for themselves' but my experience is that everyone thinks for themselves but some people keep thinking the same erroneous, repetitive thoughts. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 2:07:00 PM | C'mon guys! This thread, least from what I remember, is about making rules, are there rules, who cares about rules an who doesn't? lol
The last few posts have tried to stay with the program to keep things from bein a knock down, drag out. So I for one, sincerely hope it gets back on track.
Peace out kids!
OT: I think the only rules should be.....there aren't any! People must be what they are and act accordingly. If one doesn't match another, then perhaps the next one. That is what I think they call a "connection"??? | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:29:10 PM | When other posters comment on my being flamed, then I am not the only one who thinks it is flaming.
Dating rules for boomers ....... no flaming. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:45:13 PM | | So that means if I go out on a date, I can't accept any kissing because in 'his' mind I ought to give more and can't stay 'when'? | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:45:21 PM |
I carry my cootchie everywhere I go, but it is not a member of a legislative body.
And thank goodness for that, for ones cootchie should run as a independent! | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:26:29 PM |
I think the only rules should be.....there aren't any! People must be what they are and act accordingly. If one doesn't match another, then perhaps the next one. That is what I think they call a "connection"???
There ya go!
Or I might say use your brain and make them as you go along. An open mind is the best tool and dumb rules will get in the way of finding a relationship.
It's seems to me the OP made a mistake by making a rule after the heavy petting began and her partner did not like the surprise.
How confusing is it to find out about a this kind of rule after the sex has already begun? He probably figured that if rules can be launched in mid stream he didn't want to swim there. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:37:51 PM | caveatdata
**are some of you saying that a grown (or groan) man can't handle limits?**
Seems some of these people still think ifn he has a blood rush, he has to get some....
We are adults...if the OP only wanted to play feelsie, that is her choice...and it is the dude's choice to be pizzed about it. Tells me who is the more mature...and if she thiks of going out with him again, me thinks she is a fool....she is under no obligation to tell him before it starts that she is only going to go a certain distance with him since this is a first date. Just as he is under none to tell her he doesn't want to...this is called life...I am wonderin' if maybe the OP didn't sense something about him while they were "petting" that perhaps made her back off? Ah well, where did I put that chocolate now???
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:36:22 PM |
....I swear I'm lost when it comes to understanding what today's older man wants. I had what I thought was a great date last Friday night. We did what we used to call 'heavy petting' but there was no 'intimate' sex
I think the OP's mistake was to get invloved in 'heavy petting', thus leading the guy to believe that he could have sex. Once she got him excited, she yanked the rug out from under him and left him wondering what he did wrong.
My advice to women is that if you don't want sex, don't get involved in heavy petting. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:45:52 PM | Speaking as a woman? Least I was the last time I checked! lol
If I allow myself to engage in so called "heavy petting", it would be difficult for ME to not take it further. If I am not willing to persue much of anything, a simple kiss or two at the end of the evening works. If you are going to play with the bull, most times, expect to get his horn! | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/21/2008 1:07:20 AM | Rule #1
Don't have sex unless you've declared a relationship has begun.
Rule #2
When you've dated someone that doesn't like rule #1 call them a lo-life jerk
Rule 3
After years of not having a date, declare your self happy and single, someone might believe it and ask you out.
Rule 4
When no one is asking you out, blame it on everyone else.
Rule 5
When someone points out you can't get a date, call them a flamer
Rule 6
a. Let the women make all the rules until after they declare it a relationship
b. After it's declared a relationship, struggle to understand all the inconsistent rules you've capitulated to.
Rule 7
No one has any right to point out silly rules
Rule 8
Run your life the way you want and follow rule 4 when it's not working out for you
Rule 9
Use every opportunity to state your preferences and what a great catch you are
Rule 10
Tell yourself you didn't want a relationship with that kind of person anyway.
Rule 11
When you've decided you don't like someone, nothing they ever say can be valid and revert to rule 5
Rule 12
Memorize all the rules and only follow the ones that seem appropriate ant the moment
Rule 13
If your superstitious, only make 12 rules | |
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