| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/24/2008 2:40:28 PM | | My vintage is more Nancy Sinatra as in "These boots were made for walking all over you". Today I am Hip Hop all the way. I have rules about old fashion music, please read back pages of this thread. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/24/2008 3:00:31 PM | | took the time to read your profile,and you're an elegant lady who any man would be lucky to associate with, so keep this comment of mine in perspective-while many guys are pushy **stards,or downright pigs; also a man's biology is different than a woman's,and stopping sex after a certain stage is very difficult and frustrating for a man's lust and his ego:my advice to you would be-it's up to you to set the boundaries for intimacy on a date-insist on keeping it limited to a kiss and a handshake till you're sure you're ready to go a lot further-it's probably a bad idea to fire up the pan if you're not going to cook anything- anytime soon--best regards and good luck,-r- | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/24/2008 7:00:37 PM | oh no.  a man's biology is different? i wonder to what stage rivereye refers? seems a large span between a handshake and ummmm there's-no-stopping-us-now .
but then he did say it was only frustrating for a man's lust and ego...i'm wondering how a man's lust and ego become MY problem during the mutual makeout ,or whatever you call it, session. would seem to me that i'm responsible for my boundaries and he's responsible for his...  | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/24/2008 10:42:11 PM |
a man's biology is different than a woman's,and stopping sex after a certain stage is very difficult and frustrating for a man's lust and his ego
Good grief! I thought men stopped using this line of total hogwash over a decade ago ... back when date r*pe finally got through to them that "no" means "no" no matter how far things had progressed and if he didn't pull back he'd spend a couple years in jail wishing he had. Any male with an ounce of brains knows today that "no" is a very cold and chilling douche. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:28:29 PM | | This thread shows exactly why there are so many Alone and Lonely people out there. It's pretty had to get together with anyone when both sides hate each other so much, don't you think. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/25/2008 11:26:15 PM | Austinlady,
So what if you got into a heavy makeout session with someone and he didn't call back/became unavailable, it happens.. you both let off a bit of steam..nothing lost..
If you were upfront about not wanting to sleep with him, he had no right to get upset...
He's either a jerk or maybe you two really didn't hit it off - if you hadn't done anything physical, would you really want another date with him or do you just feel like you should, since you were almost intimate..??
And if these guys are only interested in sex, you need to up your standards..
I am fairly certain that wasn't acceptable behavior 30 years ago, but maybe my memory is going on me.. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/26/2008 12:39:23 PM | don't know if there are general rules or just 'personal' rules we all follow.
So, you had a 'heavy petting' session on the first date? In his eyes, that could amount to a 'tease' and so what? Its understandable that after a divorce and at our relative ages, that we want to feel desirable to members of the opposite sex.
And if you feel that you are attracting 'low-lifes', then on your next date, go somewhere crowded and more intellectually stimulating.....an author reading, a museum or art gallery....heck, even Church comes to mind!
Nothing worse than having a physical relationship with someone who will eventually bore you silly and stupid! | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:15:58 PM | Well Austin there are always rules for everything. Problem is most folks are rule breakers by nature. It is also tough to say what do men over 50 want. there are lots of us and we are all individuals. one thing though most guys in my age bracket do anger a lot easier than hurt or disapointment and we are more prone to show anger when we feel other things. the guy you dated might have had a few bad experiences and that was the last straw. maybe somebody else lit his fire, could be a lot of reasons. One thing i think you can count on serving you well in the brave new world of dating is the whole idea of being yourself. nothing worse than getting close to somebody only to realize the person you got close to is not really there and some yoyo with a split personality takes there place. stick with honesty austin and youll survive the dating game with your heart in as good a shape as it was in when you got into it and lots better than most folks who dont. the old parrohead | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 3/1/2008 8:57:33 AM | I've been single for over 7 years and still figuring out the rules.. LOL
Well the conclusion I've come to is there really aren't that many to follow, but we are best to set our own rules and boundaries based upon our own comfort zone. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 3/1/2008 9:07:04 AM | I don't think there all rules everyone is different but for me I don't want a guy to contact me if all he wants is to talk about sex or ask for sex before we even meet or on the first get together. I like to know the person before doing something that is for me
a big step and a very personal thing. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 3/4/2008 7:50:05 AM |
I don't think there all rules everyone is different but for me I don't want a guy to contact me if all he wants is to talk about sex or ask for sex before we even meet or on the first get together. I like to know the person before doing something that is for me
a big step and a very personal thing.
Bingo! Let's face it we'd all like to have sex. It's a good thing.. but it's also a matter of timing. When guys mention it early on, that tells me their intentions, that they only care about sex and it doesn't really matter whether it's me or any other woman. Perhaps it's poor communication skills on the part of the guy and he just wants to know if a woman enjoys sex? If guys show me that they are interested in me in my mind, in my interests, in my personality and aren't faking it just to get into my pants, then that really means a lot to me. It seems that most I've run into these days just don't want to work that hard. Ok, right there.. I would never consider it work.. I consider it a necessity to really know the person. So if a guy just doesn't want to put forth the effort, then that's their problem not mine.
I also find that these same guys will label a woman as "frigid" or not sexy enough. Well guys.. I can only speak for myself.. I've got a lot stored up just waiting for the right one!  | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 3/20/2008 2:12:54 PM | | I've been told by a man on this site that "men online don't want friends!! They have friends, they want sex". I want the man to be interested in me...I want him to get to know me and appreciate my sense of humor. I won't be rushed...but if he takes the time to let me feel at ease with him...I will make it blatantly obvious that I want to be kissed and held. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 3/23/2008 7:14:45 AM | Dad:Don't be mean to girls!
Me(age 10):Why?
Dad:Because they're girls!
Mom:And wear clean underwear!
These were the ground rules early on.Ha! | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:48:29 AM | I don't think any generation has ever figured out the "rules" of dating.  I think everyone just needs to be true to what works for them. For example, I was on a first date with this guy and he started talking about the "third date rule" and I just laughed and told him that he might as well drive me home because I couldn't fall in love with someone enough to sleep with him by the third date. Heck, I thought I was liberated in my 20's just for waiting six weeks to two months!  Now all of a sudden, it's gone from a liberated two months to three dates? Jeesh!  | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:54:54 AM | | If by now people have now people have not figured out how to express themselves, negotiate expectations and enjoy social interaction, um, by when? Decades of life ought to bring some measure of wisdom. Not tons of it, but enough to have a good time on a date. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:59:30 AM | Yes, it matters. If you've been married once....you've had sex with one man.
and I concluded the quote with "That's what they want to hear."
A faulty assumption
Google Madonna/Whore syndrome. Some men expect a woman's behaviour and sexual history to be close to virginal, even if they, themselves have had multiple sex partners. They don't want to know if a woman has an active and colourful history. Thus, the basis for my conclusion.
Does this mean there are different rules for males than there are for females, when discussing dating rules/sex rules for Boomers?......... Perhaps.
On the other hand, there are people, both men and women, who have had only one or two sexual partners in their lifetime. Yes, these people really do exist. Unbelievable isn't it? | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 6/6/2008 5:41:55 PM |
So...what is it today man over 50 expects? I no longer understand why Your Basic Guy tries to answer a question like this posed by women. If they LISTENED to Your Basic Guy's explanations they wouldn't continue to bore us to tears with the same old story, forum to forum. | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 6/6/2008 11:37:12 PM | Good grief! I thought men stopped using this line of total hogwash over a decade ago ... back when date r*pe finally got through to them that "no" means "no" no matter how far things had progressed and if he didn't pull back he'd spend a couple years in jail wishing he had. Any male with an ounce of brains knows today that "no" is a very cold and chilling douche.
Just about sums it up don't you think ?
Women rule,, men have no say ,, so why would any man with some red blood running through his veins even bother ??
It's amazing .. after all this time .. women still have no idea of the make-up of a male .....!!!!!! and it seems , they don't really want to know ,,,,,,,, then they come on these sites wanting a relationship ...:  | |
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| Are there dating rules for us Boomers?
Posted: 6/6/2008 11:42:14 PM | I feel so sorry for the teenagers of today..........who don't have that "safe" period of dating and making out without expectations of it leading immediately to sex...........
Why feel sorry for the teenagers? LOL>>. most of them are so sexually aware they don't need a "safe' period to learn . And from what I hear , it's more often than not , the girls who are making the advances ..lol
Times change ,, and I think the young are far better off today for not having the realities of life hidden from them as they were for us .
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