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Posted: 2/27/2008 11:56:49 AM | Bottom line is: Believe a man's actions, not their words.
I really hope that lady doesn't have an abortion. NO use ending a life over this. It'll end both her baby's life, and will break her heart. They lie and tell you that it won't, but I know of people who have had that and it's not what the professionals say it is. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 12:03:09 PM | To the OP: Yeah, you're an idiot. You're an idiot because you wanted to believe.
Now, read that again and see how stupid it sounds. This was a case of too much too soon. Try to reign it in from here on out. Wanting to believe again? That's brave. I don't know that I ever will truly believe again. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 12:17:03 PM | Falling in love after two weeks?
Highly doubtful.
Lust......aaah, now there's the danger. It's so easy to confuse lust with love, and only time will tell. Two weeks is nothing. Two months is nothing. Two years........now we can start talking about love.
Yes, some get under your skin. I shall forever guard against that. It is just not worth the suffering. Thankfully, I can look back on every single man (actually, I can't remember most of them......) and not feel any pangs at all. They are history........if that much. They all turned out to be unimportant. Unlike my son, my family, my friends......
I love my solitude soooooooo much. My independence is something I cherish. I have no peace because my son is a soldier, and is preparing to go to Afghanistan, which is heating up. I won't add to my turbulent life by letting someone get under my skin........
You'll get over this guy.........just give it time, stick to your guns, do not let him treat you like an eager puppy who comes to his master.......and pees on his clothes.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 5:17:14 PM | Damn. I feel the same way. All she has to do is say "come over" and I will be there, no matter what. I would do anything for her, and I will be hurt. Don't drink! Trust me, it just makes everything worse.
I hope you realize that this guy is a user and a loser. You deserve something better! Don't go back to him ever. You are way better than that. Crying is not a weakness. It is a way of dealing.
I am hurting too. I feel for you. Many hugs. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 5:35:13 PM | Nice post SoulSympatico. Why is it that time is the one gift we deny ourselves? And yet, how can you know if someone is right for you unless you've seen their behaviour in all kinds of circumstances? And how can you see them in those circumstances over the course of a few weeks or months?
One of the things I have been guilty of is assuming character. Like, he said/did "this" so it must mean that in this scenario, he would do "that." Especially in the first few months of a relationship, you can't possibly get a 360 view. I think some people are ok with that, they get the 1/4 view and go with their gut the rest of the way, but that gets me in trouble. I think next time I'll be following Soul's advice. | |
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Posted: 2/29/2008 4:29:50 PM | | dont torture yourself. its very easy to be taken in when your down or have little confidence in yourself. loads of guys on here will just take advantage of it. i have stoopidly paid hotel bills, paid for lunch, gave things when promised the money back for them etc. i sometimes wonder if there are any genuine guys on here. however i blame myself for being so silly and trusting. i even know guys on here that are seeing more than 1 female on here but theres nothing i can do to warn any of them unfortunatly. i only wish i could as i know how easy it is to be taken in by these liars. | |
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Posted: 2/29/2008 5:59:46 PM | Well...Mr. Positive here, didn't him getting under your skin prove to you that you can and will have those same incredible feelings for someone again, which you have probably doubted since breaking up with Mr. 'S'?
We all wish we were as wise as our own advice...you just can't hear yourself when you are blinded. | |
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Posted: 2/29/2008 6:18:59 PM | | Gosh you sure created a lot of drama in your life over a two week relationship with this guy. My question is, why would you even want a guy that lied in the first place????? | |
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Posted: 2/29/2008 7:49:33 PM | Marcia... There is so much to comment on I don't know where to begin! You keep referring to yourself as a fool, that really disturbs me. Why exactly do you view yourself this way? Anyone, anywhere could have ended up with a jerk like this... You are so quick to blame yourself...
I'm sadly convinced that most 'Emotionally Available' men are taken. There are a lot of guys out there (women too) who can talk but they can't walk... You really do deserve to be with someone who makes you feel valued and important. Why would you settle for anything less?
You make the comment that you can't even hold the interest of a 'drunk'... Why would you want to??? You seem to be attracted to men who cannot meet your needs on ANY level... A drunk abuses alcohol. What is to keep him from abusing you, or worse yet your innocent daughter?
I'm sorry for the situation that you are in raising your daughter as a widow, that has to be very difficult... Please put the focus back on her, and your life as it was pre-S and
J...
Take that vacation if you can, it would do you good... | |
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Posted: 2/29/2008 8:05:01 PM | Apparently you are starting to heal...you're starting to laugh at the situation.
Remember, "Love is as perrenial as the grass". I know, because I'm 50 and have been in love too many times to remember  I'm a sucker for a charming man, I'm afraid.
Also, "It't better to have loved and lost love, than never to have loved at all".
Think about those poor souls out there that won't even let their heart be released into love! They are the ones who will never take a chance for fear of being hurt again. You are young and you will find another.
Good luck to you! | |
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