| Hi Daniel
Posted: 5/31/2005 4:30:52 PM | I tried to send you a message but it would not let me because I am from Canada. So I thought I would post it here. I read your profile and this is what I have to say:
your profile says:
"i am a BHM or Big and Tall as this site puts it, i weigh 340 lbs.. if you feel the need to look somewhere else at this point please do.."
I think you are beautiful. Nice hair, gorgeous eyes, full round lips. Man, if I was 9 years younger, I would definitely be interested in dating you.
Big is beautiful. Tall is beautiful.
NEVER be ashamed of who you are.
God bless,
the Baroness. | |
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nrk
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 27 | |
| What the F---!
Posted: 5/31/2005 5:51:53 PM | sweetkristine...did you REALLY get a digital for $20?? That's it...I'm heading to Wal-Mart! My pic(s)...the other 7 are for personal emails...are recent, but it would be cool to update every couple of weeks I think, and throw out a couple of 'goofy' ones every now and again, too...just for fun.
And you are right, of course...everyone is beautiful and unique in their own way! I wish everyone had a pic up here because it makes 'chatting' with them more personal, but if they choose not to, I will respect that they have a reason, whatever that reason is. I just wish others would be likewise respectful of my reasons for wanting to see a face, regardless of what that face looks like. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 5:57:22 PM | yes i really did it was like 18 bucks w/tax....came w/the software...doubles as a webcam..has a flash on it..maynot be the best quality pics..but i think mine turns out ok lol
ot: whats the topic again ? lol | |
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nrk
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 29 | |
| What the F---!
Posted: 5/31/2005 5:59:54 PM | ^^LOL...thanx sweet...I think your pics look good so the quality is better than some I've seen.
o.t. ...who knows? | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 5/31/2005 10:05:05 PM | i had to pay like 130 or 140 to get one to go with a mac  | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/1/2005 5:16:39 AM | | You know what sweet, you are you, and you wouldn't want a man that doesn't accept that anyway. Society is cruel and it sucks. "Beautiful" skinny people are not the only "beauties" in this world. If you have a supermodel whos a **** , do you reall wanna hang with them? Be real, stay real, and be you... you'll find someone that isn't shallow and *uck the rest. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2005 6:57:57 AM | | Well what I am hearing from your posting is that you base who you message on looks at times, so how is that any different than what you are accussing others of. For me personally, if someone seems interesting or intruiguing I will respond ... pic or no pic .... if i just get .. wanna chat ... or something boring then usually no response unless there is something intriguing in your profile ... the other thing is some of us get so many darned messages that it is impossible to answer them all and this has absolutely nothing to do with having a pic or not. Honestly, I never expected much repsonse at all ... one here or there, but if I answered every single message that was sent to me, Id never get off my ass .... hence, Id turn to saggy slop and I guess then you wouldnt be interested anyway would you, so what the hell .... wish you happy fishing, if chicks are not responding b/c of no pic it may be their loss ... suck it up and move on ... | |
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Posted: 6/1/2005 7:31:27 AM | I think that when people say looks don't matter, they're not being honest with themselves. However, I do realize that people do get more responses when they have a photo posted, if they're really good looking. I'm leery of posting my photo because I don't want the whole world judging me by a photo that doesen't really say that much about who I am. When I see some of the posted photos, I can't help but wonder what that person was thinking by posting it. Most of the photos are too fuzzy to really see, anyway! I'm happy with my looks, and men usually find me attractive, but I see no need to put myself on display. If a man is interested in what I have to say on my ad, then he should be willing to exchange photos, or better still, meet me face to face! Nothing ventured, nothing gained! | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/2/2005 12:14:27 AM | Sexmeup:
No, I would not want to share my most intimate secrets with anyone I have not met yet. Nor would I want to unless I have spent quite a few dates with him. I'm not a person to dicuss anything in regards to intimate secrets to someone I don't know very well, as I was not raised that way.  | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/5/2005 4:20:52 AM | Hey now I do ask for a pic. If they do not have one I WILL still talk with them
I just would not mind having an idea of who I am speaking with.
On another note I do have my pic up, I had been under the impression that I am Quite attractive. I get aproached often when I am out, but on here not so much.What are the men on here looking for?????????????
It may be the pic I have oh well mabey it just is not ment to be yet. blah blah blah
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/5/2005 11:10:29 PM | I saw all this going back & forth earlier.
Since then I have had to deal with many...MANY profiles w/o pics.
This is my 2cents...
I have one simple rule...
I deserve the opportunity to decide if I am interested & that means I want to see who I am dealing with.
I give that when I post my pic and all I ask is the same in return.
It wasn't too much for me, I feel it's not too much for anyone else who wishes to interact with me.
Bottom line, it's my right to decide. | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/8/2005 9:43:12 AM | Hi sweetkristine!!!
You put everything you said in such a nice and respectful manner...you convinced me to put a pic on my profile. The only problem I have is that you repeatedly refer to your appearance as "not so great" and "my ugly mug". I dislike it when someone is hard on someone else, and equally dislike it (if not more) when a really great person is hard on themselves!! Love yourself Sweetkristine - you are unique!!!
Tigger123 | |
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Posted: 6/10/2005 1:09:15 AM | | My opinion ... There are tons of ways to get a pic uploaded, and it can be hidden. As far as I'm concerned, there's really no excuse not to. I've chatted with people who have no pics before, but it really sucks when you like the personality and the pics makes you sick. I'm not trying to be shallow.... it comes naturally I guess. LOL Looks matter. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2005 10:25:12 AM | Hi RickP,
I don't have a pic but managed to get 4 penpals! I think sometimes you have to make the first move and not always rely on another person replying to you! Two of the 4 penpals responded to my profile and the other two I seeked out. Of course they don't write everyday or every week but on the occassions I have written to them they have responded to me. Think positive and don't be so down on yourself. | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/10/2005 10:36:15 AM | Hi Crazy,
I hear you! I myself am looking for a guy who can hold a decent and stimulating conversation with a great sense of humor. Keep looking! I think you guys are a bit hard on yourselves! Why are you guys so down on yourselves? Once you change your negative way of thinking and think more positive I feel you'll eventually get a friend. Who knows! It's not only the way a person looks that makes them attractive but how they feel about themselves. Most people on the net are loosers in the sense that they just wanna talk about sex. It's the net and it's difficult finding good people in real life much else here. Guys don't be so down on yourselves! | |
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mcinlv
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Joined: 5/28/2005
Msg: 41 | |
| What the F---!
Posted: 6/10/2005 11:00:48 AM | FYI I got a pic up but apparently I am so frigging ugly short and old the only ones that do right want a free ticket to America or wiegh as much a a frigging bus, so a pic really doesn't do all that much good as far as I can see it. You can forget about the PC crap that women or men for that matter look at the inside of a person first that is a line of BS. If you are visually attracted to someone then there is a chance if you are not then you are starting off a relationship with a huge disadvantage. Shallow maybe so but it is the way things are and no matter how much ****ing we do about it human nature is not going to changewe are a visual creature. If that wasn't the case someone small thin and beautiful would write me, fall for me like a blind roofer and we'd live happily ever after. Ain't gonna happen.
People who you write to an don't respond back so what I know on my end I am like as not better off that they didn't respond. I just figgure that I am fully capeable of abusing myself I do not need any assistance from some stuck on her self **** that the only thing she is after is how much cash can she get off me before she finds someone else. So consideryourself lucky that the ones you write to and think they are nice don't write back it is saving you a fortune | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/10/2005 11:07:13 AM | With all due respect to the demand for pictures, it doesn't matter. I have found that when I actually meet someone in person after viewing their photo on one of these sites, the person and their photo often bear very little resemblence to each other. People who are almost 40 posting their university grad picture from when they were 22, for example. The photo of the woman after undergoing a professional four hour makeover taken years before may be unrecognisable as the person sitting across the table from you in the coffee shop. Or the photo of the shirtles guy with the six pack abs who once worked out religiously ; now years later after the promotion and innumerable buisness luncheons, with his heavy paunch, double chin and thinning hair ..well, you get the picture...
In fact, I find that posting photos that do not reflect you current appearence is, in a way, a form of deceit no different than boldface lying. | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/10/2005 11:27:08 AM | | My pics ... with the exception of one or two of them (depending on which day you read this)... are all taken with the last couple of weeks at the most. So they do reflect my current appearance. Anybody can get a pic anytime and upload it. If they can't afford a webcam or digi cam, how do they afford their internet access? C'mon.... | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/28/2005 12:22:14 PM | | But U still Love me anyway...... | |
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Posted: 6/28/2005 12:30:49 PM | | Sorry Darcy I clicked on to the wrong person....sorry | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/28/2005 1:02:40 PM | and let's not forget those emails who come in from some who do, or do not, have pics...
"hi nice pic" <-- response, "thanks" [if that's all they have to say, then doubtful the woman is going to put much effort into it either]
"hi coffee or lattie" (yes, i know it is latte, but that's what was written) <-- response "nope, and nope... guess again.... [well, i was at least trying to be humorous... but i got no more guesses.. guess it was too much more effort for him]
then there are all the rude/obnoxious ones, luckily i haven't got any of those.... yet... cuz i may, you never know.... oh wait, i did get one from a female.... *rolling eyes*
so i agree with Pandy, and most of the other posters about the situation here. however, i do try to answer them all in one way or another, but then, my profile is hidden most of the time... the only way they can find me is if they post in the forums. | |
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nikkiw
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Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 47 | |
| What the F---!
Posted: 6/28/2005 1:32:34 PM | | Yeah, sorry guys but I'm going to have to agree with the women on here that are talking about their bad experiences with a "thanks but no thanks" email. Of course it was nicer than that but the emails back were generally truly awful, hateful, personally degrading messages. Examples of some of the words/phrases used: wh*re, b*tch, fat c*nt, and my personal favorite..."heiffer." Yeah, I want to respond there! I'm sorry, but there is NO way I'm going to put myself out there for that type of ridicule and harassment. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2005 1:55:44 PM | Rick.....I have been on both sides of this issue.....I have e-mailed men with pictures and with no picture and either way it can be good or bad....I corresponded with one gentleman who DID send me a picture and I liked his profile and personality very much and I was attracted to his looks....he lied....it wasn't his picture. When he finally fessed up I was disappointed because I wasn't attracted to his real picture at all but even more importantly, he lied.......I don't do lying...and he had the nerve to get mad at ME because I wouldn't talk to him anymore....another man I e-mailed quite a while and loved his personality...when I finally got a picture weeks later he was very handsome....we had an e-mail relationship for quite a while until one day he e-mailed me to tell me he had met and was marrying someone else. So see, one never knows.....
It all comes down to one thing Rick...chemistry...we either "click" with someone or we don't....it's life, we can't change it and have no control over it. I put myself right out there and I'm right up front about who I am and what I am....if someone doesn't like it, well....too bad....someone else will ! We are all very visual creatures and we are all attracted to certain types of people that we think are attractive....and we all have different definitions of what we think is "attractive". Many men think I have a pretty face...but when they find out I am a size 16, they run for the hills as fast as they can.....we all have our crosses to bear I guess......So go ahead and put yourself out there....someone will think you are great for who you are, but don't by coy....just be honest. So don't send me a picture....I'll talk to you...... | |
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IO
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Joined: 12/15/2004
Msg: 49 | |
| What the F---!
Posted: 6/28/2005 2:12:50 PM | Hate to burst your bubble honey but men are just as bad. They send you a picture and talkie talkie, then when they beg for your picture and you give it to them and you're not a frekkin pam anderson they immediatly stop talking. No sorry's I'm not interested or your not my type just an empty void. And on other notes even getting a picture doesn't mean your seeing the truth. One guy I met didn't look ANYTHING like "his" picture. But in good faith most people would like to see who they are talking with, it is not to much too ask given all the crazy freaks out in the world and hopefully an honest picture. Peace | |
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| What the F---!
Posted: 6/28/2005 10:23:57 PM | Just respect that not everyone is going to respond to you in a way that you would expect. We are all living life in a way that works for us and no one can tell you how, when and if you should respond to anyone's message. Try not to take it personally...you will be a much happier person. These people don't know anything about you so.....try this....Hmmm she deleted my letter that took me 3 hours to write and I even spell checked it....and what? No response...Oh she must have been hit by a bus today and be in the hospital with 2 broken arms. I know she would love to write me back but can't!!! Try it Rick and see how much better you feel. | |
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