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Posted: 8/2/2005 12:56:46 AM | i hate being judged by looks alone....so I dont post ...a pic of my butt in speedo's
grabbing kristines butt again
OT.... to post a pic or not is up to the profile user.....
however it is EASIER to post a pic on your profile than mail one everytime it is requested | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 7:31:31 AM | I started off with no pic and no response add pic's and hmmmm got responses. We are attracted initially to a persons looks and the other stuff kicks in after as we get to know them...
A pretty face can cover a lot of other things I may not prefer in a woman but not all. We are physical beings and attraction is an instinct we have ingrained with-in us...
To all the pretty girls/women on pof I thank your mommy's and your daddy's for their contribution to the pond...
Dude..... | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 7:41:10 AM | I understand that they think I might be fat or ugly but this is not the case.
You contradict yourself--you want others to take you at word value and yet you rule out anyone who is fat or ugly- noting the negative concept of fat--you claim we are all shallow but is it not shallow to state you are not fat or ugly--if pictures arent important-why are you looking at others and commenting on them saying they are a ten and you think they are a four-that's why people dont post pictures--I personally put my picture out there-figured what the hell-this is me-take it or leave it.
Beauty is often thought of as visual but your words leave a pretty strong impression | |
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Joined: 7/24/2005
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Posted: 8/2/2005 8:28:42 AM | I just read this thread and decided to put my pic up.
I had my reasons for not putting one on here, but decided WTF!
Ive been on here for about a week now, i was just checking things out first,
plus theres a physco on here from another site, guess i was hiding! lol
I think pics do make a big difference, weather people think its shallow or not,
there has to be sum attraction there if you plan on meeting sumone. when u meet
sumone in public, u dont keep your eyes closed, so y should it b any different
on here. If u cant post one for sum reason, its ok, illl talk to anyone, ID just never meet them. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 8:52:16 AM | I hate to break it to you Pandy, but looks are not that important to me. That's the God's honest truth. My first husband was drop dead gorgeous, my second husband not so much but he faked a good heart and kindness toward my son until a week after the wedding.
To the OP I disagree, I have answered mail from men with no photographs, and I have been messenger'd by a few men with minimal profile information and not photograph. It does not stop me from communicating or getting to know them better.
I do agree that it's nice to know what the person looks like, but it can wait. I've found that most of the men who contact me without a photograph have not even READ my profile, nor have then looked at the photographs I've put up. I guess they see the "headline" or search by location and walla they just start writing or send a messenger right away. That is ridiculous. At least have the courtesy to know something about me from my profile before contact.
Anyway, not all women want to see a photo right away. Hang in there, you'll find someone.
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Posted: 8/2/2005 8:56:37 AM | I agree with you wholeheartedly!!
Men always do that crap. I started seeing someone who at 5ft 2in and 250 pounds is three inches shorter and weighs more than me ... one day he called me chunky, that was it, no more dates for him. Yes, I am still overweight, but I've been taking it off slow for the past three years, and compared to just two years ago the pounds shed equal one petite adult and a ten or eleven year old. Ha ha - so when someone comments rudely on my weight I send them a before picture and tell them where to shove it.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, correct? A friend of mine from high school told me how beautiful his wife is, then sent me a picture of the family, and the woman in MY EYES had no outer beauty, but now that I know her, the woman has a heart of gold, and is good to my friend. That's what truly counts to me.
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Posted: 8/2/2005 9:48:13 AM |
Men always do that crap.
Wow - men really do suck! Sure glad I'm not one of them! | |
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Joined: 7/5/2005
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Posted: 8/2/2005 5:23:27 PM | Rick,
Your have every right to feel the way you do. I also do not post my photo and it's has nothing to do with my looks either... Don't change a thing because when someone does contact you it will be because they are interested in you for more than just your looks...
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Posted: 8/2/2005 6:05:30 PM | | Let's just say that if people don't message you because you have no photo, then you don't want them anyway. I admit that in oder to be interested in someone I like to see what they look like. I find it hard down the line to be intimate with someone that I might not be attracted to physically. But you never know. I have talked to many guys that I haven't met. Eventually it works or it doesn't. I put my pic on right away because I want guys to know what I look like so they don't waste my time if they don't like what they see. People should decide for themselves what they feel comfortable with and not give in to what others say or think. Be your own person, the one who finds you will appreciate you for that and much more. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2006 3:46:05 PM | Stevenoct wrote:
Message: beauty.....comes within....the guys wallet
Oh dear, do you mean that men still think that a way to a womans heart is through HIS wallet? You have got to be kidding! If a man has a good heart, knows how to treat a woman, he has a better chance with me than a man with a thick wallet full of cash or credit cards. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2006 5:02:02 PM | Well I can say from personal experience, when I first posted my profile I got like 20 letters. You want me to write them all back and explain I'm not interested? I have learned from another site that responding can just cause more trouble. Someone even went as far as calling me a b*tch just because I politely said I wasn't interested in corresponding. I don't take it personally when men don't write me back. We need to take a deep breath, and be happy that not everyone on the planet is attracted to us or attractive to us. Can you imagine how screwed up that would make things. Ya it sucks when a hottie doesn't write us back, but theres another one who will. | |
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Joined: 2/19/2006
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Posted: 3/6/2006 5:44:55 PM | | I agre with Rick P, and when I get my pic up, I'll do just like him. To the shallow ladies, stay in the shallow end of the gene pool, and to the deeper ladies, I will envite you to dive in life and love with me and all others out there who like to be mentally stimulated before physical stimulation....Mind over matter is what matters!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/6/2006 6:25:13 PM | | alot of men do not put their picture up because they are hiding from their WIVES or girlfriends and that's just a fact. soooo...call it shallow if you do not get a reply, whatever works for ya. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2006 7:53:27 PM | The honest truth is men have it so much harder finding dates on these types websits than women do, but thats the general truth outside the web too, women have a million times easier than men do when it comes to finding ppl, not that im saying they dont got they're share of problems either, their problems are finding the "right guy" while many men have trouble finding any girl, even the mildestly attractive women on these sites will get tons of emails, and they base most of their decisons probably 90% on your picture and only after that do they consider your what you have to say, so as men all you can do is try to sell your self to women as best you can, and hit a huge volume of women, and dont get stuck on one girl biggest mistake a man can make, it works in the movies but in real life its a god awful lie
so to the men out there try an experiment, create an account in the guise of a female with an attractive pic and you can see the kind of probs the women have in sorting through emails and also one last thing, if internet dating doesnt work for you dont do it, its mostly a huge waste of time and like 70 percent of the women on these websites are loosers who are single for a reason, usually becauset their possive weirdos, the other women are usually ppl new to the area or genuinely good women who are trying to meet ppl,
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Posted: 3/6/2006 8:20:58 PM | anything can be faked pictures profiles. women on here have said they like to see a picture before they respond well how do you know it his picture same with profile. we can all fake that as well. so basically the women that want a picture on here just like to see some window dressing! and obviously wouldn't go on a blind date either. so anybody that says it not shallow to want a picture! needs to certified! enjoy the window dressing! you will probably be here for a while or eventually give up in despair! | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 1:06:19 AM | | We all are shallow Hal. The sociollogical component to this internet dating thing is the visual. Whats funny about this whole thing is, I dont want an intimate encounter,I dont want this or that. However do u have any hot pix of your body? I got a few emails of women wanting pix of the front of my body. I pleasantly declined. Not for any reason except I dont want to. All this does screw up our whole, looking for the perrrrfect one. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 1:09:57 AM | | Ps. Sexyand brainy, Very well versed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 1:38:19 AM | i use to responde back..but everytime i did an said not interested...(i will agree with some responses here)....i got hassled everytime i did...so why bother now.... they would ask...whats wrong with me...aint i good enough for u...what u think your better then anyone else...for goodness sake...it had nothing to do with them...its my preference an my choice as to who i wanna talk too....right? same interests ..an one who knows how to carry on a conversation as well...an to someone to think ....its not all bout just them ....thats all.
as for a pic....i like to see who i am talkin too....an besides...anyone can post any picture if they wanna...so is it real anyways? is it really them? besides...i provide a picture..why cant they. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 3:15:49 AM | | when I first came to POF I did not have a pic posted.. few responses... now that I have a pic get responses... need to update my pic pretty soon. Have lost 46 pounds since pic was taken so better pretty soon.. I know there are attractive people out there with no pics posted...Wow in some cases..... | |
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Joined: 1/10/2006
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Posted: 3/19/2006 6:03:00 AM | | hey,,totally understand your strategy....i do the same thing...it takes a while, not having any problems connecting now......chin up | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 8:27:21 AM | | hi rick, you must understand this. some people lie on here so its hard to know where they are coming from. im sure you have ran across that before. sometimes a picture tells a person more than just looks, like if you are a clean person that takes care of himself or just a slob that doesnt care about himself at all. or even some people dont like the looks of bikers, but they can be very nice people. a picture tells me much more than you think it does. i do ask for a picture, i also think its a way of feeling secure about the stranger that you might meet some day. i dont think that its all about looks for most people. i have met a couple of guys and chatted quite some time before i asked for a picture. dont feel so bad, there is a lot of ignorant people out there that think looks are everything. thats their loss. good luck in your search. alice | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 9:15:41 AM | don't sweat it most women on here that are worth taking too will see waht you look like later
for the rest they are out of luck for finding anyone good
just keep up trying to talk with them :) | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 9:19:44 AM | | Touche' my amigo! But in reality a picture speaks a thousand words! With all the liars, cheaters and womanizers on POF whats really in a picture eh? Probably not even the person you think you are chatting with! No guarantees whatsoever! | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 9:21:45 AM | >>john stossel did a report a few years back on "looks". sorry pal but "looks" matter and it gets a gentic response just like a big fish that isn't hungry, yet spots a smaller wounded fish..... the thought never enters the pea brain of the big fish...he just eats him. cya<<
WOW! Very well said One of a kind... | |
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