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Posted: 3/19/2006 9:30:53 AM | >>Ive been on here for about a week now, i was just checking things out first >I think pics do make a big difference, weather people think its shallow or not,
there has to be sum attraction there if you plan on meeting sumone. when u meet
sumone in public, u dont keep your eyes closed, so y should it b any different
on here.<<
I do agree. You need some type of attraction, not that I am looking anyhow...lol But, it is true that, yes, most first look at your pictures & yes have to have some form of "attraction" to that person first. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 9:45:04 AM |
its my preference an my choice as to who i wanna talk too....right? same interests ..an one who knows how to carry on a conversation as well...an to someone to think ....its not all bout just them ....thats all.
as for a pic....i like to see who i am talkin too....an besides...anyone can post any picture if they wanna...so is it real anyways? is it really them? besides...I provide a picture..why cant they.
Daylillies, I could not agree with you more. it is my choice. i too want to see what the person looks like before I engage in long e-mail exchanges etc. I am no different that anyone else, In order for me to even begin to start getting interested in someone as a mate, I need to see if that person can provide mental stimulation as well as physical stimulation. Well my mental stimulation starts with whether or not I find her attractive or sexy. I think anyone that says looks don't count as far as who we fall in love with is in fact a liar. At least most men. it is a known fact that men are very visual in what turns them on. Not being a woman, I sure can't answer for one. lol But I could not fall in love with a woman if I did not find her physically attractive. And no, I do not have a set guideline as to what she looks like in size or shape either. And I am not talking about her having to look like a cover girl either. Just attractive to me. She may or may not be attractive to 10 other guys, I don't care. But to me she has to start my engine with looks and then we will see what else we have for each other.
I don't think it is shallow for anyone to want to talk, meet or date someone that they are physically attracted to no more then to choose not to do the same with someone who's views, religion or other interests clash with your own.
Personally, I think profiles without pictures is just cutting your odds of ever finding anyone. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 9:45:36 AM | Some of us have more confidence that the person is being upfront if they have a pic up. Also you can tell a lot from a pic - it doesn't have to be about looks. It's the eyes, what they are wearing, the pose.... Sometimes you just get a good feeling about someone (or not). So the pic can be false or a lot younger. So what? At least you have the measure of him/her as soon as you meet.
But going back to looks - I do get turned off by obesity. Call it shallow, I don't care. You like what you like and there simply wouldn't be any point in me meeting a mass of blubber with two chins no matter how wonderful the personality .. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 9:48:14 AM | I'm a gent,who does not have a photo on site.However,if a woman wishes,I could present all the pics she wants.But are they really me?Maybe/maybe not.There is many"fake"
pics out there,from both genders.That is why I tyr to use my cam.At least,the person with whom I've taken an interest in,can view the real me........JON | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 9:50:11 AM | | ^^^^ do alot ask for your picture.....just curious? honestly i wont ask for one nor will i accept a cam invite for many reasons. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 10:33:47 AM | I have asked a couple of ladies to send me a picture before we can start corresponding. In both cases, I hate to say it, but in both cases I politely wrote back to them and said i did not see any chemistry and that i wished them well in their search.
On the topic of whether or not a picture is real or not, well we might even ask if any of the profile info is real. I mean that is a a weak argument. We have to trust somethings to what we say as well as what they see. So maybe 1-2% are not pictures of who they say they are. Small percentage and not worth mentioning.
As far as using a web cam goes, I personally am not into it. I will turn it on for those I have already gotten to know, but not as a tool to let someone new see me. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 11:35:03 AM | | I wanted to respond to your email because you just don't get it...I get around 20 emails a day and if i sit here and read all the emails and just type in sorry not interested as you say(btw) did that and got a couple of rude nasty responses back ...then i would be at the computer all day...If you don't have a picture up obviously you have something to hide...married? afraid a coworker might "see" you? if you don't have anything to hide you would have a pic up. As a woman i am not going to waste valuable time "chatting" with some one i have no clue as to what they look like. Yeah YOU might be telling the truth but the guy i gave a chance with no pic who said he was 37 and turned out to be oh um 49!!!! does not tell the truth. So heres the bottom line if you want to lessen your chances and post a profile with no pic the minute i open your email and see the little blue box ...i will read your email and then delete..I will not correspond with the INVISIBLE MAN!! hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 11:52:47 AM | Hi Mystacallme,
Wow! Someone close to home! Nice to see you here. Ihope I don''t embarrass you, but Iwill confess that i have seen your profile and read it several times. I even considered writing to you. But then I am not sure where the age difference line is drawn. I guess you might say I am shy about writing to any woman under the age of say 46 or so. Hate the rejection thing especially if it is becasue of age.
But my compliments! I liked your profile and I think you are sexy and attractive. So I won't write and add to your pile of twenty a day! Twenty a day???? Wow! I wish I could be that lucky! But I can see why.
Blushing...Jim  | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 11:54:24 AM | Rick
I don't have a plicture up either only because I do not have a way to post one. The one reason I can give you for me not contacting you is that you live in ny and I live in TX. The one thing I would like to know is what is a few extra lbs to me more than 30 to 50 is a few. more than 50 Is not a few. What do you think?? | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 12:15:15 PM | msg 124 MY sentiments! exactly! | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 12:36:23 PM | msg 24 help me out here why would a 78yr old woman want to contact you in the first place. what would the point! in that. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 9:08:25 PM | SweetKristine, a group hug is definitely in order.
I believe that there are people who may have a real hurtin' photo here and are in fact quite attractive if you were to meet in person, as well as those who have a real hot photo who will be somewhat "less hot" when met in person. Then there is the large majority who will be somewhere in between those two extremes. Bottom line is getting to know the person in some real way before making any judgmental decisions.
I have pics up because I think they are important. The best thing about a site like this over the old dating practices, is that you get know a little more information about people in advance. I'll still respond if contacted by a "no pics" profile, but I don't even read the profiles where there is no pic. I don't have that much time. And that's because I'm a guy receiving messages from women. I've heard that women have a far higher level of responses than men do here at P.O.F.. I can certainly understand women receiving numerous messages from profiles with no pics not wanting to respond to them. Too many, and I would draw the line at "pic required" too. Too many responses again, and I would have to be even more discriminating. Luckily as a guy, I won't have to deal with that problem.
Meeting without even a pic is essentially a blind date. I've never had one, and don't really like the idea. Not because I'm anti-social. I just dont want to invest my important time, attention, and resources into to something that is more than likely a complete waste of time. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 5:22:11 AM | Doesn't everybody want to see the white's of the eyes of the person they are comunicating with?????????
I know I do,...and who is it you respond to,...
a written statement,..or a face???? | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 4:15:44 PM | msg 138 oh THAT'S A REALLY SCAREY! THOUGHT. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 7:53:46 PM | Hmmmmmmmmmm, you got me thinking here...........First I have to say that I was not to excited to post my picture at first (I don't find myself photogenic), but then again, THIS is a dating site.........so mission accomplished. I have to agree with alot of the people on here that in this day and age, there are not very many excuses for not having a pic available, but then again it did take me awhile to get mine up since I wanted to post as recent of a pic as possible. I did talk to quite a few people that were patient about waiting for a pic, so a quick thank you to those guys. Upon first signing up for the site, I thought I would respond to everyone who e-mailed me, but soon found that to be impossible. Some days in life are just too busy, and the number of responses that you get with a photo can be overwhelming. I also am amazed at the number of men from WAY far away from me that would respond. In reality, I am not going to fly to Texas, or BFE to go on a date..........so I do not even reply to those.
On the flip side of the coin, outside of cyberspace I would never ignore someone that took time out and approached me for a conversation. I have replied to people and not gotten a response, but I don't let that bother me. Life is too short, and there are many other interesting people out there to meet. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 8:00:41 PM | | i'm not shallowl but do know what i do an don't like. i like to see a pic but if there isn't one i still talk. knowing whether or not i'm physically attracted to the person i'm chattin with helps me determine how i talk . say if i 'm attracted, wel yeah i'd flirt,, if i'm not ,, then i would try not to make any actions that someone may find firtatious. saveson the keleenex. :) | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 8:05:08 PM | msg 140 well said but do you really need a picture on the forum! when posting topics or answering! them don't see it matters that much! on here but if it gains! you more! attention! so be it. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 8:16:37 PM | If nothing else a picture could tell us what their teeth looked like!  | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 8:22:21 PM | No, I don't really need a pic for the forums, but I have no idea how to take it off, or change the pic. Does it really matter? I'm here to discuss the topic.......... | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 8:26:18 PM | | Hornydevil...........No, I don't really need a pic for the forums, but I have no idea how to take it off, or change the pic. Does it really matter? I'm here to discuss the topic.......... | |
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Posted: 3/21/2006 7:11:16 AM | Personally I always think someone who's afraid to have the world see their face,...
Has something to hide,...and very often,..I'm right | |
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Posted: 3/21/2006 4:46:38 PM | msg 146 NO SORRY! NOTHING! TO HIDE! just like PANTHERS! | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 5:23:43 AM | rrrrrriiiiigghhttttttttt!!!!
and so what,..I like puppies and flowers and yada yada yada,...
but I do what's appropriate when and where it is,....
so I don't have pretty pictures of puppies on my resume' either,....
your on a dating site,...
so unless you are here only for the forums and some are,....your point is rather,....obtuse,.... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 5:35:16 AM | I have a hard time replying with out a picture
I have one posted and expect the same... beauty is inthe eye of the beholder but if your confidence level is so low that you can not find 1 pic of yourself that is recent than suck it up, that is the response that you are getting.
That being said I get lots of no replies and my pics are not that bad....
Question for you? do you only go for the ladies with no pics or do you cross that line and go for the ladies with pics as well... seems like a Hypocrite to me... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 8:04:07 AM | | Rick I totally agree with your assessment, so much so that about a month ago I wrote something very similar on the sex and dating part of the fish network here. What I feel is if you don't put up a picture and you do get a response from someone then just roll with that person because obviously he/she can be objective and is for all intents and purposes confident and open minded. If you are hitting it off with someone eventually you guys will probably either meet or exchange photos down the road. Besides one may not have the time to take pictures and go through all those changes. It's bad enough we are using the stupid computer trying to meet people in the first place. But if most people were not so shallow we could actually meet people person to person like it was done once upon a time. | |
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