| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:31:06 PM | I think we all have our reasons for "still" being single... some by choice, some just haven't found the right person... but I have to say I am not looking to change my single status, but looking for companionship with others...I see no reason why you can't be single and still enjoy life and the company of old and new friends. I have made some very special friends on POF and I look forward to meeting others in the future... but I have to say... I wouldn't complain if I found a Mr. Right Now...LOL!
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:48:51 AM | | Too busy with career, kids, life in general, and it seems most women I meet are looking for someone to take care of them and I don't need any more dependants, I want a partner. And lets not forget that those of us that got the shaft in our divorce are a little gun shy about getting shafted again. I would rather remain single forever than face that again. That being said, when I meet her, none of that will matter and I am sure I will take that step once again. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/15/2008 8:33:40 AM | Why am I still single... hmmm. Good question. I have alot of people asking me that all the time. Saying..."Your such a good looking woman, I can't imgine why you are still single." But, it has nothing to do with all that, my looks or theirs. I guess I am considered a good looking woman, and I do get asked out on dates. But, I am in no hurry to just settle for a relationship. I have met sooo many great people from this site. Men and women alike. I am enjoying the fact of meeting people and making new friends.... and if that "one" man comes along and we totally hit it off, then I will know it. But up until now, I haven't found him.
I guess I have some specifics that I am searching for, but mostly I want someone that I am totally compatible with. Our personalities just mesh, and our likes are similar. I have been single a very long time, but I am content in what I have and who I am. I don't NEED someone, but have a want for that feeling of total comfortableness, and companionship. I truly hope to find it someday. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/19/2008 5:21:55 PM | cause i scare the men away  that is the only thing i can think of.it must be my out look on life..who really knows.if anyone finds out please tell me. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/20/2008 2:58:36 PM |
cause i scare the men away
I can relate. That tendency many women seem to have for edging nervously toward the nearest door (or to just flee screaming) does sort of put a crimp in my romantic life. 
There's one thing I've learned through hard experience. No matter how much somebody may tell you prior to a date that, "I want you to speak your mind honestly," don't do it. It's a trap. And it often leads to that "edging nervously toward the nearest door" thing.  | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/20/2008 10:43:38 PM | LOL @Mr. M. Your not as bad as you let on, on here lol. I can so remember what I initially thought of you when I first started reading your posts on here. You seemed arrogant and rude to me at first. And I most certainly thought that you didn't care much for me either lol. But then we both met face to face at a POF party in Moncton... and you were very sweet and charming .
So ladies... and gentleman... I guess I am saying... don't always go by what you think of someone on here by their posts. They are sometimes different in person.
PS..... Crazygurl.. You don't scare me dammit lol. Ok.. maybe a little lol. JK.
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:48:38 AM | norma....most women i seem to get along with it's the men who seem to run!maybe i need to just relax and hope someday he finds me.or i can run really fast and catch up to him!
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/21/2008 7:19:08 AM |
Mr. M. Your not as bad as you let on
Sure, I am.... but I'm not bad in the way most people seem to think I am. It's really "bad" in more of an outrageous/warped sort of way.
I most certainly thought that you didn't care much for me either
I'm shocked! Shocked, I say!
I was a fan of yours right from the beginning, and always enjoyed your posts. In fact, you were one of the reasons I kept coming back here in those early days when I was trying to fit in here and find my forum "voice."
As I hope you've realized since then, I'm not arrogant, I'm just confident in what I know, and have a low tolerance for stupidity - and I'm rude only to those who have fully earned it.
On the other hand- and back on topic - I've never learned to use the "just smile and nod" response to something I disagree with or find offensive or irritating, which is another reason I'm still single. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/27/2008 7:00:38 PM | I'm single because I want to be  ....Mainly just haven't found the right fit...Been some close ones but for some reason they all turn out crazy........Go figure lol. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 7/7/2008 3:00:53 PM | Hmmm....very interesting topic.
For years I was always led to believe that by virtue of being single, there must be something wrong with me, and I was naive enough to believe it . Society seems to have placed a "must marry by X age"' rule on us, and a great deal of the population seems to have been brainwashed into believing the rule.
I'm single because I choose to be; because I won't settle for someone I could live with, I choose to wait for someone that I could not live without. I don't believe in getting married just to say that I am married, I'd rather be alone if that's the only other option. Although, should the right person come along, then that will obviously all change. Until the day it does, I'm alone, but not lonely, and choosing to be single as opposed to being in an unhappy relationship. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:00:08 PM | | Wow.. 1good1left... very very well said. I am truly impressed. Although I am sure you aren't seeking approval on here.. just saying your opinion. I just had to tell you.. very nice :). | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:39:28 AM | Why thank you
Although, I must say it took me a great deal of soul searching to come to my belief, and a good deal of self-deprecation.......LOL | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 7/10/2008 10:03:36 AM | I am told that I am probably too independent. I don't think so but I admit, I don't do that helpless female thing. Some woman are but I'm not--so why pretend. Actually, maybe that is why I am still single--I don't pretend!
I am passionate about things--politics, humanity, civil rights, etc. I have spent my life working professionally with people--so I can usually spot a con a mile away. I have no ambition to follow Mother Theresa into sainthood but I try not to hurt anyone today.
Money has little importance to me because along the way I have learned security comes from within. Back in the day--you know--the velvet poster days--I had one that said love is a commitment not an emotion. Some days I am '20' believing in love and happy endings. Heck, some days I even look 40. But then there are those other days that we all get.
I hope that I am ever changing and evolving as a person. I suppose that can be hard to take for a man--not that I haven't had my share (and maybe a bit more). I could experience something that can change my whole outlook about a situation. To me, those are positive things but for many men my age it is scarry. This is a question that begs for quiet reflective time to really think about. Maybe I can come up with Part 2! | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 7/12/2008 3:42:31 AM | OKAY DING DING I don't think ANYONE on POF could have said it better then SWerHappyHeart did just there..  | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 7/21/2008 6:53:13 PM | alrighty... I've been single for 3 years now so I think I can honestly answer this question...
If I like them.... they don't like me & if they like me.... I don't like them OR they live 10 000 freakin miles away! Somebody should write a song.... I could sing along to a song like that... maybe with few drinks.  
p.s. It's been awhile... what does the moderator thingy at the bottom do anyways? | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 7/21/2008 9:35:34 PM |
If I like them.... they don't like me & if they like me.... I don't like them
This reminds me of a line from one of Larry Niven's stories. I'm not absolutely certain this is verbatim, but pretty sure: "Every woman I wanted, ultimately wanted somebody else." I remember thinking, when I first read it, how easily I could relate to it. There have been some of the opposite cases as well, but either way, it was a one-way attraction; nothing ever clicked for both of us at the same time.
....been through the "10,000 miles away" thing, too. It's a real b!tch. At least a couple of failures taught me not to attempt any more long-distance romances, so I suppose there was some benefit. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 7/22/2008 10:38:52 AM | I have recently been giving this very question some serious thought.
So much so that I have packed away my fishing gear for the time-being and basically taken a vacation from the fishing hole. (Forums aside)
The great percentage of mail that I have received since changing my profile has been of a sexual invite nature. Apparently when we say we are no longer seeking a relationship, it translates that we must be looking for something quick and easy....and that we are trashy enough to be available to anybody else's husband or boyfriend who is in the mood to mess around. Apparently, for these men, single means desperate and desperate means easy.
From what I have heard, some (both men and women) are more than willing to share....I am too greedy I guess. I will not settle for being somebody's dirty little secret or a Tuesday afternoon romp.
To make a long story short...it seems that I am still single because I have morals and am not willing to share a man with God alone knows how many others. I am not so vain as to not realize, that if they are cheating on somebody with me, there are others as well.
Nor am I willing to be content with being an occasional fling when they are otherwise bored and have nothing better to occupy themselves with.
I am a firm believer that while men and women can be platonic friends...if that friendship is hidden from a spouse or significant other....it is more than platonic and therefore more than just friendship... | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 7/22/2008 4:36:40 PM |
The great percentage of mail that I have received since changing my profile has been of a sexual invite nature
The same thing happened to me when I changed my profile to express the fact that I was taking a break. So much so that I changed it back to a more detailed profile. Since then I've only had a couple of emails as opposed to 6 - 10 a day telling me that "they could fix what ailed me" ... *gag*.
As far as the OP I've come to the conclusion that I'm single because I want to be. I'm settled in my ways and love the fact that I'm able to do what I want, when I want without having to answer or explain to anyone. If I want to have popcorn and cookie dough for supper I do (its happened on more than one occasion); if I want to go to bed at 7 o'clock, I can; and if I want to take a drive at 2 a.m. I will. Its really a pretty good feeling.
On the other hand, I'll be the first to admit that there are times that I'm so lonely I seriously consider gnawing off my arm just to get out of the house on a Saturday night. But then I give my head a shake and think "emergency room on a Saturday night, probably wouldn't be the best place to mingle." | |
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