| what are turnoffs in profiles you have browsed ?
Posted: 6/27/2008 8:41:01 PM | | what I usually do Mich ?? I tinker with my various projects here at the ponds or just spend time cleaning up the bike. Both things keep me busy enough. Is very frustrating I think in this area because of the ruralness but im not sure I would trade it for traffic jams and more convenience just now. Just now im thinking I should build an ark out of toothpics..hmmm that should take some time me thinks..lol | |
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| what are turnoffs in profiles you have browsed ?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:55:30 AM | Just wanted to echo the PP who wrote that misspellings and poor grammar are a huge turnoff for me as well.
Since this medium does not allow one to make a personal first impression, your profile is really all that people have to make a brief generalization about you.
When you do not take the time to proofread your profile, it leads me to believe that you are either careless or illiterate -- neither of which are attractive qualities in a potential mate. | |
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| what are turnoffs in profiles you have browsed ?
Posted: 6/28/2008 11:43:18 PM | | Very well said or read rather, Parrothead. As with everyone elses replies I have thoroughly enjoyed reading them all. Hope everyones having a good weekend and keeping cool as the rule. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 3:03:40 PM | I second that emotion Parrothead61. Sometimes I'm really torn--"this person seems nice but doesn't seem to understand or care that the red lines under all those words (unless it's a difference between Canadian and American spelling) are cause for some editing."
The profile--and I mean the picture and the writing--is everyone's first impression; it just seems like a good idea to pay attention to the spelling and grammar.
And as you said Cobias, the list of negative "don't wants" is also tedious. Is there some community of people seeking players, drama queens, bad-hearted men and women, liars, cheats, etc? So assuming that none of us looking for a long term relationship are hoping to meet these peeps, can't we just leave that out of the profiles? On the other hand it's a really, really good way to weed out seemingly super negative people (lol). | |
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| what are turnoffs in profiles you have browsed ?
Posted: 7/13/2008 12:52:45 PM | I dont understand the whole thing of putting pics up with NO expression whatsoever. I dont understand why people dont actually smile at least just a little. or smirk, or do SOMETHING.
Do u really think that people will be drawn to a dark, out of focus pic that looks like a mugshot?
okay, so maybe I can see if the person has 5 pics up and ONE of them is sort of a blank face. But 5 pics and none of them has any expression at all? Who are they trying to attract?
Misssassypants knows how to smile! why is it so hard for others??? (I gotta give it up...the black girls seem to know how to smile better!)
people think they are reallllllyyyy smiling and they barely have moved their lips at all | |
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| what are turnoffs in profiles you have browsed ?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:05:10 PM | | Thing that I think is funny is when women will post up a profile, put in they are just looking for friendship only, and almost every picture they have posted up is showing cleavage or legs. That's no different than going to a club or bar and seeing lots of sexy women who are chiefly there to chat and nothing more. Bottom line here, if you're looking for someone to just chat with, wear lots of clothing, if you're there to get laid, look as good as you can. Kind've a no brainer here. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 2:30:34 PM | I hate it when you talk to a guy and then he tells you he's into the really tall, blonde, beautiful women because that's what he's used to seeing. It's shallow as hell. If you want a Barbie doll go to Wal-Mart, she's in the Toy Section. Oh and btw, if you realize that real beauty is on the inside as well as the outside, then you might have a chance at getting over your shallow attitude. People like this really need to ****ing grow up!  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 10:38:20 AM | The profiles that turn me off are the "woe is me" list, and the ones that say"if you are a cheater,player, liar or nasty woman keep on looking"..only they are never spelled correctly.
Of COURSE you don't want a cheater or liar to contact you, but that line is not going to prevent them from doing so if they think they will get something out of you.
Some of the profiles scream negativity, heartbreak, and depression. I'm not looking to fix any broken men. We have all had our share of troubles-it's what you have made of them and yourself that interest me.
Oh, and who caught the biggest fish or has the biggest rifle. Those pics always make me come back for a second look | |
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Posted: 8/6/2008 6:50:41 AM | | The biggest turnoffs are 'old' photos. Many times people put a combination of old and new, and you have to ask your self....why? Another turnoff is, when they list themselves as "Seperated" and looking for....."Long Term?" Hey...take a vacation and...'find yourself' first? Just a thought....... | |
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Posted: 8/6/2008 5:29:48 PM | Okay, we have all seen a profile or two that turned us off almost immediately. Here are some things that just make me groan.
Gals:
1) Don't have another person in your initial photo unless it is your child! How do I know which one you are?
2) Don't have a picture in your profile with another guy unless he is obviously your son. I have seen a few pictures of girls with guys that look like professional wrestlers. Do I want any part of that? No way. And a picture of you with a guy holding you close? Isn't that relationship over now? No?
3) Photos where you are trying to look sexy. Guess what? Such photos are most attractive to guys looking for sex primarily. Me? I see such photos and imagine the queue from your bedroom and just don't think you are mentally ready for something substantial.
4) "I love to laugh and have fun!" /groan Don't we all? First, there is no need to say such. Second, most of us are past the college years so this sounds rather "cheerleader-ish."
5) Spelling! Grammar! Ye gads, this goes for guys, too. Folks, review what you write and edit appropriately. Better yet, write your profile in MS Word and get it right THEN copy it over to POF.
6) Two sentences (or less) about you in your profile doesn't cut it. Flesh out your profile some.
7) Do you really need to say all the traits you do not wish to see in a guy? Guess what? That comes across as your carrying a bit of baggage. Especially to those of us that do NOT have those traits. /click "Next!"
8) Too many photos of you is . . . too many photos. Share the photos of you that are flattering. Two good photos is superior to two good photos and four unflattering cameo shots.
9) Smile! Is that so hard? Rememberr, you like to laugh and have fun so show that in your picture by giving us a big smile.
10) Pet photos? Just one. I don't care if you have one dog or four but only show one photo of your pet(s). More than that looks obsessive.
11) Kid photos? Just one. One is plenty. Family shot is great. Kids are in your personal picture and we guys prefer to know that up front. More than one photo of your children, however, makes a guy wonder how much room is in your life for him. I know, it's vain. But that thought process does occur.
12) Money. I have seen a few profiles where the women clearly stated they were used to the good life and expected to be well cared for again. Well, I know what to do with those. /click "Next!" If money is your focus then we just aren't going to get along. Money is a tool, not an obsession.
13) A SIDEWAYS photo? Sheesh. /boggle
Keep fishing! Just improve the bait some.
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Posted: 8/7/2008 6:29:15 AM | | hmmmm I may get beheaded for this one but is one that keeps occuring to me as a very important statement. I have seen in more than one profile, " my kids/family will always come first '. Now granted I do feel this is very important in an early entry to any type of relationship, however, if they "always" come first, then where does that leave a potential me ? It kinda scares me to think that if the kid/family wants to see batman (cool movie by the way) then I cant take my girl to see ironman (another good one). If I find someone that happens to be close to their child or family, then I certainly dont want to be second classed in what hopefully would become an intimate relationship (and not just sex by the way). Anyhow, just my thoughts for now and thanks for the replies guys and gals. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2008 7:58:12 AM | cobias, I don't thik you should be beheaded for that one. As a matter of fact, I agree with you.
Honestly, I believe the correct order is:
1) God
2) Relationship
3) Children
Haven't you heard the phrase "If Momma ain't happy, Ain't NOBODY happy!"? | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 10:18:00 AM | very good thoughts but whats wrong with a picture of a fish i caught, its who i am and what i love to do, are we to gather from your pictures that (1) you have no furniture ( 2)you wear nanna's red jacket (3) your dog although a cute dog but please, (4) your a couch potatoe, (5) Everyone needs a prayer closet, im with ya there! (6) again no furniture, splinters in ya butt,
I did smile with ya in your writtings, but i have had many compliments on my fish picture, If thats somthing that turns you away maybe you should be a lil more open to what other peoples hobbies are and not judge so quick, take care and good luck in your search!
Kuntrybo
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Posted: 8/17/2008 1:34:01 PM | | You are exactly right Hawk...I just read through all these "what are turnoffs in profiles comments" , and I notice where alot of the guys say that they hate profiles where women show sleezy, provocative photos, yet I know pretty much first hand that they are the ones that do get the most feedback and added to the favorite lists. Those of us who dress appropriately don't have blond hair and blue eyes, and don't weigh 110 lbs seem to get passed over alot. Now don't get me wrong, to each their own, I always say, and I have never been insecure with myself. Over the years, I have had some very handsome men in my life and some not all that in the looks department relationships, but I have found that after the initial attraction wheres off the looks really don't matter that much anymore. So all you men that feel that women should not show off their body or post sleezy pictures on POF, why are you adding them to your favorites and why not stop putting in your profile, that you are looking for a gorgeous, sexy, thin woman who is very fit and athletic. Most of us women out here are normal, hard-working, average, attractive or not, females. We are basically looking the same things that you are. And the bad thing is, I laugh at loud when I hear a man state that the above is what he is looking for, but he is overweight, bald, and 50 yrs. old. My opinion: There are alot of very attractive females around, we have alot of competition, but what is your excuse. There are very few really attractive men around, mostly because they don't take care of theirselves like we do. Give us respect and don't look for in us, what you can't deliver yourself.. I don't mean any disrespect to anyone, male or female, but it really does seem kind of sad when there are so many lonely, unattached people out there, looking for someone to love and spend their life with , but looks and body type is all anyone is concerned with. No wonder these sites are homes to millions of people. God intended for all of us to be love and be loved by who we are and what we have to offer. So all of us, myself included, should take the time and really get pass the looks thing, and look alot deeper in the people around. Get to know those that you might not have noticed or gave a second thought to before. Sorry if I come off like a psychiatrist or something, just these dating sites are somewhat new to me and it amazes me hows shallow and childish alot of people really are when it comes to the other sex. No offense, but especially the men. Take care everyone!! | |
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Posted: 8/22/2008 10:40:37 AM | @Now Is Good (cool handle by the way)
Another turnoff is, when they list themselves as "Seperated" and looking for....."Long Term?" Hey...take a vacation and...'find yourself' first? Just a thought.......
Great point. I've never been in this situation but I have a couple close friends who've been on the wrong end of a separated fella's rebound. Not fun. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 4:09:56 AM | iDIot GuRlz whO InSisT oN TYpiNg LyKe Dis; dis is not a word, the correct spelling is THIS, and If YoU TyPE like that, it tells me you are an immature and childish. I want to date women not little girls.
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"I lyke to spend my time clubbin!!, goin 2 pArTiES, and HOTT guys"
I think... 'yeah she'd be loyal for all of a week' no thanks and move along.
Please ladies have some real interests outside of being desperately intoxicated in seedy hangouts and shaking your ass in other men's faces. It's not going to hook me. Tell me who you are not what Lil Johns new single sounds like. I didn't come here to pick up club rats, if I wanted a club rat I'd go to the club and start throwin cheese lines at them.
And when I see big ol' fat women, I don't mean a few extra pounds, I mean they-did-it-to-themselves HUGE, and they usually have mullets or some other kind of big hair and a ratty t shirt. Are they aware men are on here looking for women to DATE???
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Posted: 9/6/2008 3:03:07 PM | Well, I don't get why some guys don't post thier pictures-are you ashamed of the way you look? If so, do something about it. Are you afraid someone you know might see you on the site? If so, grow up! You're supposed to be a grown man, right?! The other thing that I don't like is when a guy who is clearly out of my age range contacts me. Get real! If I give an age range, then respect that. If I wanted a "father figure" or a "grandfather figure" I would have stated that in my profile. Don't mean to be harsh but that's the way I feel. And yes, I have dated plenty of guy who were 7-10 years older than me, but I decided that wasn't what I wanted. So, please respect the age ranges that are posted.
I also can't stand poor grammer or spelling...this is your first impression so please take the time to review what you have written.
Also, I don't care to see pictures of guys without their shirts-this is not a playgirl site and I am not impressed-get over yourself! Don't put up pictures where you are not smiling, or you are surrounded by your family and friends, or you have a cap on that covers your face. Just get a nice head or body shot (clothes on, please!) where you are smiling and looking happy. Why would I want to contact a guy who looks sad and gloomy?
Also, don't talk about how lonely you are, how miserable you are, ect., ect. -that is a huge turn off! You need to work on making yourself happy, enjoying your life and fullfilling your own needs. It's your responsibility to make yourself happy-not mine. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:50:33 PM | ^amen to the poor grammar or spelling. I've seen so much internet lingo and 'slang' on profiles it just makes me want to scream. It makes me laugh my butt off to see women who obviously have some meat on their bones(which many guys like myself love) identify themselves as 'average' or 'a few extra pounds' when they're so...not average or have a few extra pounds.
I love the women who are real with those seeking a good date online, but those who try and play people with 'little white lies' will only end up getting hurt and coming back to complain, 'He judged me on my looks when in my profile I have myself as a few extra pounds, what did he expect?'.
Also placing 'prefer not to say' on anything almost always gives a person the answer they were looking for and if it doesn't you can be sure it makes a guy just shake their head because it looks like you have something to hide. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 5:21:06 PM | Old pictures. You know the ones that show you 10 years ago. That and pictures of her with another man. I see that and I wonder is she still interested in him? If so, you have to get over him first. I'll pass those profiles by in an instant.
This site is clearly not a swingers/hook-up site so you don't need to state your not looking for a one-night stand. That's understood and if he doesn't get it, pass him by.
The statements about your children/family will always come first. If they don't there is a serious problem. I understand your family, your children come first. I expect that.
I like the list of likes. It's one of the important parts of your profile. I want a relationship where we share common interest. I do not want to go off for a day of fun with my friends while she's off with hers all the time. Yes, I know she's bound to have other interests and that helps keep things interesting between us. You can have your seperate friends and activities and I'll have mine. But, for the most part we should have, no we need to have commonality. Time together is what a relationship is. Also, it's important to me that we be willing to share our interests with each other. I don't play golf. If she does, she should be willing to let me join her. Stuff like that.
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| what are turnoffs in profiles you have browsed ?
Posted: 9/22/2008 11:01:15 PM | A huge turnoff for me is the profile that is TYPED IN ALL CAPS>>>>>>>>>>>>>I HATE THAT................very hard on the eyes.....I do like the profiles that are lengthy, that have something positive to say, they tell me where they are in life.....but not in CAPS............
They are my life, so anyone who responds to my profile has to know that they come first
If you have a child/children I do know they are a huge responsibility.....you don't need to state they are number one....we should be able to work around that...And if you feel your responsibility is more toward them and not your own well being then you should wait till they grow up and are out of the house before dating.....or attempting to start a relationship
Yea.....I'm gonna get it for the one......
just my thoughts on the subject......someone asked.....and by the way your butt looks just fine......and not a day over 26........ | |
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hahahahahaha @ club rats...that was too funny!!! Thanks for all the great and honest posts yall. It has been a blast reading them.
