| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:36:02 PM | Most people will experience LUST during the early part of a relationship and as evolution has prgrammed us to do, most couples will make like little bunnies for usually a "short period" which might last up to a year if one is lucky. Nature's way of trying to get the female pregnant to continue the species. It is during this lustful phase that we are truly ARE "mad" in many respects as recent studies have shown - all kinds of chemical reactions inside our brains similar to being drugged. It is also during this lustful "mad" phase that we are most likely NOT to see any red flags even when they are sonetimes flapping furiously.
IMO, lust CAN BE [for many apparently] a purely physical response to someone you simply find PHYSICALLY attractive. It also CAN include our Pheromones at work doing their thing, their CHEMICAL thing "telling us" [sometimes whispering and at other times shouting] to get with/be with this person. Pheromones ARE the Chemical part of "Chemistry". They simply tell us if another person is a good GENETIC match for us - whether our babies would have a good combination of genes for the best chance of survival. Pheromones DO NOT in any way, shape or form tell us if the other party is any kind of Compatible mate. Unfortunately! That normally can ONLY be determined by spending a great deal of time with someone - the falling in Love part.
It IS possible to fall in Love at "first sight" as I can personally attest but I believe it is very rare and very few will be lucky enough to meet someone where "everything" falls into place and the planets are in complete alignment.
As for telling the difference between the two? Easy. It's HOW you feel about the other party once you are "done" with the deed that is a dead giveaway... | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/20/2008 12:49:29 AM | I believe that there is a huge difference between lust and love.
In my opinion, lust is the constant urge from our nether regions, controlling our every sense, making us have stronger and stronger desire for that particular person of the opposite gender. Love, on the other hand.. is not controlled at all, but free to roam about and grow. It's the constant support for you when your sorrows have you blue, like the net that catches a tight-rope walker whenever he or she may fall. Love is so many things that I could only begin to describe them.
Love is the constant desire to hold and just gaze upon the eyes of the one whom you're interested in. The desire to just cuddle with them each and every moment of your waking lives together.. The thought that 'Hey, I could risk my life to save hers, and she wouldn't have to do anything to repay me, and that's fine with me', because you can't picture a life without her. The desire to relax, laying under the stars talking all night and holding eachother and telling eachother how deeply you care for one another.
The constant feeling that you need to impress the other, but knowing they will care for you equally even if you don't. The feeling that if you were to die looking into her eyes, then you'd happily go knowing that the last thing you saw was her beautiful face. The beautiful, bright red rose at the end of life's thorny stem. When you do things for eachother that no one else ever would, could, or knew to do.. that you both enjoy more than anything. The fact that the sound of her breath during a restless night is enough to make you feel more safe than you've ever felt before, and you fall asleep staring at her beautiful, angelic, most peaceful looking face.
The feeling that everything you do is better because she is around you to share the moments and happiness with you. Being there for her to rub aloe vera on her sunburns.. and having her trust you to do it without hurting her. Knowing that no matter where you go, what you see, who you see, they will still be the most beautiful thing you've ever seen in your entire life. Being able to rest your head on her chest when you're feeling afraid and listening to her heart beat and falling asleep in her arms, no matter the fear.. Being able to see yourself without her, but refer to it as a living nightmare, and actually believe it. Knowing that if you could trade her for all of the money in the world, you wouldn't and she knows it.
That's all I can think of at the moment, but that's some of the things I define love as, maybe it's just me though. I hope that I've brought some kind of help toward you, and everyone reading this..
Take care of yourself, and may you make the right choice. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:25:12 AM | Lust...fantasizing...
Potential for Love...fantasizing...
Love...fantasizing...
It's just the last one...................involves so much more!!
Tell me more, you foxy lady. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/20/2008 2:07:58 PM | | Oh, sorry Mr. Mysterious, it will have to remain a mystery...see, it's all reserved for one special man....and I will know who when I meet him(that requires a face-to-face)meeting. :) | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/20/2008 6:12:04 PM | lust is when you see your partner and wanna sex them till your back goes out . Love is when you see your partner and time slows down,when you sex them time flies and next thing you know you have been sexing them for 2-4 hours nice and slow-hard and strong, Love is when you care about her needs as in seeing her climax several times. Lust is when you sex her hard and strong then roll over and fall into a coma-like sleep  | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/20/2008 7:21:43 PM | | Attraction begins in the brain. That physical WOW!! you get can sometimes be inspired by someone no good for you. But you still want them physically. I think of that kind of as inferior to having it with someone you click with outside of the bedroom. A lot of people get themselves in trouble because they wind up trying to make things work with someone who can never be anything more than a few romps in the hay. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/20/2008 7:28:10 PM | Lust is wanting to have sex with a hot guy !! Love is well they say forever. I seem to have more lust then love. But I rather lust sometimes  | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/21/2008 1:04:37 PM | | For me, lust is just heated desire but love is so much deeper. Imagine your body is just a visile that carries your mind. If you can detach the too and just observe, you should see that the physical attraction your body feel for another is lust. For me, love is a joining of minds. Wanting to be close, wanting dialogue, needing to ring/text. Holding her all night, our heads need to be touching, running your fingers through her hair. To be in love is the ultimate in a relationship. Each day to come home after work and wanting to find out how your partners day went. Some people just want to come home and veg! It’s all wrong, just open up and share your soles. If you have been married for a long time, and the lust has gone, the person who you fell in love with is still in there. So just talk. It’s all about finding some common ground. Then you can relate well to each other. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/21/2008 1:37:59 PM | | I have been seeing someone for 3 years - I ended the friendship on saturday - I say friendshp because he lives with someone else and is 13 years my junior - I had to end it because I was starting to care - could it have been just sex for him after all that time r do you think he had feelings for me too - I never wanted him to leave the person he was with because I could never trust him (if that makes sense) | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/21/2008 1:38:30 PM | | Well my personal experience , NO....sometimes the person that owns your heart isnt always the person who's touch makes you tingle all over!! I have been married for 12 yrs and I never had that tingling sensation with him. Dont get me wrong...I love him dearly, but he just doesnt leave me in that state of awww. That is what brought me to this site. I was missing the passion and lust with my marriage. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/21/2008 1:47:03 PM | | He was starting to spend more and more time with me wanting to go away for weekends - he was alaways tender yet passionate and he def had the wow factor effect on me - dont get me wrong we talked about anything and every thing | |
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kellum
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Joined: 1/22/2008
Msg: 38 | |
| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/22/2008 4:21:51 PM | | do you see yourself getting old with them with wrinkles and saggy skin? does that make you happy? yes? thats love. no? thats lust. | |
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Joined: 1/22/2008
Msg: 39 | |
| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/22/2008 4:23:14 PM | | love gets in the way of lust. your right. lol... cuz then he leaves you hanging..... | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/22/2008 5:59:41 PM | Come on people! If it weren't for lust, most relationships wouldn't get off the ground.
Guys, have you ever went up to girl you didn't know because you loved her? If you did, what did you love about her?
Ladies, have you ever went up to a guy you didn't know because you loved him? If you did, what did you love about him? | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/22/2008 6:50:58 PM | | Is it still lust when the person never lives the others side...or is that love....i see more lust than love of other ppl around me....i just think love takes more time than sticking to each other like glue.....its like if the other person did leave...the prize would be lost lol.... | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/22/2008 6:58:35 PM | | can you drive a car with a standard transmission? Think 5 speed...1st and second gear are the lust..third and fourth gear are transitional to longer term, but you made feel the need to use those low gears at every light...fifth is overdrive and long term, i.e., long term commitment and love...cruisin'...yet there will be plenty of times to use those lower gears, no matter how long the road. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/24/2008 11:47:25 AM | Listen to "Damaged Goods" by Gang Of Four.
"I'm kissing you goodbye..." | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/26/2008 4:07:40 AM |
Guys, have you ever went up to girl you didn't know because you loved her? If you did, what did you love about her?
Can't say I have. Went up to a few I didn't know driven by lust. Unless you count my love of most women in general. Don't make contact there though, just basically love them from afar. Use to, restraining orders have slowed my roll... | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/28/2008 4:27:50 PM |
lust is when you want to rip someone's pants off
love is when you want to rip someone's pants off and then go on a second date
 
Oh my god love and lust are so similar that maybe we could even call them identical twins.
Are you kidding? I thought only newbie lovers make this mistake. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/28/2008 5:39:03 PM | "The absence of one would make your bed colder......the absence of the other would make your whole world colder."
What an absolutely beautiful line !! thanks | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 3/9/2008 7:37:55 PM |
lust is when you want to rip someone's pants off
love is when you want to rip someone's pants off and then go on a second date
Second date implies love? | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 3/9/2008 10:46:47 PM | This is my test. It's how you feel when you get up out of bed.
Lust is when you can leave your bed after you're finished, and watch TV by yourself.
Love is when you don't want to leave her in bed alone afterward. | |
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custis
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Joined: 3/16/2005
Msg: 49 | |
| lust and / or love
Posted: 3/10/2008 12:40:36 AM | | Aww, what does it matter? I mean, you Englanders have bigger things to worry about. The steering wheels are on the wrong side of your cars. But if you really want to have a nice philosophical discussion about this, jump onto a plane and I will pick you up at PDX. Then we can go to a nice little place with low lights and candle-lit tables where we can talk about it over drinks and dinner. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 3/10/2008 9:00:11 AM | Lust fulfills physical needs.
Love fulfills emotional needs.
If you lust for the one you love, you are in high cotton. | |
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