| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 1:41:22 PM | well I do.
No complaints either.
But I'm afraid they are sexual.
either before or after.
(Hey I'm a guy, I'm wired that way.)
So not something I'd do with just a friend. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 1:48:22 PM | Well, I'll speak for myself. I've been giving massages to my very close single female friends since I was 18. But 99% of women seem to think it's a come-on for a man to give a massage to a woman. Men also think it's a come-on for a man to give another man a massage. So I never get to give anyone a massage who is not an incredibly close single female friend, unless she is intending it to lead to sex.
If any other men have had my experiences, then other women and men have conditioned them to only associate massages as a prelude to sex. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 1:48:35 PM | Hey! I'll take a guy brushing my hair as I read aloud to him.....I LOVEEEEEEE my hair to be brushed and played "beauty palor" with it. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 2:44:37 PM | | I was told I gave great massages so i went to school for it. now I get paid to give massages, but occassionally will rub someones feet if they need it while we are relaxing. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:05:47 PM | But why is it that some guys would expect a blowjob in exchange for a massage? I mean, returning the massage is acceptable and expected, and I can see a handjob, tops. Otherwise, it hardly seems like a fair exchange- unless the guy is a trained masseuse and whatnot.
its good to know the difference between you sucking someones **** or not, is a certificate hanging on their wall. 
now excuse me while i got attend a 2 week course on how to give a decent massage, so i can get a certificate. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:51:30 PM | Only time I like massages is when I have a muscle pain, and more then 5 min. I get bored receiving or giving. If my lady needs one I'll gladly give it to her, but I'm not very good at it, I tend to do more damage then good.
Carry on!
Ray
PS. Stay away from my feet. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:56:51 PM | | Depends on the guy maybe? I love giving massages. non-sexual or sexual. They are fun to give! I even bought a massage table ! lol! | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 6:13:20 PM | | I LOVE to give massages (and not the "5 minute...good enough" kind either).....long, slow, sensual massages! Head to toe. Have all the oils and lotions right here but no willing candidates. Oh well..........what's a man to do. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 6:26:47 PM | of course men love to give women massages, we just want to massage the parts of you -that your not so inclined to.  | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 7:28:03 PM | | Funny this kind of thread poped up, cause I for one like to give massages out. Ok sometimes not all the time I mean keep in mind the other persons mood, if you have had a bad day at work and just want to come home and be by yourself a bit and relax would you want to give a massage? Chances are that its a no. However when in the right kind of mood I love giving massages, i've been told by many people i'm actually really good at it, I take it slow and take my time over whatever parts of their bodies they want me to massage (not the private parts mind you, unless it was my woman and she wanted that, however haven't had a gf it so long that it dosen't matter atm) I have taken into thought of actually going to college to become a massuse of one form or another. Massage if done right is also a great way to relax and actually take sexual pleasure to new heights. Like for example did you know that massaging your foot the right way and kneeding your toes and paying close attention to the areas right above your toenails can help relive headaches? There are many points in the body and all help in one form or another with massage. I recomend looking it up online if your interested in taking your partner to new heights of sexual pleasure or just wanting to help your partner relax more. Also a great book that helps that I own is called "whole body massage" by Mitya Lacroix, francesca rinaldi, sharon seager, and renee tanner. I'd also like to add that of course while giving a massage pay attention to the person and their body, where they like it the most, how hard or soft they like it, things like that. Tune your breathing with theirs and relax if your not they won't be either. Whelp i'm done rambling now *hits the post button* :P | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/20/2008 8:46:09 PM | I used to give them to my ex-to-be a lot... Did not get sh*t in return. (Not even a decent back massage )
I still give back rubs / massage now and then - just not to people who take without giving... | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/21/2008 12:58:19 AM | Well, I can't tell you why more don't except some of what's already been said: it's laziness.
I give 'em. I love to give 'em. No sex required.
I love to get 'em too...again, no "happy ending" required.
My best advice would be to look for a better, less lazy caliber of men. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/21/2008 4:55:08 AM |
More Blowjobs = More Massages
Omg.... here we go again with the whole "keeping track" thing..... Sorry, but I'm just not into the whole "I did *this* for him, so he should do *that* for me" idea.
But why is it that some guys would expect a blowjob in exchange for a massage? I mean, returning the massage is acceptable and expected, and I can see a handjob, tops. Otherwise, it hardly seems like a fair exchange
Returning the massage is expected? I love the fact that my partner falls asleep after a nice long massage, the same way I do if it's done well and with care. No way am I going to give him a smack on the ass and say "Okay, get up... time to do me now!" LOL
Now, there are definitely times when a massage turns into a wild night of passion, but let go of the "tit for tat" attitude and just enjoy!
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/21/2008 6:00:22 AM |
Omg.... here we go again with the whole "keeping track" thing..... Sorry, but I'm just not into the whole "I did *this* for him, so he should do *that* for me" idea.
I didn't mean it like that but a happy man is much more willing to do do things to keep his partner happy also. If you are keeping score though I agree you both will end up losing. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:28:54 AM | I think it's a pretty good indicator of selfishness if they DO know how or don't and WON'T learn.
A friend of mine has a pretty good standard she goes by:
I don't blow anyone who won't blow me  If you give the massage and it's never returned, ditch them.
The last guy I dated was a 'non-giver' in back rubs. He'd make the least effort possible, paid no attention to what he was doing, and acted sooooo put out by it. It was a fantastic deal breaker and the perfect excuse for going out with a guy who had been flirting with me for weeks. Now HE gave good rub | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/21/2008 1:22:41 PM | Well I would say that men like to give massages I know I do and recieve them as well.
If a woman wants one it helps if she asks me and I do volunteer them as well.
Some men have been told they are to rough or strong handed when they do it, We are not so soft so enjoy the strong handed ones more I guess. Most woman I have done it for have enjoyed them but must watch how strong my grip is when doing it. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/21/2008 1:47:39 PM | I don't know.
I took massage classes for me ex so that I can give her a very good massage. I also got lessons from my cousin on washing, conditioning, and blow drying hair. Never knew there was so much too it. Just so when she was having a bad day, I can cheer her up or at least make her feel a little better.
I don't understand why some men won't do the little things to pay attention to thier SO. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:21:29 PM | | Real f****n simple, we suck at them. if we were good at it, we would love to pleasure you with a great massage. But we suck so why waste ours and your time? | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/22/2008 7:58:05 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ So then learn! No one is ever too old to learn something new.... especially if you are interested in doing nice things for your partner. Ask her for guidance.... verbal communication is important in EVERY aspect of a relationship... whether it be sexually related, caring related, massage related or discussing what's for dinner.
Get a good book on massage or a dvd, read/watch it together and have fun! That would not be construed as a waste of time for either one of you. | |
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