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Posted: 2/22/2008 9:44:26 AM |
My hands are deadly weapons. One touch, and off to bed you go.
However, I use this knowledge for the good instead of the evil.
When it comes to massages, it's ALL good. I'm putty in his hands  | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/22/2008 9:48:48 AM | HI GUYS,,,,
NOS800 =would like to know why he isnt getting very many blow jobs?????
any advise for this wonderful guy????
cheryl
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:04:24 PM |
I thought that guys are not supposed to be afraid of ANYTHING.
Ok... maybe lions, or tigers... but, soft, pedicured, pretty feet... with read toes...
Dang, where are all the foot fetishists when a gal needs them.
(Gal being OP, not moi... this is just a Public Service Announcement... no need to message me offering foot massage... I'm good. Thank you.)
You just pushed my button!
Seriously, most men are lazy, but usually will give a massage only if they think there is something in it for them!
Fortunately for me, the "something in it for them" is an opportunity for a LOT of physical contact in a potentially erotic way! Has worked for years, and thankfully for me most guys never do get it!
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:34:31 PM |
Hey! I'll take a guy brushing my hair as I read aloud to him.....I LOVEEEEEEE my hair to be brushed and played "beauty palor" with it.
Would you read me some poetry? | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 1:50:31 AM | I'm sort of a foot-ankle-calf-knee-thigh-hip-tummy-back-chest-shoulder-bicep-forearm-hand-neck-ear-face-and-hair fetishist. Alternatively, you could just say "wyminz iz mah kryptonite."
Hair brushing is another interesting bit of play... I knew a lass that would let me do pretty much whatever I wanted, if I brushed her hair long enough. I'll confess that sometimes I ended up putting her hair up in pig tails. I'm a very, very bad man.
I don't at all have an issue with giving a woman a massage, as long as she's aware that my handling her naked body is going to inspire a hardon, which I might want to share with her. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/23/2008 2:08:17 AM | It is simply MAGIC to give one to someone you LOVE. To me anyway. Or, get one for that matter.
And IFFFFFFFFF giving one before sex....! | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 2:19:20 AM | It is simply MAGIC to give one to someone you LOVE. To me anyway. Or, get one for that matter.
For once you and I agree.
But not before sex. If I get a massage from someone I adore, that is delivered with true passion, I'll not be lively. And my goal with a massage is to turn them to a dish rag — helpless and slurring words.
Then my work is done and I am happy :) | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 5:32:13 AM | quite simply most guys are not all that worried about learning. it may be easy to learn (some have tried to make it sound like its the easiest thing in the world, which its not) but if noone ever vents in frustration about it, he will not do it. its like expecting a woman to know how to fix a carborator. unless they have a reason to, they wont. if a man has no reason to learn to give massages (i.e. noone ever complains about it) they wont either.
and heres another shocker for some. its not exactly the most pleasent thing in the world for the giver of a proper massage unless they have actually trained for it. it takes specific hand muscle qualities to give longer massages. some guys who do a lot of manual labor in industrial settings overdevelop different parts of muscles in their hands and giving someone else a massage actually hurts them more then it helps soothe the person being massaged. if im massaging (not just rubbing actually massaging) i have to take a break every 5 minutes or so because my thumbs start to hurt so bad i cant even move them. i know im not alone in this.
another great reason: some guys are just plain a$$holes | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/23/2008 5:47:03 AM | That's how you can tell if someone really cares.
Someone randomly rubbing my back? Nah. Don't bother because that will annoy me.
Someone that knows exactly where the knots appear and when? Yeah.
My daughter cares and even though she makes whiney noises when I make a request, she is the only one that really knows me and can focus enough to make 5 minutes feel like 30. She's been walking my back since she was old enough to hold herself up.
Being the giver and receiver of massage from someone I love, I EXPECT the recipient of one of my massages to be flat out and useless. If they are not, I didn't do it properly or they didn't trust me enough to relax.
It is definitely not about sex or my RMT would be a ... sex trade worker? Yet I can claim her 10 times a year on my extended health benefits?
Canada is so liberal. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 10:25:46 AM | I will give a massage if it is someone I truly care for.
Last relationship i was always giving massages, without expecting anything but cuddling on the couch later in return.
I can never relax enough to receive a massage, so I never expect to be given one.
It makes me feel like I am important to her and that I can touch her in a way nobody else can. It certainly helps with trust and can lead to better foreplay and more enjoyable sex if you feel a true connection with your partner. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 11:13:41 AM |
I'm sort of a foot-ankle-calf-knee-thigh-hip-tummy-back-chest-shoulder-bicep-forearm-hand-neck-ear-face-and-hair fetishist. Alternatively, you could just say "wyminz iz mah kryptonite."
Hair brushing is another interesting bit of play... I knew a lass that would let me do pretty much whatever I wanted, if I brushed her hair long enough. I'll confess that sometimes I ended up putting her hair up in pig tails. I'm a very, very bad man.
I'm looking for the 'one', and these are a big part of what I want in our relationship.
do it, do it all til I coo... purr...... oh lord, to be able to let it all go, from the mind, to the body... god where is he????????????????? | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 1:36:18 PM | | You are definitely with the wrong guys. I love to give a gal a massage. Not a short, weak one. A long, awesome one!!! | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 6:58:46 PM | I used to ask the eight year old daughter of a woman I was dating walk on my back. Wow it felt good. Then we'd watch tv and I'd pretend to see a booger in her nose and go after it with my finger to make her squeal. Good times.
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Posted: 2/23/2008 10:05:30 PM | Some guys like to pamper their lady, some don't. I used to give and get full body massages, reflexology, and scratches that would practically put you in a coma.
I remember one time my ex girlfriend and I were having dinner and drinks with another couple out by her pool (yes I cook too), and she put her feet on my lap (they were cold) and I must have rubbed them for at least 3 hours. Her friend was so jealous, and pissed at her guy for not doing the same.
I didn't do it to get sex, but I'm not going to lie. Sometimes those full body massages had an effect on both of us.
I think they are very healthy.
I enjoy giving them and receiving them.
I look forward to that aspect of being in a loving relationship again. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 11:28:01 PM | | I can't speak for all guys, but I for one love to give massages. Just knowing they are enjoying me rubbing out their stress and massaging away their soreness and all that goes with it is so nice, for both of us. Good luck though OP, you'll find a good one, one day that not only knows how to do it right, but will enjoy doing it often for you. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 12:38:57 PM | Men, like women, are a continuum. Some are self centered and in a rush, while others are knowledgeable and primed to spoil you. Its such a hard thing, balancing all of one's requirements when dating.
I'd like to think I'm a champion "spoiler". I had this ratty apartment for a couple of years post divorce, but I made the most of it - ripped out the carpet, rag rolled the walls, and there was nothing at all in the room except lights and plant stands. Mostly it got used as a yoga studio but I would occasionally have some female company. I'd crank the oil filled space heater way up, pull out a twin mattress from one of the kids' bunk bends, and put down a quilt. The incense went in a little burner and the water circulating in my thirty gallon pond was a good background noise. I'd have a couple of scented oils handy and it was lady's choice. We'd start therapeutic, of course, but get one of those from someone you like and other possibilities would become available as things progressed :-)
Not sure if URLs come through, but if so this is a shot of the place when I was actually sleeping there while I was painting my bedroom.
http://farm1.static.flickr.com/174/377235792_9edfda7218.jpg | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 1:10:33 PM | | Does more guys mean bf or someone you just met? I had bfs that wanted massages but when it was my turn ohhh how their hands were too tired. So, no more massages for them. As to a new guy wanting to massage me.. no way. It's too creepy and I know where they want it to lead. If you want a really good massage hire a pro. That's what I do. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 5:57:44 PM | | LMAO...because i am single.....nobody to rub except my male friend who does enjoy it sometimes...he's an old fart but i love him nonetheless so it does him some good. He moans like a women when i do it...:) | |
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Posted: 2/25/2008 1:48:03 PM | OP: pity your in canada and i'm in the usa and without a passport we would get along well lol.
I'm and affectionate person by nature, especially around people i like and am close with.
One of the ways i like to show affection or let someone know i like them and care is by massages.
Unfortunately i suffer from the same problem that you do. I end up giving them FAR more than i receive them. Like you i wish that wasn't so as i love to get them too.
For me massages are not a sex thing either they are an affection thing.
I think many people men and women both dont give them often is because they ARE work to the one giving them.
Even giving a 5-10 minute backrub gets my hands tired pretty quickly. that and it can be kinda boring. Then there is the knowledge factor, most people don't know how to.
Being able to give them though doesn't take much to do to learn to give decent/okay ones.
Just get some massages and try to duplicate what feels good on you and listen to the person your giving them. some people like em hard some like em soft ya have to be able to listen to the feedback receiver gives you. just like with sex. moans means your doing it right and OwOwOwOW! means your doing too hard or wrong for that person and a softer approach might be needed.
For any of y'all who like to get massages and you find someone who likes to give them, ya gotta give some back if you want to keep getting them.
Kinda along the same lines of "scratch my back and i'll scratch yours". | |
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