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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/25/2008 3:32:49 PM | Any man should have the ability to give a good massage in his quiver of talents, if you want to really please a woman totally. Of course , some women are less into them than others.
After a long day, even something as simple as a properly done foot massage can work wonders. Turn down the lights, put on some soft music, and perhaps add some scented candles for additional effect.
Done properly, you can expect a smile to result on her face that you could not take off with a power sander. 
The expectation of sex in return (at least right away) is not part of the equation in such instances, btw. That simply reduces it to "I'll do something for you, if you do something for me." 
The enjoyment in both cases should come from the act in and of itself, and not any expectations of a reward for the thought. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:41:48 AM | theres nothing so relaxing as a good massage- im a qualified massage therapist - its not my main job but i do it in my spare time and also for friends...
so of course most of the massages i do are entirely non-sexual but with that special someone (ok ages ago lol!!) i love to do a massage thats can lead anywhere we want it to....lovely to get one in return but not part of the deal!! | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 3/6/2008 2:26:01 AM | | Personally for me I enjoy giving massages to the special someone...as my way of saying this is something different/unique about ME :) plus it shows the woman that you're will to take the time/effort/attention to detail...in helping her relax...etc... | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 3/6/2008 4:13:40 PM | While I prefer giving and receiving light fingertip caresses, I've also given massages.
While I'm ok with giving them, in my experience, massages usually take a little extra work, especially if you're going body-wide and to use messy oils and lotions. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 3/6/2008 8:07:52 PM | Hello Cogkaiserine,
I agree with you...massage is one wonderful way to relax and to a personal and physical connection. You have been looking at the wrong guys. The good news is that the Metrosexual male (the heterosexual type)population is on the rise everywhere in the world. If you are seeking someone that loves to give massages and receive them as well, seek someone that practices tantra. If the guy has no clue what that is...keep looking. So many guys think that nakedness plus touch equals sex...and this is what you have experienced. Look at the profile of the kind of guy you have been dating and I am sure you will find a great number of similarities in those guys.
Try a different "type" and go in with an open mind. I love to give and get massages whether sex is at the end or not. I don't think I am the only one out there. If I am...email me....hahahahahaha | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 3/6/2008 8:19:58 PM | I'm on a permanent massage strike. I've given many a massage to gf's (professional back massages btw) but never gotten one in return. ever!! Once they got too comfy with them, they got addicted and it became like a baby bottle to a child.
"wahh wahhhh rub my back again!"
My hands are retired from massaging backs. I'll be massaging piano keys from now on. It's more rewarding.
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 3/8/2008 5:50:11 PM | I think you have to be willing to give a massage without expectation of anything in return, it is a gift of your skills and time you give to someone .To expect something
in return will cheapen the gift.
I do enjoy giving a message, and each one has to be as awsome as I can make it.It's
like a personal challenge for me.[that means Im not stoping until I turn you into
a stick of melted butter]and those sounds a woman makes when you do it right are plenty of payment.
I started about 10yrs. ago when a barmaid friend of mine asked me to try my hand
at it,taking over for someone that wasn't good at it.To explain a little she suffered
from Croans disease[hope thats spelled right] and had some painfull days from it.
It turns out I was a natural at it. she helped me learn what was good , and not , and
I was amazed at the power human touch had over her pain.Well I have spent the
last 10 yrs perfecting my craft. I have actually looked into getting my theropy
license, but the classes conflict with my work ,so for now it't tabled.
o. p . good luck in finding some one who can do this for you. If you get to
Troy ohio look me up ,you can have a rain check for one if you want it. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:22:32 PM | | Honestly in the average relationship who is the one giving the massages(i mean the one hour full body massage with oils) ? The man or the woman? I think its the man giving more when he should be getting more if he has signifcant muscle mass. Women don't know what tense muscles feel like. Men NEED more massages. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:41:43 PM | I too give massages, and the ability to give them has absolutely nothing to do with metrosexuality or eastern mysticism. It has everything to do with caring for someone else, desiring to see them feel better, and an ability to work with the human body; it involves loving without expectation of return, but loving for love's sake.
Yes, this is just another benefit of dating artistic men with morals. Maybe you should look for guys like that, who would be willing to give you massages without thinking that you wanted sex. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:12:59 PM |
I don't get it, why is it some men flat out refuse to give them? Or if they do it's a lukewarm half hearted attempt which is usually along the lines of rub rub, okay sex now?
I can't answer for all guys, but I've always loved giving full-body massages. I think where it gets old is if the guy tries to give the woman pleasure and then feels that there's no reciprocity. It's not necessarily one-for-one -- massage=bj or whatever, but if, over time, things are grossly uneven, the guy loses interest. I know I do. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/23/2008 11:26:05 PM | when it comes to massages.
some guys get it, and some don't.
some have the touch, some have no clue.
if your man isnt very good, i wouldnt expect miracles.
but if he is, exploit it :) | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:37:21 AM | massage=bj
That's not even.
How about massage=massage. Men want a massage just as much as any woman. It should be one to one in that manner.
I must have rubbed them for at least 3 hours. Her friend was so jealous, and pissed at her guy for not doing the same.
wow thats whipped. Did you ever get a 3 hour massage back? Would she have rubbed your back for 3 hours if you asked?
Why should we gives massages when we are not getting them especially since we have more muscle mass and muscles get tense? | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:38:46 AM | | And here I was wondering why more women don't give massages. I can't recall what year it was that I last got one. Might of had to pay for it. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/24/2008 9:54:03 PM | I'm surprised men don't realise that women polled massages being one of top three things to get them turned on before sex. I personally love giving massages (and recieving them although I'm not always in the mood to give massages, since they do require a bit of effort if you are gonna do it right)... as for men not giving them, it's mainly a lack of education, interest in the human kinesiologya, and the realisation that on the sexual side, relaxing tension and muscles helps for stimulation nerves, blood flow, and relaxed muscles make easier orgasms. Muscle tension is known to hinder or even stop a woman's ability to climax.
Also most men don't understand that women are not like men in the sense of warm-up. A dry vagina has no interest in a hard penis regardless of the fact that a woman may be thinking, "yea, i'd like to have sex." The thought usually does not trigger the right physical reaction in a woman as it does when a man thinks about sex and can easily achieve an erection. If you massage a woman (properly that is) she's going to feel relaxed, comfortable with you touching her, blood flowing to the muscles, stimulated nerves, sensitive to your touch, and most likely create an emotional reaction... and voila, she'll be ready for you.
(or fall asleep if it felt so good and relaxing... )
As for a non-sexual massage, they are great stress relief and the other person will generally thank you for it. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/24/2008 11:27:35 PM | | Huh...guys offer to give me massages all the time...and I'm the one saying...no thank you. My perspective is opposite...why are guys so big on massages :/ | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 12:59:37 AM | | massages are easy, and as was stated some dont know how to give them, or they just dont want too, plain and simple, it is a personal and physical connection and it takes practice to get good at, can be sensual or non sensual, all in the touch. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 4:10:21 AM | Ya giving massages is more fun imo than getting as it helps her to relax and you gain tons of points as well. I have a lady who asks me for neck/shoulder massages all of the time and dam right I jump up and get to the job at hand.  | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:16:57 AM |
Ya giving massages is more fun imo than getting as it helps her to relax and you gain tons of points as well. I have a lady who asks me for neck/shoulder massages all of the time and dam right I jump up and get to the job at hand.
Can't believe how many whipped dudes try to kiss up to women and win "points".
As for a non-sexual massage, they are great stress relief and the other person will generally thank you for it.
So why don't women give these? Men deserve just as many massages as they give if not more. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:45:32 AM |
Huh...guys offer to give me massages all the time...and I'm the one saying...no thank you. My perspective is opposite...why are guys so big on massages
That's an easy question to answer,, from my prospective,, to feel a woman's naked body beneath my hands,, as they slide along her curves , working out her kinks,, the softness of her skin,, Hmmmmmm,, not only is a massage very therapeutic, it's also very sensual.. from my experience good love making often follows,, but then again my mind is always in the gutter,,  | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:55:07 AM | | I gotta agree with rdcnorm on this one as if a lady asks you to give her a massage then it is obvious she trusts you to be a gentleman and take care of her needs as well. That guys is a nice sign of trust in you as first her friend and maybe the chance of more in the future if your friendship goes that direction. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:57:19 AM | I love giving massages and I love getting them also. So if I give a s/o a massage I would love to have one back. But that's if I ask for one. Now its not do it for me and I'll do it for you. More along the lines of helping each other.
Best of luck to everyone  | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:41:12 AM | | If women gave more massages men would give more. There is nothing like the smooth, soft touch of a woman to just take away the stress of the entire day. If you get a massage just give one back. | |
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