| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 12:24:21 PM | | When I'm into a girl I can massage her back for hours. Just pour some warm oil on there, lather her up, gently roll my hands over her smooth skin back and forth, mixing long, slow movements with short fast ones to untangle the knots. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 12:37:25 PM | | Seriously now why don't men get these long massages? Where are all the woman who like to massage us for hours at? lol. probably taken | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 12:57:20 PM | As a qualified masseuse my partner loves me to give him a massage - but it is rarely reciprocated. Oh well - he pleases me in other ways. x  | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:09:26 PM | I love giving them. Sometimes without even the intention of them going anywhere sexual.
But a lot of women don't like to return the favor. Which wouldn't bother me if I didn't suffer from chronic neck and shoulder pain. But seriously, return the favor, ladies. It's only fair. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:14:35 PM | | For me, I actually like giving them. Sometimes, when I'm with a girl, I'll usually end up rubbing her shoulders or something like that. My problem is that I just can't do it for very long because of my right hand. I broke it shortly before I graduated college. So what would happen is that it would start to hurt after a while. Then, I'd just use my left hand, which would eventually get tired from pulling double duty, and then I'd have to stop all together. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:19:04 PM |
But a lot of women don't like to return the favor. Which wouldn't bother me if I didn't suffer from chronic neck and shoulder pain. But seriously, return the favor, ladies. It's only fair.
Depends. A lot of ladies enjoy giving more than reciving and there's a lot more women who have taken classes than men. The OP of this thread gives more than she gets. COme on ladies. The soft smooth touch of a woman can literally make a guy putty in your hands.
DO you think guys or girls give more massgaes?
Lets have a poll. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:39:18 PM | Hmm, never met a woman who liked to give massages. Met many who did it for work, but that's different. On the other hand, as stated in my profile, I own a massage table and I'm not afraid to use it. 
From talking to several women who like to cuddle, but don't like to give massages, most of them (4 out of 5 to be exact) stopped enjoying giving massages when men started misinterpreting it as foreplay every single time. Now, it is great when intended to be foreplay, but not when it is intended to be platonic and one party gets the wrong idea. After a few experiences like that, they just don't want to go there any more, because starting a massage brings up the pressure to have sex. Even if that is on the agenda, they don't want to feel like they have to put out just because they gave a massage or risk being called a tease or worse. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:30:40 PM |
From talking to several women who like to cuddle, but don't like to give massages, most of them (4 out of 5 to be exact) stopped enjoying giving massages when men started misinterpreting it as foreplay every single time. Now, it is great when intended to be foreplay, but not when it is intended to be platonic and one party gets the wrong idea. After a few experiences like that, they just don't want to go there any more, because starting a massage brings up the pressure to have sex. Even if that is on the agenda, they don't want to feel like they have to put out just because they gave a massage or risk being called a tease or worse.
That depends on the guy. I like to fall asleep or do anyways after a massage. That might be the one time I actually refuse sex. I'd get pretty mad ifshe wanted sex after that.
So do any women give an equal amount of massages on here? | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:42:03 PM |
Honestly in the average relationship who is the one giving the massages(i mean the one hour full body massage with oils) ? The man or the woman? I think its the man giving more when he should be getting more if he has signifcant muscle mass. Women don't know what tense muscles feel like. Men NEED more massages.
Umm where do I start on this comment!! I've ALWAYS been the one giving the massages. Obviously, it's been the opposite in your experience.
"Women don't know what tense muscles feel like" are you kidding me!! And then to say "Men NEED more massages" what the!!?? Why??????
I've done a massage course and I enjoy giving my partner and loved ones massages, it's a nurturing and loving thing to do. What gets me though is when I'm crying in pain with a migraine and gently ask "sweetie, could you please give me a shoulder/head massage" and the answer is "I can't be bothered/I'm too tired" etc . . . . you have to wonder how much that someone really cares.
Honestly, in my 37 years, I can count on 2 fingers the number of men who were willing to give me a nice massage (occasionally) and who were half good at it. Most men I've encountered just won't do it, and if they do, it's a 2 fingered attempt for 5 minutes. People want to be massaged, not annoyed hehehehe
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:48:09 PM | JohnDuke:
So do any women give an equal amount of massages on here?
In answer to your question John, if I did, that would mean they wouldn't get any, or maybe one a year lol. But seriously, I would be happy to give my man massages all the time, if he was willing to reciprocate   
I've always given my partners massages all the time, it's something I enjoy doing for them. I'm a very affectionate person too and massage is a loving thing to do for someone. An ex of mine was a landscape gardener and that is "hard yakka", so I would give him some kind of massage nearly every day. Either a foot massage, or massage his legs and calves or his shoulders and head etc. However, he would never, ever reciprocate, shame really I'm on a massage strike now HAHA  | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:06:28 PM | I was in Germany for several months, and I would get a phone call early in the morning my time when my babies were going to bed. "Daddy, we miss your back rubs and singing to put us to sleep." I think families develop love languages that work for them. We likely all have to have patience and work with each other as well as we can. My ex is a trained physical therapist. When we were dating, she gave wonderful back-rubs, but it became more associated with work for her, so unless I was in pain ... big, big bummer.
But who cares why more men don't give massages ... isn't it just one that need be the all-wonderful participant. You could take a blow up doll on dates, and say, "As a precondition to us dating, you must successfully demonstrate: 1) a 'honey, I'm sorry you had a rough day' massage, 2) a 'no, it hurts just a little more to the left' massage, and 3) "I acknowledge you as the queen of the universe, and it is my personal, life-long gratification to be associated with you' massage. When you find the right one you will have to get him special gloves to protect those instruments of beauty!
Good luck! | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:14:59 PM |
My ex is a trained physical therapist. When we were dating, she gave wonderful back-rubs, but it became more associated with work for her
This attitude disgusts me. Women who give amazing massages and can cook amazing meals but don't do it because they consider it oppressive. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:43:46 PM | | Men can give massages but it comes down to one thing. I am a guy who likes to give massages. I think the biggest problem is, is that men are lazy. I dont like to say this but i am not lazy and this is something more men need to learn. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:45:05 PM | In all honesty I think more women give massages than men do (just in my experience), but then I don't date or have relationships with women so don't shoot me for that comment lol.
I really think it's a reciprocal thing . . . and certainly if my partner is sore or in pain I will ALWAYS offer to give him a massage. But he doesn't have to be sore or in pain for me to offer or to just start massaging because as I've said previously it's something I enjoy doing.
I will agree with the comment that a some women are hesitant to initiate massage because a lot of men assume it will lead to sex, and that's ok if both people want that. But, sometimes there's nothing nicer than giving each other a non-sexual massage and falling into a blissful, relaxed sleep together | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:49:53 PM | Bugger! Seems the men on here that say they enjoy giving as well as receiving massage live in the USA .... where are the Aussie guys that are into this as well?????? | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:29:09 PM | That's an easy question to answer,, from my prospective,, to feel a woman's naked body beneath my hands,, as they slide along her curves , working out her kinks,, the softness of her skin,, Hmmmmmm,, not only is a massage very therapeutic, it's also very sensual.. from my experience good love making often follows,, but then again my mind is always in the gutter,,
Ya...I dunno..they don't do anything for me...besides I reallly don't like giving them...and you know they're going to want a massage in return...so I really rather not... | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:30:14 PM | I've always been one to volunteer massaging something for my s/o ( or even best friends if they are in pain/). I'm a tactile person and there's not much better to touch than warm skin. Somehow with the s/o's though, I'd be lucky to get a few a year. Oh well. Better luck next time. After all of this time on the computer writing in the forums, I could use a man with nice, strong hands to massage my neck & shoulders. Ahhh...someday maybe.
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:36:58 PM | I happen to love giving massages... what's more, despite having no formal training, I"m good at it. There's a certain trust when giving a massage. As the giver, you can cause pain, or relief with the slightest variation of pressure. It always amuses me to cause someone to become so relaxed that they fall asleep almost as soon as I finish.
For guys who get the jitters about giving a foot massage, provided she's not ticklish, a good foot massage can be heaven for a woman. There are nerve endings in the feet connected to the rest of the body. You'd be amazed at how quickly a headache can be relieved by simply massaging the tips of the toes.  | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/27/2008 5:05:13 AM | Who's touch is actually better? Men's hands are strong but women's hands have a special smooth soft touch.
a good foot massage can be heaven for a woman.
and for a man too.
A scalp massage is also amazing. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/27/2008 8:55:02 AM | 1. you may be the exception but in my experience massages are abused by women, and it's hardly ever reciprocated. I give out 20 before im likely to see one.
2. once we start doing it, it's expected more often. Women and massages are like men and sex. They want them all the time, and if they dont get them get cranky and moody.
This is my personal experience. And everyone's will be different. what if someone is ugly?, what if it makes someone uncomfortable? Or the idea of massage is disinteresting? Maybe they have bad personal experiences about massage. Or cannot dissassociate physical contact and sexual contact and would like to save you the trouble of what they would see as an inevitable proposition for sex. Or they dont want to.
better people to ask would be the men who deny you massages.
lol, personally, i love giving them and people beg for them but because they arent returned (similar to your situation) i use massage's as currency. For things i want, for stuff i want people to do, and anything i can think of. My roomate gladly pays half a case of beer for a 30 minute massage, about once a week. Or an hour long one if i want her to call in sick for me at work.  | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:28:03 AM | 1. you may be the exception but in my experience massages are abused by women, and it's hardly ever reciprocated. I give out 20 before im likely to see one.
Because women are selfish as hell. It should be a 1:1 ratio but it hardly ever is. SELFISH. | |
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| why don't more guys give massages?
Posted: 6/27/2008 12:05:52 PM | OP, a lot of people (not just men) are afraid to massage for the same reason they don't do other things - they don't know how. Most are too prideful to try and fail, then subsequently be embarrassed about the situation.
Personally I love giving and receiving at any time, most usually without the sex. I become much too relaxed if receiving, and usually wear my arms out if giving. People have often asked me why I don't do it for a living and I always say the same thing :
I cannot imagine having to put my hands on the back of a 400 lb hairy man... *shudder* and I know it would happen eventually... | |
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