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| Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
Posted: 3/13/2008 7:59:02 PM | Right on fancynancy!
Seens like a lot of people are to hung up on a silly work. I believe that most people who use the infamous word "need" are simply saying what they "want," or what they desire, or what makes them happy/fufilled.
Don't understand why anyone would be so anal about a word. I guess being so independant that a person doesn't need anyone else in life thats all they have to do with their time..........LOL
How about just let everyone express their thoughts the way they want to and everyone can take it the way they want to? For me when I have a loved one I enjoy the feeling of being needed, but I'm not into codependance. To feel disposable, or unnecessary, in love wouldn't be very enjoyable at all. | |
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| Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
Posted: 3/13/2008 8:16:42 PM | "Why do most guys want a woman who "needs" them? "
Huh? I think most guys want to feel appreciated but they don't want to feel like the very air someone needs to survive. I was in a relationship like that once and it can be very oppressive. | |
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| Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:58:26 PM | Thats a good question.I think it comes from the "dark ages" before women became "equal".Its just the way men are,but its an old way of thinking.Since most women are fully capable of fending for themselves in the world,men can't expect women to need them in the traditional way anymore.
Of course,once you bring kids into it,that all goes out the window.Then you both become slaves to parenthood and you're individual needs take a back seat.
I think a lot of men need to feel strong around their woman,and if she doesn't stroke his ego once in a while,he doesn't feel fulfilled.Some men are the opposite,they only come around when they want something,and if you're not willing to drop everything and cater to them,they turn into little babies.I don't agree with this,I never act like this,but a lot of guys do.I don't understand it any better than you do.
People have to both want and need each other while still maintaining control over their individual lives.It can't be one sided,it has to work both ways. | |
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| Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
Posted: 3/30/2008 10:18:44 AM |
Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
As others have said: women want to nourish, inbuilt. This is guys' version of wanting to nourish, also inbuilt. Simple stuff, eh?
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| Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
Posted: 6/22/2008 5:53:38 AM | I once dated a guy who told me this exact phrase: I want to be needed. There was never a second date. It was obvious that he was going to domineer the relationship, and I prefer to wear the pants sometimes, too!
Maybe I was wrong in presuming he was controlling, but oh well. I've found a good guy, and I think since I don't always "need him," he will have to try harder at times. | |
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| Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
Posted: 6/22/2008 6:06:59 AM | Because it makes them feel powerful and successful. The men I have dated who wanted this were not abusers.. but they had very low self esteem.. and seemed to blame women for their slow self esteem.. hmmm that is abuse.. hahaha I guess you could say it was covert.
I do believe that most men have very fragile egos.. I think it is the way they were raised.. to be strong and not cry.. be the man.. have the answers.. and when they have failings that does not fit with the way they were conditioned and when someone like a woman comes along and is strong where they have a weakness they perceive it as a treat.
Not too long ago.. I was chatting with a guy.. he seemed successful..owned a business.. kids were grown and doing ok. We were discussing something.. and I disgreed with him about some observation he had made.. he challenged me.. and I told him why I believed what I believed.. no biggie.. Well he got all mad at me.. now this was something stupid .. namely, why are children maturing quicker now days than they used to be. He had his explanation I had mine.
But because I happened to have a degree in a science which I had told him.. and he didn't have a degree all of the sudden he decides that I am trying to bully him with my education.
This was a businessman.. had his own business.. with employees.. big trucks.. etc. and I intimidated him???
So we threw each other back in the pond..hahaha..
Fragile egos.. suck. | |
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| Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
Posted: 7/28/2008 9:42:55 PM | | Can I get a list of the things guys like to be needed for please. I'm curious. Perhaps your list will match my "to do" list. Not being sarcastic, this is a for real question. | |
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| Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
Posted: 7/31/2008 6:45:04 PM | Why are people so obsessed with the differences between wanting and needing and hell bent on overanalzying every damn little aspect of a relationship?
Can't you just find someone that fits and relax? | |
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| Why do most guys want a woman who needs them?
Posted: 7/31/2008 8:53:28 PM | Sorry, I'm not a guy...but I tend to think like one. Your question " Why do most guys want a woman who needs them"?
Answer: It's an "EGO" thing. Almost everyone (women included) wants to feel "needed"... it's kinda like being "useful" as opposed to "useless"! I say don't confuse someone's desire to feel "needed" as being the same thing as "needy". | |
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