| workaholics
Posted: 4/25/2008 11:00:49 PM | I was married with children into a very wealthy family. Never been so miserable in my life. They are weird. Self centered and think they are better than everyone else. They are never truly happy and they always fight over the money. Weird.
Myself...I was raised very middleclass. Not alot of money. I was alway happy.
Now that I'm divorced,,,, poor again...but very rich in spirit. I am happier now. Money doesnt always equal happiness. I have enough.
My workaholic boyfriend,,, was raised extremely poor. Childhood...alcoholic parents who never took care of him and his siblings...no elec...outhouse. Hes a great man. Very sweet and a good samaritan....but very tough. You probably wouldnt want to try to rip him off. Maybe hes afraid of being poor again. Not sure. His nickname is Peter Pan. Hes like a big 62 year old kid. Hes fun. He looks good for his age too!! | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 4/25/2008 11:08:30 PM | Dear Life is a Folk:
I never asked him to drop everthing for me. In reality, I support his work completely...but enough is enough.. He needs to learn to take a break occasionally. Believe me...this is not a 24/7 joined at the hip relationship. I dont need that anyway as I have Big Hobbies that take alot of my time.
(a real adult relationship?) Whats that supposed to mean. The is something called.........BALANCE......Thats whats missing. Without balance,,,,it is called obsession.
Im still with him 7 months later. Mmmmm I guess I must be a pretty patient......supportive girlfriend.
PLEASE GIVE ME A LITTLE CREDIT THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!! | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 4/25/2008 11:11:41 PM | | Well....what a shock....My big time hobbies just happen to be the same hobbies as Life is a Folk.... The girl who chewed me out for no reason. Musician! Right On! Me too. Over 30 years! | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:29:34 AM | | Work is different when you own your own business. You have a lot more responsibility, and more poepl e to take care of. Failure is not a option, or at least thats how I view it. Its not as simple as being able to walk into work and tell them to take this job and shove it. Then some guys just genuinely enjoy working as much as some women enjoy shopping. There is nothing I enjoy more than tearing something apart making money or out on my skid steer doing a job making money. I guess seeing that money come across my hand is as big a rush to me as playing sports or partying. Even if I do only get to hold the money for a little while til I hand it over to my banker lol. | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 4/26/2008 10:10:19 AM | he's a workaholic. he... needs... more.... workahol!  | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 4/26/2008 10:25:25 AM | I own a business and borderline workaholic.
I feel a great responsibility to my employees and their families. If things dont' go well it bothers me a lot and I can't sleep sometimes.
You can demand a change or else, or just accept it and stop complaining. there are only 2 things you can do.
One thing that would help if twice a month he left work in the afternoon and met you for an early dinner or a boat ride or something else. Something that he wouldnt' have to deal with work. It would be set in stone and he couldn't change it.
You have to be prepared too though that it wont change and you may have to leave him, or keep quiet and stay and accept it.
Make an ultimatum and see what he says. good luck. | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 4/26/2008 1:29:08 PM | This guy sounds a lot like me before my wife died.
All I lived for was my business & I convinced myself that I needed to spend every last minute making the business successful and fulfilling my responsabilties to my employees.
I regret ever last minute I could have spent with my wife but didn't due to work.
I have 2 teenage kids to look after now by myself and, you know what, the business is doing better than it ever did because I was forced to let go of the reigns.
I employed a manager/salesman, promoted a shop foreman and gave them free reign to look after the company.
Now, 4 years later I'm working about 30 hrs a week, most of which I spend at home on the phone/computer.
So, OP maybe your guy needs to look at restructuring, man and time managment because no company will ever be successful if it is based around one person. | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 4/26/2008 6:46:23 PM | I became a workaholic a couple of years ago because I figured out that "looking" for a relationship was not the way to go. I am much happier working and saving money for when the right person does happen into my life.
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"Workaholic" can be compared to "alcoholic" or any other addiction. It is the main focus of your life and "withdrawal" can be difficult.
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On the bright side, my daughters have become my best friends and I have the means to help them out with taking classes and other financial things that always seem to pop up. | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:16:33 PM |
Well....what a shock....My big time hobbies just happen to be the same hobbies as Life is a Folk.... The girl who chewed me out for no reason. Musician! Right On! Me too. Over 30 years!
it wasn't my intention to 'chew you out'. but i can see how you'd take some of the things i said so for that i'm sorry. if you're still with him then there must be some balance in there somewhere or you wouldn't still be around. i know quality time is important in a relationship but it's true that in this day and age people really are working much longer for much less. hopefully you find what ever it is you're looking for...
i just get so tired of the 'he's too busy to be with me all the time' threads and took it out on you and again for that i apologize. | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:40:10 PM | Thank you Life is a Folk:
I knew you had to be alright. . youre a musician! Musicians are emotional creative people.....just like other artsy fartsy folks.
I appreciate your note....Believe me....he is a workaholic. He had alot of tramas in his life and I really believe he is running away from pain. He has been done wrong by his other girlfriends/wives and he has lost his beloved son several years ago. The man has pain. He seems to be a good man. But maybe a bit jaded.I am a very loving caring woman and dedicated to whom I love. He has NEVER had that before according to him. I want to give him something he has never had....but its hard to pin him down to show him a new way of life....at least offer a new way of loving and living ..... and if he likes it...he can have it....if he cant handle it...then we have to part ways. Hes a really great person. But I need alot of affection and bonding to be happy. Not an obsesive amount,,,,but at least some....a little more often.
I dont mind him working alot...its o.k. but sometimes we go 5 weeks in between visits. Hes in Hollister and Im in Lodi. I think we could do better than that.
Supposively he has an idea on how we can get together more. I hope it works....I really like him alot. He also works alot of weekends as well. Has to do the work when the business's are closed for the weekend.  | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:43:06 PM | | I don't date men who are married to their jobs. I want a relationship, not a man who loves his job more than me. A guy who lives at work is not commmitted to his woman or the relationship. | |
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| workaholics
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:06:05 PM | Christ.... you just can't make 'em happy. Make money, but don't work.
Personally, I'd drop you like a hot potato honey. | |
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