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Posted: 2/23/2008 9:29:15 PM | because our hands dont ask how we're feeling, our hands dont have headaches, and our hands dont try to use sex to barter outside of the bedroom.
Sex 5 or 6 times a year is plenty. Quit whining. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 9:51:29 PM | | I can't imagine a man prefering his hand to you. You need to get together with me. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 5:46:18 AM | | I don't know. I went with a guy for a couple years who just couldn't seem to keep his hands off himself, lol. I mean, it's like it was just a habit for him, wake up, masturbate, then commence with the day. All fine and dandy, except that he was no spring chicken, and an orgasm in the morning was often enough to mess up any plans for one in the evening; which was, needless to say, disappointing for all concerned. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 5:58:02 AM | | I really never knew a man who prefered to masturbate over having sex with me!! Geeze - if he did I would dump his sorry ass!! I guesss I was just always available for the men in my life when they were ready - I was always ready willing and able as well!! No need to masturbate when you have a partner ready to please you! | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 6:26:15 AM | | well now you have found the first person who enjoys wanking to sex................me!like some women i find sex a chore,it does nothing at all for me well unless she was dressed up etc for sex.plain female body doesnt turn me on in the slightest,big tits are a turn off.sex in porns just look so much better and lets face it the women on them will pretty much do anything and the fact it takes me about 3 hours to cum when im with someone compared to 5 mins on my own,why wouldnt i wanna masturbate instead?although i love giving a female oral sex and would spend anythin up to an hour doing it making sure she has 2/3 orgasms just the actual penetration is boring."you havent met the right girl yet" i`ve been with over 30 women [stopped counting] and its the same with all of them and no im definitly not gay lol | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 7:56:01 AM | | well,not speaking for ever guy,but once in the morning before going to work helps my additude,but far as doing it or my wife or whatever is kinda odd,it is a impulse thing sometimes,and it is easier to do it than talk your wife or whatever into it,but you sound like you have a bigger problem,he has a fetish or something he has to fullfill through porn,and not be able to perform with you in the same day as a mannal job,is odd to..need a younger gun or a better lover,lol try hiding some cord on the computer or disable it...have some fun,maybe give him a hand job out of the blue,while watchn tv,maybe he needs a spark,you look hot,i would do you..lol so it is in his hand...lol | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 9:13:28 AM | When I was married I jerked off at least daily if not more. Now I am single again and dating a wonderful woman. Since I have been with this woman I haven't had the need, or desire to masturbate. The long and the short of it is, if he prefers to masturbate then his sexual needs are not being met. The fact that he will not communicate that to you is a warning sign of things to come. Sorry. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 9:16:37 AM | With the woman I have... Masturbate is not an option.
SEX. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 9:29:09 AM | I realize you requested the opinion of the guys, so I hope it will not be offensive to submit my thoughts on the matter.
Beneath the actual "masturbation" issue lies a much more serious truth you have found. Your request for sex more frequently and a desire to understand his reasoning provided an ugly showing of his character.
*Red Flag!* He is not very considerate of your needs and wants. He is not flexible, kind, caring, unselfish enough to alter his routine to provide something you have told him is an important need of yours. My goodness, he won't even give you an honest forthcoming answer about it, let alone actually change his behavior to please you!
A relationship has got to be give and take, compromise, or one of you will become resentful of always submitting to the desires of the other.
When two people are in a relationship, they are supposed to care for one another and be interested (at the very least) about helping to meet each others' needs. He is telling you that your needs are not very important to him.
Two important items in a relationship are communication and a common desire for the others' happiness. The fact that he is refusing your appeal to him in both areas tells you much about him, and much about what to expect from him in the future. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 10:11:46 AM | Well, this is an interesting subject I must say. Funny the things you find on a lazy Sunday morning, LOL. Masturbation over sex with a woman? No, no how, no way. Give me a partner every time, hell, if I want to masturbate I am going to ask her to come along and do herself at the same time. Sometimes some women like to watch their man stroke himself, so I do not mind obliging.  Now, all that being said, I have been single for some time now (hence me being on this site) and do enjoy the pleasure of doing myself, however, given a choice, as I said earlier, give me a woman first and foremost. Sometimes I enjoy simply getting her off, it leads to more fun later for both of us, and isn't that where the true pleasure comes from, pleasing your partner? Perhaps I am mistaken....I sure hope not because I am looking forward to lots and lots of sex with my next partner,  but until then, I guess it's lots of sex with myself, LOL. Enjoy the day y'all, time to get out on the bike and enjoy the weather.... | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 10:29:21 AM | Even if a guy is happily attached to the hottest woman in the world he will still do this sort of thing from time to time. Looking at it biologically, its a natural antidepressant, a pain reliever, etc, etc and the dispenser is just sticking right out there :-) So maybe this is just normal release for him and you've got different drive levels.
The porn is bothersome. A long time ago it used to be right up against art - appreciation of the human female form. If you look now I think you will find a vast amount of women in their late twenties in pigtails and shaved to look like kids, lots of sex workers who've kept their looks supplementing their income, and the text messages that go with the presentation are those of control, degradation, and violence - stuff made by addicts for addicts. I have a friend who has some serious issues with this stuff, we talked about it once a few years ago, and it really opened up my eyes.
So ... maybe the porn is a problem and maybe he just wants something he hasn't asked you for - if the bookmarks are all women in thigh high stockings with lacy tops and you've never owned a pair ... well ... hint, hint. If there is an aspect of harming and/or degrading women in what he favors that is a probable warning sign ... but I don't know if you can jump to a conclusion here based on one thing, as that theme is pretty much endemic in the genre.
Not much help, is it? You can't get an answer here, just some help in deciding for yourself ... | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 10:36:25 AM |
hell, if I want to masturbate I am going to ask her to come along and do herself at the same time. Sometimes some women like to watch their man stroke himself, so I do not mind obliging.
Well said, Doc!! I love to watch my partner pleasuring himself and masturbating together is such a huge turn on. I also agree with Stoney1 that there are sometimes I just want to cum and it has nothing to do with the fact that I don't love sex with my partner. To be blatantly honest, sometimes I just want to play with myself and enjoy what I do for me. I have told partners in my life that there are times I like to do this, and that they are welcome to leave me be, watch, masturbate themselves or join in. There is no pressure to perform or not.
I came across an ex partner of mine sitting in the living room late one night with a porno on masturbating. I sat back and watched (getting really turned on myself), let him finish and then went to join him. At first he was a little embarassed, but once he realized that I was not upset, not jealous, and that it acutally turned me on watching him, we had a great time! I think he used to turn up the volume on the tv after that if he was self-pleasuring just to wake me! hehehehe
That being said..... lol..... if I had to choose one or the other? Definitely with my partner. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2008 1:45:01 PM | | well men get erections throughout the day however when he's feeling excited he should ask his partner first if she's interested thats my 2 cents woth. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 3:02:01 PM | A guy I dated had a major jerk off addiction. He would even do it while he was visiting me in my house. He did it on the day he was to get together with me and then could not function when he got with me. When with me he could not take his hand off himself long enough to put his hands on me to turn me on and he wondered why I kept getting up and leaving the room. I was bored by his lack of attention. He was not willing to learn what to do to turn me on and I was always telling him how. For this guy, it was easier for him to touch himself rather than for him to learn how and where to touch a woman. Sure guys, as him can jerk off 2 to 3 times a days, because jerking off is easy for a guy. But if a guy jerks off even once a day, he will not be able to completely perform with a woman that day. I have dated more than one guy with these problems. Another jerk off guy, I was seeing, had to cancel a date one day, when we were to go somewhere because he already jerk off that day. Both these guys are now happily committed to being only with their hand and other non human objects the rest of their life. There is nothing wrong with me. Both these guys have not been with a woman for about 8 years.
The one guy is now just platonic friends with me and he is happily forever committed to jerking off. He is going to start a garden for me because he has no place to start a garden and I am not good at gardening. So now I have no current lovers, and there is no one I met lately, that I am interested in being with at the moment, but I got a gardener, and I will have alot of flowers and alot of free vegatables this year. | |
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