| for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 4/14/2008 8:59:23 PM |
opnmydm wrote:
> if money is a factor with people, it goes to show how shallow a person can be
> and i stay away from people like that, i never would tell anyone how much i
> made, if you are totally open to finding true love, nothing should matter.
I see. So you won't mind going out with a gal who can't even seem to
pay her own bills? Because after all, you won't want to be so shallow
that money is a factor. Right?
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| for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:45:03 PM | For me it is a factor in some ways...not because I need a guy for his money, since I don't. I have my own assets and I make a very good living. But I wouldn't want to take on a liability. I wouldn't want to date someone who can't afford to go out on a date!! That's not from shallowness, but common sense.
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| for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:54:11 PM |
mogrl42 on 2/24/2008 12  58 PM Subject: for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor? Message: YES,I can honestly say that money has nothing to do with it.My Ex made as much as 297K a year and I walked away with nothing,except my kids.
I call bullshitt.. You must have had the worst divorce lawyer.... EVER... LOL... | |
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| for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:59:26 PM | Financial security has no bearing on my attraction to a man.
It does have some importance if we are talking about a formal long term relationship or a marriage: definitely, it has its place in this kind of context. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2008 10:39:05 PM | I would never discredit a man because he wasn't financially stable, but no, I can't honestly say money isn't a factor. It's not that I want a rich man, I don't, I just want a man with the same... financial values, as I have. I have a good job myself, and don't make bad money... and I don't want to feel like I'm getting taking advantage of. I guess what I'm saying is I want a level playing field! lol!  | |
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Posted: 4/14/2008 10:49:27 PM | | I'm pretty much on the same level as many people here...money isn't going to really play a factor in who I date and/or fall for...but if I am considering a long-term relationship, I'm going to consider someone's financial situation, for the simple fact that I personally can't afford someone that is not responsible with money. But it's not an issue of black-and-white. For instance, I would rather date someone that doesn't make that much, but has shown an ability to spend within their means and not acquire a lot of debt, versus someone that makes a lot more...but spends and spends and spends. Age and future goals have a lot to do with it as well. You can have two people that are making the same but someone that is young and working towards career advancement is in a very different state than someone that is 15-20 years older and just sort of making due with what they can find. | |
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| for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 4/15/2008 8:02:49 AM | Dorothy Grew Up has an excellent point. I am comfortable enough to not need a man to rely on financially, but neither am I interested in supporting someone else from a financial point. I really like the idea of a partnership, in which we are each capable of standing alone but CHOOSE to be together.
I've happily dated men who made less money than I, and men who made more. And let me tell you, if we are speaking strictly about finances, I'd much prefer the man who makes enough to take care of himself and his obligations with little left over to the man who makes a small fortune but has no idea how to handle his money. This has more to do with being responsible than earning potential.
There will always be people (of BOTH genders) who take advantage. It's up to each of us to pay attention to things like that BEFORE we put ourselves or our finances in jeopardy. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2008 11:19:37 AM | Here’s the thing I don’t understand. Men (I’m generalizing here!) complain about women being gold diggers and ruining them financially in one breath and then brag about the fact that money isn’t a factor in determining a potential mate in the next breath. Do you really not make the connection???? If you date women who are your financial equals (like many of these women are stating they do) you won’t run the same risk of being taken by the gold digger. Women having financial standards makes them smart, not gold diggers.
I have stated in more than one of the thousands of other threads about gold diggers, that money is a factor in dating and mate selection. That is reality! Even those women who are stating that their only requirement is that the man have a job and be able to pay his own bills have a standard, a minimum level of financial acceptability. Personally, I have a lot of factors that I consider in choosing a significant other, and yes money is one of them! I am not looking for a man to take care of me financially. I have worked very hard to get where I am on my own. I want someone who can keep up with the lifestyle that I’ve worked so hard to create for myself. If I want to take off on vacation, I don’t want to be forced into leaving a significant other behind or having to pay his way. I want him to bring to the table no more or no less than I do. | |
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| for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 4/18/2008 3:25:28 PM | ^^^^^^
The way a person regards and handles money is a reflection of his or her character. How else do we get an idea of a person's character? Observing the way someone manages the central aspects of his or her life can provide a pretty clear picture. Money is central, whether we want it to be or not. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2008 3:48:56 PM | This is one long..... thread.
I haven't read all of it so forgive me if I am being redundant.
Yes, of course, money is a factor. These days, it is very hard to live alone on one income. Prices have gone up on everything and, I, for one am feeling the pinch. OMG, I have to get a new furnace, for instance, because I heat with oil. My last bill was astronomical.
Another thing to find out is if your partner is good with money. Some people just spend and are in terrible financial shape because of it.
It is important to talk about money before entering a relationship. I guess there are more divorces because of money than for any other thing.
Beware!!! There are gold diggers. There are people who won't divulge their financial situation. There are people who feel entitled. There are spenders. There are financial risktakers.
If there is an elephant in the room that is not addressed, wonder why!
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Posted: 4/20/2008 9:41:50 AM | If you think its not a factor ? then whoever thinks that way is on denial, we all need money to survive, enough money to make meet the ends. Men?? unless you are rich, you don't have to worry about money then you can pick any lady that need your support, not a big deal, men suppose to be the head of the family, if you can make it with her with out any assitance financially from her then go for it. Same thing with rich women, if you can support a man then love him and take care of him. Its both ways, but in middle class people, money is a big factor to consider, I am not shallow but I do use my brain together with my heart. Most relationship don't survive because of financial reason, lets be practical here and be real. My 2 cents comments.  | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 12:27:36 PM | I can tell you flat out and honest, money doesn't influence me. I dont give a damn what is in your wallet honey. What I care about is what is in your heart and how you will treat me and how we will get along. I cant believe I am still the only woman who feels this way. I am 52 and will always put love first. Now I will be honest with you in the fact that if a man doesnt work a 40 hour a week job, I am not going to be interested. Good grief, I work 40 hours a week, why shouldnt he? What he makes and other assets he has dont impress me.
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Posted: 4/20/2008 12:49:57 PM | | Security is a factor, but income is NOT. A man that works to his ability to be part of a true team is by far more attractive than a wealthy man who thinks his money earns him priveledge. But thats my opinion. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:01:49 PM | Of course money matters. Everything matters. It's all about to what degree it matters to you personally. Clone a guy, make one dirt poor the other filthy rich and then pick one. Same exact guy, but one has money and one doesn't...guess which one looks more attractive? Why is this even an issue? Being chosen JUST for your money would suck. To assume whether you can handle your money and take care of yourself financially isn't being taken into consideration when being chosen as a mate is silly.
People who say money doesn't matter obviously haven't gone hungry before. Money isn't everything, but it definitely matters. A guy who is a poor match for you isn't going to suddenly become a good one just because he has money. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:15:18 PM | If he can work and can get a job then he needs to work ... He should be responsable with his money too ... I dont care if he is rich ... or middle or whatever ... has long has he makes me happy and lifts me up and not down and I can do the same for HIM ... Millioinares have lost everything they had on like a bad buisness joice ... but they are still the same person living in that lil apartment as they were in the million dollar home ... Money can come and go so easy and you should never look at person for their money but what they can do and what they will do ...  | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 1:25:36 PM | I cld care less if a guy is rich or poor as long as he pays his bills an dont exepect move in with me an live off what little i get cause what i get barely pays my bills . I have met guys that wanted do that but they backed away when i made em see hey this will only take care of me not another person . Its also made a lot people i think not want me i feel like cause i cant work like a normal person an sometimes i thinks it makes people see me as less of a woman an human being but i dont think i am any less of a human or a woman an if anything its given me more compassion an empaathy to love others .  | |
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| for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 4/20/2008 3:04:29 PM | We are not talking about looking for a rich man, we are talking about money factor, of course it does matter, if you have a job its a money factor, to have a job is one criteria in selecting a mate. You wouldnt pick a man who doesnt have a job who cant provide money for himself? Rich people money is not a factor because they already have plenty., but still we are talking about making money to survive in this world. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 3:07:34 PM | Maybe instead of asking if it IS a factor we should discuss if it SHOULD BE a factor. I think a lot of people are very idealistic in how they choose their relationships, then we have these really high divorce rates or a string of failed relationships that don't even get as far as marriage. "Money problems" actually has been reported in the media as being the #1 reason why marriage fails, for what such studies are worth.
I can't say I have personally ever had a relationship go bad over money issues, but then neither can I say I have dated men who were financially unsound post-college. (My college sweetheart was terrible with money, but I was pretty broke in college too, so we fit together just fine for a college romance.)
Realistically, money does make a difference in what a relationship will wind up really being like, especially in the long run; it just isn't the only thing that matters. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2008 3:19:10 PM | I didnt mean a rich man i meant any man cause i seen both rich men an poor men where money was more of a faactor for finding someone . Than the other factors of finding someone cause love an patientce an being on budget can get people thru anything.BUt i think people here lately on this site put more importance on money looking at someone then trying see people for other things an trying to give em chance at the other things .
I also chump up this everyone has their choices an prefrences . Personally me i wld perfer someone that has a good heart that can have fun doing things that dont cost money an kick the feet up have a sense of humor an kick back an realize there more important things out theres .This topic make me want shoot flames | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 10:05:44 AM | for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
To the MEN it is EVERYTHING. It is above love, sex, looks ... so yes for men money is THE factor. Especially the ones who are BROKE Tee Heeee | |
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