| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/25/2008 11:29:29 PM | | And by the way really great sex, is something the women I know have, when its with the guy ,who puts the bin out ,shares half the bills, the shower, the tv remote and cuddles up to us most nights, and who we take turns cooking sunday breakfast with and getting the coffee, maybe we are just strange.......... | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/26/2008 6:35:02 AM | Hang out=a less scary word for dating.
At least that's my experience with it! I know this because I used to "date" a comittment-phobe who referred to it as "hanging out". Everyone else knew we were dating, though it was short-lived.
It's always a temporary installment, and it either leads to an actual relationship, or you say buh-bye to each other after the initial fun is over. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/26/2008 3:03:26 PM | wow...some of you people read way to much into this..
IMHO..Hanging out is...something entertaining, fun, casual, No expectations..just enjoying the company you are with and doing something together.
It isnt meant to belittle anyone, or use a person them till someone else comes along..
LIGHTEN UP PEOPLE!!......Life is way to short | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:21:36 PM | Unless told in profile otherwise I interpret the 'looking for' categories this way: (I think POF should defind them this way too.)
1.) LTR---Your goal is to find someone in the long term after all the obligatory steps have been crossed.
2.) Friends---you are looking for someone in a pure platonic relationship. This can get confusing when you list the opposite sex in searching for section. If you want someone that might or might not develop into romance you should list 'hang out.'
3.) Hang out---you are looking for someone for a platonic relationship that has the possibility to develop into romance.
The difference between Friends and Hang out should be that the former means no desire for romance and the latter some desire for romance but romance is not required. If romance is required then you should list:
4.) Dating---your looking for a romantic partner. If you have desire to find a partner to keep for awhile you should list LTR. By listing dating you imply a desire not to get too serious with anyone.
5.) Activity partner---you are looking for someone to join you in a specific activity. Example: You moved to a new town and you like to ski. You should list what that activity is in your profile. If it's general activity then you should list friend.
6.)Intimate encounters----sex
7.) Talk/ email---You want to move very slowly and just want to converse on the computer awhile before moving into another category later. Just broke up or whatever reason.
8.) other relationship----the usual standby for relationship not thought of by POF. A miscellaneous category.
I think POF should come up with a 9th 'Forums'. So it would tell people that you are here to just talk on these message boards and not in search of a relationship. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/26/2008 10:24:41 PM | I've often wondered about "Hang Out" too. It seems to be frowned upon by many and I don't quite understand why.
Aside from a hangout as being a place like a bar, a park or even a street corner I thought it might have meant for someone to hang out at the other persons place like a freeboarder because most profiles I read say they don't want anyone who wants to hang out.
However in that it can also mean to keep company and just being together as meaning to hang out together. It is something like a less than formal date which in turn is what people tend to do in a relationship and maybe a good idea to do when forming a relationship yet it is mainly people looking for a "Long Term Relationship" who are the ones who do not want to hang out. So then I'd have to wonder if these same people when they establish a relationship do they intend to live apart and have endless formal dates for not wanting to hang out together? Go figure! | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/27/2008 5:44:51 AM | After reading all of this - I thought by choosing "Dating", I was leaving myself open to people who might be 'nervous' but still wanted a LTR (a.k.a Hang Out)... But to have LTR on your profile usually attracts the people who just want to marry without getting to know you... (?)
Now I understand a bit more clearly how others react to the labels.
LOL! But you do need to 'Hang Out' with your LTR... No?
Too funny!  | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/27/2008 5:49:17 AM | That's funny, because this one girl..(extremely smoking hot)....gave me her number , and said "we should hang out sometime"
I was thinking "Hang out? You're too hot ot just hang out with LOL!"
I think some people do this, and if they "Hang out" and it turns into something more , then so be it.
To women it means going and doing things, like dinner and theme parks, movies, stuff like that.
And the guy pays her way.
To men it means lets hang out so I can get u into bed!!!! He always says call me IF you want to hang out! No to me that means call me if u want to have sex.
Well, DUH...lol....esp as hot and sexy as you miss "SEXY dancing princess" LOL!
I mean, he's probably wanting to have sex with you.....eventually.
And she gets mad about it. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/27/2008 5:57:28 AM | | well personatlly i have never took it to mean sex at all. To me it means to go do something for fun like shoot pool or go somewhere fun. if a man said hang out and really meant sex well he would be sadly disappointed. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/27/2008 6:02:30 AM | well personatlly i have never took it to mean sex at all. To me it means to go do something for fun like shoot pool or go somewhere fun. if a man said hang out and really meant sex well he would be sadly disappointed.
True....actually "hang out" to me would mean "no chance at getting intimate with a woman" in general...to some "Hang out" means (at least to a woman)
From her posts and her experience probably....I get the feeling she is irritated because she's the kind of woman that teases guys or leads them on with the "hang out" line. Chances are, she's a tease. I just know "the type". You can tell by her photos and such. "Take me now" and "Very bad girl" in her photo captions does not help her case.
Then she "acts" like she's mad about guys wanting to have sex with her.
Of course, any normal warm-blooded guy is going to want to have sex with the women their with......eventually. But typically it's not MEANINGLESS sex. I would like a girlfriend, not a one-night stand. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/27/2008 6:25:07 AM |
Typically when someone says they want to "hang out" it means that one of you goes over to the other persons place, you have a little small talk, have sex and then the person goes home. It's generally the casual way to get together with someone and get laid without actually dating.
I disagree with this concept because again as been posted, that is what "intimate encounter" and "other relationship (FWB)" could be used for.
"Friends" on the other hand seems like the problematic choice to me, POF stands for Fish, not friends. A married person for example listing "friends" would be suspected of being dissatisfied with the current social status of his/her mate and wanted to get out and do something with other people regardless. It could even mean advertising discreetly for an opportunity to arise for sexual gratification as well. I personally would never list friends exclusively as it doesn't inspire alot of hope. Who would want to pursue a person who is only looking for friends, or possibly has character flaws to the point where they need a bunch of friends they met on the internet to converse with? True friendship requires a commitment to the person you are considering your friend. "Hey, I thought you were my friend..."
Hang out to me is the catch all category for just meeting up somewhere, most usually in a group setting to take the pressure off. "Hey we're going to the bar you want to come?" or doing "non-dating" activities like going to the mall to shop for shoes or something. There are alot of video gamers too who want a new opponent for their PS3, BYOB and LAN parties, etc. To me it means a first meet with no pressure of having to develop into a friendship OR a dating situation by not calling it a date. I lived in South Beach for 8 years and this is the typical beginning of all relationships there, going to the beach for a day together with friends, playing volleyball, etc. Having a frozen****ail, laying in the shade, telling jokes, strumming the guitar, etc. People are just hanging out together to see if anything further develops. Yes sometimes people "hook up" together and go home together from these meets but it is just a group of people enjoying each others company, stories, and experiences, but not quite friends, just acquaintances. There are no expectations for being invited a second time, or anything regular, just getting together when the opportunity matches both parties schedules. I don't think "friends" covers this because upon being introduced as a "friend" in a group setting will stimulate the same questions like "how do you know so-and-so?" "Oh, from the internet...." Which would then be again suspect that the two people are secretly "dating" in a group setting and it could activate some rivalry with any other group members who had a crush on the person who brought this new "friend" into the group setting.
So "hang out" is the step immediately before becoming friends in the sense of having alot of shared interests but no chemical spark, or "dating" where out of hanging out together they both want to share some time alone romantically, not shopping for shoes. Hang out means let's meet once and mutually determine if we want to go any further, IMHO.
"You can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friends..."
"Getting a coffee at Starbucks can hardly be considered a 'date'..." | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/27/2008 12:11:58 PM | wow...some of you people read way to much into this..
IMHO..Hanging out is...something entertaining, fun, casual, No expectations..just enjoying the company you are with and doing something together.
It isnt meant to belittle anyone, or use a person them till someone else comes along..
LIGHTEN UP PEOPLE!!......Life is way to short
I totally agree Rain!
I personally don't think it matters what ya put, because a big percentage have lied there or in their profile. Does'nt take long to figure it out either!
Dayumd if ya do and dayumd if ya don't! | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/27/2008 8:12:21 PM | | I think all the profiles on here should only say friends. Even when they say Dating or Long term---they don't really want that--it is soooooooooo weird out here dating--or is it the internet thing. I spent the entire weekend re-evaluating this entire dating thing and have realized that maybe at this age--it is too late for anything more. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/28/2008 8:38:42 AM | Hang out - hang around - casual
They all mean the same thing - he will be your friend until you put out and then he will move onto the next one. Not all men are the same, not all women are the same lets face it there are players and daters and most of the players are getting the dates. RANT OVER | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:34:30 AM | Hang Out = I'm too lazy to actually date or commit to anyone, but I still want to get laid.
If someone was looking for a platonic friendship thing to go out and do stuff and not have sex, there is the activity partner option. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:58:58 AM | | Hang out= Go to a bar, shoot some pool, watch a movie, bs on the phone. NO kissing, touching or making out...no exceptions. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/28/2008 5:13:18 PM | Good for you Sherry, I do not think it is a good thing for any seperated person to be
dating, wait until your divorce is final. I skip those who say they are seperated. Kathy | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 4/28/2008 5:57:48 PM | | Hang Out;To climb a tree and hold onto a branch and suspend yourself above the ground.Hang Out,lol. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 10:28:34 AM | What it should mean: I am only interested in friendship. I am not hoping to trick you into a date.
What it means coming from a female: hey, we have a lot in common, we should go places and meet guys!
What it means coming from a guy: I know you won't accept a real "date" with me so I'm going to pretend like I only want to be your friend, then I will put you in the awkward predicament of finding yourself stuck on a date that isn't a date, and get all whiny and self-depricating when you want to talk to me about a guy you do like.
So I have now vowed to only "hang out" with new guy aquaintences if they agree to let my boyfriend come along until they can prove themselves not having ulterior motives. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:25:46 PM | I believe that it means you agree to meet to just chill or do something we both like together and get to see if we like one another's company; but nothing serious- not promising to be their best friend or mate.
Having said that though, I noticed many believe it to be a FWB relationship so maybe I am a little too innocently minded. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:40:13 PM | | I put that up too. It's because I'm not sure what I want. Friends ,,certainly,,lover,,maybe,,,,,the ONE,,I'm not sure I'm ready,,but if he shows up, you never know. Just like meeting ppl in real life,,you don't know where they fit until you meet them and get to know them. But as in real life,,,meet everybody you can,,,cause you don't know who's out there until you really look around. I'm not here on a mission,,just to meet ppl and go from there. I promise nothing until I get to know a person. So , we'll hang out until I make up my mind. lol | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:53:30 PM | Looks like people get too caught up in the meaning of trivial things??
"Hang out" means "hang out" | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:56:26 PM | it means everything & nothing. it's that great word that is just ambi - wait, what is the end to that? ambi-use-trous?
and yes, there should be a stay the f* away, i'm just here to read the forum posts.
but then - there are some cool guys that write, so hmmm. you get sucked in... | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:11:19 PM | I think it falls between "intimate encounter" and "friends". Someone you see once in a while, but not very often, and possibly involving sex.
This is what each category means to me:
Long term: I'm looking for a permanent relationship. I'm going to focus on you once we meet and not go out with anyone else.
Dating: I want to eventually move up to long term, but let's not get too serious too quickly. Also, you may or may not be the only one I date.
Friends: I want to get to know you and do things with you, but I don't want to be romantic with you. This is just platonic.
Hang Out: If I call my friends and they are all busy with something else, or if my buddies and I are going to a concert or something, then I'll call you. Sex is a possibility, but don't count on it.
Intimate Encounter: I'll call you when I want sex, but we aren't going to see each other outside of the bedroom. | |
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