| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:49:33 PM | Hang out means just that . . . you're gonna go hang out. Do things such as movies, dinners, drinks, concerts or just go out to have a couple of hours of conversation. At least that's what I meant when I chose that option.
Seems to me that a lot of people have been burned by that in the past. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 9:29:22 PM | | For guys, literally what it says. The girl may post that because she wants to stay reserved and sort of decide later how far she wants to go with you. For the time being, she'd like to "just hang out." | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 9:43:17 PM |
Hang out means just that . . . you're gonna go hang out. Do things such as movies, dinners, drinks, concerts or just go out to have a couple of hours of conversation.
I do all that stuff with my friends, though. So what's the difference between looking for "friends", and looking for someone to "hang out" with? | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 10:39:11 PM | I have always wondered what the "Hang Out" category meant, I have had a million ideas come into my head as to it's meaning. So, this thread caught my eye and I must say, I am still confused. Everyone has their own idea of the meaning of "Hang Out" but I found this on infoplease: (hang'out"), [key]
—n. Informal.
a place where a person frequently visits, esp. for socializing or recreation
I guess this fits POF, we all seem to frequently visit here for socializing, yea?
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:59:23 PM | Hang out = F*ck Buddie, on a regular basis?
Same thing as: 'Fun' = F*ck Buddie, on a regular basis.
Well this is what the men tell me, | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:59:37 PM | To me "Hang out" means that i'm ready to meet new people, make new friends, maybe go out and get to know someone.......but not ready to jump into anything (in terms of relationship, or otherwise) just yet. "Hang out", and see where things go.. That sort of thing. =)
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:39:01 AM | 'Hang out ' is pretty straight forward...basically just be there - like laundry on a line just go with the wind. What I'd like to know is what does 'Activity Partner' mean??
Anyone care to share their ideas on this one?? | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:39:13 AM | | Like anything else if you don't know... ask! Any of these categories mean different things to different people. So, to avoid jumping to any conclusions asked that person. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:23:39 AM | Hanging out is someone I can call up to wander a bookstore with, or grab a bite, or maybe a movie with. No pressure, no expectations. Friends I suppose.
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:43:17 AM | | To me, hang out is something you do in your twenties/college years. It's something you did in between classes or in the evening - no definite or special plans: "Hey do you want to hangout after class and maybe go over to the student union/sorority house, etc. and listen to music or something?" It's casual time spent together. Maybe you'll watch a movie, maybe you'll get a pizza, maybe you'll just stand/sit around. Sometimes, I guess in my mid twenties I would get asked over to people's houses to hang out. Maybe we'd watch TV and talk a little, or sit in the yard and relax...it's just a casual nice time. Nothing like dating LOL! | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:57:52 PM | To "hang out" is an activity that "friends" do; not sure why POF has two different categories that, to me, mean the same thing.
I believe users here check friends/hang out with the hope that it could lead to more - otherwise, why would they be on a dating site? Caveat: I don't include the users who are very explicit and clear that they seek only friendship in their "about me" field. Granted, those users aren't common in my experience. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:35:53 PM | | I think it means that you are cordially invited to the next "Guys Pub Night" and you will be the Party Favor.........hope ya like groups | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:59:30 PM |
It means 'don't get your hopes up but I'm not ruling anything out if we click' Pretty much.
People I know actually use the term "hang out," and I can tell you definitively it means "spend time together," usually in an informal setting. Nothing more. Nothing less. As a result, there are as many interpretations as there are ways of spending time together.
Earlier in this thread people were asking for a "no clue" option. Hang out imo is sort of that option, because beyond actually meeting it comes neither with expectations nor limitations.
"dating" comes with expectations- that if all goes well, it will lead to a romantic relationship
"friends" comes with limitations- it will explicitly NOT lead to a romantic relationship
People hanging out could end up being platonic, romantic, or depending on the type of person, intimate, but whatever develops will have to develop organically, with no pressure.
Sounds ok, huh? | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/9/2008 6:05:36 AM | | Hang out with your wang out! I guess it means mates - someone to have a good conversation with-someone to chill with and maybe go out drinking/clubbing/cinema with as Friends only. Maybe something might come of it but at the moment thay dont want a relationship | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/9/2008 6:40:27 AM |
Pretty much.
People I know actually use the term "hang out," and I can tell you definitively it means "spend time together," usually in an informal setting. Nothing more. Nothing less. As a result, there are as many interpretations as there are ways of spending time together.
Earlier in this thread people were asking for a "no clue" option. Hang out imo is sort of that option, because beyond actually meeting it comes neither with expectations nor limitations.
"dating" comes with expectations- that if all goes well, it will lead to a romantic relationship
"friends" comes with limitations- it will explicitly NOT lead to a romantic relationship
People hanging out could end up being platonic, romantic, or depending on the type of person, intimate, but whatever develops will have to develop organically, with no pressure.
Sounds ok, huh?
Exactly - no expectations/pressure, but no boundaries. That's what it means to me. That is, if I decide I even want to hang out in the first place. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:43:33 AM |
Unless told in profile otherwise I interpret the 'looking for' categories this way: (I think POF should defind them this way too.)
1.) LTR---Your goal is to find someone in the long term after all the obligatory steps have been crossed.
2.) Friends---you are looking for someone in a pure platonic relationship. This can get confusing when you list the opposite sex in searching for section. If you want someone that might or might not develop into romance you should list 'hang out.'
3.) Hang out---you are looking for someone for a platonic relationship that has the possibility to develop into romance.
The difference between Friends and Hang out should be that the former means no desire for romance and the latter some desire for romance but romance is not required. If romance is required then you should list:
4.) Dating---your looking for a romantic partner. If you have desire to find a partner to keep for awhile you should list LTR. By listing dating you imply a desire not to get too serious with anyone.
5.) Activity partner---you are looking for someone to join you in a specific activity. Example: You moved to a new town and you like to ski. You should list what that activity is in your profile. If it's general activity then you should list friend.
6.)Intimate encounters----sex
7.) Talk/ email---You want to move very slowly and just want to converse on the computer awhile before moving into another category later. Just broke up or whatever reason.
8.) other relationship----the usual standby for relationship not thought of by POF. A miscellaneous category.
I think POF should come up with a 9th 'Forums'. So it would tell people that you are here to just talk on these message boards and not in search of a relationship.
Pretty much the way I see the choices we have here on POF.
Currently I am a long haul truck driver who gets home so rarely that the idea of trying to date someone is not really an option.
That said I am interested in meeting people from other places which I go through from time to time, and would still like someone to go to a meal with, see some of the sights in their area and have a little more human interaction ( I love my dog but when she starts talking back I know there is a problem), and I am not one of those people that can just sit down beside someone in a truckstop/restaurant and start a conversation.
The road can be a lonely place and really I should be one of the lucky ones who is able to expand the odds to meet that certain someone, but alas my home base is outside that 75 mile boundary, even though I am literally miles from their door.
Geez this may end up on my profile, it may just explain things a bit better | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:05:51 AM | I have discovered the hard way that younger men are using "Hang Out" as a means of contacting me and asking me to meet them for sex. They want to meet in their car, my house or their place. They send emails requesting sex with an older women, or they IM me and begin to say suggestive things
I find this very offensive. Isn't that what intimate encounter is? My profile says that I am looking for a LTR. I don't even think these young men have even read my profile, nor do they care. They are simply looking to get laid.
In this on-line dating world it seems as though the definiations to the words used don't necessarily mean the same thing to all people! And may not even mean the dictionary description.
I have also learned that the pharase "are you Affectionate stands for "will you put out."
This has been my expereince. I doubt that I am alone in that hang out actually stands for no emotions, no relationship, no dating....just hang out and have sex.
NOT what I am here for. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:17:46 AM | Interesting question. When I hear "hang out," I am transported back to Bayside High School in 1973. I was 17 years old. "Wanna hang out?" "Sure, when?" It was something you'd do with friends, or you might ask someone of the opposite sex to "hang out" because it wasn't as risky as asking for a "date." I remember a girl I really liked, whose name is long gone from my memory. She was a pretty, dark-haired Irish girl, fun, and very sweet, but mature, and different from the other girls I knew. She was also the first Catholic girl I ever "hung out" with. I lived in a predominantly Jewish neighborhood, and she lived a bike ride or two buses away. Occasionally her mother would come and pick us up, but generally we relied on buses and our feet.
I remember that I liked her very much, but wasn't sure how to go from "hanging out" to "making out." I can vividly recall taking her to the movies to see "Let The Good Times Roll," which I'd seen multiple times, and getting caught in a tremendous downpour, which seemed like a tsunami at the time, with downed trees and massive flooding. I gallantly took her home on the bus, and we walked back to her house. We were both drenched. Her mother, who was the "lunchroom lady" at Bayside High, gave me clothes to change into. I remember feeling embarrassed because now her mother would know I had designs on her daughter.
I invited this girl over to my house one night to listen to "Class Clown," George Carlin's famous breakthrough album that was quite popular at this time. I remember clearly the look on her face. That look was, "When is this guy going to make a move already?" I never made one. The next week, when I called her up again to ask her to "hang out," she told me, "I am looking for something more than hanging out. Hanging out is for kids." I am certain that if I had said something intelligent, and let her know how I felt (I "liked her liked her"), we would have graduated into dating. I was clueless, and let her go.
All this story is to tell you what instantly passes through my mind when I hear "hang out." | |
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L.D.
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:24:38 AM | | This is when Tarzan takes Jane into the the tree house and Cheetah clears the hell out for a couple of hours if he wants to stay alive. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:54:56 AM | I had to read all the pages because I, too, wanted to know the meaning of "Hang Out". I'm not sure I know much more than when I started, but I definitely believe that it is a generational word. There's nothing wrong with the word...or whatever meaning YOU want to give to it, but I NEVER hear it from people in the 50+ age bracket.
My thoughts are that you should use the word that best fits the reason you are here. If you are from the "Hang Out" generation and looking for someone else in that era, then they will understand what you mean. It's ALWAYS a good idea to put a sentence or two in your profile that spells it out...(.Place it near the beginning, preferably, as it just MIGHT be read that way.)
However, along with that goes the obvious....If you're truly looking for friendship or activity partner or hang out, you are attracting the sexual advances if your pictures show sexual, sensual aspects.....flirty eyes, teasing poses, obvious cleavage. None of this is wrong, if you truly want sex to be somewhere in the relationship...(you choose when!) But, do not be upset when you are approached regarding sex...simply explain it.
We have here in POF ages from probably 18 to 80...we're going to think differently, act differently, and react differently. We cannot stop the spammers, scammers and players. We have to learn to deal with them. So, flirt, if you must, but realize that not everyone wants to flirt....I enjoy it, but not with youngsters. I'm looking for long term, including monogamous sex. That does not mean that I am prepared to service some young fella who wants to have a roll in the hay with an "older lady".
I have a full life. I don't want someone to "hang out" with. I want him to want me enough to call, make plans and follow through. THAT, I will make time for. In a budding relationship, even spontaneity is fine....but, total lack of consideration for the other persons time, is not my cup of tea. I see nothing wrong with it for those who do not mind.
Communication is still the best way of settling the problem of words whose meaning are unclear.
KK
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/9/2008 10:18:22 AM | Most often or not, men has the misconception of "hanging out" thinking sex would be involved in some way. I've been on POF for quite awhile and I noticed when I had my profile status as "hanging out" I get a lot of guys wanting to do some activity together (ie. movies, dinner, etc) and then later going boinking. That however isn't my intention at all...to just jump into the sack with someone I hardly know. In some circumstances maybe we hit it off really well, but after awhile they automatically think "oh yea, every time we hang out I'll be getting some!" I once dated a guy for a few weeks and he always msg'd me saying "hey wanna hang out tonight?" I then asked "did you really want to hang out...like to watch a movie, or did you just want sex?" He thinks about it for a minute (because it's such a hard question) and then replies..."How about both?" *shakes head* Men will always been men. I believe even if you put dating or activity partners, there's still some chance they're getting some booty. After all, why not have your cake and eat it too right?
Of course there's some nice guys out there who are looking for more than just FWB and actually want a relationship. It's like finding a needle in a haystack with those ones! Haha | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 7/9/2008 10:36:41 AM | To me, hang out means just spending time without the expectation of anything else but that...hanging out.
Out in the real world I use the term "hang out" with pretty much everyone I feel I want to spend time with, even with women I KNOW I want to sleep with from the moment I see them.
It's not a big deal...intentions and consequences arise from mostly from actions, not words.
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