| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 2/25/2008 10:30:40 PM | As the saying goes,
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and leather excite me.
...wait... i cant remember how that fits to this...
Oh!
Negativity feeds off of attention, changing the subject and lifting the mood tends to help.
That or feed em to that strange pulsating orange thing thats been growing under the sink. | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 2/26/2008 3:40:04 AM | | I tend to get rid as best I can of the toxic people in my life, but unfortunately you can't eliminate them from the workplace. I just keep doing what I do, and when I hear a snide remark try to consider the source and move on. At times it is tough to not let that get to you, but you cannot let them rent space in your head and suck the life out of you. Sometimes it feels like a losing battle. But when you let them win, they have accomplished their goal and brought you down to their level. | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 2/26/2008 4:11:15 AM | I try to keep my distance as much as possible but sometimes you just can't if it's a co-worker or relative. I learned along time ago that surrounding my self with negative people was NOT helping my stress any lol.
I actually had to talk to a family member about it once and it wasn't easy! He had asked me why I had become so distant and I finally just had to tell them that I had enough stress in my life that I couldn't stand all the negativity that was oozing from him. At first he was a little upset with me but eventually came around and said that I was right...he didn't even realize how bad it was until he started asking other people and they told him the same.
I think for some people they just need to hear it from a friend or someone they trust and then they realize they have a problem. He is by far much better now and focuses more on the positive aspects of life rather than the negative. | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 2/26/2008 5:37:57 AM | OP, you just described my last relationship. This guy was negative about everything. He lived for gossip and believed it to be the gospel truth. His favorite program was CNN and past time reading the local newspaper. IMO...both are repeats and only reveal the sadness existing in the world ( war, poverty & etc;..). I don't bury my head in the sand, but eating, breathing and living for that stuff is downright sadistic.
Anyway, I'm totally convinced, he was kicked repeatedly in the head as a child. When it comes to negative people, you need to RUN far away! | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 2/27/2008 3:58:23 PM | My parents are extremely negative. When either of them says "Why do you never listen to me/us?" Depending on my mood, the answer is either "Self defense," or "If I paid any attention to you, I would have killed myself a long, long time ago."
Akutenshi: You have one of those too? | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 2/27/2008 5:42:24 PM | Ive read every-ones notes of good advice on the subject and all have (mostly) the same good qualities. I on the other hand have to live with my Uncle.... He is (god bless him) the arrogant, know-it-all type. He lives in my living room..... . I asked him to my home hoping he could cope better with his illnesses.... Now I am left coping with him and his attitude issues. He cooks and can't clean, He sort of smells and he has a bad back. The med's that he is on makes him irritable. I know that family is really more important than my personal feelings and so I bare it.... He has been paying and occasionally he does nice things. I have to remind myself to talk him up and make light of whats going on, because life could truly b worst. Laugh it off..... U never know when that negative person is waiting for a good laugh. If that doesn't work; be selfishly silly and make them jealous of how good it is to b happy. | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 2/28/2008 2:57:59 PM | ^^^^Now that's a good woman if I ever saw one...
You obviously have the patience of a saint. How people do things like that, I have no idea... That requires some serious amount of love and prescription drugs! | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 3/14/2008 6:55:40 PM | | If it's a client..ignore them. If it's a friend or family member bring it to their attention. If they persist, keep your distance. When they get all down on you change the subject. | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 3/15/2008 5:38:18 AM | | i can't really say i have anyone negative in my life but i have a friend who knows someone...the friendship has ended now but wow!!..i met her a couple of times and all she did was complain, complain complain...how bad life treated her and she blamed everything and everyone else around her for the way her life is...she really had this negative aura,shall i say,surrounding her that it could drag anyone down..my friend did everything in her power to bring her out of it..but she never appreciated it or realize how much good was coming out of it..i always knew when my friend had had a visit with her when i spoke with her on the phone..you could hear it in her voice. | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:02:51 AM |
With gloves. And a trench. And a few bags of lime.
I was thinking along the lines of nailing them to strong tree using a cross bow and watch them dance.....at least that way they can provide some entertainment and a giggle hee hee
OP: If you mean those who you can't lose in life (family etc) that seem to take delight in being negative I keep them at a distance as much as possible - but there are times it can't be avoided so keep it to occasional visits and phone calls, where I've prepared myself mentally before hand to smile, nod (hopefully in the right places)...then get out of there asap and go do something really fun afterwards to get me grinning again :-)
I'm not a mean or un caring person (despite what I wrote above lol) however I won't allow them to make me or those I love feel bad.
There have been occasions when people have said things I simply can't agree with and I've said my piece there and then - by that I don't mean causing an argument but simply letting them know in a calm intelligent way why they are IMO wrong (one of the ways I get my own back is to not let them draw me into an argument...ooooh that makes their BP rise lol). Naturally it never goes down well but the thought of offending someone who is rude, mean etc about others for no good reason just doesn't cause me to lose sleep at night ;-)
I will happily offer a shoulder to cry on to someone whose unfortunate to have a few problems, and if they want it try to help out if I can but that's different from mean spirited bigots :-) | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 3/15/2008 9:29:49 AM | Negativity can only effect me if I allow it to. I learned a long time ago, I have 2 choices, to be happy or to not be happy. Today, I choose happy  therefore, if someone wants to be negative, they'll do it without my presence. .. It's not rocket surgery!  | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:14:43 AM | | My Mother is the most negative person in my life and as you say simplelady66 i cannot ignore her or avoid her but i do not allow her to control me or get me down in any way which is hard and i know my sister finds it extemely hard to deal with. I just take what she says and she,s very cruel, unkind and hurtful in that respect with a pinch of salt and dont allow her to get me down or influence me in what she says. As for negative people in general, we all come across those in our lives as much as we,d rather not. The key is to remain positive around them and in life and above all be true to yourself. I try to live by that . | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 3/17/2008 12:49:18 AM | | I have learned to channel it elsewhere. Establish a barrior to your soul. It is hard, but you have to do this for yourself. These negative people are miserable inside and their whole goal is to bring you down. I am happy with my positive outlook, and I'm told it radiates through my personality. | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 3/17/2008 11:51:06 AM | I have discovered that people who constantly behave in such a negative manner are also controlling, condescending & manipulative.
However, people do make mistakes and they should be given the chance to apologize for thier bad behaviour. If they never apologize, it's most likely that they don't realize what they're doing or haven't had the opportunity to have someone tell them so.
If they're made aware of thier behaviour and haven't (or won't) make any changes, then don't "hold your breath" & just move on!
By the way, Don't shoot them (even though you may feel like doing so!) because that's against the law! :laugh: | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 3/17/2008 1:06:37 PM | To stay AWAY from them as much as possible or just disassociate with them! Of course you got no choice if they happen to be your co-worker or a family member.
Remember to surround yourself by being POSITIVE yourself. I know its hard. To think of ways that MAKES you happy! | |
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| How do you handle the negative people in your life?
Posted: 3/17/2008 8:11:27 PM | I just pump some air, smile my biggest smile, surround myself with positive energy, burn some sage as a purification when needed ... and then keep on steppin ...
Something that I notice, though ... I seldom have to engage those "black holes" as my energy is such that they tend to sense my presence and literally walk on the other side of the street ...
The only people I've had to deal with that are negative, black and icky on an ongoing basis are two of my immediate family members ... and that process of letting go is pretty much a done deal since my father passed away two years ago and the hurtful and hateful characteristics of my mother & sister really came to surface as they openly showed their true dark selves ... it's good to be rid of their selfish influence, their one - sided judgements, their insidious actions and that dysfunctional history. Karma !!!
Sorry that sounds so harsh, but you have no idea ...
jeffery | |
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