| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/10/2006 2:20:23 PM |
If this is the case and she is not satisfying his sexual appetite then dont you think they should not be in a relationship together - as over time, the porn will not do it and he will eventually cheat on her?
Depends on the guy and whether or not he's satisfied in the other aspects of the relationship.Men are not only visual,we are very compartmentalized creatures.We may be perfectly happy with a woman in every regard except for sex.The sex may not necessarily be bad,but there may be the need to fantasize.The man may like blondes and he's married to aredhead,or he may harbor desires of women of another race,he could be a white guy and have a fascination with African American, Hispanic or Asian women or even midgets.There may be certain sex acts that his SO won't or can't do and in this way he can indulge fantasy.Sure he may be tempted to cheat,but whther or not he does,depends on how much he values the other aspects of his relationship with his SO. | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/10/2006 2:36:48 PM | | Masturbation is for the morally decadent. You should put a lock on your underwear and give the key to your girlfriend. Of course, if she leaves, you're pretty screwed because she'll still have the key... | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2006 4:49:19 AM | Response to msg 663
Haywiresue....
It's not about whether or not men are satified in the relationship sexually.... Men can be perfectly happy, love their partner, and have a great sex life... and stil want to cheat...
In part because of what Taurus 516 said... men do compartmentalize.... Love and sex are not in the same compartment....
I think part of it is biological... for thousands of years men have been programed to bop anything... that is what happens in the natural world... and like it or not from an evoluntionary/biological perpecting... monogomy is the exception....
So women are not far off when they say men are pigs... maybe not pigs but we are ANIMALS
with a instinctual drive and attraction to procreate... That is one of the reasons men are visual regarding their sexuality...
So back to my original premise... porn can for some men satify those urges and act as an outlet...
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/12/2006 7:39:55 AM | | I lived with a guy years ago who kept his stash of porn in the basement, unbeknown to me. He spent a lot of time down there and on our days off he would pop upstairs and f*ck me every 2 or 3 hours. Heres me thinking wow, I must be a real turn on for him and was impressed with his stamina until my 12 yr old found him down there surrounded by his girls. It hit me that it wasnt me who was turning him on at all. He would be down there getting turned on by them and then coming upstairs and using my body to finish the job. I have since been completely turned off by porn and will NOT under any circumstance allow it in any relationship I am in. You want it...... sleep with it, I'm outta here! | |
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Posted: 12/12/2006 8:01:46 AM | | ^^^ Your just insecure is all. Hopefully the man will leave you at some point and find someone who is secure and open sexually. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2006 8:07:34 AM | | I am the most openly sexual & adventurous person IN MY BED that you will ever meet. There is nothing I havent done at least once without involving severe pain & I could have sex 24/7 if that was fesible. I DO NOT enjoy being used. The definition of a committed relationship is an anything goes as long as it is between the two of you and not a thousand other people be them real or otherwise. | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/19/2006 2:17:46 PM |
He spent a lot of time down there and on our days off he would pop upstairs and f*ck me every 2 or 3 hours. Heres me thinking wow, I must be a real turn on for him and was impressed with his stamina
Damn.Should've just enjoyed the stamina and left well enough alone.It's clear you don't understand the dynamics of what goes on in many men's minds.It's not that you weren't turning him on,it was a whole separate area of his psyche that he was stimulating.Men are compartmentalizing creatures.The sex urge,the turn on switch or whatever is very different.Did you bother to check out the type of porn he was watching?Was there some act that he was particularly fixated on?A particular type of woman in the porn?
Many women get the upset with porn as they think a man's undivided attention to THEM should be all that is required and feel insulted if something else is brought in to enhance the stimuli.This is a clear lack of understanding of the way many men relate to sexuality.
It ain't the same for us as it is for you. | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/20/2006 6:23:44 AM | I personally don't cae if he wants to watch porn.
BUT, if he choses to watch porn instead of having sex with me, then there is a HUGE problem! | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/20/2006 6:49:59 AM | | I think men are visual people,women are more emotional. If porn is a problem with your significant other then I think you should respect her and don't watch it,it seems like women who are against thier man watching porn maybe insecure,I don't know I'm not a pshyco therapist or anything,but if there is a problem it should be addressed before it gets out of hand.(no pun intended) | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/20/2006 7:16:14 AM | Porn rocks!  There is nothing wrong with watching porn no matter if u are with someone or not. Its harmeless. I think it can only improve the sex life...... | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/20/2006 8:32:27 AM | As having been one who HATED the thought of my man getting sexually arroused by another woman (visually) and then having sex with me. Degraded me and made me feel not good enough. I felt I was in competition with these woman.I felt like I was always being compared to them and that made me self conscious.
Now, we're over.
A new friend has shown that viewing porn is all right. I don't feel any apprehensions about watching porn with my friend. I don't feel like I'm bein compared.
Seeing as I'm not going to be respnsible for every erection he gets, porn can be used as an outlet; but then there can be Too Much.(When it starts interferring with the relationship.)
Men and women are wired differently. Remember that always.
Men are visual and women use their emotions.
Really, I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. It all depends on the two people involved and their feelings. | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/20/2006 8:37:27 AM | | Ive been in relationships were myself and the guy have watched porn together. So to each thier own. I dont mind it to spice up the relationship sexually a bit....but if hte man ever got addicted to watching it there would be a problem. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 1:21:09 PM | | Personally i love porn... and i love it even more watching it with my man !! | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 2:57:45 PM | | iam sorry but if u are feelin that u are doin ur job, and he is still watchin porn, it means that he sick. beleive me, iam a guy, the sex is something nature ok, but u ll not do it everyday, but also it doesnt have anythig also with the age, coz the hardest part is the beginin and after that the guy and the girl get used to it, and start doin it less than before less less, but the guy keep doin watchin porn and the cake is in front of him, it is really sick. for me i find myself normal, i was my girlfriend and i have never watch porn movie when i was with her, may be sometimes for fun, but no more than that. now she left me, iam watchin it again hahahahahahaha | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 3:03:34 PM | i can agree with u, if a person fell that he is not satisfying his girl or the girl not satisfyin her boy, here it s kinda improving themselves, coz they love the other parties and the yare lookin for there happiness. but i feel that my girl is so satisfied and iam too. so why shall i watch something like that only waste of time.
i agree with u in the point to improve the sex life. | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/20/2006 3:13:52 PM | HMM I THINK U R IN THE WRONG AREA FOR POSTING THIS
TRY SEX AND DATING......
DEPENDS HOW STRONG YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS .............SOME CAN AND DO.............SOME KNOW NO WAY THEY COULD OR THEY WOULD BE BOOTED TO THE CURB  | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 8:44:21 PM | | i like watching porn with my partner. it's kinda sexy how worked up it can get me...hahaha. I LOVE IT!! GO PORN GO!!! | |
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Posted: 12/21/2006 12:35:04 PM | | My bf and I live together. He has porn mags in the bathroom and looks at porn online. I don't mind. I know its something that I can't give him, and because hes NOT DEAD, he is free to fantisze all he likes. I'm not the kind of person who puts her man on a leash, nor do I think of him as my property. Because of this, I realize that when it comes right down to it, hes STILL A MAN! And men like porn. As long as I know that hes going to be sleeping with me, there's not a problem. I look at porn and enjoy it too. He knows this. If your guy is looking at porn, try something fun with it. Go down on him while he watches it. I've done it with him and it was atually enjoyable for me, too.....just my 2 cents worth. | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/21/2006 1:07:07 PM | | Well it broke my marriage up and i was the one with and watching the the porn!!! still have to this day, no matter what i dont think a person should feel insecure about either sex that watches it as at end of day it dont beat the real thing!!! | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 12/21/2006 1:16:51 PM | | a little isn't necessarily a bad thing, but if it's 24/7 porn, THEN you got a problem! Personally, I prefer guys who aren't into that stuff. | |
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| Porn in a relationship
Posted: 2/12/2007 12:05:32 PM | | oh for sure! things can get old. and porn makes shit intersting. | |
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