| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:25:49 PM | Men are not the only ones who do this!
I know a few women that are just as good at it as some men that I know!
I guess all is fair in love and war! Just remember what goes around comes around and eventually this person will meet their match!
Maybe then they will stop but don't count on it! Probably just make them bitter and want more people wrapped around their little fingers!! | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:43:43 PM | tweezp (sp)?
"easyoneverything----men interested much...then woman get to insecure when man not all attentive as start....then man backs off as woman is freaky and no fun , to serious....woman tries to "fix"...man runs for hills."
No, I didn't get "all insecure" about the relationship and I wasn't imagining his emotional withdrawal. I didn't "become freaky and no fun." A man does not tell you that he has met "the one" and that he wants to marry you, and then become distant. That's a players strategy, not a man in love who is feeling a little uncertain for a brief period while he sorts out his feelings. I know the difference. Now. | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:44:49 PM | Reminds me of the woman who wanted a man that made at least a million a year.
Self centered Losers!
Money and sex does not buy happyness! | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:47:40 PM | Warning signs:
Quick involvement
Wants to spend all his/her time with you using such excuses as you are all I need and I should be all you need
Isolates you from your friends and family
Is possessive
Is jealous (does not like you seeing your friends, talking with you family, showing affection to a pet)
Is hyper sensitive
Has a Jekyl and Hyde character
You feel as if you walk on egg shells in the relationship early on
Thanks Cleopatra and you'll pardon me for repeating. Too important not to say it again and this goes for BOTH genders.
While they may not be successful at all of the above, the point is that if you are with someone who is TRYING to do any of the above - RUN. | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:37:15 PM | Still trying to decode what tweepz said the first time...someone needs to teach her how to spell come. ....we aren't recptacles for men, and men aren't for women. What we are talking about here is this happened to a woman instead of a man. So guys put your curb feelers back into place and realize we know guys get played too. However...servicing your man is not the answer to him staying home! I suddenly feel like a filling station. If anyone is a bad egg they chose to be one and no one made them that way except them! Period! Easyoneverything~~~ I heard you were a little freaky....just kidding ( smile inserted here). I agree with what you said about strategies.
Everyone duck I hear a comeback coming... | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 4:51:01 PM | some women are guilty of the same thing u speak of but typically they one play one particular person usually one who they know had extremely strong feelings for them. so they get a little ego boost when they feel no one is giving them attention.
but just like women mentioned about they are cowards usually what I call runners when the plot thickens
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:11:16 PM | I would classify this man a total jerk. By any chance, is this person whom you are writing about a truck driver? And, what is it with these men that call, and email you to the point that a date is arranged then drop you???? Stating that it will not "work out" because of the distance---- is 25 miles too far for these silly men to drive to meet you?
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:27:33 PM | hi ive never posted a reply before but the person who sent the message about the
head games intrigued me as i had that kind of man and he left me not because he
got what he wanted but because he didnt, i refused to text or call him unless he
texted me first, he told me he loved me 50 times a day and i refused to believe it
i asked him for proof that he loved me and i would never believe it until he provided
proof and he never did, a man like this is very insecure and needs to know that
he has your love, but he played the biggest head game i have ever seen and i still
didnt respond he told me he loved me and then never spoke to me again and i didnt
do a damn thing about it even though i loved him i never ever contacted him and its
been about 7 weeks now so my advice if you ever meet this kind of man never give
in and he will show his true colours i hope that this helps anyone who is in this position right now. | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:32:46 PM | | gee u are not talking about my old life are u as of a month and half ago went though the same thing and i knew about others on yahoo and here don't know why we stay but it takes looking at yr self and who u are to get out and don't look back been there done that never again i was in a stange one sided relationship all he craved was that ego boast I will never unterstand it but we do have names for these guys it's called PLAYERS no dout run don;t walk as fast and as far as u can and don't look back ps they do have this way of making u feel special and that u are the only one?? but in yr own head not yr heart u know u are not ?? I ran away from this relationship and I am happy being on my own | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:44:51 PM | YOU r the one with the problem he is a PLAYA
and u talk bout his needing to have HIS ego boosted
u and THESE women r no different what a PRICE TO PAY to get an occasional compliment whateva.........
dont know what to tell u cept yes hes a playa
kathi | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 5:57:59 PM | | He just sounds like a typical guy who is successful with women...probably good looking and charming and obviously loves all women....or at least as many as he can find....and,that's not terribly new...and he will end up alone,eventually....but,in the meantime,he is living the way he wants to live....certainly not bored....very evasive,secretive,and probably poor....and addicted to something....they are just play toys... | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 6:14:50 PM | The one I want to shovel my driveway, because he could get 20 women to help him, which means it could be all clear in about 15 minutes. :-) :-)
Really, any man or woman that keeps a ton of people hanging on ....I don't know really what to call them....I just stay away. | |
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| Humans are not that complex
Posted: 3/11/2008 6:21:55 PM | | we just need to own up to our own judgement of people .. just face them and if they deny it follow your instincts they are a as good as any advice you will get from any therapist.. we are the best to know ourselves... | |
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| Humans are not that complex
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:07:23 PM | What Goes Around Comes Around.
He will cross the wrong woman one day.
He will end up alone.
Wheres her self worth for herself.?
Have nothing to do with him. | |
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| Humans are not that complex
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:39:31 PM |
woman get to insecure when man not all attentive as start....then man backs off as woman is freaky and no fun , to serious....woman tries to "fix"...man runs for hills.
( Attractive Quality A Man Wants #1) "Emotional Maturity"
Attractive Quality A Man Wants #2) A Woman Who Supports His "Freedom" )
Perhaps tweepz English is a bit broken, but the points (when interpreted correctly) are completely true.
In th past, I met girls who got attached really quickly (before I did) and it scared me. When I'd pull back, they would get all weird and try to "fix" things (usually by being more affectionate/needing/whatever). Any normal man should (and will) run for the hills, at this point.
Point #1 "Emotional Maturity" - doesn't question the meaning of every little thing and does not immediately meltdown during periods (even brief) of withdrawal by a guy. He may simply have other things on his mind at the time (work, friends, some tragedy).
Point #2 "Freedom" - understands that men (like women) need to have lives and friends and activities beyond their relationship(s). | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 9:46:27 PM | Yes I hear ya...players in general have their own way of zooming on someone...its awful to play with ones heart... | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/11/2008 11:34:01 PM | | when woman dont know how man think, she say headgame or player....all is no understand way man think.....some poor me thread by poor women | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/12/2008 6:27:59 AM | Tweepz, I think we all know to a certain extent how each gender thinks and acts in the pursuing of love and romance. In the realm of what is called normal. Mostly we all play the dating game with honesty and unspoken rules of integrity and respect. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. Que sera sera....
What is being discussed here is a person who lacks social and emotional conscience about romancing. He is predatory and then goes in for the kill. Something about the way he conducts himself gives him great pleasure. The object of his hunt? She is left hurt, maimed and sometimes for life because of this person who fed off her heart and spirit. Don't ever call this a normal man's thinking and behaviour and call the females who were sucked in by this as "poor me" women.
If this is your standard that you live by...WOW! You must have some stories.
If you accept this a normal man's behaviour and come off as being "understanding"...Heaven help us! | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/12/2008 1:42:06 PM | ^ A shame I ruined a perfect pun with my quotation marks - Blast - Foiled again by my own meticulousness! 
I know of a man who is quite attractive and has no problem finding willing women. He knows how to play them. I know this through a friend who lived with him and ended the relationship because he wanted to do this while he was with her. Just for fun and nothing serious, he would tell her, but it was still her he really loved. He still tells her that she is really the only one he loves, and clues her in on what he's doing. I don't see why she even keeps in contact with him, but she says that he kind of makes her feel special in telling her how much he still cares for her, and even though she KNOWS what he's up to, she believes him. She told me that he's obsessed with doing this all the time now and this is how he works.
Here's what I don't understand. We have women complaining about "head games", yet she sticks around for them. On the other hand, if he's being honest to her about his games with other women, then he's not really playing her, is he? He's being forthcoming about his philandering. So when a guy speaks openly about his promiscuity (lying or not), most women believe him and attract, because they naturally assume all guys cheat. But when a guy is honest about being single, women steer clear.
I suggest she forgets the player, finds a monogamously inclined, not so attractive (at least to others) man who has difficulty finding "willing" women, and begin a real relationship with him.
It seems the only "head games" your "friend" is exposed to, are the ones she creates for herself. And if she's quite content with sharing a man, let her knock herself out... with venereal diseases.
Here's a question - How does she (or you) know he doesn't just tell the others what he tells her? 
And to answer yours, I don't believe all is fair in love and war - quite the contrary - unfair I would say. That and some people are slime.
- Excog. | |
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| The worst of head games!!!
Posted: 3/12/2008 3:52:30 PM | Hi Jeanie
Thing is this - how do you know you found the proverbial bad egg? The proof of the pudding is in the eating and by that time it is usually too late. Guess what I am trying to say here is this, if you unwittingly fall for the archetypal Charm Syndrome man and many intelligent women do - forewarned is forearmed as they say.
Look for the warning signs I showed in the earlier post and RUN. Too many women have stayed and been mentally harmed, trust me I have met many women who have experienced the bad egg and not known it by his smell. His smell is sweet, his words honeyed and his love perfumed.... He cries crocodile tears telling you he misses you and then it gets harder and harder to get out... He has you in his vicelike grip, eventually you become too demoralised and crushed to leave him... Stockholm Syndrome and Gaslighting is all part of his strategy.
People like this are predators and the victim does not see it until it is too late. | |
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