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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/7/2009 1:33:24 PM | If these guys are not open minded enough you just do your thing and don't bother sharing all the details with them.
If it makes YOU happy and enjoy the experience all the best to you. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/7/2009 1:37:42 PM | You say women don't do it right.
Mybe many. I have had the joy to have some willing and eager to follow directions how to please me with their hands. Oh what a sensation!
If you know how you like it try to have your partner do it the way you like it best. Aren't so many men take it seriously to do it right for their women? It should go two ways sometimes. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/7/2009 1:38:44 PM |
Why would someone own/use a dildo? or even a chick masturbating. If I were a chick I would never be desperate for sex to a point of resorting to these 2 acts.
I personally don't own a dildo, however I have several vibrators. Contrary to popular belief, men do not have an exclusive right to a high libido. Masturbation among women is common and normal among women who enjoy their sexuality. I do not consider either of these two behaviors "desperate".
Horny men are wherever I look and also men who are pissed simply because he is not getting any unlike women who can be content wiyhout sex.
Where in the world did you get this ridiculous notion that women can be content without sex? Perhaps some women, but clearly not ALL women. Women have sexual tension, just like men, only our sex drive peak occurs at a later stage in life than a man.
Men have less control over their sex hormones than women or bluntly Testerone rages more than aestrogen.
The only reason a man has less control over their sex hormones is they do not risk getting pregnant. Women have more control over their urges because they are wired differently, and if they are careless they bear the burden of their bad choice for nine months.
I would be disturbed if I am in a r/ship with a chick using dildos. I would tell her 'I have a live one permanently strapped between my thighs. Just jump on it whenever you feel like using one.'
In a real world, even in a monogamous relationship, not everyone is afforded the luxury of having a partner who is available to "jump on it" at will. I would never choose to masturbate over making love with my partner, however, we do not live together, we both have busy lives, and I don't see him as often as I "desire" release of sexual tension. He satisfies me just fine whenever I see him. Short of having him quit his job and chaining him to my bed, there will be times that I have an urge, and he is not available.
Likewise a normal man who can easily get some..should not masturbate.
You talk about sex like it is a commodity that you could purchase at will in the grocery store. Some of us are a lot more discriminant in our choice of sexual partners. I am not "in" to casual sex, and have one lover in an exclusive relationship. To imply that a normal man should go pick up any old woman with a vag1na and get off, rather than masturbate is stupid, dangerous, and skanky behavior. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/7/2009 2:29:52 PM |
In fact, it actually seems a bit more warped (in my mind), for a woman to use a dildo, because it's unfathomable that ANY woman couldn't find a willing man to give her penetration satisfaction, so those women are, in reality, rejecting a huge variety of flesh and blood penises for a slab of rubber or plastic. To me, that's quite, um, sexually dysfunctional. In a man's case, he's probably only SETTLING for the fakery because circumstances aren't giving him the option. Mind you, if he PREFERS it, he's equally warped (in my opinion) as the women who PREFER it.
that sums it up. it is ridiculous for a woman to not be able to find a man. women's manipulation gives them all the power. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:59:19 PM | Sex toys for men include: the Fleshlight (and other masturbation sleeves), certain sleeves that fit over vibrators, the eroscillator, butt plugs, anal dildos,****rings, etc.
Why would someone own/use a dildo? or even a chick masturbating. If I were a chick I would never be desperate for sex to a point of resorting to these 2 acts.
Seriously? Okay:
I masturbate. I masturbate with a vibrator, even, and sometimes I'll throw a dildo in there to mix it up a bit. Why?--Because I get horny and it feels good. I mean, isn't that why we all do it? Sure, I could find a partner, but I'm extremely picky, and don't really want to be with someone only for sex--it just doesn't work well for me, I do get emotionally attached, and I'm not going to form some arbitrary attachment because I'm horny and need a release. Masturbation provides a release on my own terms, without complications--the only complication I've ever run into is running down my batteries without a new set in my house.
I would be disturbed if I am in a r/ship with a chick using dildos. I would tell her 'I have a live one permanently strapped between my thighs. Just jump on it whenever you feel like using one.'
Again: Lack of complication. Or possibly, lack of availability. If my partner's not there and I need release, I can do it myself if I feel a need. If I want a selfish orgasm where I don't worry about my partner and his pleasure, I have ways to get myself off where I can do just that and not disappoint him. In practice, I do tend to just jump on my partner and wait for him, but I don't have any issues with a partner playing with himself without me, and I wouldn't stay with anyone who felt he somehow "owned" my sexuality to the point where he'd get upset if I did the same. Likewise, any partner who isn't okay with my using a vibrator during sex on occasion is not the partner for me (though I've yet to have a partner who objected to this).
Likewise a normal man who can easily get some..should not masturbate.
Why on earth not?! It's easy, it's uncomplicated, it feels good, there's no risk of STDs or pregnancy or complex emotional involvement. . . it seems like a winning situation to me if he doesn't want to find a new partner or just wants a little alone time. What could possibly be the problem with that?
Thanks for the enlightment now I know the diff btw a vibrator and a dildo. I thought there purpose is the same
Kind of. They're both for sexual pleasure, but one's purpose is penetration, while vibrators are used largely for clitoral stimulation, and often not inserted at all. Or you can use both at once. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:15:46 AM |
If my partner's not there and I need release, I can do it myself if I feel a need. If I want a selfish orgasm where I don't worry about my partner and his pleasure, I have ways to get myself off where I can do just that and not disappoint him. In practice, I do tend to just jump on my partner and wait for him, but I don't have any issues with a partner playing with himself without me, and I wouldn't stay with anyone who felt he somehow "owned" my sexuality to the point where he'd get upset if I did the same. I so agree.
One more thing, that wasn't addressed in this discussion, while most men think a woman should "jump on his stiff d1ck" instead of masturbate, they are failing to take in to account that a majority of women do NOT orgasm from penetration. They need clitoral stimulation. That is why many women like to use a vibrator, alone or with their partner.
To be perfectly honest, I can easily bring myself to orgasm with masturbation. For whatever reason, its not always so easy with a partner, because I know my body better than any man can. With that being said, since I can orgasm any time I please, when I am with my lover this frees me up to devote all my energy to his pleasure. I love everything about making love with my man. I love the feel of him inside me, there is nothing that compares to that sensation. I love having him touch me and stimulate me, but if it does not result in orgasm every time we are together, it is not a big deal.
Feeling comfortable enough with a lover to introduce sexual aids like lubricants, and toys into the mix is a good thing. It is not a case of chosing a toy over a man. It is a case of chosing a toy when you need release and the "right" man is not available. I certainly would not be offended if my partner masterbated or used a toy when alone as long as when we were together he had plenty of desire for me. I would not be with a man who would look for a replacement "woman" in my absence. Likewise, my use of toys in his absense has never resulted in my not desiring him when we are together. If anything, the fact that I do masturbate between love making just shows I am one of those high libido women who is always ready to respond to the advances of my man. Its all good. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:06:31 AM |
Likewise, my use of toys in his absense has never resulted in my not desiring him when we are together. If anything, the fact that I do masturbate between love making just shows I am one of those high libido women who is always ready to respond to the advances of my man. Its all good.
Have you ever tried to quit a bad habit like smoking, eating too much candy, etc.? It is kinda like that, but in reverse.... the longer I go without candy, the less cravings I have (can't say about smoking - never smoked). Well, in the case of sex and sex toys.... the way I look at - the more you get, the more you want it... if/when someone does come into your life. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/8/2009 12:48:37 PM |
I think the man has a low sex drive or not a good love maker. The d!ck is the best dildo in the world and the finger and the tongue the best vibrators.
A woman who masturbates between sex is an insult to the man but you are one of those rare women who have a higher libido than your man. Your man should shift some gears in the bedroom and 'wean you off" toys.
First off, I clearly stated I would always choose my man over a toy, given a choice.
Second, I don't play with dildos.
Third, an attitude that a woman masturbating insults her man is very narrow minded.
With my circumstance I see my lover only on the weekends. When he is here, I have zero complaints and am satisfied. Its the other six days a week I am wanting. Right now our priorities are raising our respective children, and that takes time. Masturbation is an acceptable option to not seeing my lover more often, at this point in time.
Fourth, what difference does it make how a woman or her partner pleasure each other?
The only thing that is important is if they are in agreement. If they are comfortable with their choices, thats great, and your opinion is irrelevant.
Fifth, whether a man, any man, is a good lover is in the eyes of his partner, not an outsider. The only person whose opinion counts is his lover's, not yours. To make a statement that someone else is not a good lover because his partner masturbates is
foolish.
Sixth, with a vibrator, I have 100% success reaching orgasm. I have yet to find a man with that success rate, so I disagree that the fingers and tongue are the best vibrators.
I have already stated, however, that I would always choose a flesh and blood lover over a toy any day, for emotional reasons, not the end result.
Seventh, there is far more going on in my bedroom than just a fvck. You are totally discounting the other factors that make love making great in the eyes of a woman.
A man with an ego that thinks his woman masturbating when he is not around is an insult, is not a man that I would ever consider as a potential lover. If I am never turning him away when he has desire, and I desire him enough to initiate intimacy, there is nothing to complain about. What a woman does when she is alone, is not anyone's business, and should not be an issue.
When a man is so opinionated about a subject such as this, I highly doubt any lady would admit to them what they do when alone. Statistics however dictate that 92% of women masturbate or have masturbated at some point in their life. This is reality. 95% of the women who masturbate are orgasmic with masturbation. This means 87% of women have experienced orgasm, and lines up with the statistics that state about 12% of women have never had an orgasm. Narrow minded opinions about masturbation contribute to the fact that some women never reach orgasm. If a woman has trouble with orgasm, doctors will advise her to masturbate and get familiar with her own body. Guilting her or denying her this opportunity is selfish. A loving partner would not make a woman feel she is not free to explore herself in this way.
Any man who thinks he has the ability to get a woman to orgasm 100% of the time, has had some female partners that are really good at faking. That is just reality. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/8/2009 1:47:05 PM | | I think men have an issue with a man buying/using sex toys because they see a homosexual connotation to it. They imagine you are buying a dong or dildo to shove past your balloon knot. Because you may like this doesn't mean you're gay but many men are real Neanderthals about this. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/8/2009 3:17:05 PM |
The d!ck is the best dildo in the world and the finger and the tongue the best vibrators.
Tongues and fingers don't vibrate, yo. Really.
Your man should shift some gears in the bedroom and 'wean you off" toys.
Why? If it works for everyone involved, what is the problem with it? (No, that's not rhetorical; what is the problem as you see it?) | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:01:28 PM | | And some men like to use toys on a woman. Personaly I've found partners that are keen to experiment with toys make the best lovers, they are open and uninhibited | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:32:49 PM |
Personaly I've found partners that are keen to experiment with toys make the best lovers, they are open and uninhibited
Bingo! It also adds a new dimension to the bedroom. There is always something new you can try. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:09:48 PM |
If a woman has trouble with orgasm, doctors will advise her to masturbate and get familiar with her own body
Exactly! And "Use it or Lose it!" Nothing wrong with toys for men or women. Using them together just adds a little spice to the mix. | |
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:19:38 PM | It seems to me that anybody who's ever had an orgasm should just be saying "Good on ya, mate" to anybody else who does as well, regardless of whatever (harmless) method they employed to get there.
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| Sex Toys... (....for men!)
Posted: 10/9/2009 5:28:33 PM | OP: The hell with what the boys have to say/think. It's healthy and maintains the spice in a relationship!
Bring 'em out, and enjoy!!!! | |
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