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Joined: 2/6/2008
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 9:55:45 PM |
On the other hand, 70% of women DON'T have sex on the first date, right?
well said!!
why focus on the 30%?
anyway, I don't define myself by stats!!
Indeed, I find it gross to have sex with a stranger. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:21:19 PM | | ^^^I don't think it's skewed. I can usually tell when I come across one of these women. They're definitely out there... easy to spot 'em. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:26:02 PM |
I wouldn't be surprised if that were true, OP. We're living in the year 2008. Sexual mores aren't as stuffy as they had been in the past. Women know that most men have other options if the women won't put out. Also, the stigma about having sex on the first date is gone. Why not do it?
well i can think of a few good reasons, first of maintaining a little self respect, I don't see how any woman can feel attractive or worthwhile if they feel they need to spread there legs on the first date. Another good reason is to actually get to know the person before you expose them and your self to the most intimate parts of the other. I can just see you spending the night hot and heavy and never knowing he / she is a mass murderer. Then of course theres always the chance of disease. But I would hope (obviously a mistaken hope) is that just the lack of dignity involved in spreading your legs within hours of meeting someone would be a good enough reason to wait. Disgusting. No wonder there are so many babies making babies and so much distaste for the opposite sex. Who could respect a lady who spreads her legs, and who could respect a man who would want a lady who does on the first date. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:32:25 PM | | Hmmm....haven't had sex on a 1st date. Mostly because I like to feel a connection and I like to feel it's mutual and exclusive (why bother, otherwise?). If I really really like a guy and if I strongly sense he feels similarly towards me, yeah, I might do it, BUT I think a first date is too early to tell for either party no matter how strong the mutual feelings. Maybe a 3rd date - then you're both getting more of sense of whether you really like one another. In general, however, it's situational dependent (leaning to more dates rather than fewer). Would I have a problem admitting it? No, but, again, what would be the point of discussing it? I'm pretty pragmatic. If it's not going to be beneficial, why mention it? It's simply no one's business if the other person is still a relative stranger. On the other hand, we all know when it's right to "discuss" any types of "matters" - whether implied or overt. It's not nice to keep one's mouth shut if the intent is less than pure or it might hurt another party. If I sense someone is beginning to like me more than I like him, I'll usually cut the dating off before he gets hurt. I would hope that's a 2-way street. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:42:06 PM | well i can think of a few good reasons, first of maintaining a little self respect, I don't see how any woman can feel attractive or worthwhile if they feel they need to spread there legs on the first date. Another good reason is to actually get to know the person before you expose them and your self to the most intimate parts of the other. I can just see you spending the night hot and heavy and never knowing he / she is a mass murderer. Then of course theres always the chance of disease. But I would hope (obviously a mistaken hope) is that just the lack of dignity involved in spreading your legs within hours of meeting someone would be a good enough reason to wait. Disgusting. No wonder there are so many babies making babies and so much distaste for the opposite sex. Who could respect a lady who spreads her legs, and who could respect a man who would want a lady who does on the first date.
^^^^ just read that post. So why would it be any less dignified for a woman to "spread her legs" as a opposed to a man spreading his legs? I don't get it. Disgusting? There's nothing disgusting about sex. The only possible disgusting thing related (note the word "related") to sex is the idea of one party (whether male or female) using the other party. (That, by the way, pertains to everything in life - sex is but a mere example. It's just not nice to use people, in general.) Hmm...re disease and babies: doesn't it take 2 people (assuming one of each gender)? (I assume we're not limited hermaphroditic organisms - pardon me if I'm mistaken!). | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:43:25 PM | | It's a silly statistic. All it means is that at sometime in their lives, at least 30% of women have had sex on the first date. It doesn't mean that that they have sex on every first date or even that they've done it more than once. The fraction of first dates that turn sexual could still be very small. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:55:08 PM |
What do "options" have to do with anything?
Options have everything to do with how quickly a woman will give it up to a guy. When a woman senses that a particular guy is in demand, and that lots of other women would be willing to satisfy him, she is much more likely to engage in sex with that guy on the 1st date. It's a known fact that many women will use sex to create an attachment to a guy, even when she knows mentally that the guy still might not become committed to her.
That's part of the reason guys who are perceived to be geeks and nerds don't get nearly as much sex. Women will give it up to the guys who have "animal magnetism" as part of a natural selection process in competition with other women. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:11:18 PM | | I wouldn't put much stock in a magazine report... or use of statistics. The first thing they taught me in the study of stats is how EASY it is to abuse them or even to accidentally make things appear more /less important than they were. Plus I highly doubt that there are that many sucessful first dates if the people dont know each other going into the date... on the other hand what if they were very intimate online already? I know of someone who after about 4 years of an online relationship that became romantic after being friends ... they had sex as soon as they met because they had been dating for many months who could blame them?! if cases like these are lumped in with people who just use datig sites to set up booty calls I consider that isuse of statistics in order to make a headline. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 12:17:37 AM | | 30% of women may have had sex on the first date, and that doesn't surprise me at all, but I'd be incredibly curious what percentage of men have sex on the first date too. I'd speculate that only 1 in 10 men have sex on the first date, but that top 10% is getting all the action. | |
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Jemue
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Joined: 1/26/2005
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 12:29:59 AM | well if 30% of women are having sex on the first date then 30% of men are in they so why not just say that 30% of people are having sex on the first date.
Because that is a balanced view and doesn't allow for a blame mentality to use such made up contrived out of context and skewed figures (as several people have pointed out what 30 percent could actually mean) to further what ever agenda is the current fashion to preach .........
Then the next step is to completely remove any responsibility from the females choice and make out they were made to or pressured into it, which leads nicely into 30% of dating men are vicious rapists ......... which obviously means that 70% are just potential predators that need to be pre-emptively hated and punished as well, blah blah blah, it's all men want blah blah blah ........... dam this gets boring quickly.
Grow a spine and take some responsibility and stop basing social judgements on sad attention seeking sensationalistic poop magazines.
And the instant assumption is that it's a bad thing ........... sheesh ...... people need to get of their horse here, figure out what is right for them and leave others to figure that out for themselves.
That assumes that men and women go out on equal numbers of dates and does not factor in situations where one man might have dates with 4 or 5 different women.
Indeed ...... and given the sheer numbers on here and the ratios of the numbers of guys that out weigh women as an example, it's easy to see who dates more. Though to use that argument is pointless as it goes back to the fact :
It takes two to tango ......
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 12:59:37 AM | so what! if women or men are having sex on the first date? how does it affect you, me etc.... who cares... I can't believe all these high and mighty people who are ever so perfect. If you haven't well good for you and if you have good for you too!
Yeah i don't mind admitting I have had sex on a first date, oh it wasn't even a First date I just had sex cause I wanted to LOL So tell me how does it affect you? not at all. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 1:10:50 AM | how do you define sex? ask bill clinton
this internet option of dating is getting freakier............ and scarier...
smiles/peace | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 1:22:37 AM | | usually these studies are stupid and incredibly biased. They use a very small focus grup of around 1000 people that does nto relatate in any way tot eh majority of the people whom the test is based off of. I beleive its more like half of the people have sex ont he first date. Nothing wrong with that but having unprotected sex without a condom without knowing someone or their sexual history is jsut gross and a great way to die. If you beleive any thing you hear its crap. You have to have the specifics of the survey so if you go somewhere where you can read mroe on it you will see that I am right and their group has a veery small number of people and it does not account for the entire populatiopn that its supossed to represent. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 2:28:38 AM |
well if 30% of women are having sex on the first date then 30% of men are in they so why not just say that 30% of people are having sex on the first date
My thoughts exactly, appieELLIE. Why does the requirement for sex for women have to be so different to that the requirement to have sex for men.
Either have sex on their first date, and while it might fill a temporary need, it does noting to consolidate either's need for a relationship. At least either might still consider the relationship but having the sex anyway will not weight it in their favour one way or other. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 2:30:31 AM | Studies like these are amusing to me. For one, I am not sure that alot of people would own up to having sex on the first date, so the results are probably skewed. Are the survery results really useful then?...and for what?..... What is the margin of error in the results?
Additionally, why is it important to report the results based on one gender's responses and not the opposite gender's responses....it takes two people. And what is the purpose of the survey? ...I would never answer such a survey; some things in my life are personal. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 4:07:55 AM |
I am glad that I havn't met these women. They must have used a skewed sample.
Once again, Speeling and Gramar are soe importanyly here.
I believe the quote should read :
They must have used a screwed sample. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 4:29:38 AM | Here are some preliminary results from an ongoing case study I am currently conducting:
80% of divorced women on POF are actually seperated.
100% of the aforementioned 80% "shut down" on their spouse 1 year before filing.
75% of women seeking a LTR.........arent.
50% of the 30% who have intercourse on the first date, defer the use of a prophylatic to the male involved. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 6:40:05 AM | | Truth comes out. Men, notorious for one night stands, well, have to do it with some one, and that is, you guess it, a woman. Now something that research does not cover, is what percentage of those women are serial one nighters. I would say, and this is not scientific but from personal and friends experience, that only one in five or 20% of those women are serial daters. The others, just found that guy to be irresistible and connected with him and went at it. So ladies, tell me, does this sound realistic to you or is that number higher? | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 6:48:15 AM |
Men have trained women to settle for sex when what they want is to make love. To love..to be loved...For real.
I hate to tell you this, but you overestimate mens ability with women. Most men can't even get a date on an online web site, or get past a first date with a peck on the chic. What women do as it relates to this was created by women's own expectations. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 7:07:24 AM | The others, just found that guy to be irresistible and connected with him and went at it.
Yep that what happened, i never plan that in advance.
One guy actually turned into the biggest love of my life, thats why i said earlier its not necessary a bad things. Often people connected for many eyers after having sex on the first date. Nothing is impossible but its exception not a rule.
Now about being serial dater and doing it on every date and not using protection, thats a different story...
Oh, also about not feeling attractive sorry but your assumptions is very wrong.
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/27/2008 7:11:04 AM | My brother-in-law says he wouldn't have stayed with my sister if she HADN'T had sex with him on the first date. He is far from a womanizer, they have two great kids, and are happy. Some people just have different preferences.
I think people overestimate the importance of "saving yourself for that special someone" (whether you are saving the first time or the 30th time for him or her). Sex is sex and love is love. Yes, they go better together, but they can exist apart.
I don't believe it makes someone a bad person to get down on the first date, but I also don't think it's the best decision, in most cases. First date sex (or 2nd or 3rd, etc, until you become relatively comfortable with someone) is usually awkward and unsatisfying. You take that experience as a taste of things to come (no pun intended) and believe that you are sexually incompatible when it could be that if you had taken some time to get to know each other, the sex may have been better.
Unprotected sex, in almost any situation, is reprehensible.
Lastly, I am a firm believer in test-driving the car before you buy it, and also before you sit in it and fall in love with all its options, because if what's under the hood doesn't do it for you, you'll be very disappointed. | |
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