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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/4/2008 8:39:15 AM |
I think sexy on a first date is extremely slutty.. I wont have sex on a 2nd, 3rd,4th,5th etc. LOL
Well, some people think that sex before marriage is slutty. It's all pretty relative, is it not?
On what date do you think the slut label is no longer applicable? | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/4/2008 8:41:14 AM | | And further to what Heathenspirit said, what makes you righteous enough to judge those who do have sex on a first or fifth date and label them sluts? | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:24:52 AM | | I think this percentage is much higher. Possibly 75%-80% of women have had sex on the first date. Maybe it doesn't happen that often, but it has happened at least one time. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:14:03 PM | What I'm alluding to in my take here is that sexual behaviour is looser now as a reaction to political controls being evermore apparrent in our lives.
People react to this in basic ways like more 'free love' (see 70's/Bomb).
Maybe there's a new armageddon element in the subconcious with all the Global Warming frights going on.
In this the behaviour between men and women is a cohesive force at the common level and thus is a form of escape- as it ever was.
Strong social controls in the past kept this down..but history shows us many instances of social instabilities coupled with license to behave freely breaking out.
'Where to find a good slut when you need one'...and 'All men are **stards' are from the same hymn sheet !!
Both parties would probably like it better ..but we're only human...amd sometimes a bit- er ... more 'animated'? | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 6:01:08 AM | | I think we are in more of a sexual revolution now than during the 70's. People were more free then but folks are more educated and perceptive on the issues at hand. But that is likely a result of the loose ways OF the 70's and the excessive teen pregnancies and STI rates that ensued. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 8:34:13 AM |
ladyc4 wrote: Just simply by practical and demographic
factors I'm not likely to present as "in demand"...so I should
let every Joe Schmoe who buys me a cup of coffee or a
drink have sex with me???
Lowering your standards is not the solution
I did not mention lowering my standards in that post...the last sentence was "I DON'T THINK SO!"
If a man only treats me, or any other woman for that matter,WELL because of a perception of "competition" for my/her attention, I don't even WANT his sorry ass.
I know that this is a common perception among men..."if I piss her off she'll go out with one of the many other guys trailing after her". It might even be a useful tool to manipulate dumbassed men. I, however, seek for a man who treats PEOPLE well because they are PEOPLE and because it's the DAMN RIGHT THING TO DO!! Not to put on a show to win approval from others.
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 10:25:56 AM | | Well said Lady C!....Don't you love how people quote others but don't include the important part of the quote? ..Who would want a man that only treats us well because he thinks someone else wants us? That's kind of sick thinking, IMO. | |
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Nona37
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 12:19:22 PM | | What is actually "sick" here is how people are judged on the fact of if they have sex. First off, it's no one's business, secondly, if someone choses to NOT have sex, that is no one's business as well, but neither side should not be judged, period, but for those of you who "supposedly" do not have casual sex, do know that if you do indeed have sex, you fall within the range of the others, sex is sex and whether you have sex on the first or 10th date, it's still called "GIVIN IT UP"!!! Therefore, all these soapboxes I'm viewing on this thread are very narrow, make sure you don't fall off, for most, it's a long fall down. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 1:08:15 PM |
ladyc4 wrote: If a man only treats me, or any other
woman for that matter, WELL because of a perception
of "competition" for my/her attention, I don't even
WANT his sorry ass.
You're illustrating an important point. My observations seem
to suggest that lack of preselection is by far the most reliable
indicator that a woman will make a poor GF. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 1:40:47 PM | I think there is a US /UK split on this issue. I don't think 30% 'do it' on the first date here in the UK ..but age must also be a factor.
Maybe teens would more easily hit this figure?
Being honest, stable hormones and experience would make the more mature dater less likely to expect- or even offer easy favours.
That would generally include people here on POF.
So really though it's an interesting topic -it would need a thorough survey on the issue to pin it down ..oops wrong words there :)
This would need to include age,orientation and what practises constitute 'sex'.
Kinsey..where are you now?? | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 1:53:40 PM | ^^^^"Please let my date be one of the 30%."
Actually Hardball, you would want to date from the 70% pool. Those in the 30% pool have already fulfilled the first date scenario.
Seriously though, you WERE joking, right??? Just trying to lighten up the mood of the crowd a little, RIGHT???
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 2:00:46 PM | "^^^^^^
But if it's a first date for you, it's a first date for the guy you're with, no?
It doesn't really matter. I'm no good with numbers. "
gotta love it. your math is spot on. | |
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Nona37
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Joined: 12/4/2007
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 2:20:58 PM |
I think there is a US /UK split on this issue. I don't
think 30% 'do it' on the first date here in the UK
Oh give me a freaking break! Europe is "sex" capital, ever hear of Amsterdam?
Sex is not a big deal in Europe as it is here in the US. I personally
would never pin one country or continent against another, but I must
say, I have always enjoyed the "mentality" in Europe as a whole,
they are far more sexually free there as compared to the US, therefore,
since you made that statement, I WHOLEHEARTEDLY disagree with you.
By the way, I dated alot of German men and I have alot of German
girlfriends, they all had the mentality that "sex is sex" and who
really cares!
Being honest, stable hormones and experience would make the
more mature dater less likely to expect- or even offer easy favours.
That would generally include people here on POF.
WRONG AGAIN! I'm honest and with stable hormones as well as have
many life experiences and I'm more mature than most for my age and
I will admit hands down, if I want to bang someone on the first date,
I will most definitely do it, if I'm not interested in a relationship.
Actually Hardball, you would want to date from the 70% pool.
Those in the 30% pool have already fulfilled the first date scenario
Oh yes, you would want to have to play games and pray to God the
female is physically attracted to you so you can eventually get
in her pants and let's not forget the fact of all the money you
are more than likely spending on her with dinners, roses, gifts, etc...
all with a 50/50 chance that she wants to sleep with you or not, yes,
it definitely sounds like he wants to do that one. (sarcasm) | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 3:13:15 PM | I actually think that number is probably higher! Ask around...some of your friends, their friends...it's not at all uncommon.
peer pressure can make people do weird things, amongst lying... looks like being equal, women become as boastful about their sexual conquests as men
let's look at the forum itself, there are a few who actually came up and said 'no sex on first dates', not counting those who just browse and don't bother to type anything, and the stats may be flawed by interviewing a particular group of people, eg, those who go to bars and clubs may be more likely to than those who are engaged in a gym, etc... yeah, demographics
I can only speak of myself, no matter what other do, I would not consciously engage in sex on first dates. I may give a peck or hug... 1st dates is to know a person under normal circumstances. Sex is not a normal circumstance to me, it's a special one. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 3:16:40 PM | | Ahh you have to be careful about the survey. Like how many ppl did they survey. What was the demographic, where, etc. I think def. ppl who put online ads are probably more likely to be more sexually active than those who don't but think about who places online ads. Yes you have dating sites like this full of regular ppl but also ppl who are more freaky/or horny and just looking for a good time will be more likeley to place online personal ads. Plus online things are more "rushed " in a way. But that's also kinda a scary statistic that 43% don't use a condom. grosssssss. That's y you have to be careful w/ anyone you meet online. But when meeting from online there's more ppl hence more of a chance ot meet an ***hole lol. | |
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Nona37
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 3:32:59 PM |
peer pressure can make people do weird things, amongst lying... looks like being equal, women become as boastful about their sexual conquests as men
This is a forum thread, where we can have the pleasure of speaking such things. It's not about "boasting", it's about being "honest". Funny how if a "man" says "sure, I would have sex on a first date", HE is being "honest", if a "woman" says the same exact thing, she is being boastful, I disagree with that. Being boastful is going into details as well as disclosing intimate details, being honest however is stating, yes, they would do it. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 3:38:31 PM | Absolutely true
I bet the odds of women doing the same meeting a man in a bar are higher.
Gurantee the odds of a man doing the same either meeting on line or in a bar are even higher.
What's the point? | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 3/5/2008 3:51:52 PM | I wasn't addressing what makes, or doesn't make a woman a "poor GF", I was addressing what makes a MAN a good BF.
Besides, the only way you can truly assess the number of "competitors" for a woman's attention is to be in the same physical location that she is.
By that standard the skanky bar ho who has a rep for sleeping with whoever buys her the most beers on Saturday night, when you walk into Joe's Bar and Grill and Bar, you'd think she was the very best GF prospect because the guys are all trying to chat her up/buy her a drink. (The guys who got a dose from her are home taking antibiotics).
For a man to measure up to MY standards, he has to treat ALL women well, not just the one whose pants he wants to get in. If that makes me a poor GF prospect, so be it. I don't HAVE to be anybody's GF, this " you have to settle for what you can get" is pure unadulterated bullsh*t. I don't have to do NOTHING, but die and pay taxes. If that makes me a bad GF prospect according to 'conventional wisdom', then I know I'm on the right track. Men that let other people define their choice of women , who go by "preselection" are not mentally/emotionally strong enough to be with me.
Cindy O | |
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