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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/23/2009 9:18:54 AM | | Count me as a man whose best relationships have been with women who had significant disabilities or physical differences, Tigress. I have entertained the possibility, followed up on it, and have experienced joyful and wonderful relationships. Not all men are the same. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/23/2009 2:07:21 PM | I think there is two types of people who have disabilities, the ones who whine and complain about it and the ones that dont, those( non complainers) I would date in a heart beat, they know there limitations, and are a confident bunch and I would gladly compromise to accommodate them.
Those that whine with the poor me pity my disability I have no time , patience or energy for. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/23/2009 2:40:04 PM | I have a little experience relevant to the tread.
About a year ago, I was matched with someone on eHarmony being in a wheelchair.
She was outstanding in her own way. Educated, good-looking, being in paralimpic basketball games. She was a pleasure to know and got me thinking if I really want to be in a relationship with her.
The answer was that her disability would not stop me from pursuing a potential relationship her.
However, something happened that prevented me from doing that.
It seems that most of people disabled, if not all of them are extremely sensitive. I guess they had some very bad experiences with the outer world and something of her disability showed in her heart. It was very hard to reach her emotionally.
Thinks did not work out exactly because she was oversensitive.
Would I try again with someone like her? Probably I would think twice. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/23/2009 3:15:31 PM | | I married my estranged husband. He qualified for the family medical leave act because of his migraines. We missed anniversaries, birthdays and other special events. He'd be down for days at a time, losing 15lbs sometimes. He was the most wonderful man I had ever had the pleasure to know. He rocked my world. He also had acid reflux so he'd choke and hack in the middle of the night. Leg cramps at night, wake up screaming. and a bad back with sciatica so his one leg atrophied. What a mess!!! No wonder he went through that mid-life crisis complete with red corvette and 20 yr old women!! I'd do it all again if I was the only woman. I also dated a man with one nut. Does that count? Men, listen and listen well...DO NOT PLAY SPORTS WITH A PENCIL IN YOUR POCKET!! | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 4/4/2009 8:10:42 AM | | Yes I would since I am as well but I find women say they will but when it comes down to it, more likely than not (by a large degree), they won't. It's easier to be the champion of a concept rather than practice it. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 4/4/2009 1:29:16 PM | Not only would I, I have.
Former firefighter who became quadriplegic. He is an AWESOME human being, and I became freinds with him after he was disabled, not before.
I will admit I wasn't crazy about how he was treated by some (or i was; twice I got um, felt up right in front of him on my way back to the table in karaoke (one guy and one woman) and once a guy literally tried to pick me up at the table while he was singing, knowing I got there with him), but the people who knew him adored how awesome of a person he was. Hysterically funny, very smart and always interesting.
He was not his disability; he was an amazing person because of how he dealt with it. I know very few more courageous people than he was. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 4/4/2009 1:31:28 PM | | After reading your post, I think you should reread #3..single moms. Sounds like you see that as a disability, and you won't date it... | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 4/4/2009 5:10:21 PM | I worked in a coffee shop in a local hospital for a bit and had a crush on a regular that was in a wheel chair. If he asked me out I'd say yes.
As long as the person is a person you can see yourself with, then why hold back | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 4/7/2009 9:37:50 PM | I think OP's disability is not one that you need to disclose before you meet. Its not going to be shocking and its not misleadin, IMO.
I have to say that I would probably not date a girl who had a life altering disability. If she had no arms, or something along those lines, I don't think I would see a future in the relationship. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 4/9/2009 2:30:36 PM | Would I? Yes. Have I? Also yes! Dated a girl who was legally deaf for 18 months. She had a hearing aid, without which she couldn't hear any sounds at all. The only impact it had on the relationship, was every now and then she'd have to stop me in the middle of speaking (only when she wasn't looking, because she could read lips and sign language), when she needed to change her hearing aid battery.
The relationship ended, but for reasons that would have affected any relationship regardless of her condition.
I also have vitiligo (skin pigment disorder), and have found that many women have absolutely no problems with someone who isn't perfect. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 5/22/2009 8:39:35 AM | | man its really a shame, but pof as a rule is not friendly to the disabled, I`m disabled, if you find someone you really like, and make the mistake of telling them the truth right off, they ignore you, if you tell after a few e-mails, they ignore you then as well, they all say, they look at the person for whats on the inside, horse crap, they all want perfect, what world are the women on here living in? they say they want to date, well what they should say is, they want to date someone that only exists in their mind, so then they can pout for not having a date, my disability has made me a better person, grow up ladies, and give the disabled guys a chance. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 6/15/2009 3:56:16 PM | Didn't read all of the replies but I wanted to add my own 2 cents.
If I had a connection with the person, I would date them. Disabled or not.
I am disabled myself, so I would hope that others would feel the same.
However, people are very judgmental and assume things without even asking.
I have had guys talk to me without noticing my disability because I was sitting. We hit it off great, and there is a connection. But, once they see me walking, they forget that we even spoke. Nice.
It's all good though. I wouldn't want to be with anyone that shallow anyways. lol | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:28:53 PM | Having a serious disability myself, I have had my share of men running as fast as they realize of my disability but I have also had my share of wonderful men who were patient and understanding. I like to think that my disability filters out a lot for me as it weeds out these type of men I wouldnt be ordinarily interested in to begin with. But yes it can create awkward moments at times like for instance a month ago in a store, I was busy reading newspaper and eating, not noticing a man sitting next to me, trying to make a conversation with me. I looked up and motioned that Im deaf and he literally jumped out of his seat and blushed crimsonly. I felt bad as he was embarrased to realize that he was trying to hit on a deaf girl 
Granted, it stings to be judged harshly but I know who I am and I really have nothing to prove to them. I believe that the true disability is of these with negative attitudes. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 6/17/2009 1:41:48 PM | | When I was single I surely would have gave a disabled man a chance just as much as I would have an able bodied man. Because I know that sometimes you fall in love with the last person you would have imagined. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 6/18/2009 10:38:18 PM | | This is hilarious. Everybody claim that they would but on the other hand, this site is populated with countless shallow people who are just to hypocrite to admit it. This is not getting any better….. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 6/19/2009 6:19:56 AM | | The majority of my relationships starting with my first gf in middle school have been with women who had a disability or physical difference. They were all very good relationships. I have been fortunate to have had several kind, smart, empathetic women, and creative women with physical differences in my life, and would like to have that again. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 6/19/2009 6:32:16 AM | | I too have FMS and am trying to date. It is difficult because people do run away. I try not to tell someone until the dating seems like it is going somewhere, but then men tend to run as fast as they can the opposite way! Not a surprise to you. I had a horrible car accident at 15 and started having problems in my late teens. People are afraid of what they don't understand. My advice is not to tell until it gets more serious, unless they too are disabled and you know it. Then the person has a better understanding of who you are and qualities that may overshadow the disability. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:05:27 AM | Herbal remedy,
I have a friend who has tried Recovery by Purica, has gotten her off all pain med's, find it at a health food store or I believe you can order it online..give it a try.
Kate | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:24:10 AM | | It would depend on the disability. I once dated a Deaf guy (as in culturally deaf/uses American Sign Language), but I would not date someone with say... ADD/ADHD. I just can't handle that. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 6/19/2009 10:11:56 AM | Everyone has things that others dislike whether we have a disability or not. Some disabilities are visible , others are not like ADHD that missainva says she can't handle.
We all have a choice to look at it as a negative or positive thing. You may think those that have ADHD have positive qualities such as high-energy, being creative, open, honest, engaging and talkative, and others may find you charisma, enthusiastic, sensitive or you could see these qualities as a negative, its all up to how you look at it. | |
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