| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/4/2007 8:30:24 AM | There is nothing wrong with dating someone disabled. They are like anyone else and shoule be treated as such and not be discriminated against because of that.
So yes I would date someone who is disabled and I have talked to some who have a disablility and there were both wonderful people and people that a person with maturity and common sense would love to get to know. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/4/2007 9:00:57 AM | | It depends on how disabled they are. For instance, if someone had to be lifted in and out of a wheelchair, I'm not physically capable of doing that. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/4/2007 9:14:47 AM | | Since I have disabled veteran plates on my truck, it's no secret. I'm not ashamed of it. It doesn't define me, I live my life the way I want to. The nice thing is, while everybody is racing through the rush of the modern day rat races, they are zipping right by the flowers that I'm stopping to smelll and enjoy (an example, because I can't smell). | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/12/2007 8:10:01 AM | | I think it depends on how you're exposed to the persons disability. In general I don't really think i'd care (as long as they were sound mentally and independent and not looking for a caregiver) but i once met a man when i was younger who failed to mention he was disabled...so it came as a surprise...although that may have been more the lying aspect of it. Confidence is key though... for all people seeking relationships. If you're secretive of something about yourself because you're afraid what people will think...naturally they'll think it's something worth being outraged about. Ie. I also met someone from the internet a while ago who "had something wrong but coudlnt tell me because i wuoldnt meet him"...and then it turned out he was bipolar...meanwhile... i couldnt have cared less...but because he made a giant deal out of it and talked it up into it beings omething horrible... it make me lose a tremendous amount of respect for him. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 12:03:28 PM | Hi even though I am in the mom catergory of woman I would date a disabled man My first realation ship with a man was with a man who was in a wheelchair . So I don't think having a disability is a bad thing to be honest we all have disabilities in life.
I myself am not able to have any more kids . and am a part time mom and that alone is a disability
good luck
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Posted: 1/14/2007 12:39:39 PM | | I wouldn't be bothered by a physical handicap, but I would be a bit uncertain of mental handicaps since many would get in the way of getting to know the person. I've known a few people with mental handicaps, and to be honest, I can't really see having a couple-relationship with someone with those kinds of handicaps. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/14/2007 12:46:43 PM | | Sorry to hear some women are like that, bud. From my standpoint I don't hold physical disabilites against people. I'm not a monster. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/16/2007 4:56:31 PM | HI all, as for myself I feel the same as the person who asked this question. I have a hearing loss. Was born deaf but can hear with a hearing aid. I speak excellent for someone who has a hearing loss. I have had to face those "normal" people that there is simply nothing wrong with me but I just can't hear.
Alike you or anyone who is disable face the "normal" people turningaround and run away for thier lives as if our condition are contagious. I sometimes have to laugh because I consider those people disabled not me. I have accepted myself as I am. We live in a society where "disable" is not "acceptable" to the majority of the world. I feel we who are disable work very hard to get where we are in our lives.
I can pretty much do anything a normal person can. I can't hear music. I mean i can but I can not follow along unless i ask someone for the words to the songs.
As for myself, I always fret how to confront people to be honest about who I am. Sometimes I will keep my disability to myself and let them see me for me. When we meet it is always a blind date, right. I believe in total honesty! I wish everyrone I meet would see me for my inner beauty! THey see me on one date and freak out and do not even give it a try for a few more times. When we chat we talk for hours and then in person its like that is it not what i am looking for blah blah blah! It seems all most people want is A VERY NORMAL PERSON> And they who do not want to give it a little longer ya know
I am sorry i ramble but was thrilled to see a post regarding this and hopefully this will open up people's eyes we are no different then those who sit right next to us | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/17/2007 4:29:32 PM |
doesnt everyone have some sort of disability?
You read my mind ;)
Personally, I wouldn't rule out someone just because of a disability. Keeping on open mind allows one to enjoy so many unexpected possibilities that I'd never consider just shutting the door. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/17/2007 4:55:31 PM | It would depend on the disability. If someone were blind or parapeligic, I would if I liked their personality (I have numerous blind friends I ski with). However, I would hesitate dating someone with a more debilitating illness. I do not have a caregiver instinct that may be needed and may be a little selfish in that way.
The reason I bring this shortcoming of mine up is to ask you to try to reconsider single moms. I think your hang-up of only having children that are your own is holding you back. Because single moms have children, they are already comfortable in the role of caring for others before themselves. I don't think it is necessarily that they know what is "more important" than a single woman such as myself, just what their life experiences are make them more open to a man with a disability.
Please don't fault me or anyone who isn't interested or think they aren't open-minded. Everyone has different preferences and people are picky on online dating in general. I get a lot of men passing me by because I don't want to commit to a long-term relationship at this point in my life, and that's ok. It takes a lot of effort to find someone that is compatible no matter what your looks or physical abilities. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/17/2007 5:58:05 PM | what would happen if you become disabled someday? that is the question you might think a lot differently when some kind of accident could happen to you..... | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/18/2007 10:02:43 AM | | I think it's a get what you give situation... if you are bringing your own disability to the table... you cant really fault a woman for having children and rule her out. If you want people to accept you and your baggage...you have to embrace others and their baggage. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/18/2007 10:11:28 AM | | If she was a beautiful 20 year old fitness model who loves sex and is disabled by being mute and can't say no yeah I'd go out with her (smile). | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/18/2007 12:57:39 PM | ^^^^wondering nightcowboy...what if she's just an average gal with a heart of gold and sometimes cant always please you in the bedroom..does this change your mind?....would you still approach her? hmmm...?
lets see...if he could sweep me off my feet then hes in some have physical disablility but there is also... the mental disability and theres the illness disability...an so forth. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/26/2007 7:15:26 PM | | HI , IM A DISABLED GUY NOT TO SERIOUS MY BALANCE IS OFF A LITTLE AND THATS ALL .BUT I HAVE DOUBLE THE TROUBLE NOT ONLY DISABLED BUT HAVE NOT GOTTEN MY DIVORCE YET . I HAVE BEEN SEPERATED FOR 20 MONTHS AND I AM NOT TAKING HER BACK. I CAUGHT HER CHEATING ON ME AND I DRUG HIM OUT AND BEAT THE HELL OUT OF HIM . LIKE I SAID IM NOT THAT BAD DISABLED ITS JUST A FEW THINGS I CANT DO. BUT I CANT FIND A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN THAT WILL HAVE ME BECAUSE OF THESE 2 THINGS . I WAS THE SAME PERSON AFTER MY DISABILITY AND AM THINKING OF GOING BACK TO SCHOOL AND TRYING TO GET MY RN DEGREE .I USE TO WORK IN SURGERY AS A OR TECH . I JUST HATE TO SIT AT HOME WHEN MY KIDS ARENT HERE . IT TOOK ME A LITTLE WHILE TO GET USE TO NOT DOING EVERYTHING I DID DO, BECAUSE I WAS A BIKER AND I DID GIVE IT UP FOR MY FAMILY BUT AFTER THAT I THOUGHT I WOULD GET ANOTHER BIKE LATER MAYBE BUT NOW I DONT THIMK I CAN BECAUSE OF MY BALANCE. I JUST WANT A NORMAL LIFE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN AND I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/28/2007 11:22:30 PM | Wow...so much wisdom in one so young. I'm very impressed HonorPrestige.
To answer your question...I would have no problem dating someone who is disabled. As trite as it sounds, where your heart lies, is what makes the man, and that is what draws me more than looks.
I do have a question for you though.... Someone here has a space where he shares pictures of his family....he invited me to view it. In one picture, he was sitting on a quad that had a disabled sticker on it. When I emailed him that night, I asked politely if he was willing to share that information. Long story short, he said I was too direct and has subsequently blocked me.... Now, I have a few friends that are disabled and I've been on disability myself, and they say that they would prefer people ask them directly, instead of either ignoring them or treating them differently. The question I pose then, how do you see it?
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/28/2007 11:34:29 PM |
Not EVERY disabled person gets grumpy when asked about their disability.
You're right. I get grumpy for other reasons.  Most questions are fine, if asked in a non rude & prickish kind of way. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/28/2007 11:38:22 PM | Would I date someone who is disabled? Would, have, and currently am. The first time I did it was with my ex fiance who had Muscular Dystrophy. That relationship ended not because of his disability, but because he was a liar and a cheater and oh yeah, gay. Currently, I have been seeing someone who is disabled, and all seems to be going well. . With one tiny little exception...
***If anyone here is disabled or has dated someone with a physical disability, could you give me a bit of advice on something? It's not something I'd like to post in the forums.*** I really hope it's not against the rules, I just don't want to bring it up in public. | |
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/29/2007 9:35:55 AM | hey i know how you fell i am temporarly in a wheelchair due to a back injury from a car ccedent. i udse to be popular and now all people do is shun me away cause my stupid wheelchair and i get so frustrated cause i wanna walk again but i caint any idieas?
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| Would you date someone who is disabled?
Posted: 1/29/2007 3:38:34 PM | I had a friend...the most life loving great guy in the world. He married a gal with a kid (bi-racial) he was a father to the boy. Well to make a long story short he was involved in a helicopter crash and was burned. He lost both arms and legs. This gal he married came to his room and threw her wedding ring on the bed and said she couldn't be married to that. My friend died two days later. The **** all of the sudden needed her husband and sued the Army for several hundred thousand and got it.
Some people are trash..............I hope you find a good person....look at that beautiful woman that stayed with Christopher Reid....she was wonderful. | |
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