| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:56:24 AM | | tho oscar meyer has a way with b o l o g n a...POF has men thats full of b o l o g n a.... | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:17:23 AM | | married or not, his inability to be flexible at all is enough to put *me* off. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:32:30 AM | You know... I had certain preconceptions about this thread... I was wrong.... very wrong.
Anyway, it might (and probably does) have to do with his schedule.
For instance, I work generally from 3PM to 11PM, Sunday - Thursday... That makes things kind of different for me... But, that's just me. I tend to get up at about 11AM and go to sleep around 3AM or so... | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:11:43 PM | | I love meeting people for coffee in the morning. I tend to sleep a lot and I love jumping on an opportunity to to start a day early. Meeting a stranger for coffee makes it all that much exciting. Don't judge too early. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/16/2008 1:03:50 PM | Hes married and thats the only time he can meet you before going to work without his wife knowing.
Why women keep falling for these weirdos and their demands baffles me. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:27:24 PM | I used to work third shift (10p-8a) 4 nights a week, so that early in the morning for me was Happy Hour. Although it was pretty hard to actually find a place that had Happy Hour that time of day.
It does sound a little suspicious, or at least unnecessarily rigid of him to insist on meeting at that hour. Lunch works (preferably on Sat/Sun), but breakfast is pushing it. | |
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| What kind of bologna have you been asked to eat?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:32:24 AM |
My question? What kind of bologna have you been asked to eat?
LOL, I count three and a half answers to the question the OP was asking.
The first sentence of the OPost is also a question though, so I guess I can see the confusion.
My question? What kind of bologna have you been asked to eat?
OT: I've only ever really been asked to eat the baloney being offered up in the forums.
My question? What kind of bologna have you been asked to eat?
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:58:21 AM | All you had to do was say no and offer a time better for you. If you couldnt compromise on a time, then there would be no meet. I hardly see that as bologna, just differing time constraints which makes you incompatible.
Find someone who is also a night owl. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:03:39 AM | | Seems like coffee dates have gone the way of the dinosaur | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:13:03 AM | Sorry I dont like b o l o g n a. But I have been fed a load of crap from time to time with POFers.
One didnt want to date after the first meet unless I was willing to consider him moving in as he didnt like his apartment. DUH I think it was his roomie he didnt like. Not that he said he had one, that was just my fabulous powers of observation. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:17:58 AM |
I think he was married and getting out early to meet you would have been much easier for him rather then at night or on a weekend.
Yeah, and if they hit it off, he was just going to date her at 8:00 am every day.
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:23:03 AM | The majority of people have immediately jumped to the conclusion that "the guy" had less than honourable intentions. Of course the fact that you created the assumption Heidi has a lot to do with it. Is it possible that I have read different postings on this site.
One reason that I can think of why "the guy" would want to have the 8 am meeting is because it gives a good excuse to break off. If things don't "click" you can both totter off to work. If they do, you can arrange for a second date. Another "inflexibility" pertains to the day of the week. You didn't indicate whether "the guy" had kids or not. I don't care how good looking a woman is, I wouldn't trade one minute with my son to go on a first date.
I'm reminded of the story about an old man who was sitting on the outskirts of a town when he as approached by a stranger who asked what the inhabitants were like. The old man asked the stranger what were the people like in the town the stranger had just left. The stranger said the people were very spiteful and argumentative. The old man said that he better keep going because the people were the same here.
A while later another stranger came up asking the same thing. Once again the old man asked what the people were like in the previous town. The stranger said that he had hated to leave because the people were so kind and considerate. "Welcome friend" said the old man - "the people are the same here"! | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:55:20 AM |
...What kind of bologna have you been asked to eat?
I wouldn't eat it, even if it was pastrami. The rigidness would've turned me off. And frankly I prefer to be in my cozy cubicle at work at that hour. So why didn't you just ask him if he was married. I've asked almost all my dates if they were married. IF they act that way. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:45:05 AM | Hi,
My ex-fiance was the BEST at feeding baloney. I'm just thankful I took off my rose colored glasses and saw it for what it was. His latest baloney was that he's not "seeing" anybody and would I like to go out again. I went over to his house and lo and behold, there's things there to indicate another woman in the picture....example a new coffee pot (and he doesn't drink coffee), another small desk still in a box in the living room,(like he needs two), and some new pictures that he hasn't hung up (gifts from someone) , and homemade Christmas ornaments still out, (and this is February. ) I said, I thought you weren't "seeing" anybody. His baloney was that "seeing" means going out on a regular basis and in a relationship....and that he is dating but not seeing several women and I got chewed out for snooping. Seeing things in plain sight isn't exactly snooping. He was also really good at "lying by omission." If I didn't think to ask or word something in a certain way, then I didn't get the whole truth. Why are men like that? I'm an open and honest person and now know to be on guard for b..a..l..o..n..e..y.
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 5/20/2008 2:37:41 PM | Honorable intentions?
What woman wants some wimp with honorable intentions?  | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:18:01 PM | | I agree with the guy above, easy on this poor guy. Of course he chooses 8:00 AM. It takes a good 12 hours to rid himself of that gawdawful bologna taste in his mouth. Yes, the one his wife fed him the night before. If you dare touch the stuff, you'll discover that digesting bits of an animal you'd rather never lay eyes on, would take you an entire night, not to mention a handful of pepto bismol. It was that, and the fact he was dying to show off his aviator shades. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:33:11 PM | I had a POF guy aske me to dinner and a movie ... AT HIS PLACE.... not HAPPENING...!!! So I explain to him in no shape or form was i going to met at his place , but perhaps a public place would be good.... he goes on to tell me he cant because he doesnt like people..... UMMMMMM HELLO... I tell him then perhaps he wont like me because i am a person (LOL)... well this T*cked him off and left him cursing me , telling me how immature I was, and grown folk meet at each others house and a bunch of other b.S........ ( i see people ) ...lmao!!
Your guy does sound like he is married, but I for one hate when men ask you to coffee at night, i'd much rather ENJOY a nice hot coffee and good conversation in the morning. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:35:07 PM | Your first meet should have a time constraint. Maybe this guy was tired of shelling out up to $100 for dinner dates. Maybe he's not available for lunch dates. An overpriced cup of coffee is affordable and quick. Since you both have to be at work, you get a quick meet-n-greet then go your own way.
I would totally accept a quick breakfast first meet -- just not at Starbucks since I don't drink coffee and think that fru-fru crap is stupid. I'm freshest in the mornings and can be somewhat flexible on what time I arrive at work.
I actually think this is a great idea! | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:15:38 PM | | Maybe the dude wanted to meet you before work. Were you planning on spending more than 30+ mins. on the first meet? I hope I don't get as jaded as the folks on here. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:40:37 PM | | you really think someone asking you to have coffee...@ 8:00 am ....is suspect....normally i dont respond to these posts....but this one i couldnt help...have you ever stopped to consider there are people ...that stop for coffee before they ...go to work in the morning.... and that not everyone...has the luxury of dragging their asses into work before noon.....it in know way means he's married...that seems a little paranoid to me...and if i were to jump to unfounded conclusions....the mere fact that you called yourself a "night owl"...and you dont get to work until noon....am i to assume you "must" be a hooker, escort, stripper??....lol | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:33:57 PM | I probably wouldn't have concluded that he was married just because of the time he wanted. I guess, I'd have to see more signs to figure on that one, though the thought would certainly have gone through my head. But I only date guys with pictures up because I can't imagine a married guy would post a clear picture. Did the guy have a picture up, too?
Question: Is it bologna if they believe their own B/S? | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:47:51 PM | One guy asked me out. The catch. We could only meet tuesdays or thursdays, no other day of the week was good for him ever.
When I asked what was the reason he said he goes to 3 to 4 AA meetings a week.
If you need that many meeting to stay sober, should you be here, trying to date people that, like me, don't even drink or don't have a drinking problem?
If that Bologna was the truth and it wasn't something like his wife has belly dancing classes on tuesdays and thursdays he should date someone from his AA meetings.
problem solved. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:47:10 AM | A woman is rigid on where and when she decides to meet and she is 'being cautious'. A man does this and he's feeding you bologna.
Good for this guy. I should follow his lead to screen out women like you instead of wasting my time. Obviously he didn't waste his time on you. | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:11:27 AM | i don't think the 8am coffee idea is a bad one for the right two people, but this man's lack of flexibility is suspect, not the caffeine jones
as far as my own bologna tales, the only one i really can think of is the guy who stood me up for a date once because it was raining and he "really doesn't do well with that"
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:32:03 AM | Maybe he works a late shift and wasn't able to meet anytime but in the morning. Maybe he is a morning person and likes coffee in the AM. Maybe he felt you'd be more comfortable meeting in daylight in a crowded place.
There are any number of explanations. Personally, I don't think this means that he's married. People are so quick to jump to conclusions anymore. You do have to be on your guard, but once in a while you have to give people the benefit of the doubt. If his suggestion had in any way compromised your health and safety, THEN I would be concerned. | |
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