| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 7/9/2008 10:11:51 AM | | he was married. dont forget that is the only time he could meet her. He was persistent about that time only. The OP didnt say he worked a second or third shift. I work 2nd shift, but I dont do it 7 days a week. Even if I did, I could meet someone for lunch, or a very late meal. there are 24 hours in every day, very busy man, if that was the only time he had available. He was not available during the evening or weekends. It was the only time the worm could get by with seeing someone else. His wife and family took up his evenings and weekends. You did the right thing, OP. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 10:23:09 AM |
My question? What kind of bologna have you been asked to eat?
Nothing out of the ordinary - YET!  Although my ex did do something kind of odd when we first met: She lived with her mother, and her mother was paranoid big time. It was over a month before she would tell me exactly where she even LIVED (we had to meet somewhere, or she would come to my place), and I didn't get her home phone number until her cell phone got shut off - FOUR MONTHS into the relationship. So that's not a first-date/meeting type thing, but it was very strange. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2008 11:20:31 AM | | Not only is he married but he's probably a fugitive too. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2008 11:37:39 AM |
My question? What kind of bologna have you been asked to eat?
Well OP, you know my optimistic nature (right?!), so I would say the silver lining in this cloud, is to be thankful it was just bologna  and not head cheese. Yuck! Patooey. Spit, hack.  That stuff is so gross.
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Posted: 12/9/2008 12:12:19 PM | I'd sooner meet someone at midnight than at 8 freakin 30 in the morning!!!
I'm a vampire!
That being said, who knows what his deal is, but definitely something is WRONG.
Why do I say that:
No. 1 - The time is not the norm but he said it was (that counts as a lie in my book)
No. 2 - The rigidness (a safe person would be flexible and work with you.) Mon thru Frid at 8:00 a.m. is NOT flexible.
No. 3 - 8:00 a.m. meet makes me think, does he work?
No. 4 - 8:00 a.m. !!! He's got to be kiddin'
I've made a date for breakfast before, 'cause I like breakfast and it's easier to get out of it if you don't have chemistry but in New York, breakfast is any time of the day -- we went at 4:00 p.m!!! | |
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Posted: 12/9/2008 2:50:43 PM | Thank you, Ameera! That's exactly my point. He insisted 8:00 for coffee was practically STANDARD (first time I ever heard of it then and since) and he was totally inflexible on another time or day. Wonder what Starbucks is like that early in the morning. I assure you I have no idea. But I gotta think, it's busy and people are trying to get in and get coffee and go, I just don't see it as a conducive environment for meeting someone.
Yes, I saw a photo, but I think it was sent after a few emails without photos. I think he said he sold insurance.
I don't accept emails without photos now. Not just because of that, but that and things like that. Hello! It's 2008. It is EASY and there are many ways to upload a photo. And if you can't do it yourself, a friend can do it for you or I'll bet POF will do it for you. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2008 7:20:29 PM |
I think he said he sold insurance.
*shudder* Brrr. I know, I know, don't roast me guys, I shouldn't but I put that in my "used car sales man/mortgage broker/ lawyer file". The chance of sleeze-ball risk is just a little higher in that file. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2008 7:29:16 PM | | Well not from this site but a blind date didn't want to meet in the resturant but outside and then wanted to "go for a ride". Riigghhtt....anyway I didn't and left. But I get your point. | |
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Posted: 12/9/2008 8:05:32 PM | Mostly because it puts a time limit on things. And if there is nothing there you can use the excuse, " i gotta get to work, nice meeting you". Kinda like meeting someone at the park, if she doesn't like the way she looks you just duck into the bathroom and run away!!! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 5:48:02 AM | Well, I've had good luck with the coffee date as I am an early riser and like the time constraint especially if the person is not what you expected them to be. However, a first meet should be what is comfortable for both people and not so one sided. If you can't agree on the first meet place/time etc., you certainly are not going to be a match! LOL!
Best bologna I've been fed is the guy that wanted to IM, e-mail, and meet so badly but would not call me on the phone. He had a picture and the funny part is, I remember him as a customer from years ago and we chatted all the time. So, what's the gig? I just don't get it. He claims not married, divorced, has all the right answers just won't call me. Obviously not a match for me, but I sure would love to know what is deal is just because I'm a curious soul. LOL! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 6:11:56 AM | OP: First of all, this is NOT the norm. Heck, I'm barely up at that hour. He obviously wanted a weekday in the a.m., so he could use the excuse of having a business "meeting" to his wife.
Don't fall for this crap!!! The nerve of some.......................
P.S. = I can't recall someone trying to "serve" me some bologne. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 2:01:35 PM | I never drink coffee (even decaf) after 2 pm, and do need my morning coffee! So, if it's to be a weekday coffee date, better early and well before 8 am work time. For anything but coffee, almost any time would do! My S.O. often needs the car, so you won't mind if she comes along, do you?
(BTW, it may have been trouser bologna.) | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 2:42:55 PM |
Not only is he married but he's probably a fugitive too.
For this comment, I will forgive the redrudging of an old thread. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 2:49:26 PM |
Please, skip the obvious. He's married. And I won't be meeting him. That question isn't even on the table!
then what were you sniveling about if it's all so obvious? maybe he isn't married?
your not the only person out there with a job maybe this fella has a schedule? | |
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| Coffee and Bologna
Posted: 12/10/2008 3:17:49 PM | This man was OBVIOUSLY so enthralled by you that he wanted to begin his day with a great cup o joe and YOU!
If I were you, I would have showed up without makeup on and in a robe and house slippers and then after sitting down, I would have asked him "where's the newspaper"?
I would have then walked to the bathroom and left the stall open and did my business while reading the newspaper, then walked out, grabbed the coffee and left, and GOOD MORNING TO YOU SUNSHINE! That will teach him.
P.S This guy was more than likely an unemployed bum who was probably wanting a warm place to sit that morning while figuring he would meet you as well at the same time. | |
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nona37
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Msg: 66 | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 3:51:19 PM | P.S.S
He was probably typing to you from the local library.
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Messages this short will not be posted! UGH! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 4:04:12 PM |
f I were you, I would have showed up without makeup on and in a robe and house slippers and then after sitting down, I would have asked him "where's the newspaper"
In thinking about it, I thought also maybe he wanted to check her out first, and didn't want to "waste" his time if she wasn't up to his standards (since they conversed by email, he would be only trying to see what she looked like).
In that case, if this is what he was doing, then it is so good that you didn't meet him. People who do that are shallow and I really think it's a waste of time to try to meet their lofty standards. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 6:30:22 PM |
If I were you, I would have showed up without makeup on and in a robe and house slippers and then after sitting down, I would have asked him "where's the newspaper"?
That's cool....as long as you don't ask me to give up the crossword I've been working on while waiting for you to show up (hey, I KNOW how long it takes to put curlers in). Now, if you wanted to sit down with your curlerred hair, robe & slipper wearing butt and help me with the crossword, I'd probably buy the second round of coffee.
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Posted: 12/10/2008 6:43:14 PM | What I find amusing is wondering if his wife dropped him off at Starbucks for his *ahem* meeting .... lol
bologna I've been served:
"You're a very beautiful girl; Will you take some coffee back to Toronto for me? It's for a friend ..."
The man requesting this was from Miami and we were sitting in a cafe in Columbia. We had just met. And it was not a date ... I feel very lucky that I was born the day BEFORE yesterday. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 6:46:31 PM | Actually david I was just going to broach that subject. I think perhaps he was testing you. To see how you looked first thing in the morning. Some women take ages to get it together, me I just run - messy hair and a bit of gloss first thing, taking kids to school etc.
So if I wasn't feeling like getting all gussied up at 8am he would get the unmade version of me. If he waited til later to meet me I may look more "desirable"..................
Perhaps as I said it was a test. Just another way of looking at it. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2008 8:59:48 AM | | That's a good point, spicynicegirl. I am not a morning person. I'm not irritable or anything, it's just not when I'm at my peak and not the "real" me, so meeting me then would not give you a good idea of what I'm like. I cope with the mornings. And then I start hitting my stride in the the middle of the day and woohoo you should see me about 9/10pm! | |
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Posted: 12/11/2008 9:25:18 AM | I think you should try to reschedule that date to whatever you like.
If he’s too inflexible he might have someone else. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2008 3:10:51 PM | Or he's just making things difficult because he's scared. of what? who knows .. who has time to care? (anymore, anyhow ... lol)
boo@mornings .. especially winter ones. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2008 11:12:49 PM | Holy Cow! Some people have to be at work at 8:00 am. I do not think his timing is suspicious, he just works for a living. If you work those kinds of hours, the last thing you need is an espresso at night!
I think he was flexible about the days. I always have a double espresso around 7:30 am to shake off my sleepiness. | |
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Posted: 12/12/2008 12:14:04 AM | | Linda I'm the same but I hit my stride a little earlier than you..............LOL | |
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