| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/1/2008 3:13:15 PM | All depends on how it's done.
If it's playful - that's fine.
As far as it being a 'red flag' goes - you can do that with almost everything.
Worry about red flags when they're real. Not before.
People are often very different when you talk to them & meet them after only communicating on here.
My experience anyways . . .
Don't go worrying about problems that might not exist.
I almost didn't meet a girl once because of a harmless misunderstood comment in an email. Turned out to be nothing. | |
|
| |
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/1/2008 3:38:11 PM | | Sarcasm is just one of the tools in the box. Having a true sense of humour requires using more than one tool. Are you going to eat the same thing for dinner every night, I think not. Spontaneity is the true judgement of humour. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/1/2008 5:52:47 PM | A few years' ago I was up against the wall with work and life commitments. So, I asked my daughter if she minded if we skipped the Christmas tree that year. She said fine. (we were going away at Christmas). The next morning, filled with second thoughts of what a schmuck I am, I said "I've had 2nd thoughts, why don't we get a tree after school today?" Oh my, she lit right up and I was sooo glad I'd caught that one.
We got the perfect tree, carried it home through light snow, singing carols off-key, with people waving and wishing us a Merry Christmas. Man, just like in the movies. Set it up and waited for it to "fall out".
The next night was hockey, after that I had a meeting, then hockey again, and then the school concert.. and then... Well, we left to spend Christmas week with others. Left behind that gorgeous tree, standing there proudly and naked.
Christmas morning my daughter insisted I open a card from her first. The cover was a mother and daughter decorating the Christmas tree with "Christmas Memories".... inside she had written...
"I just love our mum and daughter moments together. Maybe next year... think the tree will keep?"
lmao... the acorn doesn't fall far from the tree. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/1/2008 6:32:21 PM |
Christmas morning my daughter insisted I open a card from her first. The cover was a mother and daughter decorating the Christmas tree with "Christmas Memories".... inside she had written...
"I just love our mum and daughter moments together
I'm sure your daughter knew you would find laugh when you read what she wrote. My daughter is like that too. I don't see sarcasm as a red flag, but as a form of humor that can get a chuckle out of us.
 | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/3/2008 1:06:40 AM | Lord almighty, I hope not.
"I just love our mum and daughter moments together. Maybe next year... think the tree will keep?" lol, one year one of my mom's presents from me was a blanket that was stitched with "I smile because you're my mother, I laugh because there's nothing you can do about it." | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/3/2008 8:59:55 AM | | sarcasm is definately a sign of a lack of tolerance, and understanding. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/3/2008 11:17:38 AM |
lol, one year one of my mom's presents from me was a blanket that was stitched with "I smile because you're my mother, I laugh because there's nothing you can do about it."
I'll have to remember that for future use.
My mother gave me dog food for Christmas one year. We have a great relationship! She calls me female dog on a regular basis and I just remind that she contributed to my genetics.
Any kind of humor depends on the sender and the receiver being able to communicate. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/3/2008 3:53:16 PM |
sarcasm is definately a sign of a lack of tolerance, and understanding.
You're just mad because you don't get it. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 1:42:54 AM | "Negatively... sarcasm can be used to constantly cut people down and belittle their thoughts, opinions, etc."
My opinion thats not sarcasm but somebody saying something nasty and thinking its funny compared to situations the rise up and you can only joke about it. Its a distraction factor like when you say it the person laughs the next day. Like laughter being the answer for helping illnesses heal faster. When you think you should be upset only makes it worse. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 3:45:25 AM | | Yes I agree -sarcasm is just an excuse to be rude, really. In my experience, people who get off on sarcasm think they are hilarious - but their humour always comes at someone else's expense. Not groovy. :-( | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 4:06:08 AM | | NO WAY!lol My dad is the most sarcastic man ive ever met and he is hilarious!! I like sarcastic people theres a line between bein sarcastic and being out an out mean theres a massive difference. Dont send up a red flag just give them a chance if the sarcasm turns nasty then get rid!lol | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 5:33:36 AM | | Sorry I thought it just meant made in England. Don't worry have you ever seen John Clease and that bunch. Do they hurt u maybe if out of context. If every body thinks its bad I just have to laugh. Only a smigde amoungst hienz 57 so ya Sometimes you might feel bad but its not worth it thats the point. Always look on the bright side of life ? dada, dada, da da, da, dada da - Watch - flowering pots. (Faulty Towers) | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 8:49:53 AM | In my own personal situation, sarcasm is usually directed at myself or to those I know would 'get' that type of humor. I do however know people that are sarcasticly mean and sadistic and will be that way ONLY to help their own misguided views about themselves.
Everyone has their own comfort level with sarcasm...if you're not comfortable with it, stay the hell away from people that are sarcastic lol | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 1:19:12 PM | | Like everything there are different grades of sarcasm and clearly how one uses it with their friends should be different then how they'd use it with someone they've just started dating and then different from someone they've been in a relationship with. I'm definitely on the pro-sarcasm side of the fence. Not only is it something I use but I think women who are sarcastic become all the more appealing. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 8:27:17 PM | Just want to ask a simple question.
Out of the people that do not like sarcasimm, and those that do like it. How many of your have spent time on a sports team? "Locker Room" talk. Sarcasm is a way of life in those situatons. I my just be talking for myself, I dont know. That is why I ask the question.
So is it a red flag, no. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 8:35:36 PM | | the most obvious is looking at things are those we cant handle put a sacastic spin on it most typical Public speaking someone usually says picture everyone in the audience naked and I would go a step further picture yourself naked in front of the audience. thats not quite sacasm but I agree you are the best at being sacastic with yourself when things tough. Like picturing a curly tail when someone you feel like your fat or say like a pig. Then think how cute you were when you had curly pig tails and on | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 8:43:38 PM | | Sarcasm can be a method of conveying humor just like any words can be used for good or bad. If you get caught by the police with a pocket knife which has a 4 inch blade you can be arrested for carrying a lethal weapon. The misuse of sarcasm is like inflicting constant wounds with a 2' blade. Enough of them can be deadly for any relationship. Just because you are OK with sarcasm in your relationship does not mean it is healthy. Some people can bleed to death without even knowing it. I married a woman who was a master craftsman in the art of sarcasm. She was almost never aware she was doing it. When I met her mother it became much more obvious to me and when I saw her with both her mother and her oldest daughter I saw the epitomeof contempt and hate shrouded by an illusion of love. After about 30 days of grieving the loss of the relationship as an institutuion, I have never regretted she divorced me | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:42:49 PM | | But you'd think a true master would be aware of every move they make. Not like the bumbling idiot that somehow beats everyone by some fluke with his terrible jujitsu skills while stumbling around. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/8/2008 11:56:52 AM | Sarcasm can be a form of humour.
However, it often will be misinterpreted, depending on the recipient's mood or experiences.
ie: a humerous sarcastic comment about death, is not appropriate at a funeral.
 | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/8/2008 1:49:18 PM | But you'd think a true master would be aware of every move they make. Not like the bumbling idiot that somehow beats everyone by some fluke with his terrible jujitsu skills while stumbling around.
There is still hope in the world when a person of this intelligence can read a different perspective, change his mind a little ( i may have the words in the wrong order there ) , take something that several other people have said ( that many self proclaimed sarcastic experts DON'T KNOW when to stop, when it would be appropriate or who to be sarcastic to ), pass this off as his own original thought and come even partially over to the side which he originally opposed.
Nicely done. welcome to the brighter calmer peaceful side where you use your sarcastic IQ for a better relationship. you will fit right in.
A sarcastic ninja! ... nice concept.
The topic has never been about locker room sarcasm. Few people have argued that the banter between friends is necessarily a bad thing.
The topic has always been the negative biting, stinging hurtful comments directed towards a partner in what is supposed to be a LOVING RELATIONSHIP.
When one person is plainly hurt by the comments being made.
But the trouble is that the people who are posting don't see the comments of people within this thread. So it is only when they look at their own post and those that come after it- that they discover that this has already been covered.
Hearing every day- " those pants are getting pretty tight on you Martha, keep pounding away at the spaghetti! or " is that two pigs fighting in the back of your jeans or two rhinos? " gets old pretty quick.
Or, hearing " Looks like a penis...only smaller !" would be grating to hear... ( taken from some worst things heard on a date thread - it's hilarious,, give it a go).
or if her nickname for "you" was GUMDROP and she said it constantly in front of her friends. yeah.. that'd be nice. after a while, the women would figure it out, if they didn't immediately ..
and everytime they looked at you from then on.... hey gumdrop...
me? I am called jellybean... so it doesn't matter. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/10/2008 2:25:52 PM | one of the problems with sarcasm:
the people who describe themselves as being sarcastic or having a sarcastic sense of humour RARELY see anyone else as being sarcastic. They almost always or often enough to be a pattern assume that the other person is being serious.
They ARE sarcastic. Yet they can't SEE or understand sarcasm when it's being applied to them.. .
it's funny as they just go on and on without appreciating that they didn't get it.
too funny actually. lol
You all talk about anything you like. THere is nothing off topic.
I enjoy sarcasm. listening, being on the receiving end, the locker room jokes and whatever else.
I happen to think that even during the first few dates with a new person, if this new person is constantly sarcastic or says things " Just in fun" then it is bodes ill for the future relationship.
If the recipient is constantly told " lighten up- I was only joking!", then it is clear that the other person is disregarding their feelings of being hurt.
This then leads to more discussion that often goes nowhere as neither party understands the other.
WHY DOES SHE SAY THESE THINGS? is what he is thinking.
WHY DOESN'T HE HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOUR? is what she is thinking.
doesn't go well. sort of like Americans in Iraq. but that is something else altogether..
Go surge Go...yeah.. the surge is working great....
edited: just killed myfirst mosquito of the year... great.... | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 4/10/2008 2:58:02 PM | personally I love sarcasm. Although I consider it a rather delicate form of humor as it can so easily offend others. If all your sarcasm is directed at them, chances are your sense of humor will wear thin pretty quickly. I'm generally sarcastic towards myself rather than at others.
I don't consider it mean, agressive or rude. I consider it blunt, honest, and funny. | |
|
| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 10/9/2008 2:36:52 PM | I just wanted to thank you all for the great responses and your opinions on the matter.
ya know what they say Opinions are like ***holes we all have them. Some just stink worse than others  | |
|
| |
Home
login 
Sarcasum is just a free service i provide to the public 
