| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:07:36 AM | | A big "red flag" are these people that think every single aspect of every single person's personality is a "red flag". These people obviously have extreme insecurities, are too suspicious of everyone and are best left alone. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:38:01 PM | | Well we've all heard the saying "there's truth in joking". If someone is scarcastic to me, I don't like in any sense whatsoever. I think it's just plain rude. I know people who say things in a joking way, but you can see that they really mean it behind the scenes. If a man is saying scarcastic things to me, I would leave him. You don't have to put up with that. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:04:18 PM | Still behaving like a smart mouthed school boy huh cw35. I usually find sarcastic people who think they are just being witty are most of the time poking fun at others at their expence. Isn't that right there cw35.  | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:11:47 PM | Sarcasm turns me off so fast the earth stops spinning..
I would never consider a relationship with a sarcastic B****..... | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/10/2009 8:01:54 PM | | Awww. The poor wittle insecure people can't take sarcasm. Boo Hoo. Personally, I LOVE sarcasm in a woman. Everyone has a preference. No need for all the psychobabble because you either have no sense of humor or just don't get it. Grow up. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/10/2009 8:17:14 PM | Sarcasm is a sign of intelligence.
Most dumb people can't use or understand sarcasm. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/10/2009 8:39:44 PM |
Sarcasm is a sign of intelligence.
Most dumb people can't use or understand sarcasm.
I love you!
Sarcasm being a red flag is a red flag for me. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/10/2009 9:21:08 PM |
Sarcasm is a sign of intelligence.
Most dumb people can't use or understand sarcasm.
Biggest load of arrogant sh*t I've ever heard. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/10/2009 9:24:39 PM |
Biggest load of arrogant sh*t I've ever heard.
Hey, don't talk to my future ex wife like that. And by the way, you just proved her point! | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/10/2009 9:49:11 PM | | OP, I think you are absolutely correct when you say sarcasm is often a code word for passive-aggressive behavior. I cringe when people tell me they are "brutally honest" or have a "sarcastic sense of humor." Most often, neither is true. People who say that are just rude, cruel, and lacking in social skills. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 3:55:17 AM |
Absolutely. Do you think it is a coincidence that so many women here talk about having a sarcastic sense of humor? What man is not going to get weary of that after a while? And yes it is a form of passive aggression - NOT an attractive quality.
We went seven whole months without resurrecting this ridiculous thread. Some people get and enjoy sarcasm when it is not used in meanness but to point out the ironies in life, others don't get it and/or don't like it.
Is anyone going to win this debate, nope. Is it going to remain a red flag for some, yup. Is the fact that it is going to be a red flag for some mean THAT is a red flag for others, yup.
Carry on, we should probably be able to get another page or two out of this one before it lies dormant until the boredom again sets in and rocket scientists continue to resurrect old dead beaten into dust horses. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 4:06:19 AM | Ack, not the red flags AGAIN.
As my primary school teacher said: Think for yourself.
What is wrong with people these days? "Is this a red flag, is this?" How about, rather than looking outside for the answers, look inside. Only you surely know what you will and will not put up with. There is NOT an ontological law for dating and what is/isn't correct. It is entirely based upon you, what you want/seek and if you find that in the people you meet (and they find what they seek in you)
There are no such things a red flags. There is what you will take, and what you won't. Nobody is right, nobody is wrong. Anybody claims something "most definatley is a red flag" such as a SUBJECTIVE form a humour, needs a rain check. You either like some forms of humour, or you don't. Next thing you know, we'll be getting told that men who prefer to wear certain colours of ties/jackets are red flags, or favouring certain food types is a red flag. Just look inwards.
PS. Don't blame the sarcastic people for sarcasm. Blame the way the world is. If society and authority in generally weren't so damn hypocritical with their words and actions and didn't have principals with the flexibility of spaghetti then there would be no joke material. It's called observation humour. Humour does that, it is making a joke, out of the current. This is why these days racist jokes and the "my wife" jokes that existed years back are no longer as widely appreciated because for a majority of people, it just isn't relatable. Irony and satire most certainly are for a majority of people. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 4:58:36 AM | | Sarcasm in itself is a tool, nothing more. It can bring a smile to someone's day, or it can insult. On the Internet, there is a strong tempation to use sarcasm to get into little ego wars with each other, calling each other stoopid and stuff. That, IMHCVNO (in my Health Care voting No opinion), is just a sign of childishness and is an indication of personality. However, if you can use sarcasm as true humor, then that could also be a sign of intelligence. It's not the sarcasm, but how you use it that's important. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 5:55:18 AM | Sarcasm is a sign of intelligence.
Most dumb people can't use or understand sarcasm>
I love this!
According to my Brittish mother I inheirited my sarcatic wit from her. She always said it was a gift of her heritage to be able to insult someone without them even realizing it... It is a power which can be used for good or evil 
I enjoy bantering with people I know but I am aware some can't take it and do try to be considerate. Sarcasm is not always appropriate but I have friends who are always saying they wish they had my way with words in tough situations because I am not afraid to speak my mind! | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:41:56 AM | | I think people really need to watch racing a little more. Red flags come out when cars flip upside down and/or there's debris strewn for half a mile down the track. Rubbing the wall or spinning out and not being able to get your car started again only slow the race down with a yellow flag. If you can't keep your car running and keep bringing out cautions, get the tow truck to haul your ass off the race track before you cause a red flag for the rest of us, or we'll get them to black flag your ass. We want to get bag to green flag racing. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 8:28:57 AM | IMO, sarcasm is no more a “red flag” than parody, slapstick, witty repartee, farce, and a million other comedic styles. What CAN BE a red flag is the INTENT behind the joke, bon mot, comment, observation, etc. An asshat always speaks in asshattery, whether or not they “say it” sarcastically, sardonically, satirically, or otherwise is immaterial.
Sarcasm doesn’t hurt people, asshats hurt people  | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:15:47 AM | | I am very sarcastic and I am guilty of using it on this site. I like to us it to put dumb azz men that are mean, in their place.[or die trying] LOL In grade 8, I got the headline in the yearbook...A tongue is not steel, yet it cuts.I sure don't see sarcasm as a red flag. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 10:53:13 AM | | chitown: Quite the load of psychobabble. Not to mention insulting. There's nothing "passive" about it. Sarcasm isn't the same as cruelty or rudeness. I'm very rude and cruel and don't use sarcasm as some kind of an excuse. Sarcasm is just another form of humor. Both can bring pleasure in different ways but are completely different. Don't confuse the two. I know I don't. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 12:02:11 PM |
I have been thinking about this for awhile. I see alot of people decribe themselfs as having a sence of humor that has a sarcastic bite or being witty with sarcasm. I am thinking this is a red flag for passive agressiveness. Usually sounds like unresoved isuues or even plain meanness. ^^^^^^Holy shit...OP has mad spelling skills!!! (sarcasm)
Sarcasm can be a way to illustrate to otherwise hardheaded folks a point they might not otherwise entertain if you argued in normal "contest" fashion. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 4:26:32 PM | I love "this" ...
There is no place in a healthy relationship for sarcasm.
Some may excuse their sarcasm suggesting they are just kidding, or they don't really mean it, or they were just giving their spouse a "bad time."
The truth is, both the giver and receiver of sarcasm are well aware of the meaning and underlying purpose in it. It is a rather passive aggressive way of criticizing; being rude in a more "acceptable" way, subtly hurting another while maintaining room for denial.
Regardless of what one wants to call it, regardless of how one wants to minimize it, regardless of how one wants to pretend there is no meaning behind it, sarcasm leaves a sting.
Thomas Caryle once wrote that, "sarcasm is the language of the devil."
He understood that their is a subtle cruelty to sarcasm that hurts and leaves its mark.
In a healthy relationship, sarcasm should not exist.
If there are issues in a relationship that need addressing, they should be addressed, worked on, discussed. They should be dealt with, with openness, care, and concern.
They should not be harbored and repressed only expressing themselves in inappropriate ways either by lashing out with criticism or sarcasm.
If your relationship is filled with your expressions of sarcasm, best explore what is behind the need for the sarcastic comments and expression.
Once one comes to terms with their own need for responding with sarcasm, she/he can find more appropriate and healthy ways to address whatever it is that is bothersome.
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 4:36:39 PM | | ^^^^Total bulls*it. Sarcasm is a form of humor. When used in the above way it's argumentative and the sign of a failing relationship. Not sarcasm. Whoever wrote that is an idiot who doesn't know the difference between intentionally hurtful comments and humor. Anyone who tries to overthink sarcasm this much is weak and obviously dealing with SEVERE insecurity issues, trying to find blame anywhere but within themselves where it actually is. Pathetic if you ask me. | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/11/2009 4:58:34 PM | | sarcasm is funny if it is tongue in cheek but you have to know your audience, that's when it's clever | |
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| Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/12/2009 3:04:07 AM | | MMMM boyth some are funny sarcastic some could be deeper meaning. When I am sarcastic there is a bit of truth (tiny) | |
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