| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 9:23:47 PM | | perhaps he knows the type of guy his friend is and is afraid that if things go sour you will blame him and your friendship will change. | |
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| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 10:45:37 PM | OP
You two remind me of people talking to each other behind a Plexiglases window 
Neither of you know what you want, neither of you send clear signals and both of you are running into each other at opposite times. When one sends a clear signal the other is so nervous they send lukewarm signals back.
He is either embarrassed or tired of trying and does not want to be put in the infamous "friends zone"
Your friend is obviously a nice guy and gets thrown into that friends zone quite a bit because of it. If you like the guy you both need to chat about it. One of you will need to clear things up or the friendship will die. | |
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| get jealous??
Posted: 3/1/2008 12:31:20 PM | I think he's interested but don't want to go too far afraid that he'll mess everything up. If he can't have you as a g/f at least he'll get to hang out as a friend but going that fine line of not getting in the "friend zone" by keeping you intrigued but not too much.
Sounds like he likes you. Best of luck to you  | |
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| get jealous??
Posted: 3/1/2008 1:30:51 PM | | EVERY...PERSON...IS...JEALOUS...TO...SOME...EXTENT. It's human nature. ANYONE who feels like someone is going to take away what they have or think they have is GOING to get jealous. Get over it, the only way someone wouldn't be jealous is if they truly didn't care, which would make me wonder why they would have any reason to do what they do in the first place. It doesn't matter if you're jealous of your wife's ex, or friends, or if you're a friend of someone. Whenever you feel threatened that someone is trying to take what you have, you react. Applies to everything in life. There is no love without jealousy, no appreciation without it, nor is there any true feeling that is free of it. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 8:42:35 PM | I appreciate all the response! Very helpful!
I just got back from a business trip, he emailed me asking how the trip was and told me a lil bit about what he has been doing...
In my opinion, he is probably shy...and kinda of a loner.
I want to ask you all :How to deal with a loner ? to get him open his heart? | |
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| get jealous??
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:46:52 PM | Is this the same dud who talked about you to his parents?
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Posted: 3/8/2008 8:51:56 PM | I've helped you before with the asking about the guy wither not he's straight or gay didn't I? I'm kind of a loner when it comes to girls. I can never ask them out I can talk to her all day long in that "friend zone" but get to where I want to ask her out boom I go back to shy guy. I'm sorry can't help you out there but I will be watching this thread so I hope you find out so that I can too.
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| get jealous??
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:56:03 PM | I did give him some signal, like I have asked him if he wanted to hang out last week.
He didn't response it...
That's all I can do. I am sorry but I am passive too. | |
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| get jealous??
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:59:06 PM | | If you are just a "friend", then there is no reason to act/feel jealous. Being "jealous" in such a situation means there are unspoken words, something much deeper. It is something that needs to be addressed, or the friendship could be in jeopardy. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 9:21:14 PM | | Yea, I feel we need to talk about it...how should I ask him then? | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 9:26:08 PM | | There is only one way to ask....staight out with it, and be honest, but gentle! Trust your instincts....and make sure you look right in his eyes while you discuss this situation. His eyes will tell you the truth, even if his words don't. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 9:30:30 PM | | Even if he likes me, he might still give up...it's not the first time a man does this. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 10:23:26 AM | Show up naked, bring beer.
Solves everything.
Just kidding.
But in all seriousness, why dont you pull a guy move?
Ask one of his friends if he likes you. | |
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| get jealous??
Posted: 3/14/2008 10:56:46 AM | | This is a great example as to why most men aren't really all that jazzed with the idea of their SO having lots of guy friends that they hang around with. It's not that we necessarily don't trust the SO, it's that we KNOW what's in the back of the mind of all those "friends". They'd be in her pant in a second if they found her attractive and didn't think there would be too much negative fallout from it. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:55:54 PM | | I'm protective of my females friends. And while I wouldn't be jealous I'd watch him rather closely. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 3:13:29 PM | | All of my guy friends are really respectful and nice...none of them would even hug me or put one finger on me...I think they like me just as a friend. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 3:25:14 PM | Ferchrisakes stop beating about the bush. Next time you're with him on the dance floor just grab his spuds & see how he reacts.
A: If he runs off screaming to the ladies room he's gay
B: If he steps back a second & then steps forward again you startled him
C: If he doesn't flinch there's a good change you'l end up naked & sticky in the same room at some point.
& for other gals reading this:
We men don't do this "mixed messages" thing so grabbing us by the spuds lets us know where we stand without any confusion.
One caveat: If you're at a bar, wait until the guy takes his drink away from his mouth ^ swallows so he doesn't spray beer all over you if you startle him. | |
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| get jealous??
Posted: 3/14/2008 3:27:57 PM | If shes a 'friend' it's because im not physically attracted to her.
That being said, she can do whatever she wants. | |
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| get jealous??
Posted: 3/14/2008 9:15:56 PM | | I would probably be jealous if she was my girlfriend, but in that situation envy would be more of a problem. | |
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