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Posted: 3/1/2008 4:28:53 PM |
Being territorial about women is not natural, as you seem to think. Throughout history men have shared their wives. Today, some men will have a threesome with another man. Thus, if it were 'genetically hardwired' aka, natural, everyone would feel the same way.
That makes no sense, we're basicaly hard-wired to be heterosexual. But some people are not.
I do think men are tertitorial about the women they care about. I'd share a woman with a buddy if I didn't think of her as a "keeper" as was said earlier. No way in hell, I'd share someone I cared about.
Now, some men do share. But the reasons they share can be varied.
Some men actually enjoy being cuckolded. Just as some men enjoy being dominated.
Some men share their woman to degrade her.
Some men share because they value their friendships more than there woman.
Some men share because they want the woman to have more experiences and pleasures.
Some men share because they want the woman to share her female friends with them down the road.
Some men share because they hope the buddy or buddies will share "their" woman down the road.
There are dozens of other reasons.
But for me, sharing a woman would mean I didn't think she was worth hanging onto. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 5:03:16 PM | M_Church is quite right...and that's pretty much the majority view.
Homophobe is a misnomer at best. Nobody is actually AFRAID of gay men...what are they gonna do, break into our homes and redecorate?? Fear is not a factor there...but there is most definitely an ICK factor. Most men don't find other men in the least bit attractive...we can determine that they are better or worse looking than us, and that's about it.
I actually remembered another occasion for sharing...back in high school my best friend & I picked up a pair of Catholic H.S. gals and we had a bit of fun...while catching our collective breath, one girl jumps up, shouts "Tag Team off the ropes!!" and jumped onto my bed, the other girl then jumped onto Mark's and the game was on again! but we never really took those two seriously...it was all just fun & games...nothing one could base a relationship on other than a good harvey wallbanger...it lasted the rest of the school year...but what else are ya gonna do at that age?? it sure wasn't love! | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 7:23:16 PM | | ie been with two women two very hot sisters years ago and my god it was the most awesome exoerience of my life .the only thing i like better is taking some dipshit husbands wife and doing it to her and sending her home happy. since he is not giving her the good stuff that she needs to fill wanted. a married woman who is not getting it at home will screw your balls off until she pops like a cork and has the loudest and best orgaism you ever felt. and you talk about passion adn in every position you can imagine. end of story ...... | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 9:46:44 PM | it's true, some wenches bring on wench friend to turn the guy on, and sometimes to help out her friend. but many wenches do threesomes because they like p*ssy as much as d*ck. the captain's had more long relationships with bi wenches than straight ones and they brought lots of wenches to our bed without being asked because they wanted to seduce them.
the captain's done his share if tag teaming and dp but usually with someone else's wench. don't really have jealousy issues, me wenches just preferred the other party to be female.
since threesone etiquette was the topic, let the captain offer a few tips for apprentice seamen:
1-it works better to let your wench pic the other party.
2-never get so carried away that you ignore your wench and let her feel insecure. if anything be extremely reassuring and show her the most attention.
3-take turns being the one in the middle. the pitfall of you being in the middle is if the other wench gets all over you and your wench feels excluded. then it'll be a long time before that party happens again. best to start with the guest in the middle facing your wench. you can kiss her neck and back even enter her from behind. then put your wench in the middle.
4-save your nut for your wench unless she's pretty experienced with threesomes.
5-remember that if your wench and guest have a great experience, it'll be much more likely to happen again. be a pig and ignore your wench and it probably won't.
happy sailing!!! | |
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Posted: 3/1/2008 10:37:37 PM | I've got to say that the threesome fantasy is grounded in some kind of anal obsessive objectification, where one person want absolute control over members of the opposite and the same sexes, so they can feel like some sort of god while it's going on.
If you want to play along with this, fine... but realize that whoever instigates it could care less about your feelings. You're letting yourself be used like a piece of furniture to fulfill some jerk's superiority trip. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 11:52:06 AM | how much of what you said is based on personal experience and how much is based simply on what you've read an heard?
I've got to say that the threesome fantasy is grounded in some kind of anal obsessive objectification, where one person want absolute control over members of the opposite and the same sexes, so they can feel like some sort of god while it's going on.
most ffm, in the captain's life, was initiated by the wenches. no one had absolute control and it works best when the parties are more about giving than receiving. as far as fantasy goes, the captain did feel like a god when it was his turn in the middle, but each of the wenches had equal time feeling like a pleasured goddess in the middle.
btw, honkytonkguy, lots of good sex involves the rich use of fantasy. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 3:17:27 PM |
threesome etiquette
...yep, ladies eat first...  | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 3:36:24 PM | | FMM threesome, been there, done that, would definately do it again! sloppy seconds aren't bad at all, feels pretty good if you ask me and doesn't taste bad either! big turn on to me to screw a girl behind another guy! any couples in my area interested hit me up! | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 6:33:35 PM | | I say don't do a 3some if you have fears of being gay or bisexual you hav eto be very secure in your sexuality! This goes for boys and girls! | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 7:42:01 PM | Well... .speaking from experience.... say no more... really now darlin... is there really such thing as 'etiquette' when it comes down to having a 3some or 4some?.... I mean really.... if you have gone this far.....how can there possibly be 'rules' of decorum?........ way too funny!  | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 8:38:01 PM | yeah, rosewench, there are some protocols if you want to make sure everyone has a good time and no one feels left out. miss manners didn't cover it, though the captain's been told that amy vanderbilt, to whom he's distantly related, was once a wild wench in her time and suspects she was well versed on the subject.
guidelines simplified:
1-don't monopolize or exclude!
2-everyone gets equal time being the center of amorous attention.
ignore the above and it can be a real disaster. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 9:23:14 PM | More guidlines:
3: Change condoms often.
4: Don't touch me with that thing!!
5: Hey, wipe that thing off before you put it there!!
6: You want me to do what?!
7: Ahem, Exit only!
8: What? Does it look like I can chew gum and **** at the same time!!
9: OOps sorry, were done, guess your on your own there buddy
And the most important piece of etiquette in a threesome
10: Film It... | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 9:29:30 PM | Oh My!....
I find myself blushing now.....and in need of a cold shower! | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 8:18:37 AM | Personally, I think it is some of the best sex you can have....as long as everyone is a giver, and it is just sex.... | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 10:20:53 AM | | For the first time im with a lady that Id love to see have sex with another man while im there so a threesome could be a man and id be fine...it would have to be the right guy..someone who she finds attractive and nice body and a big you know what... but to watch her do things with him would be arousing to me and it may not happen on a regular basis but id enjoy it as well and yes another woman well we all love seeing that as well if our lady is into it with the extra one...would i join in and do something with a man..hmmm | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 10:51:43 AM | I've experianced both, both in causal relationships and with an ex hubby. Wait, he and I never had another man...but we shared women.
3somes are not for everyone...and it takes a certin type of person to be able to do this while in a relationship.
Most important thing I stress is to be open about the bounderies. Of corse it's not comofrtable to talk about this sort of thing always so I generally take ques from the girl if it's her man we're messing around with. I don't touch him unless she gives me the OK.
With dudes, it's pretty much the same...but for me personaly, I wouldn't want my man to see me with another man. I mean if he was into that, I would do it, and totaly understand why he's into it as I like to watch my guy with another girl...
It's just a touchy subject and you need to be very clear on the possiblities when you start having these kids of relationships. I have a friend who left her husband for the chick they were boffing...so watch out! | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 11:35:36 AM | im just sayin that if i was ever to be in this situation again, i would deff not be lookin to be with 2 men, id be open to the female WAY BEFORE even thinkin about 2 guys, for sum reason i find that id feel tooo weird, espcially if i was in a realtionship with one of them, how could he kiss me before we went to bed after everything was said and done,
but im sayin if a man i was with wanted one with another woman, id prob do it, u feel me, depending how serious we were......hopefully i can find a guy that would b happy with one vagina LOL
carly | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 12:27:22 PM | While my preference is definitely with a second woman I've done the MMF thing before and with the right girl and in the right time might do it again. I know my best guy friend and I talked about this a few times, and we discussed whether we'd ever do the same girl if the opportunity arose. There is a little more excitement I guess when a second guy is involved but it's much different than with two women. For me, it was exciting to watch another guy and this woman go at it. There was some DP action but most of the time it was single penetration with play elsewhere like most MMF scenes in a porno. I'm not into men at all so there was no male touching other than in moving around and such. No sensual or passionate stuff though. But it was a huge turn on to watch her get all revved up by both of us. And it worked out well because I'd rather have intercourse for a long period of time than receive oral, and the other guy was the exact opposite; he'd rather get head for an hour than to screw the girl. So it worked out quite well. But give me the option and 10 times out of 10 I'm taking the two women.
To answer your other question. If a girl asked me if I would be interested in a threesome I would assume she meant FMF, but I'd always ask. If I brought it up with a girl I'd most definitely expect it to be MMF and also mention my preference but if she was REALLY wanting to try two guys I'd definitely give it some consideration.
I think the two girls option is easier for most people to accept, even the women, because there isn't that total loss of control. When there are two guys the woman is often left feeling almost powerless. Some girls crave the power struggle and feel they can dominate both guys and order them around but I think if you polled most women or a good sample of them you'd find that most women would prefer a second girl in the mix for the experience and also so they didn't feel outnumbered. It's probably also a bit of a safety issue with them to have a second woman rather than a second man. For the guy the difference lies with an extra option as opposed to splitting the one girl in the mix. The choice is generally an easy one when he's posed with these two options! LOL | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 1:41:38 PM | I actually think that it is harder to find two women willing to have a threesum with one guy than it is to find two guys for one girl. I have been involved in several 3sums, all were two guys one girl.. all were great fun.. but none of the women were ever willing to share me with another girl.. I think that too many are insecure or just plain selfish... whats good for one should be good for both.
a mfm is a lot of fun and I'd do it again in a heart beat. now if I could just find a woman willing to show me how the "other" 3sum works! | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 2:37:27 PM | | First rule, do not touch the other woman. I dont care how drunk your girlfriend or wife is, it will hurt the relationship unless its just a casual one. And of course it two women one guy unless your a pile. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 7:57:38 PM | | mmm yep i've had a 3some with my ex and another chick and dont think i would have any trouble with m/f/m | |
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Posted: 3/4/2008 8:27:28 AM | how cum everyone keeps emailin me the best info but they are afraid to post it???? i thought we could say anything in these rooms and not be judged LOL
guess not | |
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Posted: 3/7/2008 9:55:53 AM | Op because everyone can read it and sometimes we don't want our secrets out in the world....  Some things are just meant to be private.... | |
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Posted: 3/7/2008 10:06:25 AM | yeah i hear u but cumon, i like the fact that in the forums u can say anything and not b judged u know
but wuteva makes sumone comfortable, id rather the information sent to me then not at all
thanks for ur post
carly | |
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