| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/2/2008 8:38:08 PM | Dear OP:
I grew up having dogs, love them. I always wanted to meet a guy who loves dogs too. To me, being a dog person, means you are protective, caring and friendly,responsible.
They are still PETS not people.
I just dated a guy who proved me wrong. I liked the fact he had a dog, it seemed to me he really cared for him and it made him appear as a much better person than he turned out to be. But then.................................He was obsessed with "Rex" We couldn't have a conversation about anything without him mentioning the dog's opinion about it like he was a person. I would say my favorite food is Sushi, he would reply "Rex likes sushi too" The first three times he said comments like that was kind of funny, enduring, but every other sentence was about Rex liking or disliking something it got old fast.
He referred to him as his only "son" and didn't dress him with those ridiculous outfits but he did have different leashes for every occasion.
It became clear to me after dating him for about a month he was the type of guy who was incapable to relate to women as equals, he wanted to control everything, where we went what we watched on TV etc. He wanted to find a relationship similar to what he had going on with Rex.
Someone who doesn't talk much and just listens to everything he has to say.
Someone who is always happy to see him.
Someone who pays attention to everything he does.
Someone low maintenance who doesn't require much of his attention or anything else at all.
Someone who keeps him company when he needs it and expects absolutely nothing in return.
Someone who he can critizice and made ridicule of but he will never be critized by.(Rex is a dumb idiot he has no brains, I love the retard!)
One day he got drunk at dinner and he finally confirmed my suspicions He said "If I ever find a woman like Rex I'll marry her in a second, I can beat the life out of Rex and he still loves me, why can I find a woman like that? Drunks and children always tell the truth, right? Mind you he was still in "his best behavior" because we just started dating, I can just imagine how he treats women after he has been seeing them for a while.
Right after he made that comment in front of another couple of friends and I while we were having dinner and while everybody looked at him like he was crazy I told him "If that is really what you are looking for in a woman you'll always be alone with Rex!".
I finally broke the news to him, Rex couldn't be his son either because that different species minor detail and it sounded to me he was more into the dog than into someone like me.
I said " I could never measure to Rex after all I do have feelings and opinions and do not like someone kicking at me, that is for sure.
This is the kind of man those women were talking about a total loser who can't relate to other human beings anymore and takes the last resort in a Dog to comfort himself and pretend to the world he is a caring human being.
I very much doubt you are using your dog to replace the love and companionship of a real, human person.
They are pets and great companions but if you are to the point where your ideal partner is to be like "Rex"
you have gone to far, no woman will enjoy having a guy like this in her life.
That incident completed the answer to the question I had a month before when I met him. How come a nice guy like this still single?
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/2/2008 10:55:41 PM | And the:
So all you have is MD 2020?
was a joke, try to keep up.
What about the:
... The other choice would be married man 3 pump chump who can't please his wife...
I can go 4-5 easy so I figuire I was doing good.
As a side note when your entire line of communication is steeped in sarcasm you are bound to confuse people. | |
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/3/2008 12:30:37 AM | It starts off sounding friendly and reasonable but changes quickly. Here we go folks strap yourselves in!
He referred to him as his only "son" and didn't dress him with those ridiculous outfits but he did have different leashes for every occasion.
I think Women refer to their pets as children more often than men and what's wrong with accessorizing unless his fashion sense didn't match your's.
It became clear to me after dating him for about a month he was the type of guy who was incapable to relate to women as equals, he wanted to control everything, where we went what we watched on TV etc.
So was he was a "control freak?" I hear it misused too often and this bothers me. Did you ever talk to him about this or just got mad because he wasn't a mind reader and didn't know you like a book? Some woman like a guy to do the man thing and lead, you probably prefer a whimpier guy that you can control. " Yes dear, no dear, I'm sorry dear, right away dear."
He wanted to find a relationship similar to what he had going on with Rex.
This may be the first hint of "It's all about me" and jealousy rears it's ugly head.
Someone who doesn't talk much and just listens to everything he has to say.
I think were starting to vent here. Dog's don't talk at all and they really don't like to listen unless you have something they can understand and respond to. (like men). So I think you are also saying you like to talk, perhaps excessively ( I won't use your post as an example), and you think he doesn't like to listen.
Someone who is always happy to see him.
Someone who pays attention to everything he does.
This sounds like you're describing how you demand to be treated.
Someone low maintenance who doesn't require much of his attention or anything else at all.
This is a glimpse of you saying you are high maintenance and require much.
Someone who keeps him company when he needs it and expects absolutely nothing in return.
We're flirting with a definition, in part, of real love. Perhaps these ideas and actions are foreign to you?
Someone who he can critizice and made ridicule of but he will never be critized by.(Rex is a dumb idiot he has no brains, I love the retard!)
So are his words or actions more important to you? If he says that about Rex and Rex doesn't understand the words does it really matter? Rex understands the actions it appears Rex is happy.
One day he got drunk at dinner and he finally confirmed my suspicions He said "If I ever find a woman like Rex I'll marry her in a second, I can beat the life out of Rex and he still loves me, why can I find a woman like that?
You were waiting alright, this was your "AHA" moment. Has he ever hit you or Rex or gave you any other clues that he was violent?
Drunks and children always tell the truth, right?
If you ask the right questions and interpret the data correctly.
Mind you he was still in "his best behavior" because we just started dating, I can just imagine how he treats women after he has been seeing them for a while.
So he was behaving like a gentleman but you somehow IMAGINED his behavior would change to something else with no basis in fact?
Right after he made that comment in front of another couple of friends and I while we were having dinner and while everybody looked at him like he was crazy
Maybe you misinterpreted the look they gave since you had your mind made up at this point.
I told him "If that is really what you are looking for in a woman you'll always be alone with Rex!".
Thar she blows.
I finally broke the news to him, Rex couldn't be his son either because that different species minor detail and it sounded to me he was more into the dog than into someone like me.
This is more an example of a short tempered woman venting. He may not be into "someone like you" From what I've read I probably wouldn't be either.
I said " I could never measure to Rex after all I do have feelings and opinions and do not like someone kicking at me, that is for sure.
Dogs have feelings too (so you don't really understand dogs). Again has he ever kicked you or Rex? Did Ralph ever really send Alice to the moon?
This is the kind of man those women were talking about a total loser who can't relate to other human beings anymore and takes the last resort in a Dog to comfort himself and pretend to the world he is a caring human being.
This is totally your opinion and makes you sound bitter and hateful but that's just my opinion.
I very much doubt you are using your dog to replace the love and companionship of a real, human person.
Give him a month and your imagination might make him an axe murderer because he likes to chop wood.
That incident completed the answer to the question I had a month before when I met him.
Sounds like your mind was already made up and misinterpreted everything he said and did. If he gave you money you might have said "he treated me like a whore." If he opened doors for you you might have said "he doesn't think I can do anything for myself."
How come a nice guy like this still single?
Because he hasn't found a woman that doesn't make incorrect assumptions and isn't needy and jealous?
Need to say more?
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/3/2008 12:44:02 AM | I don't know... from the way you described the situation/overheard conversation, she sounds like a beotch. But, on the positive tip, she might be the sunniest beotch around...
I live alone with 2 cats... They needed a home... I'm not heartless. | |
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/3/2008 8:54:43 AM |
Some people are just idiots, people that have chosen to live alone or with a dog are making a decision, not to settle, not to bring a child into this over crowded world, not to fake a relationship. If they will wait for the right person and are smart enough to entertain themselves, dont really need anyone else to make them happy, I say go for it.
Would they rather you have three roommates in with you to help pay the bills that you couldn't manage on your own? I like alone with a dog in the 30's. What scares me is alone with no pets in the 40's and no history of a ltr ...that's reason to run away. | |
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/3/2008 9:27:38 AM | lol,thanks for the replies,but it just seems like if you dont have kids by 35 your lost in a world of your own,i dont know
It seems that way friend. I'm not going to have kids until I find the right one for me. If that's the case i'll wait for the first woman who wants to have kids. No way!!! | |
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/3/2008 9:48:59 AM | Either you missed part of the conversation or these women were exceptionally damaged individuals.
Living alone with a dog? No problemo. Living alone with a nest of rattlesnakes or den of badgers might give me "paws"...sorry, couldn't resist.
No, I seriously doubt that adult males who live alone with a dog or other pet(s) are negatively stereotyped.
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/3/2008 9:57:14 AM | Huh? There are a ton of men and women living alone with a dog/cat/fish whatever.
If women are using that as a complaint in addition to all the other complaints we all use for not dating someone (other than not attracted or no chemistry and the bad ones lying etc.), it's no wonder some of us can't get dates..... Seinfeld....
I've lived with adults and children most of my life and I am used to living alone and with someone. I'd rather date someone who lives alone so I can get a break from my house lol. | |
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/3/2008 10:09:42 AM | hey nxt dr girl,,i love my dog but i make quite the distinction between my my dog and my human relationships,what you described sounds more like and obsession than a normal guy that like having a dog and likes his dog,c mon.i have to say that i dated a ''cat woman'' for a few months and it was almost to the point of ridiculousnessi think anyone that is single with more than 3 cats should have homeland security called on them,its not rightthe place smelled awful,then one day,after driving 3 hrs to buffalo to see her,i tried telling her a joke,and she got all pissed at the joke,i got up and left,if i drive here and cant have fun and joke around with you whats the sesnse,she didnt get my sarcasm,the joke was what does peta really stand for?she said if its tasteless i dont wanna hear it,im a member of pita,i said oh really?didnt seem like it last week when you scarfed down the chicken cordon bleu i made for us last week,needless to say i havent seem her since,moral of the story,some ppl are just wackos, | |
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/3/2008 6:57:36 PM | It sounds to me like..You are a normal guy living with a dog. Nothing wrong with that.
I was saying, unless you were a crazy pet obsessed guy , like the one I dated, then there is no reason why a woman wouldn't want to date you.
I hear you on the cat lady too. When you can't even tell a joke without them being insulted , that means they are meant to remain living amongst the cats.
Too many freaks not enough circuses, you know?
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/4/2008 4:36:12 AM | Are Sabinee and Fixitfred having a "lets see how many quotes I can do!" competition? If you both are-congratulations-you both added enough quotes to make me dizzy!  | |
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/6/2008 8:09:08 PM | | As opposed to what? Living with their ex wife? A couple of kids? Their parents? A roommate? Or just plain alone? I think alone and with a dog is an optimal situation. | |
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/6/2008 9:29:39 PM | | 52 and with a cat. I talk about him all the time so I guess im doomed to a lonely life. Maybe those women like cat guys instead! Im going to get me a embroidered cat sweatshirt and head to Applebees and find me some women who dont like dog guys. | |
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/6/2008 9:34:19 PM | [qutoe]As opposed to what? Living with their ex wife? A couple of kids? Their parents? A roommate? Or just plain alone? I think alone and with a dog is an optimal situation.
I myself will ONLY date a man who lives alone with a pelican.
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| single men in their 30s living alone with a dog
Posted: 3/6/2008 9:47:17 PM | | We don't. I don't for sure. It's a lot better than a man who lives with a randomly chosen woman just because he can't face being alone (or wants someone to do his laundry and cooking for him.....) | |
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