| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 1/18/2009 11:27:50 PM | Hey DDay, I like the way you think, man. All of your responses on this thread seem to be dead-on. You seem like a nice guy, so why the heck are you not able to find a nice woman? Go to the POF events. Most of the women there are around your age. It's easy pickings.
As for Coney_Island_Girl, you say that men are looking for the trophy wife and yet you look pretty darn good for your age. You're not making a good example of this argument, in fact, it sounds a little hypocritical to me. Now, if you were like 300 pounds, was physically UN-attractive and had some stretch marks, then I would say your argument is a little more credible.
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 1/19/2009 4:28:56 AM | Married 2X, I'm taking everything slower these days.
so why the heck are you not able to find a nice woman
Perhaps I have and feel it's nobdy's buisness?
Now, if you were like 300 pounds, was physically UN-attractive and had some stretch marks, then I would say your argument is a little more credible.
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 1/19/2009 7:44:41 AM | | i find mostly game players online on ANY dating site. plus lots of women think they are going to find the perfect guy and they often turn away so called normal and quiet guys like me. i see some of the same women on the web sites for dating 9 years later. yes hard to admit im divorced close to 10 years and i see the same complaints and people on the sites all these years later. if people would stop being so fussy stuck up and be themselves and get to know the real person maybe we could all find our significant other. i wish us all good luck and and a happy and healthy 2009! | |
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 1/19/2009 12:27:34 PM | Wow, that is truly friggin sad to know there are women on this site who, after 9 years, are still looking for someone on POF! Gosh, I hope that doesn't happen to me. Well, here's another reason for you noticing their profile: Maybe they DID find someone and they forgot to delete their profile? I've been on-and-off this site for a while and when I left, I totally forgot I even had a POF profile until I decided to log in one day.
Also, bigbob, you might want to learn to use PARAGRAPHS in your profile so it doesn't look like one big jumble of summary about yourself. I can tell that some women might lose interest 1/2 of the way reading into your profile. (If you are asking why I even looked at your profile...well, the profile can usually tell a person where they are coming from in their viewpoint and in what they say).
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 1/19/2009 1:25:34 PM | | no no no i meant to say the same people are ACTIVE on match, POF, american singles etc.. women go thru men and men go thru women like we are wonton soup lol . i see too many people going thru the opposite sex like we are worth nothing more than a meat market. im a 1 man women so i dont play these games but ive caught quite a few women in outright lies. sad but true. | |
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 1/19/2009 4:30:03 PM | | I'm sure the ladies say the same thing about us men dude... People lie, men, women, children... Sad but true, there's more liars than real people IMO. | |
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 1/24/2009 1:42:35 PM | You mean that most of them read something like this:
"I'm a nice girl, above average looks and sincere. Looking for THE ONE to take care of me and sweep me off my feet. I really don't want to waste any more time on writing in my profile because I want to browse the pictures and find the best looking tall guy that has a full in box and compete for the top 1% of the guys here."
Then we have the "I have no clue what punctuation or capitalization is" where their profile reads like a wall of text:
"im a nice girl above average looks and sincere looking for the one to take care of me and sweep me off my feet i really don't want to waste any more time on writing in my profile because i want to browse the pictures and find the best looking tall guy that has a full in box and compete for the top guys here."
And the over users of emo-cons... Etc.
Guys are guilty of the same thing though.
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 1/24/2009 4:33:28 PM | Here is what I posted in another forum that applies to this subject:
"Well, "in the search of" if women actually put SOMETHING INTERESTING TO SAY instead of USELESS GARBAGE THAT SOUND LIKE ALL THE OTHER PROFILES, maybe us guys could actually use material from their profile to start a conversation. I can't begin to tell you how many female profiles have this type of line: "My family and friends are very important to me. I enjoy spending time with them." Well, who the heck HATES their family and friends? DUH!! Who doesn't like hanging out with their friends??
Here is another of my favorite lines in female profiles: "I like to go out and have fun (or have a good time). I enjoy going out as well as staying home and watching a movie." Who the heck doesn't like to have fun? Who wants to stay home every night and not go out and enjoy themselves?? Double DUH!!
Take a look at my profile. I talk about my hobbies and I add a little detail about those hobbies. I make sure my readers have SOMETHING to use to start a conversation. Ladies, make your profile INTERESTING. The last thing we need is to read BLAH."
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 3/29/2009 11:54:54 AM | well,,, when you seek out young "hot guys" thats what they do,they look for booty calls.if you dont care to much about looks like you say,, it wil be easy for you to find a good man,,btw the coast line in cherry hill is a meat market,,best of luck! | |
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 5/31/2009 1:52:12 PM | Why is so hard to date after 40??? Because more people know what they're looking for based on previous mistakes and they're willing to fight for it instead of settling. : )
That and with the addition of internet dating now as an acceptable avenue offering millions of choices for anyone wishing to date....., many people don't take the time to really get to know someone. I've found that if you're any less than what they feel is perfect including one hair being out of place..lol......it's on to the next one! It's that easy for them to find someone else to try.
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THE PROFILES OF THE WOMEN ON THIS SITE ARE SO BORING. 99% OF THEM SHOW THE CREATIVITY OF A FEATHER!! I don't think it's gender specific...and something tells me you'd lower that number now with all the great friends you've made on here. *wink* I think perhaps it takes really getting to know someone regardless of how creative/uncreative their profile and/or pics are. | |
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 7/12/2009 3:43:15 PM | There are several things that make finding a match hard after 40. Some of them include fear, mistrurst,not knowing what you want, not really being over your last relationship, setting too high standards, being too busy, thinking too highly of your self, not knowing how to proceed.
I am single over 40 due to a loss by death that is different from people looking that had a bad or just ended a relationship. It is also hard for each of us to be honest about what we are looking for. One of the biggest thing is fear let's say you meet some one online exactly when do you take it to the real world here online there is a lot of protection and with the use of cell phones there is even a lot of protection talking on the phone. People are fearful to move things into the real world they wonder or as I say fill in the blanks from them self on questions they have about sho they meet online. Communication is a very good tool to use to measure someone by but typeing on a compouter screen or talking on the phone you loose what communication is all about that face to face the body lang. that goes with talking directly with someone. Taking it to the real world brings a clearer picture of who you are talking to but that picture may not match the one you have painted online and that is the rub. Online intorductions are great but meeting in a safe public place can put you on a better track to finding happiness then weeks of e-mails, chat sessions, and phone calls. It all comes down to risk if you really want to find someone you have to take some risk. | |
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| Why is so hard to date after 40???
Posted: 7/17/2009 5:18:16 PM | I just think the older we get, we just don't have the time to date that we used to when younger. It's hard to meet people if your children are young and you are a single parent. Most of us suffer from this delema....
People all around us say, well...go here or there...but that is silly and unrealistic. If you have to hire a babysitter ... you may not do it.
Anyway...The older we get, the more set in our ways and the less likely we will be somewhere to mee anyone | |
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