| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:10:29 PM |
"Hey _____ (choose one: Babe or Wench or Snookums), go fetch me a beer 'n' sammich." My ex husband used to call me "Sticky Bottoms". It made me cringe every single time I heard it.
I pick wench. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:52:37 PM |
My ex husband used to call me "Sticky Bottoms".
After the slam you just landed on me, I can only begin to imagine what delicious nickname you had for him! 
Wench it is. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:01:44 AM |
Now you just need to work on the ugly shoes sweetie! Wedges are bad, very bad!
I am always available for shoe consultation and instruction in how to walk in stilettos.
Hey Trix, if I remember correctly... I allowed you to throw out my cute brown wedges!! Ummmm... I could've really used your stiletto class when I locked my fav black heels in my car that night (and lost my key), but nooooooooo, after a couple steps in your stilettos, I was forced to wear.... ummm... what did I wear??? 
My ex husband used to call me "Sticky Bottoms". It made me cringe every single time I heard it.
I pick wench.
I pick "lover" or as an ex-boyfriend used to call me, "Sweet Thang" (he WAS from Texas!) | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:17:57 PM |
I had an ex who used to call me "Dog Breath". It took a long time to break him of this, as he insisted that it was meant with "affection".
How much of him did you break? 
Did he think he was Lucy and you were Snoopy?
Lucy! You have some 'splainin to do! | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:16:34 PM | I just got a verbal offer for a really good job. If it goes through, I will be switching the profession on my profile from "grad student" to "administrator."
It will be very interesting to see the difference in the responses I get. Nothing about who I am will have changed in any substantial way, but I'm betting I'll see a significant difference in both the counts and demographics of those responses.
So what do you think? Is a man with potential worth betting on?
Or, are women really only interested in what a man can bring to the party today?
When I was younger, I would have resented having to "prove it." Now, I have
a bit more patience and understanding, so if the answer is that a woman's got
to see it to believe it, I can live with it.
I suppose we all have our romantic fantasies to get over.
I'm wondering what unrealistic fantasies about men would women do well to let go of. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/28/2008 9:28:08 PM | what do I look for in a man?
Mainly strength: physical, mental and moral.
A weak mind on a strong body? Naaaaaaaa
A strong mind on a weak body? Naaaaaaaaa either
A strong body and a strong mind: Good for sex
A strong body together with a strong mind and strong morality ( =strength of character): Good for marriage
After all, If there is no strength-resilience and ethics there, why would I leave my single-hood? I can afford to be self sufficient. When I crumble, I got to pick myself up, that's all........I can gather the strength for that, but I would appreciate some help from the one who can, meaning from the one who is stronger than I am. It's mainly a matter of finding somebody who can survive me: I can be pretty destructive. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/28/2008 11:34:34 PM |
A strong body together with a strong mind and strong morality ( =strength of character): Good for marriage
And what if after falling in love and marrying he gets into a car accident or develops a serious illness which weakens his body. Would you leave him? Would it matter how long you were married? If it happened after ten years of marriage, would you leave him? How about one month? At what age would you accept mental decline? If you were both in your 60's would you accept it or would you leave him? 50's? 40's?
And if you should weaken in your body due to illness and he left you because of it, what would you think of his moral character? | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/28/2008 11:48:09 PM | Whew, Bob! That's pretty harsh!
I'm betting that a woman who's looking for a man with good moral character would have enough character herself to be loyal.
Flipping it over though, I would hate to become a burden on someone whom I love and admire, so if I were ever to become disabled we'd be having some serious talks about how I could get my needs met with the least impact on her. I'd probably do everything I could to dump her if it came down to a choice between her fulfilling her life's work or having to tend to me.
I'm here to do what I can, not get what I can. If I get something good while I'm at it, I'm sure going to appreciate that. You bet! But I'm looking for a partner who's also here to accomplish things rather than acquire them, and if I can no longer help her in her goals then I'd just as soon get the hell out of her way.
Blissfully growing old in a fairy-tale island of serenity and ignorance, surrounded by a world of trouble that I'm doing nothing to allay, is simply not my plan. I don't care if it takes me another 20 years to get into a position where I can make a lasting and positive difference, it will be worth it to me to do that the moment that I can. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/28/2008 11:51:39 PM |
Whew, Bob! That's pretty harsh!
And here we go with the negative spin. Thanks for the mischaracterization. I was curious alright? I've asked questions like those of myself. There's nothing wrong with me being curious about other people and asking them questions...thank you. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/28/2008 11:56:10 PM | Yes, but Ace will always remember the little people like me, who love him regardless of status... won't you sweety?
I am one person that believe in lifelong commitment, still, despite the odds. I would never leave someone over illness or something they could not control. I have left for things that they could control, like just generally bad behavior. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/28/2008 11:56:25 PM |
Flipping it over though, I would hate to become a burden on someone whom I love and admire, so if I were ever to become disabled we'd be having some serious talks about how I could get my needs met with the least impact on her. I'd probably do everything I could to dump her if it came down to a choice between her fulfilling her life's work or having to tend to me.
I'm here to do what I can, not get what I can. But I'm looking for a partner who's also here to accomplish things rather than acquire them, and if I can no longer help her in her goals then I'd just as soon get the hell out of her way.
It's almost as if you are saying that disabled people give nothing in a relationship. They they only take and are burdens standing in the way. That is pretty harsh. What about the love shared? I've seen couples where one is in a wheelchair and not the other. The love between them is something a lot of people would like to have. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/28/2008 11:56:34 PM | Ah. I get you now. I couldn't tell there at first, but it came off as pretty judgmental on my first reading.
So, since you didn't intend it that way, please allow me to beg your pardon!
That's my own bottom line, but there are all sorts of gradations and ways to work things out. But I would never put someone in a position of having to choose me or choose her life's work. I just wouldn't feel right about it. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:03:06 AM | Ah. I get you now. I couldn't tell there at first, but it came off as pretty judgmental on my first reading.
So, since you didn't intend it that way, please allow me to beg your pardon!
That's okay since I've made it up by being judgmental of your opinions on disability, I found a lot of negative attitudes there. Please correct me if I am wrong but I saw,
Disabled people are burdens.
Disabled people get in the way.
Disabled people get but don't give.
Disabled people prevent people from achieving their goals
Disabled people should get the hell out of the way. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:12:07 AM | Bob,
You are in the wrong.
I can't say for anyone else, and wouldn't dare, but I can say for me.
If I can't find a way to avoid being a burden, being in the way, taking more than I'm giving, or preventing a loved one from acheiving her goals, then my personal choice is to get the hell out of the way. And that applies whether I'm disabled or not.
That is my personal stance, and it applies to me only. I admire and respect others who find ways to work through such difficulties with grace, humor, compassion, and gratitude. But for myself, I would find the role of dependent to be intolerable--unless I happened to be with someone whose goal in life was to tend to others.
Stephen Hawking is an amazingly productive and awesome soul, and if I were in his shoes I could only hope to do a thousandth as well--though I'd certainly do my best.
So, don't go casting me in the role of a bigot just because you weren't clear enough not to come across as judgmental yourself and I poked a little fun at you over it. Sheesh!
Yet another reason why men do not reveal their feelings. Are you paying attention girls? It comes out wrong, and we get skewered. We even skewer each other.
At least, Bob, I had the decency to let you out of it when I mistook you.
And Trix, all I can say to you is ... please, please, please ... oh please!!!!!!!!!  | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:20:32 AM | So, don't go casting me in the role of a bigot just because you weren't clear enough not to come across as judgmental yourself and I poked a little fun at you over it. Sheesh!
I was honest enough with you to tell you of the negative reaction I had when reading your post and I told you to correct me if I were wrong. If I were trying to cast you in a role I wouldn't have given you the opportunity to correct me. Just because I ask hard questions doesn't mean I am being judgmental or unclear. I've seen you in many threads discussing many hard issues. I trusted that you could handle the hard questions. | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:58:52 AM |
And Trix, all I can say to you is ... please, please, please ... oh please!!!!!!!!! OK honey, just this once... | |
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| What women are looking for in men.
Posted: 5/29/2008 1:45:25 AM |
I've seen you in many threads discussing many hard issues. I trusted that you could handle the hard questions.
Some days better than others I guess! 
Love ya', Bob! | |
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