| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 5:11:34 PM | My ex and I stayed friends so yes every now and then I think of him. Not as in wanting to go back, just as I would any other long distance friend. We didn't have a bad marriage and he isn't a bad guy. Just grew apart over the years we were married. Worked different shifts and probably both could have tried harder.
I wish him the best in life as I would anyone else.
Live and learn. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 5:18:56 PM | I do think of my ex...but only in the context of how lucky I am he found someone else while we were married. It was hard when he left..but boy what a favor he did me in the end. I am much, much happier alone than I ever was married to him. It took a long time to get over the years of verbal abuse but it has made me stronger and I won't settle again! I am now very, very aware of what I want in my next relationship and will stay alone rather than settle! | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 5:21:13 PM | | I think about my ex almost every day. Sometimes I think about the good times and sometimes I think about the bad times. The thing is, ALL men are going to have things about them we don't like. I think you sound like me, we are looking for a perfect guy. We might as well realize, they don't exist, but then, there are no perfect women for the guys either. There are things we are all going to dislike about one another, no matter how many guys we go through. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 5:39:27 PM | | My son's father I have to think of because of who he is. Part of me feels sorry for him because his life is such a mess, but it's a mess of his own making. I'm grateful not to be mired in that mess. Now there are two boyfriends from my past that I think of fondly and hope that they are happy. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 6:01:15 PM | | I hate it but I do. It was not a healthy relationship, but I loved him anyway. I pray everyday that I will stop! | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 6:19:42 PM | | msgs#14,#18, --good posts!----I think we all gaze back in fondness to an earlier time,when we were younger, sexier,had more attractive partners,but Imust concur with all posts stating I wouldn't go back for the world... | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 6:23:21 PM | I don't think of my ex-wife. She left me, nearly 20 years ago, for another man. We don't communicate. I haven't seen here is 5+ years.
But a few weeks ago my daughter said my ex-wife had a TIA, transient ischemic attack, a mini-stroke. From somewhere, totally unforeseen, I got hit with a huge upwelling of feeling and sympathy. She was always such healthy, energetic, fearless horse of woman. I can't imagine her any other way, nor not being "there", even if 5000 miles away. You just never know what cards you'll be dealt.
She seems to be OK. Maybe finally she'll quit smoking other people's cigarettes after a meal. :) | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 6:25:48 PM | | I have the belief that once you love someone you will always love them. You may have moved on in you life - away from them because of situations that were difficult and not healthy - but that love will always be there. Life is short and you should not settle in a relationship that eats you away in some manner. There really is that perfect someone out there - so why not search for them if your heart tells you to!! | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 6:33:37 PM | My ex husband rarely crosses my mind, but we've been apart for 14 years and divorced for 11. While I did spend a few years hating him (early separation/divorce), before long I realized if you get past the bad feelings it makes sharing parenting so much better for all involved. Our kids are older now and he and I really have no reason to need to talk....so we don't. He has a nice long-time g/f and they are a good match, so I guess I'd venture to say I'm happy for him...it's made him a better person for sure.
SunnyD | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/5/2008 9:05:07 PM | There are two ex's that I think about once in a while. I don't try to get in contact with them or even pine for them.
They had a positive impact in my life and, while things didn't work out for the two of us, I wish them well. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 1:52:06 AM | I was married 25 years with 5 kids...and gave it everything. |Blew up a few times and nearly got stabbed too..but my ex knows she made a mistake expecting Mr Perfect (but won't say it in words-Denial).
I dream of the family often and wake up with her close words in my ears..
I don't love her anymore...too painful, but I loved the world we had- in my hopes and plans for the kids..now they are scattered and single too.
So, mixed feelings sure- but the pain will never go.
Legal Aid was loansharking the family away for many women hitting the mid forties 'mental black spot' -known to precede the menopause by 5 years.
I learnt that later- but it would not have made much difference- as my suggestions for medical intervention were rejected out of hand.
No doubt a few people have the ability to walk away and never look back..but many can't manage that comfortable stance, much as we'd like to! | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 8:58:14 AM | Thoughts pass through my mind when I dredge a memory, and I get a bad case of foul gas. I loathe that EVIL B!TCH, and I look forward to the day I can go to her funeral, knowing that she successfully made the inevitable and deserving transition to hell.
"Bitter," you say?
"My most gracious comment," say I. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 9:22:15 AM | | Sometimes I think of him. I did love him dearly. Would I ever go back? HELL NO. This new found freedom I have is better than ever being married. At least to him. He had addiction issues. If he was clean and straight maybe. But I know it was detrimental for me and not the least bit healthy. So I try real hard not to think of him. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 9:42:49 AM | Maybe it's caused when the sun is slanting in the window just right and you catch the fragrance of something on the breeze - for a second you are caught up in those memories.
Sometimes you smile and you savor it for a while, remembering those feelings and that time in your life.
It's the same whether it's a chilhood memory or a married one. We blur the bad parts out and remember the sweet.
Do I think about the good times? Yes. Of course, we all do.
It sounds like you have a pretty good grasp on how you feel about the whole situation, though. It doesn't hurt for you to be a bit nostalgic in this case, so long as it isn't affecting your daily life and other relationships.
However, if this is happening to you a lot and talking to your ex DOESN'T bring about a reality check as to why you aren't together - you really had better consider remedying that situation and try to reconcile.
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:16:56 AM | | Occasionally I think about him, I mean I still remember good times we had, but now the memories are kind of tainted with bad things..... we have a son together though, so I think some part of me will always think about him..I mean especially when my son looks like him. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:19:25 AM | | I agree with Mr. Mysterious. It sure stings when you were with someone for a significant amount of time and they began to treat you like you were nothing. I also would like to forgive him, but it's been rough. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:29:29 AM | Truthfully, I think you will always on occasion think of your ex whether it was bad or not. In my case my divorce was just over a year ago, and I still love my ex dearly. I have my own place but have been staying with him for the last month ( to heal from medical problems). No we are not back together but the thought has crossed my mind. I dont feel like I settled when I was with him, we actually had a great relationship for the most part and now that we are divorced we have an even better one. Its strange however knowing he is also on this dating site lol but even though yes I do get jealous when I hear his phone go off and the same goes for him, we are both starting to realize that we ARE single and try our hardest to support one another.
Answer: Yes I do and always will. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:33:45 AM | | Occasionally when I get horny! Then I also think that if I had went ahead and killed the **** back then, I may have been out by now! | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 11:13:22 AM | | I still think about my ex fiance even though that was 15 yrs ago. We where really close and we connected so well. To this day I have never felt the feelings i had for her that I have when with another partner.She will always have a special place in my heart. When I think of her I always say to my self "I hope she is safe, well, and happy." | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 11:30:51 AM | | I do and it still upsets me. We've been split up for about 3 months now. Yet I still know that he's on holiday in Australia right now visiting his brother. But the only reason it hurts is because the reason we're not together anymore is because he cheated on me and told me three weeks later, two days before christmas, after i'd gotten back from my holiday in Canada. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 11:35:03 AM | | Yes, in a why did I go back for a second round only to be thrashed again, I hate the slimly b***h, I cnan't believe I am writing another check, keep your as****e boyfriend away from my kid if he hits him again I will personally remove him from the planet, kinda way. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/6/2008 12:04:55 PM | Yes. Everybody does. There is no pill for that.
Ah, but there is ALMOST a pill for that. Scientists are working on a memory erasing pill, and here's how it works. I'm not a scientist, so forgive the lack of exactness, please. This is the general theory. When you are in the middle of a painful episode, you release a certain element or combination of elements (adrenalin?--i don't know). When you recall an extremely painful memory, the body gets confused and releases that same element(s). The anxiety and pain you feel at recollection are actually a physical reproduction of the event. When you are recalling an event, you take the pill and this pill detects that element and reduces it. With the reduction of the element, the recall of the event becomes less traumatic and there is less psychological temptation and twisted attraction to recall the tragic event.
The scientists intend to use it to treat soldiers, rape victims, abused children, people who witness murders, along those lines. There is a fear, though, that people will want to use it to forget ex spouses, tragically ending love affairs, that sort of thing. Where will the line be drawn?
I just hope it will be over-the-counter. | |
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