| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 10:31:28 AM | Why the hell not? Sex is just sex. It's not the end-all be-all of existence and I think that's where too many people, especially those who aren't getting it, make a mistake.
Ever noticed how the most sexually judgemental people are ironically the ones you wouldn't want to f*ck anyway? I think it's Darwin's theory at work.
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 10:36:30 AM | well now a day sex on te first date is ok, but some men will think your easy and if that is what you did with him how many more men have you been that way with. i three dates then sex is acceptable, but not the first night unless you just wanted sex only.  | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 4:10:03 PM | | I'll be damned if I would expect that on a first date. Absolutely disrespectful so I can't say what I would do. Kinda repulsive to think women think its ok. Doesn't say much for women. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 5:21:56 PM | (/if she's throwing it at me, then she'd probably do it with anyone and I'm not interested in that kind of mate. )
What if you talked on line for over 80 hours and finally met, and she had not been withanyone for over 5 years and your conversations led her to be so hot for you that when she met you and being as good looking as you are she just could not help herself? | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 8:11:34 PM | For most guys like myself the answer is NO! For those who haven't and/or aren't getting it often, then yes, they will call, but only for sex.
Now the reasons why I give you a No is this. For one, any guy can get laid. It's not hard. I don't want a girl to put out on the 1st date, or even the next few dates either. I want the challenge! If you just give it up, without a challenge, thats boring. Another reason is, I am going to question how much self respect you have for yourself.
Now don't get me wrong, if both people are just looking to have a good time, fine, whatever, have sex. But if one (the girl) is thinking about a relationship...the last thing she should do is put out on the 1st date. For real.
Just my thoughts.
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 8:25:38 PM |
Buy a box of condoms and some coat hangers and start messin around dude!
Darlin', I gotta know. Coat hangers?
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 8:44:45 PM |
Buy a box of condoms and some coat hangers and start messin around dude!
Darlin', I gotta know. Coat hangers?
To hang on the outside of the door to their dorm room.... the ol' college "do not disturb" sign. Of course, I've only read about such happenings as I never "put out" on a first date.... at least not in college. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 9:08:43 PM |
To hang on the outside of the door to their dorm room.... the ol' college "do not disturb" sign. Of course, I've only read about such happenings as I never "put out" on a first date.... at least not in college.
...I have to admit, that's a far more wholesome interpretation of "pregnancy" and "coat hanger" than I am normally comfortable with.
It's my assumption that the coat hanger is for when the condom fails. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 10:22:52 PM | [well now a day sex on te first date is ok, but some men will think your easy and if that is what you did with him how many more men have you been that way with. i three dates then sex is acceptable, but not the first night unless you just wanted sex only.]
Q37,
That's what I don't get....why the hell does it matter if a woman has had a few sexual partners before you?? Is a man that insecure with his prowess in bed that he feels thereatened by a woman who enjoys sex, just like most men do?? Another stupid double standard that I will never ever understand or accept...sorry!
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/5/2008 10:31:59 PM | [C'mon, fess up guys. Have you ever had sex with a woman on the first date and afterwards thought to yourself: "I don't think she's relationship material. She's kind of a slut."
It's a nasty double standard, and entirely unfair but it happens.]
Heathenspririt,
Yes....it is a double standard and you admit it....so why adhere to it? Contrary to popular belief, a person (who questions things) can go against the grain of out-dated so called 'standards' and try to evolve their way of thinking a bit. If you try to accept that men and women are equal, surely you could consider that values 'labels' should be equal too! If you agree that its a double standard to label a woman a slut, just because that's the way it's always been, why can't you simply choose NOT to accept that hypocrisy??
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/6/2008 5:05:49 AM | | wut if all that physical attraction was predetermined during IM....e-mails? was there flirting? teasing? sexual inuendos during their coversations? besides sex onna 1st date is still, even this day n age to have a double standard. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/6/2008 5:27:44 AM |
If you try to accept that men and women are equal, surely you could consider that values 'labels' should be equal too! If you agree that its a double standard to label a woman a slut, just because that's the way it's always been, why can't you simply choose NOT to accept that hypocrisy??
Exactly. I find that so gaw-diddly-damned idiotic to hear a guy say "Yeah, I picked this slut up at the bar last night..."
Because the very first thought that runs through my head, and more often than not spills right out over my pearly whites is "So did *she*, dude. So did she."
You cannot have you cake and eat her... err, "it" too. ;-)
Sure, there are some with good classic Christian values in here, who would never do that, and if they want to use the word 'harlot' or 'jezebel' or whatever, safely from the mount amid the tablet fragments when talking about slatterns like us ;-), go ahead, you have that very god given right.
The very microsecond, though, your lips... or any other compatible body parts meet, you are *EQUAL* from then on. The moral high ground is lost. Least that's the view from down here at the campfire...
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/6/2008 5:47:28 AM | you know this is really a touchy subject..because in todays society with women, we are damned if we do and damned if we dont. if we meet up, have a great date, nice conversation, great body language throwing off sexual attraction to one another, then of course there is probably going to be some type of play. i guess we just have to go with our gut instinct, because some men feel that yes, damn she put out on the first date with me, so i know she does it with everyone else. so now hes not interested. on the other hand, we have the same great date with all that goes with it, things get heated up, and we dont put out, some men get turned off, so men really put women in predictaments, not saying all men, but a good portion of them. and cant leave out the women, cuz women do this too.
same applies to convo over the phone, some men want to jump right into sexual talk if they are attracted to you, so if a woman engages in it, then they get turned off, thinking ur some kind of hoe...well cmon now, we are all adults, if you cant get passed this shit, that having sex on the first date is ok and totally acceptable, then i dont feel that a dating site may be the way to go for some. it doesnt mean that a woman, like one man put, "spreads" herself around, it means that she may be into you. or it could mean that yes, she just wants to get laid. men been doing it for years. and will continue to do it as well. if you dont want a woman to put out on the first date, then keep ur hands and everything else to yourself, on the first date... | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/6/2008 7:16:13 AM |
like one man put, "spreads" herself around, it means that she may be into you.
That's exactly how I took it. I want her to be so into me that she wants to, even if she doesn't on the first date, it's really flattering to know that she at least wanted to. If she does and I agree then how the hell can I judge her for doing exactly what I wanted to do as well?
Some guys need to just get over themselves and try to look past that antiquated value system that is turning our societies into a bunch of hypocrites. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:40:28 AM | Ever noticed how the most sexually judgemental people are ironically the ones you wouldn't want to f*ck anyway? I think it's Darwin's theory at work.
Ok textodd, that's the funniest thing I've read all day! | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/6/2008 2:36:15 PM | You men mean to tell me, that if I had passed gas and 'put out' on the first date, I could very well be on my way to 'happily hitched' by now? Geez Louise! You men and the way you keep secrets! You're all worse than a bunch of women!
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/6/2008 2:52:24 PM |
You men mean to tell me, that if I had passed gas and 'put out' on the first date, I could very well be on my way to 'happily hitched' by now?
Now you're gettin' it!
My ex-wife whispered to me on our first date, "I know something you don't know. I can f**k really good!" One thing I'll give her...she was correct... at least in that area.
We were married for 13 years and together for 15. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 3/6/2008 2:56:18 PM | And to think I went for sooo long not putting out cause I thought guys wanted to marry the 'good girl"
Sure am glad I gave that up! And now I'm in a great relationship And yes, we hump like rabbits on a regular basis and from date one! Mwahahahaha.  | |
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