| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:41:10 AM | If a girl sucks great**** shes a pro, and if she'll spread on the first date, she's a hoe.
Just gonna call that one a big ole pile of B.S. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:28:15 AM | | The quote is meant as a satire of dating ethics. If you want to disagree with its message, fine, tell me why without the pejoratives. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:08:16 AM | To use the joke by Groucho Marx "I don't know if I want to have a relationship with someone that would have sex with me on a first date" | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:10:18 AM | So what do I think about a guy that puts out on a first date. I think he is not to picky about where he puts that thing.
Sherry | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:22:20 AM | OP
<div class="quote">So, you had a great date. She's cuter than her pictures. She didn't fart at dinner. You had great conversation all night. You are into her...so you go for the kiss...then you go for more...and she doesn't stop you. You guys had great sex. So, will you call her again? For something more than Sex? Would you consider having a relationship with her?
If we hit it off well and seemed to have some things in common I'd definitely want to see her again and see where it goes. Why not? What's the worst that can happen? More great sex? I can live with that :) | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 10:50:21 AM | If you want to disagree with its message, fine, tell me why without the pejoratives
I would hope that after 12 years of marriage, I would have learned the art of sucking well enough to satisfy my man. Does that make me a "pro". No. It makes me an attentive lover that pays attention to what my man wants and likes. Now, my future man, or whatever man I choose to engage this activity with, if any, gets the benefit of what 12 years of marriage has taught me. As for choosing to sleep with someone on the first date, it has happened, albeit, not many times. If I choose to engage in sexual activity, it is because of the overwhelming chemistry and mutual attraction felt between myself and that person. Unfortunately, that type of attraction does not come along very often. So, should I choose to sleep with you at all, let alone on the first date, then there is something there that I am quite positive could be long term, and is worth exploring. We are also both adults, and should be able to do what we want and feel is right, without judging one another, as we are both making the same choice. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:17:53 AM | | So I post a quote, you make it out as if it was a personal quote and an accurate representation of my beliefs. You post a retort, that says that I'm wrong. I ask you to defend your position without insulting me, you do, and you've proven that it doesn't apply to you, at the expense of looking egocentric. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:24:57 PM | | I chose to use personal experience over a general example. I am willing to bet that this also can be applied to every other woman. I did not think it would be necessary to clarify this. You made the quote, with no other remarks as to your personal beliefs, therefore, leaving the assumption wide open that this was your personal belief. As far as me being egocentric......you are entitled to your opinions, and we all know what they say about those. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:39:03 PM | | My apologies, you are also presumptuous apparently. Calling you egocentric isn't a matter of opinion, it means, by definition: Concern for only oneself. We can go back and forth all day, if you continue to assume everything I say is meant to belittle your gender. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:52:38 PM | | I had a nice two year relationship with a woman that started with sex on the first date. Its rare but it does happen. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:02:55 PM | | I always try to get laid by the first date...usually its by the third............but.........if she oesnt hold out, no matter how strong my advances are....shows weak character.......so i'll lose interest and go poke my thing in some other chick. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:58:04 PM | | Of course I would!! I'd be a little cautious though. Women who do this, are always saying "I don't usually do this" every time they do it. They, usually, are not looking for anything serious anyway. So I'd still call her again, but, I wouldn't get my hopes up | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:25:50 PM | Inkt: I was fully aware that it was a quote...notice I didn't say anything about you, personally. Maybe you should try not being so sensitive.
It's funny, the other lady (Jessica) that you're responding to hasn't insulted you personally either.
A little egocentric yourself, are you?
Did you present that quote just to start something or were you really expecting no one to have an issue with the sentiment it represents? | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:27:45 PM | Well, hang on just a moment, those guys who are quite happy to have sex with this hypothetical woman on a first date, but decide as a result of this that she must be a whore...... can we spell "double standards" here???? Sorry, last time I checked it was the 21st century, I thought.
I'm totally with foxxinaboxx here. I like sex. Get over it - women are allowed to like sex just as much as the guys. If I meet a guy I like and the evening ends in bed because we get on well, I have no problem with that. I'll add in another factor here - I'm MORE likely to rip your pants off early, because I've got an evening's babysitting arranged, and I might as well make the most of it. Who knows when the next time that might happen will be?
If you were then to say you wouldn't consider a relationship with me because I "put out" (what the hell kind of old fashioned idea is that??) on a first date, I'd be angry, very angry at being treated so pathetically. In fact, I'd probably tell everyone you couldn't get it up, in revenge.  I do agree that women who use "Rules" to govern their sex lives are both sad and probably manipulative, but men who use early sex as an excuse to get out of a relationship are just as bad.
My only reason for trying to break the sex on a first date habit is simply because I find myself too focused on the shagging afterwards and don't pay enough attention during the date - if I did so, I'd probably reject them more often, which is not a bad thing. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:45:25 PM | Sounds like a good start. I think the potential is there.
I don't buy into all the crap about just because you sleep with somebody on the first date, there's no chance of a successful relationship. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:30:31 PM | Good for you!! That needed to be said, and more adroitly than I could have managed. Well said...
Puritanical ethics and Victorian standards are a thing of the past. Equality begins at a basic level, and this includes sexuality.
Happy to know you, sexyfun; albeit from a posting. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:08:18 PM | last time I checked it was the 21st century, I thought.
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You over estimate the natives, Hun! LOL | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/10/2008 6:38:07 PM |
So, should I choose to sleep with you at all, let alone on the first date, then there is something there that I am quite positive could be long term, and is worth exploring.
Some advice: just because you think he is really into you and there is a possiblity for long term does not mean he is not just getting a piece of azz. I have learned to be cautious of my own feelings when I get that instant "breed" feeling?? A heartache is usually just around the corner, lol. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/11/2008 4:16:51 AM | I hafta admit, I don't usually go tryin to storm the barricades until at least a 3rd date and even then I'm sorta hoping to get turned down at least for that night for anything major. If I get turned down I usually think "awesome, at least I know if she's gonna cheat on me she can't use "well it was a 1 time thing" against me, it was probably a progression.
Says a lot about a woman's character. Sure I don't get sex immediately, but you can't have it both ways. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/12/2008 8:35:29 AM | Man or woman…..
If you are JUST looking for sex (man or woman)… hey then go for it …but… be clear with the other person and YOUSELF before you “do the deed”…
But if you are seriously looking for something deeper then a one night stand….please consider the following… You CANNOT know someone after emails and small talk over the phone… In person is COMPLETELY different (though is easy to fall for the “persona” presented for you), which often is not the persons (man or woman) true colours. Is easy to fall into the trap of the “wrong person for you” if you don’t focus and take some time to REALLY get to know this person BEFORE you allow you body and mind become intimate with them.
The reality is (if looking for long term):
(a) Long term: less then 3% of dates where they slept together on the first date actually end up in a relationship…
(b) Quality: IF you want QUALITY… ACT quality… and take your time to find quality…
(c) Focus and Control: A little control and focus is GOOD for everyone (I am not talking about a****tease or playing hard to get)… KNOW WHAT you want (the qualities inside and out) and then take the time to KNOW the person before you give the MOST intimate part of you …
(d) HEALTH: Remember to treat your body like a temple….MEANING, it is pretty hard to protect yourself from ANY STD’s when you so easily “put out” … Condoms are NOT enough… and YESSSS you can get STD's from ORAL sex (duhhhhh)… so protect yourself and KNOW who you are DOING before you get intimate is the only way to truly respect yourself and watch your health…
PS... there is nothing wrong with building a little anticipation... is also nice that your partner feels (meaning in a relationship building situation) that you are intimate with them out TRUE interest in THEM and NOT just because you need to get laid (man or woman)…. just a thought! | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/12/2008 8:56:03 AM | | Hmm I think we're adults , we can had the out come.If mutually agreed why not.You only live once and trust your instinct. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/12/2008 9:40:31 AM | Since I've done this, I can speak to it I suppose. I know for some men, they'd say no for the simple reason they'd judge the woman too easy. She was quick for me so she's doing every guy she meets.
I don't see it that way. If there's good chemistry and things progress...they do. It means to me that the woman desires me physically like I do her. Can she handle however that fact that beyond a few orgasms there wasn't much there between us?
It DOES get the whether or not you're sexually compatible out of the way right out of the gate doesn't it?
One women this happened with I dated over a year after that meet and we're dear friends to this day. For me, I love who she is and the great times we had, but didn't feel that "in love" thing and that was sort of the deal breaker for the LTR. That first meeting however I found to be a positive and we could have gone the distance. | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/12/2008 1:22:17 PM | | absoloutely. If you're busy trying to follow society's rules the first time you meet/get to know someone then you're likely going to miss out on something. Screw cosmo...just get out there and be good to one another! | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/12/2008 4:15:21 PM | As for someone looking for relationships.... I do agree that there are no specific timelines (the 3 month or 6 month rule to wait for sex is nuts) -- but sleeping with someone the first time you meet them is also not wise (as stated WHY before)...
I just mean is important to spend time and get to know someone personally (through their actions, not just words)... to know what they are REALLY about (who they really are)... The reality is that you cannot know who someone really is after spending a couple hours together...
So if you want something more then a one night stand then take your time... if you are looking for just immediate gratification well then...
(((Keep in mind that this is coming from a woman’s perspective and well... if women slept with men on EVERY first date... well...
....and if they do it with one man it is highly likely then do this often... sorry to be blunt but dont think you are "special" (and only slept with you on the first date) .... I am not meaning to degrade or disrespect those that do but just being honest.... just a thought))))... | |
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| Putting out on the first date.
Posted: 7/12/2008 9:00:10 PM | | i have a rule that if a girl sleeps with me the first night im not going to date her. yes i know its hippocritical and emotional cruelty but the simple truth of the matteris that im not the only guy she has banged the first night she met them. i just dont feel like i could trust her. shes done it before and she'll prolly do it again plus i couldnt help but automaticaly add a few numbers onto the her total booty tally after that comes around in convorsation. but i am a little more on the jealous side then most guys so take this advise with a grain of salt. | |
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