| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 1:11:16 AM | First, I notice that the OP hasn't been back since the 1st post.
2nd, there seems to be a stereotype going on here: that if a woman has concerns about a relationship, there must be something wrong. And if something's wrong, by virtue of her gender she's automatically the sweet and innocent one, and everything's the guy's fault because he's a man and therefore a turd.
And women always have concerns about their relationships.
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Sounds to me like what you're dealing with is nothing more than a normal relationship. Every relationship has it's ups and downs. This notion that "if you love someone" you'll be happy and positive and sweet and kind and... it's all just fantasy fairy tale BS.
One of MY biggest peeves is having to tell someone the same thing over and over. Yeah, I'm a scorpio too, but I really think it's just part of being a man... check that being a human. Sometimes I'm moody. Sometimes it's easier to take my stress out on people that I know, love or am just more familiar with - because I know that the forgiveness is waiting. Not that this is the right thing to do, but it's human.
And as for being "tested" -- are you sure? How do we know that you (since you're a scorpio too...) aren't the one reading way too much into this? I don't say this to be critical, just wanting to help you be introspective if you need to be.
I do wish y'all well. My only advice is this: us men CAN "talk about our feelings", it just helps if we have fair warning. IF you decide you two need to set boundaries and "talk about your relationship" let him know AHEAD of time. Scedule it in advance. Let him prepare a speech, instead of just blurting things out on a whim.
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 2:35:28 AM | I thought all this ridiculous horror scope stuff was history; come on; the day my parents had sex to create me has nothing to do with who I am.
What cracks me up is that if you live your life through silly horoscopes then you dont need advice. Look up your horoscopes and see what you should do. You can't have it both ways. good luck. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 2:52:35 AM |
what does his acting like a total a$$hole have to do with him being a scorpio? i dont believe his behavior has anything to do with a birthdate or astrological sign.
if he is treating this badly now, what do you think the future will be like??
That is exactly what I thought.
How can someone's bad behavior is because of being a Scorpio. My sister is a Scorpio and she is the sweetest person out.
I have gone out with Scorpios and they have never bullied me like your b/friend does! He needs to learn to be a better person.
I don't know how you can put up with it! | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:21:28 AM | Hey sweetie,
I do believe in astrology but I dont think it excuses ones behavior, to know right from wrong. My guess is this has a lot to do with how he was raised as well. Either way? It sounds like a control thing to me and he might not even realize it?
I think you wil do what you want no matter what any of us say here but please be careful? Your heart is a terrible thing to break...
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:34:13 AM | I'm a scorpio.....I don't know if I believe in Astrological signs, although I do seem to fit MOST scorpio traits.
BUT..
My WORST relationship, and my BEST relationship, thus far, has been with other scorpios. You either "get" each other, or you don't, simple as that. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:51:40 AM | | I am star sign Cancer and am always attracted to Scorpian men. In fact I married one and it turned out to big the biggest mistake of my life. Although they are the rated as the sexiest star sign they are nothing but trouble...If I was you I wolud dump him, because as soon as you do he will realise what a prat he was and what he has lost. Good luck. | |
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| Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:19:04 AM | Hi Hottmamaa!
Simple hun, bin him! If he is acting like this now, it will only get worse, I wasted a few years on a scorpio man, I would never date another one again! EVER. The sting in the tail is not said for flippency, they sting, and sting and sting. Save yourself a lot of grief, and leave now, while it is still nice. Your choice my Darling, but you have answered yourself already really, if asking for advice, it aint working! Go out and find a man that does'nt test you, or push your buttons, or is just plain selfish. Being a scorpio yourself, see the possible mirror image of this, but you are female, so it wont be exact. Good luck. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 6:55:17 PM | Oh! I also want to add that my sister is a Scorpio dating a Scorpio (for 4 + years now) and they both are quiet/calm individuals that compliment eachother nicely.
I think you should not ALWAYS rely on star sign but upbringing and such... good luck | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:53:32 PM | In past I've been annoyed by astrology and all the attention paid to it. It was rubbish, I thought, but now I realize its usefulness as a time management tool.
Cricket: What's your sign?
Fishy: I'm a Scorpio (or whatever)
Cricket: What does that mean, in terms of your traits; does it bode well for a future with me; how does your sign like my sign; how does it determine the path you take in life?
Fishy: Well, you see, blah blah, it means blah blah…therefore...blah..
(sound of GONG)
Cricket: *gutting fish* Next! | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/5/2008 11:08:02 PM | | I hear ya sista! Three of my boyfriends were scorpios....they're great in bed but very difficult to live with at times. They have very sharp tongues and when they get angry it's like a volcano just erupted. Could be just a coincidence or maybe there's some truth to astrology...who knows! If you like roller coaster rides you'll be in for a hell of a ride with this one....lol | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/6/2008 1:48:09 AM | | It may be worth spending some of your time on understanding that astrology is based on the ancient belief that the Earth is the centre of the solar system and that the five or so planets that the ancients could see with the naked eye were considered to influence human behaviour and fate. In the Western world, since the time of Galileo. despite the church of the time disputing the facts to fit in with their prejudices, we have known that the solar sytem revolves around the sun. Apparently, incidentally, though not wanting to promote any myth or superstition above another, some Islamic scholars may have discovered that fact earlier. We also know that their are more planets and other stars with their own planets revolving around them. It may be argued that our satellite, the moon, may affect our behaviour, as it does have a perceived effect upon the great bodies of water on our planet. However it is doubtful that what amounts to lumps of rock circling the sun in orbits inside or outside that of the Earth have either character as we perceive it or the power to force us to make choices. As humans we all have the power to reach our own conclusions if we are sane through rational thought. It would appear to me that your man or maybe both of you may have to decide what you want from your relationship, or even whether you want a relationship with each other at all. Birthsigns have nothing to do with the resolve to sort things out with commonsense or the courage to let go and move on. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/6/2008 3:01:32 AM | Hi hottmamaa,
I'm sorry to say,I think this will only get worse. If he abuses you(and it is abuse)when you have just started the relationship ,think what it is going to be like when you live together.
To me,he obviously has issues with whoever he is. I doubt very much if he likes who he is,and if he doesn't like who he is,how can he love someone else.
You even use the word deal,as in how to deal with him. If this relationship is based on more than lust,then why should you have to find a way of dealing with him. To me it's obvious that you already have real problems with who he is,and,I'm afraid it's only going to get worse. I truly hope I'm wrong,because YOU already know the only way to deal with this. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/6/2008 3:24:17 AM | | I'm a scorpio-- the bad thing is that this zodiac sign seems to get the bad rap most of the time --- it's a good thing that we also have some that are the most sensitive, caring, sensual, sexual, loving, giving, compassionate men . Believe me i have also known some scorpio ment that are the worst !!!. As far as the comment above , here's the other side : I swarm my prey(lover) with loving arms(pinchers)holding her tight( getting a good grip ) then passionately kiss her(injecting the poison)as she returns the favor. And as far as eating the other socrpions ! well ( i'll stop right here -you might not can handle that part ! ) lol - thought you might like this !! have a great day -- i think now you might have an idea of the scorpio that is VERY likeable ? | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/6/2008 3:24:57 AM | | I'm a scorpio-- the bad thing is that this zodiac sign seems to get the bad rap most of the time --- it's a good thing that we also have some that are the most sensitive, caring, sensual, sexual, loving, giving, compassionate men . Believe me i have also known some scorpio ment that are the worst !!!. As far as the comment above , here's the other side : I swarm my prey(lover) with loving arms(pinchers)holding her tight( getting a good grip ) then passionately kiss her(injecting the poison)as she returns the favor. And as far as eating the other socrpions ! well ( i'll stop right here -you might not can handle that part ! ) lol - thought you might like this !! have a great day -- i think now you might have an idea of the scorpio that is VERY likeable ? | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:36:55 AM | | Oh Please Golden Girl.. Admit it you were very attracted to this wierd come here / go away behaviour and if he called you would be right back with him.. Like you already did once | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/27/2009 5:39:15 AM | I'm a scorp, and I can honestly say that while I share some of the supposed traits, I have friends that have the same traits and are from all over the zodiac.
Astrology is a set of excuses for character flaws, labeled as science.
But, if you must use astrology, you should remind yourself that scorpions are just insects with pr!cks. That ought to get you out of most troublesome situations. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/27/2009 6:03:17 AM | stand up to him, don't let him be a bully and disrespect you the way he is
we all choose how we respond and how we rationalize away our behaviour if we don't want to take responsibility for it... whether it's upbringing, society, astrology, etc etc etc...
we might be predisposed to act a certain way, but unless psychologically ill, we know what's right and wrong.... and bullying is wrong, imo
hold him accountable for his actions and words and if he tells you to 'like it or lump it', then you have a clear choice - take it without complaint or leave... it's Your choice | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/27/2009 7:51:31 AM | Just because he is a scorpio doesn't mean he is allowed to act the way he does. This is childish behavior.
I am a scorpio male myself and know what it is like to have short-temper / short-fuse.
But I keep it under control 100% of the time.
If it takes way too long or way too many headaches to change him, then dump him and move on. Who needs the crap anyway.
Im not perfect so if you dont like it then we'll cut this short then
This makes my blood boil. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/27/2009 8:04:37 AM |
I thought all this ridiculous horror scope stuff was history
Well it's been around for about 4,000 years, so I think the chances of it dying off during our lifetime is slim to none. | |
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