| Being Spoiled..
Posted: 3/5/2008 4:59:43 AM | Are you comfortable being spoiled?
No not realy but I could get used to it!
Are you someone who likes to spoil?
I suppose I do kind of, like to take care - good food, sympathetic ear, good company good sex, good appetite!lol.
Is there a spoiling etiquette that should be followed?
Yeah don't bombard a person with gifts to make up for personal inadequcies that probably aren't there anyhow!
Have faith in yourself and don't bribe. Some one should want you for who you are not what materialistic things you can give. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 5:40:37 AM |
Are you comfortable being spoiled?
Yes. I love it. I lurrrrrve being spoilt.
Are you someone who likes to spoil?
Yes.
Is there a spoiling etiquette that should be followed?
Dont go losing your self-respect, self-worth. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 11:28:32 AM | "In the early days a little gesture goes a long way, flowers occasionally is good."
I totally agree with you Hula Moo, personally I have never been spoiled - I have never been brought flowers or anything like that. But it is nice. My friend was sent flowers to work from her boyfriend for no reason - just because he loved her! It is so sweet and romantic and i would love that!!!
But totally - i wouldnt want everything bought for me - im very independant and like to stand on my own 2 feet!
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Posted: 3/6/2008 12:39:52 PM | If it's a new relationship I would feel uncomfortable being spoiled in this way. I would feel that I was being "bought and paid for".
Now if it was a long term relationship ... go on ... spoil me and I'll love it 'cos I like spoiling too !!! | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 2:24:03 PM | What you've never had you cannot miss.
Because i never have been, i'm not sure i would know how to react, i've only just become comfortable with compliments. let alone gifts etc.
My kids usually spoil me on birthdays christmas and mother's day.
But, generally its me who does the spoiling. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 3:40:46 PM |
A lot of people are saying that things should be mutual (I agree to an extent)... but the guy is 'comfortable', the girl is a single mum, and not exactly flush with pennies... So mutuality can not really be total... wouldnt it be better if they both spent 'what they can afford'? Then its mutual, but if one of the people in the relationship spends more numerically, it still isnt a problem??
Women expect men to spend more and more often even if she makes 3 times as much as him. I have seen this. It is in a woman's DNA to search for a provider just as her DNA means she can only love a man based on what he can do for her not for who he is. In other words her DNA means she is only capable of loving her children and simply liking a man. | |
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| Being Spoiled..
Posted: 6/14/2008 5:08:53 PM |
Are you someone who likes to spoil?
I suppose I do kind of, like to take care - good food, sympathetic ear, good company good sex, good appetite!lol.
I'm sorry where did you say your boat was moored again Miss 
Is there a spoiling etiquette that should be followed?
Yeah don't bombard a person with gifts to make up for personal inadequcies that probably aren't there anyhow!
Have faith in yourself and don't bribe. Some one should want you for who you are not what materialistic things you can give.
I had a friend who was like that. Always spending his money on expensive gifts for girlfriends, and actually frightened most of them away by doing it. He was insecure so thought he had to do that.
I like to pay for dinner if we go out now and again, quite happy to go halves as well. One thing I really do like to do is send nice flowers. My Mum worked in a florists for a long time and I would help out now and again with the deliveries. The happiness you see it gives people when they recieve some nice flowers is great. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 5:25:00 PM |
Are you comfortable being spoiled?
Absolutely.
Are you someone who likes to spoil?
Again, absolutely. As much as I can I will - might be more than he has, might be less. But my intention would be good.... and there are lots of ways you can spoil another.
Is there a spoiling etiquette that should be followed?
No etiquette because it's all so personal. So what suits one couple wont suit another. For me, I just want to feel appreciated just as much as I appreciate another - there are so many ways to show that.... | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 7:21:26 PM | I love being spoiled, bloody love it.
Haven't had a man spoil me in yonks but if there is a good looker out there who wants to buy me shoes and perfume and maybe a gorgeous hand bag here and there i wont say no.
Yeah!!
So there. | |
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| Being Spoiled..
Posted: 6/14/2008 10:03:37 PM | I think spoiled is a really poor choice of word in this Instance. Spoiled, to me, conjures up a child brat. Ill behaved , unreasonable and Impossible to please. Spoil also means to ruin. I don't want to be spoilt , as in have someone lavishing materialistic goods on me . I would see that as somebody trying to buy me. My love , respect, friendship, trust, loyalty and soul are not for sale & can't be bought . There are ways you can be generous without flashing money and carry far more weight for me personally. Its the little things I notice and appreciate not grand gestures.
When people are generous with their time for instance . Maybe go out of thir way to do you a favour without having to ask. Come and visit and take a genuine interest in your well being. I like it when a friend will invite me around to their house and cook me a meal and not just because Its Christmas Day or my birthday or Fathers Day [rather appropriate]. I'm a very generous sort of person in that I'm thoughtfull. I like making people happy, thats the bottom line.
A good and long time friend of mine mentioned she'd never been bought flowers or been on a date so I went on the market and bought her a bunch of lillies,
took her bowling and went to Nando's . She was overwhelmed and it made me happy to see her happy. It cost me about £25 or something which Is not a lot. She said It was one of the best days she's ever had and still talks about it now , bless her.
It means more to me if someones been thoughtful and considerate. My youngest lad wrote me a poem for Fathers day and I'll treasure that forever. Whereas my ex will usually get me a bottle of Bacardi and get the kids to sign a card. Do you see what I'm getting at ? | |
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| Being Spoiled..
Posted: 6/14/2008 11:13:56 PM |
It means more to me if someones been thoughtful and considerate. My youngest lad wrote me a poem for Fathers day and I'll treasure that forever. Whereas my ex will usually get me a bottle of Bacardi and get the kids to sign a card. Do you see what I'm getting at ?
Totally agree. My son writes realy cool stories and a couple of birthdays ago he wrote one about him and me going on an adventure. It has been up to date the best gift I have ever been given in my life.
No money could have bought anything even remotely as good as that.
My love , respect, friendship, trust, loyalty and soul are not for sale & can't be bought .
So your soul is not for sale? Weeeelllllll! Maybe nobody has mad you an offer that you cant refuse, YET!  | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 12:05:22 AM | I like to find little notes, receive a text, or email/letter, the odd verbal compliment. It makes me feel appreciated.
I do like to be treated and like to bestow treats on others, finances permitting. I loved the feeling of being the recipient of delivered flowers, but then I don't like it when they die off.
There is nothing wrong with treating one another.
What would worry me, was receiving too much, too soon. I would feel as though they were expecting something in return for payment. and I won't be bought. So there!!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 1:19:19 AM | My idea of hell is being taken shopping! I can think of no worse way of spending a day.
I am fortunate enough to have everything I need, and sufficient funds to buy anything I really want. Give me the gift of your time not your wallet.
My best buddy, for example, is not so lucky, she lives on a really tight budget- so when we are out, to me it is no big deal to buy her lunch or whatever... We went Christmas shopping for example. She really liked a pair of boots that she cost roughly her entire months spending money. I paid for them and didn't even notice. She was happy and that makes me happy. Her friendship is priceless.
When I first joined this site I went out with a chap a few times, he was great fun, but had no regular job and a very hand to mouth existance. I found that difficult- not because I wanted him to buy me stuff, or pay for me...simply that I like to be able to do stuff spontaneously, and I don't want to pay for two all the time.
If a guy has a similar sort of income then it is not a problem- maybe he pays one time I pay the next. I buy tickets, he buys dinner or whatever. A relationship is of equals.
Gestures of flowers or gifts are great- I have never felt as if I am being bought...strange but most of the guys I know rate having a fab dinner cooked for them as a huge treat!
Time, attention and thoughtfulness go much further with me than mere "stuff" that I am perfectly capable of providing for myself. I would much rather a gift of a CD that he wants to share with me, than a bunch of red roses. I hate red roses (white if you insist).... | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 2:30:47 AM | being spoilt ...yes i do spoil myself too much 
as for being spoilt by others ... Little things are the best i think the ones that cost next to nothing but you know they have been bought/given for a reason ... eg can of lynx, new pair of socks etc 
as for spoiling others : Again it is case of small items that just say i saw these and thought of you ..... Small bunch of fav flowers , small bar of chocolate , couple of books but as for Out shopping and buying the desired item ... Guilty as charged ....
I think the best way to be in a new relationship is to have an element of spoiling but not to be one sided but it is always hard not to go "You like that go on then i'll treat you " | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 2:33:51 AM |
Stinker*Belle on 6/15/2008 3  26 AM Subject: Being Spoiled.. Message: I love being spoiled, bloody love it. Haven't had a man spoil me in yonks but if there is a good looker out there who wants to buy me shoes and perfume and maybe a gorgeous hand bag here and there i wont say no. Yeah!!
Damn 3 out of 4 your luck was nearly in there ......
Can't stand shoe shopping .... but then again it may help my with my self control in aspect of my foot fetish ............
Oh .........mirror Check ............... ok forget that idea | |
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| Being Spoiled..
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:28:22 AM | I seriously need a man like this!!
I want to be spoiled! | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 8:03:42 AM | I'd like to be spoilt rotten, but not with expensive items I'd rather have the small things, an extra cuddle lots of holding hands and kisses , maybe a picked bunch of buttercups, an ice-cream things like that .......  | |
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| Being Spoiled..
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:19:45 AM |
So your soul is not for sale? Weeeelllllll! Maybe nobody has mad you an offer that you cant refuse, YET!
Erm..... Maybe your right Maggy. I guess everything has a price, so I'm listening. I don't come cheap though and won't get out of bed [or stay in It,whatever the case maybe] for anything less Than £ 5.50 per/day. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 4:23:57 AM | just depends on what you call being spoiled i guess, some would rather have it in possession wise and some would prefer it as showing a caring nature and loving and giving.
i do not spoil anybody either way | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 4:32:27 AM | I always took being "spoiled" as expecting to be treated to whatever you wanted. Being treated to a few things is different. I can't afford to spoil anyone. I can afford the odd treat and feel that a little pressie here and there is no harm at all, even early in a relationship.
Stinker.... I'll take you to Matalan and buy you that lot.... should cost me £20 or so! | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 5:44:03 AM | MSG 44
Very true it is the little simple things in life that really matter and showing a bit of consideration for the other person.
Too many people act like tossers and then try some big grand gesture to make up for it. Just be a bit nicer in the first place I say. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2008 7:10:01 AM |
Stinker.... I'll take you to Matalan and buy you that lot.... should cost me £20 or so!
Don't be silly now rev, that would be at least £40
Primark should do the trick though!
I like to be spoiled with little gifts that don't have to be expensive, little things that are well thought about are just as good as, if not better than expensive flamboyant gestures . If a lot of thought and consideration goes into a gift that is what makes me feel spoiled. | |
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