| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 4/21/2008 9:08:20 PM | | Leave him! obviously great sex is important enough for you to take the time to start this thread. He may be a great guy but he's not YOUR guy. YOUR guy is everything this guy is plus great sex! | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 4/21/2008 9:10:18 PM | He can't be everything you ever wanted because obviously you are not happy with the sex. I don't know many ppl that sex is not one of the top priorities for a healthy relationship. This is assuming you enjoy the body and all the pleasures one can achieve.................
Sit down and have a talk with him. There may be reasons why he's not comfortable exploring other techniques.
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 4/25/2008 5:56:38 PM | | He needs to know and YES it's that important! The before, during and after pillow talk, or wherever you are, is what keeps a couple going through the tough times. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 4/27/2008 10:33:46 AM | "Great Sex" is between the ears more than any other place. Sharing intimacy and sexual expression are mostly physical and everyone is always concerned about what they want to share, if anything at all. It takes time for two people to learn to treat each other in the ways they find most enjoyable, and if someone isn't willing to learn they never really get to be very good at it.
If you decide to continue a relationship with someone that doesn't seem to be very considerate of your needs, then perhaps a lot of that "great sex" you hope for will have to be between your won ears because it isn't going to come from him. On the other hand, you can dump him and look for someone else that cares for you (or is able to care for you) more than the current guy..... On the other hand, a very intelligent woman once told me, "If you are bored, you are probably boring!"... What can we do to bring about our own joy is probably most important..... Then it's easier to share with someone else if he / she is willing to learn....  | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/7/2008 6:42:06 AM | These are your options.
1.Talk to him about it and see if it can be improved.
2. Live with it.
3. End the relationship. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:05:38 AM | YES...for women.
Most men don't care as much about it. As long as we have a nice set of jubblies in our face and don't have to use a condom.  | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:27:41 AM | lol that was great thanks for entertaining me! But on the real, sex is only important to losers. For people who get great sex easy, it's just sex, another fun thing to do to pass the time.
In my experiences, women who are addicted to sexual pleasure have never experienced mental domination. Using your mentals to satisfy a woman is ten times more satisfying for both parties, but it takes a man with mental skills to pull this off and most men are pretty dumb indeed. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:45:55 AM | Well, I can't tell you what you should do but I tell you what I would do, lol.
First thing, I'd try to SHOW him what I need to be satisfied in the bedroom. I would suggest toys, positions, videos, anything that demonstrated the area(s) he was lacking in. If he seemed interested and was taking my words to heart I would work with him. Sometimes men are with a woman for a long time and think thats how everyone woman wants it (by the way, for all the men reading this, that frame of mind SUCKS MAJOR MONKEY AZZ).
If things didn't get better gradually I would have to let him go. Sounds a little cold hearted but at 35 pushing 36 I couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life with someone that was (1) boring in bed (2) unwilling to explore (and ladies I mean like a christopher columbus type expedition) (3) the 10 minute, 1 stroke man or (4) selfish.
Sex is vitally important to me. I gota to have it in a long term relationship. And if I strive to make sure you are satisfied then I expect nothing less from the man. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/7/2008 11:46:06 AM | Communication is the key. To many people are not capable of talking freely about sex and their desires. Make time for a moment of calm conversation in where you lay out your feelings and desires. Tell him what you are missing and you will see if he has interest in exploring. Sometimes watching casually a explicit movie and then pointing out the moments you would like to explore is a easy moment to begin such a conversation. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:05:47 PM | | YES! Sex really is that important. The first time I sleep with the man I'm dating if the sex sucks I don't talk to him anymore. Why go any further. I actually run as fast as I can! I want the whole package and if they don't like something like oral then your missing out on the whole package. I don't date them if they are not the whole party package! I want it all! I would move on and don't waste anymore time. U just are not sexually compatible! | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:33:41 PM | You've already attemped to get him to try new things, and he is not interested. I can tell you that it will only go DOWNHILL....
I can also tell you that boring....over time....will drive you over the edge.
Dump him and find a better fit. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:48:31 PM | | Obviously, if you're posting this on a forum, great sex is important to you in a relationship. In this day and age, i don't understand a man not doing oral, or wanting to explore their partners sexuality and making it great for his significant other. Talk to the guy, see what the problem is. Maybe he has an inner freak that wants to be unleashed, but you just haven't hit the right button yet. You never know. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/13/2008 7:59:58 PM | Sex is Great If That person is important to you and you love them. Sex takes 2 people and if those 2 people love eachother they are aware of what pleases the other person.... And they act on it..... Sex is great with someone you love and who loves you.  | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:30:55 PM | well, it's different from person to person.
for me, at this point in my life, sex is VERY IMPORTANT in a relationship. i know me well enough to know that i would never be happy in a relationship where i couldn't express myself physically (and very very often  ) to my guy. i'm pretty touchy-feely, i enjoy using touch as a means of communication. and let's just face it, it's a lot of fun! i am not one to cheat. so that particular relationship would be doomed from the start. HOWEVER, if i was in a long-term relationship with someone and he developed some sort of medical condition where he wasn't able to perform, i'd consider the possibility of staying. but, gawd, he'd have to be a darn good man!  | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:38:09 PM | If your a very sexual ,sensual person? Then Yes! Great sex will be a very important issue! Hold out for the one that can meet all your needs!  | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:12:29 PM | | I know what you mean. A great man asked me to be his wife after a year and a half of living together. We tried everything and nothing worked. we talked about , we took drugs, we tried all kinds of lotions. Still he was so quick that I never got off, other than taking care of it myself after he left or even when he was in the room. I loved this man but when he asked me to spend the rest of my life with him _I had to ask myself "Can I go the rest of my life with out the BIG O?" I told him NO and we ended our relationship. Now I can have the BIG O with anyone I want but I dont have LOVE anymore. I dont know if I made the right choice but I do know that I wouldnt been able to keep that connection (love) very long in a sexless or really not good sex for the rest of my life. (and I miss him deeply). | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:35:32 PM | | I've only had 'great' sex a few times in my life; but what the OP is complaining about is 'ho-hum' barely tolerable sex, perhaps just barely better than doing it herself. If that were the case, I can clearly see jumping ship. I would say that good sex on a regular basis, with occasional great sex as a bare minimum. I could live without sex, if I were in a truly loving relationship; I mean, you can satisfy your own sexual needs if necessary. But that doesn't mean that's the preferable way to go. I've always believed that two people that love each other will find a way to make the other happy. If her husband isn't willing to try new things if she wants, then she's really screwed (pun intended). | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:47:38 PM | | Without sex, a relationship is just a friendship. Be open with him about it, he should listen. He may get shy a little since some guys tend to be very... um... macho about their abilities in bed. But everyone has to learn somehow - he may think he's a pro. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/14/2008 3:38:24 AM |
Great sex is THAT important....and you cannot "teach" a man how to be creative.
Think about it. Do you want someone who is performing a CHORE when he has sex with you? Because that is what it is if he does not even go down on you now....one has to LIKE licking pus sy....they have to LIKE touching the body with their mouth and tongue. They have to ENJOY the little creative things......Its not something you can do just by aquiesing to someone's wishes....and every time he does it, you are going to have in the back of your head "omg, I know he is NOT enjoying a second of this...." and you will develop pressure anxiety.
Been there.
Done that.
If it sucks now, its always gonna suck. It will never get better.
Tip:
Take a 20 something lover.
This is 10000000% true. If a woman doesn't like giving oral, pressuring her into it will not make it happen OR she'll do it but not like it. Either way, you resign yourself to crappy sex or rid yourself of the crappy (sex) partner. I'll do the latter. Life is too short for an adult with child-like sexual hangups. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:00:23 AM | | Great sex is all just part of an overall connection with someone for me. If you have to 'work' at it, then there is something wrong. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:14:57 AM | | no oral?? no explorin ur body?? hopefully the communication is there so u can both talk openly and honestly about wants, needs, desires | |
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