| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:48:36 AM | | Great sex is WHAT YOU want it to be . some guys are good at sex others are not . NOT everyguy you meet is the best at sex . You meet a guy who is NOT thee gretest sex goddest. BUT you can talk with each other with out causing world war 3 to break out . THAT should tell you so is he not good at sex . BUT , the most important thing to remmeber is CAN YOU trust him with your horny girlfreind who has been divorced3 times . will nail any man she can find . IF , he will not touch her . and ONLY YOU . KEEP HIM . | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:18:39 AM | Absotively..!!
The problem .. is finding that Great Partner that makes Great Sexx
 Spectacular!!
- So many Great couples have been kept apart by trivial things ..
like allowing 'Distance' to have a bearing on even _Meeting_...!!! -
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/14/2008 12:07:33 PM | [I hate to say, but unless you're sexually compatible, he can be the nicest boy 'till the cows come home and it won't make a lick of difference.]
great sex is great! everybody loves it! and if we're not loving it with the one we're with, there's an issue!
I've been there myself - was crazy about this guy, but sex with him came only in 5 to 10 minute sessions and was never, not once, satisfying!
I finally had to come to the realization, that I wasn't "doing" it for him, he wasn't turned on by me, he just wasn't as crazy about me as I was about him - feeling me the way as I was feeling him (even tho' , in all other parts of our relationship it was great)
well, I can't be mad at the guy - you can't make someone feel what they don't, but I was upset, that he didn't communicate that with me honestly.
Needless to say - I walked away!
our sexual experiences with our partner/mate should be great, totally fulfilling, magical each time - even the quickies - if there's not even a small flame, he'll never light your fire!!!!!! | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/14/2008 3:53:07 PM | | It's important to me but I'm a very sexually charged woman. Not all women are. If you're happy with this man you have boring sex with, then stay with him. As long as you both are happy, nothing else really matters. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:12:02 PM | I have been a sexually charged man since ....., I am now 60. I have had 6 long term partners and only one of them turned out to be a person who wanted and enjoyed physical connection. I am not talking about constantly having orgasms here, but just being physically intimate and thoroughly enjoying the connection.
I have lived in hope with others and left myself quite miserable. I am now alone and once more searching.
I am absolutely astounded with the incredibly high percentage of middle aged women, who have looked after themselves who have the pre-requisite for contact as `must not be looking for a sexual encounter`. This makes it extremely difficult to contemplate any sort of close relationship with the prospect of zero sex in the relationship !!!.
To those women, I wish you luck in finding a man with zero testosterone.
Recent and not so recent medical opinion is that women who lose their testosterone levels are the ones who give up sex and testosterone therapy has been a saviour in many marriages.
Of course sex is important, it is the physical joining of two loving entities and an expression of trust in and care for each other by the giving and sharing of pleasure.
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:10:56 PM | | Yes, it's important, but maybe he's teachable. You guys could get some videos like the Better Sex series and try out the stuff, if he's into it. Or else, just take the lead and show him what you want. I wouldn't be so quick to throw the relationship away. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:34:31 AM | | Extremely important part... and for those people out there that do not feel that way.. that's cool. What ever floats your boot... personally, I won't do that again! | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 8:00:50 AM | | He has to be willing to try new things. If he is not open minded that is a prob. This is kind of strange it’s usually the other way around. The problem is if you’re not satisfied in the bed room in time you will be searching else were. Those making it much harder in the long run. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 8:14:44 AM | Is Great Sex THAT important?
oh yeah, I think it is all of part of the whole, you should talk to him about being more adventerous and trying new things, hopefully he will want to try them. If not, sadly, it would not last long with me. JMHO
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 9:54:02 AM | For many people sex IS that important. And for others, it really doesn't matter.
The KEY to a good and lasting relationship is that as a couple you have comparable levels of sexual interest and ability, whatever level that is. Sex is one of the few things in a relationship that cannot be replaced by someone else outside the relationship without cheating or some serious adaptations to the expectations you have of the relationship. Most other things - activities, interests, hobbies, friends, advice, etc. - can be found elsewhere without hurting the relationship. But not sex.
So, yeah, sex can be THAT important, especially when your needs and perspectives differ from your partner's. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 11:58:43 AM | | Love can put "great sex" aside. If you really love that man, "great sex" should not matter! | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 4:05:52 PM | Its your man; if its ok for you, then who are we to tell you different.
sex in a healthy relationship is about intimacy. Its extremely important. Most therapists say that when the sex goes, the relationship is in big trouble. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 5:20:26 PM | | Sex is just as important as honesty, loyalty, and friendship in a relationship. If its not up to par, its going to eventually weigh down on the relationship all together. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 6:38:06 PM | | I just read about 10/12 posts from women who said "Oh yes of course" So start having greater sex ladies! Are you saying 10/12 men are really not pleasing you in bed? It doesn't make it any easier if you say "Oh not there tonite", or "why are you doing that", or "please, I'm really sensitive", and "its not a destination its a journey" (instead of saying where you really want to go), and "eww thats just sick", "I don't like the taste" etc. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:03:57 PM | It would seem that you find great sex, or at least uninhibited sex/sexuality important otherwise you wouldn't be asking.
My sexuality peeked just before 40 and flew through the roof at that point. I had already been married for 10 years and sex wasn't an issue, although it wasn't experimental, it was never dull nor unsatisfying. My chemistry rocketed and his began to slow and I'm sorry but there are 365 days in a year and if I'm only getting physical once every two weeks or less, those are bad odds. Only because of both our openmindedness was I able to explore sexuality on many levels. I'm bi so that door opened up again, I enjoy BDSM so that door opened up.
I'm thinking that if this is the man for you, you both need to find some way around this. If not, you may want to make some choices. Far to many men/women venture outside of their married lives and I know many and am one myself. My experiences in life have made me who I am, which is far different than many I know... that doesn't make me bad for wanting more than what I have. I'm open, honest and live my life with me ultimately being the final decision maker. Life is too short.
And no, I'm not single because of any sexual issues or curiosities or exploring my own newfound sexualities.
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:16:30 PM |
sex in a healthy relationship is about intimacy. Its extremely important. Most therapists say that when the sex goes, the relationship is in big trouble.
Oh cum now... sex in a healthy relationship is not just about intimacy when you are a raging hormone at your female sexual peek and your mate is on somewhat of a different hormonal level as well. I masterbate sometimes 3 times a day because of the switch in chemistry. My old man and I joked about it. I can get excited just from the vibration from driving in the car, a cold breeze that makes my nipples stiff or even a good shit. Other gals I know are exact opposite and want there man to stay the hell away...
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:27:22 PM | Very complex ......"sex" isn't just getting off or technique.....it's also affection and passion and those are what are important on the side of love.
Toys, spanking, lube, etc....to me, those are things I would reserve for when I had no love or affection or passion for someone, like trying to beat some dead horse. I never felt inclined toward those with someone I loved .... touching, kissing, exploring, etc., though, yes, very much ...
Also, "excitement" was never a big factor for me, except if it was with someone I really didn't love or feel much affection for, again, like having to beat a dead horse. If I had to have "excitement", chills and thrills, etc. and that kind of stimulation....well, something very basic was missing, at least in my own mind.
Over the years with someone, routine is very nice. My wife and I pretty much had our "routine" and made love pretty much daily without a lot of variation ....we were so in tune with it that we came to orgasm pretty much simultaneously each time.....or very close ... and then spooned, talked a little, and fell asleep.
If you can get this guy to commit to some routines that might please you, I'd go for that if you really have affection and passion for eachother .......and forget the chills and thrills...or whatever else short of scarring you do. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/7/2008 3:35:32 AM | you need to get him going good or your going to long for that good stuff again.
then you will be one of those cheating women I am sure you would say you dislike. | |
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| Is Great Sex THAT important?
Posted: 6/7/2008 5:15:11 AM | Op, Having "been there, done that" I can honestly say to you.............. OMG, it is very important !!! I actually got myself into a relationship and later a marriage with a man that was great at intercourse..... but nothing else. At first it was great, later on it became Boreing !!! No amount of talking, asking or anything else would entice him inot anything other than just what he did. Of course there were other problems but this was verrrrry important to me. Yup, he's an ex now.
What ever you do, Do Not set yourself up for a Fall. If you want more and he won't listen or even consider the other aspects of sex....... I fear you will always be wanting more. Life is too short for that. A good partner will want to please you, no matter what !!! He truely can't be "everything you ever wanted" if the sex isn't that good. Go with your gut here..... YES, GOOD SEX IS IMPORTANT !!!!!
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