WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 26 | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 3:28:04 PM | I'm not looking for a supermodel... Please don't make me laugh. I really don't get where you gals think that's all us guys want. Actually I prefer an average looking woman, but the odd part is that the average looking one in my eyes is more beautiful than any living supermodel... Meaning what is cute to me may not be to somone else and vise versa.
a realtive age bracket as far as dating is a good quality to seek. Simply because you will each know and have had simular experiences of mutual era of time. If you care to notice you closest friends fit this bill in nearly every case. It's funny how we can talk about when went to the theather to see "Jaws , Star Wars, Grease, etc,. Plus our music taste will be more alined as well. When you date outside of this bracket it leaves the two of you on completely diferent levels and one will always feel left out because you have so little in common to talk about and bond. | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 27 | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 4:36:40 PM | touch-me-i-rock:
Thanks at least finially someone will admit to the truth and not be concerned with disturbing my feelings.
I know that most people don't want to hurt another's feelings and so we attempt to be less than truthful with them. However this can be a diservice to us when the truth really needs to be spoken.
So with that said I thank you: touch-me-i-rock | |
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xchuck
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Joined: 6/11/2004
Msg: 28 | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 4:55:34 PM | | she has been insulting people all around the forums....i would'nt worry about her opinion becuse she sucks | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 29 | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 5:24:26 PM | xxchuck
I'm not really concerned about it...
I firmly believe she is entitled to her opinion. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 5:47:35 PM | Well, I am concerned about it!!!
There is a difference between opinion and those that come here only to bash others. | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 31 | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 6:12:44 PM | RE the age thing... you said you wouldn't date younger than 27 but have it set from 18 and above for contact because you would still talk to them. But then you said you won't set it past 40 because you don't want to see anyone over that age or lead them on.... do those two statements seem consistent to you? They don't to me. ;)
It's fine if you want to set your dating range from 27 to 40 but if you are willing to talk to 18 year olds even if you wouldn't date them, it makes no sense whatsoever that you would not talk to a 41 year old even if you wouldn't tdate her....
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 32 | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 6:18:04 PM | tickettoride2004:
Well, I wouldn't really worry about if I were you. Besides if this young lady is truly doing this and has nothing better to do than waste her time bashing others. Then what's the big deal? She is only further ruining her own reputation and respectability. I firmly believe that would soon become extremely evident to all. Anyhow what's even more humouorus is the fact that a pretty lady like herself seems to find it more appealling. To come on a website than be out on a date with a guy. Who might show her a brighter side of the world, than she has ever had the pleasure to known. However if she likes herself the way she is then let her persist and we can all soon enough read about it in the papers: News Headline: Doctor's slutty disrespectful daughter body found in dumpster.
I really feel sad for the young lady. She's a pretty lady and yet wasting her life away. For what? Sad I tell you it's just sad.
See, how I've expressed the fact in several threads before: that it takes no talent what so ever to behave badly but it takes real strenght and courage to be decent and noble. She lacks a quality she knows she can never aspire to be like so she lashes out at the very thing her heart wishes to be most like... She's lost and we can help. However we can only show her the door she must be the one to walk through it... | |
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xchuck
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Joined: 6/11/2004
Msg: 33 | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 6:21:34 PM | | yeah she was shown the door with a boot in her a s s | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 7:38:12 PM | | Hey w6 why don't u answer silkens question. U know about the contradiction u made earlier in a post on this thread. I am curious to see what ur response will be!!! | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 35 | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 8:08:39 PM | My apoligies forthebeauty & silken
I some how looked over that question without seeing it. To answer your question: There is no contradiction but I do understand what your saying. It's merely an example of perspective. I had seen it one way and you had seen it as another. I had not taken that into account. For that I'm sorry... No there is no reason I wouldn't speak with somone over 41 or even 141 (good luck finding some that age :LOL:)
My sole intention for the 40 thing was to make it abudently clear I was not interested in dating someone older. Not that I wouldn't speak to someone over that age. Please I'm not shallow of a person. However, I do believe people deserve to be some what selective in whom they wish to date. I see no reason why I should be excluded from this principal when I think everyone else is not nor should not. Friends are just that friends, I will tolerate a lot worse behavior with my friends than anyone I would want to date. Just because my friends can be jerks doesn't mean I am. They can even be treat people with rude behavior but it doesn't mean that I'm that way. What I'm saying is we should and rightfully expect our significant other behave very different than our friends. They as well as yourself have a commitment to one another that goes far beyond friendship...
It all boils down to this: The discrimination you must have been seeing was never truly present. It was simply a failure on my part to take in account that it would be viewed in such a way? There has never been nor any reason that I would not speak to anyone of any age.
My personal dating critriea is mine and mine alone. I do not see that as being obnoxious, rude, disrespectful or half a dozen other things one might want dream up. To not be straight forward in your expectations would be far worse of a "Sin" in my opinion. Now if some feel left out simple because of this then I apologies but that's the way it is. You all have a right do as you like and I think it's only fair that I also have that same privilage. I don't think I'm being picky or stuck up. I'm not expect nor even looking for a supermodel. Someone that is cute who takes care of themselves, has a sense of humor, has some decency, intregrity, and who was actually born a girl (just a little joke there). In the end many people have these qualities but the finally factor is if the chemistry is there and that has to be a two way street for the both of us...
I hope this clears that up? If not I'll be happy to address this subject further? | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 8:52:37 PM | | What u prefer is totaly ur choice. Its just what u said about it. U did contradict ur self as far as the over 40 thing goes. Why would it be that u can be friends with an 18 year old, and not a 41 year old? U did state that u wouldnt want to lead someone to think that u would want to date some one over 40 that would be misleading and u wouldnt want to do that. So dont u think its misleading to put 18 if ur only going to 27? Thats the point of contradiction. I take no offense to ur dating prefernce, like I said that is a personal choice. Just tell the truth about it. If an 18 year old met ur criteria u would consider dating them, right or wrong? And u absolutly would not date anyone over 40 right or wrong? | |
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Posted: 10/3/2004 9:34:13 PM | Sorry to get you guys off track. How do you take down the wall and give out a signal that you are single and looking ? I hear alot of people talking about it but I am not sure how to deal with it.
-Jared | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 12:05:24 AM | WS6TA, your picture is nice and you are pleasant looking (not to boost your ego).. You have given all these facts about yourself and I will try to see if what I said make sense.. Please note I am only trying to help and since I do not know you personally I am only going by what you have written about yourself:
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1. I haven't been on a date in 10 years...
2. I haven't had a girlfriend in almost 20 years...
3. If I ask someone out they say no, I have a boyfriend or worse just ignore me...
4. If I go to a nightclub, work, resturant, etc,. No one will speak to me.
5. If I try to make conversation they very quickly excuse themselves.
6. I never hear of anyone asking about me. Not like I see other people do when they are interested in someone.
7. It is very disturbing to ones ego when confronted with these undeniable facts.
8. My manners are good, I smell okay, I have all my teeth and I don't dress like a slob...
9. I have a job! Unquote
Haven't been on a date for so long may give you butterflies in your stomach (you mentioned you are shy in your other thread) so in that sense, you have to build up your confidence level although you mentioned you have confidence.. Also, every individual has their own way of judging themselves which may not be what others perceived you to be.. My advice is if you have a good friend, ask him for his frank opinion about yourself and in that way you will learn what is wrong or whether your approach is correct..
Pts 3 to 5 is very common with anyone because you are a total stranger in a restaurant, and someone you tried to date may genuinely not be interested or are with partners, so rejection is a way of life. If you are interested in someone, you got to try again and again. Sometimes perseverence pays off..
I wish you best of luck,
Hui Ching | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 39 | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 6:15:26 AM | "What u prefer is totaly ur choice. Its just what u said about it. U did contradict ur self as far as the over 40 thing goes. Why would it be that u can be friends with an 18 year old, and not a 41 year old? U did state that u wouldnt want to lead someone to think that u would want to date some one over 40 that would be misleading and u wouldnt want to do that. So dont u think its misleading to put 18 if ur only going to 27? Thats the point of contradiction. I take no offense to ur dating prefernce, like I said that is a personal choice. Just tell the truth about it. If an 18 year old met ur criteria u would consider dating them, right or wrong? And u absolutly would not date anyone over 40 right or wrong?"
Forthebeauty beat me to it! ;)
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xchuck
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Joined: 6/11/2004
Msg: 40 | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 7:10:42 AM | | You've been busted by the POF police W6....come clean and maybe they'll go easy on you. You don't want them to slap on the handcuffs, do you? | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 41 | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 7:48:57 AM | LOL Chuck :)
I just gave poor W6 a hard time in another thread too ... poor man... ;)
No harm meant though, I just have that 'need to clarify' ... ;)
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xchuck
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Joined: 6/11/2004
Msg: 42 | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 9:42:56 AM | | typical woman<-------i guess i'll pay for that...OH NO not the handcuffs....I know i said we all should be treated as individuals but i could'nt help myself....i think i need a good spanking while i am in the handcuffs...lol | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 43 | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 11:03:26 AM | Actually Chuck I agree with you, most females need clarification but hey, that's because we're thinkers! ;)
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Posted: 10/4/2004 11:18:01 AM | | sorry that shirt has to go wear some gel in your hair,the pic with the hat on looks good,the first look makes u look up-tight,but its all attitude,i have friends that were beat with the ugly stick but they know more women than i will ever know or date.keep the clothes if u are comfortable,its whats inside but it does help to be more aprochable,i think u seem like a nice guy | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 11:57:35 AM | | Never think of yourself as unattractive just say to yourself what can I do to turn more heads when I walk by. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 11:57:38 AM | | i read all what u said, i know what u mean too, i havent been"out there" for about 5 years,i have a little idea, without insulting ur intellegence, ur replys seem alot stuffy, if u know what i mean,lighten up,a little relaxed humor during a conversation,a smile,i am finding out about that, i dont consider myself no Ken Doll for sure,but i have gotten more results with a smile, and a quick witt, so hope this helps, keep on trying,dude,just relax | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 12:32:10 PM | | Hey, WS6TA ! I'm not interested in you, but then I'm a man ! LOL There's beaucoup fish in the sea, bro. Don't dispair. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 12:36:01 PM | | Dude, you're ok. I think the shirt needs to go in the one pic for sure. I like the hat personally since I'm a UK fan as well. Confidence is the key to success. It will work out, don't worry. | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 49 | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 12:46:06 PM | XXchuck that's funny :)
Nope not put in jail yet by the POF police just merely pulled over. I guess I'll show some leg and clevage and that should get me off the hook? :LOL:
Seriously gals there is no contridiction its merely a view of perspective. Sure I'd be friends with somone over 40. However, I'm on here for dating puposes not friends. That's not to say I'm opposed to making friends... Sure, I'm willing to make friends but again friends are not why I'm here now is it? As for the 18 thing No I would not date below 27ish no matter how perfect they were or if they begged me too. Friendship, I have no problem with... I also have no problem with being friends with someone over 41 either. My only intention by setting a limit was so that I wouldn't be hounded by the 40+ crowd trying to swing me over. I really like hurting somones feelings and if I can avoid that before it happens then we are both better off for it.
Besides can't anyone of any age post on the fourms? Have I not spoken to all that have written me? Have I not even responded respectfully to somone that once insulted me on this tread... I'd think that should prove beyond a shadow of doubt that I'm a decent person and willing to speak to anyone regardless of age?
The only reason I have the setting set so low in age isn't for dating purposes. I run a car club and younger people tend to be more interested in this kind of thing than older people. In this way they can contact me about the club... That's it! As Freud once said: "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar." So, can't you accept the fact that your reading more into this than what actually exsist???? | |
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Posted: 10/4/2004 12:47:21 PM | | ur not the best looking guy but ur not ugly ur avg so dont worry theirs alot of ugleir peoplr out there than u ok keep ur head up | |
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