| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 3/16/2008 4:39:39 AM | I used to message a UK guy on another site, we were having daily contact by email/phone call/text for almost a year. He always put off meeting me and said he was shy or couldn't get a sitter - he said he was a single Dad with a young son.
It was all lies and he made up more of them to get out of meeting me - and also went silent on me a couple of times.
That guy is on this site now, with the same photo wearing a silly hat from years ago and spinning the same yarn. My thoughts on people like this?
Scrape the sh1t off your shoes and keep on walking!  | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 3/17/2008 5:41:13 AM | | Im sorry to hear that, but it's hard to sympathize since so many women do the same or worse, I hope you find someone better..... | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 4/11/2008 6:52:32 PM | | I had a woman do this too me once. she told everyone she knew and i knew that I treated her better than any guy ever treated her. then one day she was gone no excuses or explanations not to me or anyone that asked her. several women I talked to all told me if a woman leaves with no expanatuion it's usually means she was cheating. and this is women telling me this | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 4/12/2008 3:08:07 PM | People do this, see that the grass appears greener, abscond, vamoose!
Best part is when they come back........
Talk about comedy!! | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 4/13/2008 12:36:54 PM | So how long is a little while...in other words ..if you are totally into this guy and he walks..put your life hold and see what he eventually decides to do with his life instead.
To me this is someone who really doesn't know what they want and shouldn't be on here....playing head games with yourself is one thing ..playing with others heads....Loser....just my opinion. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 4/13/2008 2:34:07 PM | | some guys just don't know how to say its over to a woman, or don't want to go through the akward face to face. my sister got dumped xmas day last year by a guy she was going out with for 3 months by text message while she was waiting for him to call over to the house. I mean what a douche bag. They weren't going out that long but rather than texting or giving someone the cold shoulder it should be about respecting the other person and being up front and honest with them we're all meant to be adults like. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 4/13/2008 3:03:08 PM | | Yes, he's a jerk . There's a reason for everything.... not a big , wonderous, mystical reason .... a simple, logical reason . He's a 'jerk' because he's an insecure, scared "little boy" who was raised with some negative , emotional garbage ... dumping that garbage is easier said than done. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 4/13/2008 3:11:29 PM | Guys are so funny sucking up to you women with the BS answers.
Here's the deal and I'm not talking about one guy...me...but men in general.
A. We don't have to love you to have great sex...so lets put that off the table as even
a clue to a good relationship with a man.
B. You were getting along? That was probably a good idea since he wanted to bang
you on a regular basis.
C. Made plans with you? What do you call plans...wedding...engagement...or camping?
A friend of mine just got through this same thing with a woman he wasn't all that interested in. He was having great sex...going out to eat....dancing etc. until he found someone he really wanted and started dating HER.
Pretty normal behavior. What you left out and I think is HUGE is: Was he telling you he "loved" you? Was he saying he saw you as his wife in the futre etc.? Guys who lie to women to have sex are Jerks...I give you that, but guys who don't promise anything...take what you're willing to give as you enjoy each other are not in my opinion. There is nothing implicit in a relationship. You have one or not and if you think you do...better ask and make sure because the fact you're getting banged on a regular basis doesn't mean you do from a man's perspective. It just means we enjoy your body. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 4/13/2008 5:24:33 PM | | Don't feel bad girlfriend. Mine walked away without any warning whatso ever 5 weeks before my WEDDING. After almost 4 years of the closest and best relationship I've ever had. And then turned into someone I don't know... I you figure it out let me know.... I.E. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:31:56 AM | | he used you.what just because hes a ex-cop what does that have to do with it.the question you need to ask is why do you keep getting used. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:53:33 AM | What the hell is "making plans?" As is too often the case, vital information seems to be missing in the OP. I can imagine occasions where a person is making assumptions while making plans, as if never having heard the other person...who didn't like the sort of plans being made in the first place.
This is such a vital bit of info--okay, at least to me, but I pride myself on my logic as well as my passion--that to find others making disparaging comments about the guy is to a degree, disingenuous and certainly appears ill-informed. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/23/2008 11:52:27 AM | The key was sex was great; why do women give up sex so easily and so quickly?
And its obvious he fooled you; if this was so magical he wouldn't have bolted. He wanted a little sex, found someone more attractive or more wild and he moved on. Women are EXTREMELY naive, and its worse on the internet. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/23/2008 12:48:00 PM |
Will still keep on searching, but will just be more cautious.
That wont help, you will just taint the relationship with your distrust. Sometimes you have to be willing to be hurt to find something as love.
Sometimes a guy can be very committed to a relationship right up to the moment when things change inside his head and he suddenly realizes that he doesn't want that. The least stressful way of ending it for him is to just walk away.
The key was sex was great; why do women give up sex so easily and so quickly?
And why do people continue to spew this idiocy.
It doesn't matter how soon or how late sex is involved in a relationship. If it is going to work it will, if it isn't it wont. Holding off on sex only does one of two things:
1) Wastes both of yours time, energy and emotions when you find you aren't compatible.
2) Causes the other to walk away to find someone with a higher libido and more interest in sex.
sex was great ( some things you cant fake)
Hate to break it to you buuuut.... Just because you thought the sex was great doesn't mean he did. Sometimes it isn't faking it, a good lover is still a good lover even when their partner isn't.
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~Kyn~
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/23/2008 1:32:13 PM | Only 2 reasons Ive seen men just disappear
1. Someone else
2. Emotional turmoil ...includes plain cowardice, work stress, about to be caught out in lies, Love...the reasons are endless.
Doesnt matter why they do it...they do it...and they will do it again. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/23/2008 3:05:10 PM | | i have always told my women friends never to date cops, they never listened, but have always came back and said i should have listened to you..cops have a much differen mindset then the rest of us..he got what he wanted, no challenge left, so thats what he did. | |
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/23/2008 7:53:40 PM | Re the Opost
When the sex is really great, one (man or woman) does not walk away.
Unless there is such a major issue/problem, so big that he/she would rather avoid discussing it. Real big/serious.
The jerk/player rationale is a cop out, IMO.
Thus: My advice would be to forget about the experience, move on and not let it cloud one's drive for dating. If it happens consistently, then one may have to try to figure out "what gives".
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:24:28 PM | Honestly, anyone who has had this happen has my empathy to a certain degree. Not saying the other party isn't a jerk/jerkette. On the other hand, fact is that something has you totally blinded to not notice the body language or surrounding changes in your significant other. This blows my mind how people over look or don't question what's in front of them for something they can't see. Human Nature gives signs through body language & conditional changes when one isn't telling the truth or something is different. Contrary to popular belief more people will tell you the truth when given no or very little time to think than lie. When you know the nature of a beast or being you know what it's capable of doing. It's not the Animals fault for mauling the Zoo Keeper, it's the Zoo Keepers fault for caging the Animal.
Sorry but to answer your question "He walked without a word, what gives? I differ, he left screaming through his actions but you didn't understand his language.... His demeanor had to change no and's if's or buts about it, ask questions next time and don't let people get away with things that come out of nowhere. | |
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~Kyn~
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Joined: 2/15/2008
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| He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:06:47 AM |
He walked without telling you the truth.
Because you can't handle the truth.
Funnily enough...unless its another woman involved...its most often a man's fear that the woman wont Love him after she knows the truth that makes a man run.
Easier to run than face your fears. For some people anyway.
And more often than not...you will still be Loved for being honest (even if it takes some working through)...but not necessarily for running away.
Its like a child who gets caught out doing something and you ask them to tell you the truth and they lie about it...then...they get punished for telling the lie...whereas if they told the truth...
...the repercussions wouldnt be nearly as disasterous.
It takes more of a man to step up and be honest...than to behave with cowardice and run. | |
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