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 ~Kyn~

Joined: 2/15/2008
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He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/24/2008 4:06:47 AM

He walked without telling you the truth.

Because you can't handle the truth.

Funnily enough...unless its another woman involved...its most often a man's fear that the woman wont Love him after she knows the truth that makes a man run.

Easier to run than face your fears. For some people anyway.

And more often than not...you will still be Loved for being honest (even if it takes some working through)...but not necessarily for running away.

Its like a child who gets caught out doing something and you ask them to tell you the truth and they lie about it...then...they get punished for telling the lie...whereas if they told the truth...
...the repercussions wouldnt be nearly as disasterous.

It takes more of a man to step up and be honest...than to behave with cowardice and run.
 Schadenfreudian

Joined: 7/5/2007
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He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/24/2008 7:08:25 AM

Funnily enough...unless its another woman involved...its most often a man's fear that the woman wont Love him after she knows the truth that makes a man run.
I can't help but snicker when I read a woman describe what consitutes manhood.

Be that as it may, I have encountered thousands of people who in fact cannot handle the truth. That doesn't mean it's right to get up and split, but I can understand dealing with folks on a daily basis who go nuclear because you're telling them something they don't want or aren't prepared to hear. Too much drama. I really can understand. You want to talk it out logically, the other partner can't because they've immediately tripped the switch to anger...at "angry" there's no discussion; we surely know this as adults.
 Triumvirat

Joined: 5/12/2008
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He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/24/2008 8:32:21 AM
Op,he did the classic leave em guessing routine...as long as you have unasnswered questions you will be open to him should his other plan not work out.I actualy messaged with a woman on here for a week,she told me her ex and her never had sex and she couldn't understand why,he had gone to be with another woman,he called her and she told me she had to go back to "find out why"...now there's a stupid woman for you...going back to a man who dumped you for another woman to find out why he never used you.
 thetruth1

Joined: 5/6/2008
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He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/24/2008 1:07:18 PM
If he's young (20-30's) then he probably wasn't ready for a serious relationship. If he's middle-aged (40-50's) then he probably wasn't that "into you" (i.e. in normal person speak "he wasn't that attracted to you").

the truth speaks
 ~Kyn~

Joined: 2/15/2008
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He walked without a word, what gives??
Posted: 5/24/2008 3:18:27 PM
I can't help but snicker when I read a woman describe what consitutes manhood.

You quite probably should have furthered into the next part of my post...

And more often than not...you will still be Loved for being honest (even if it takes some working through)...but not necessarily for running away.

Not every woman is a crazy b!tch and yes situations become emotional and take working through, you cant expect to drop a bombshell on someone without their being fallout. Its completely ignorant to think otherwise.

People whine continually about how other people treat them, how bad the human race is etc...well for as simple as it is...
...the changes in our relations with people...begins with ourselves.

Too much drama.

It really doesnt matter whether you (generically speaking) think its too much drama.
If you've created a situation...or become embroiled in one...running away WONT help, WONT change what you've done and things DO come back to bite you on the ass.

This is WHY women get sick of men sometimes...its ostrich syndrome....
...you pretend shit isnt happening around you and if you pretend it isnt, then you dont have to worry about it.

Well it DOES matter...and it does cause problems and by taking a passive stance it creates massive problems for nothing.
Its a snowball effect...and once you set that snowball in motion and step away...
...you reap exactly what you sow.

Wanna know why women leave men they Love alot of times?...cos you behave like little boys with a Mummy Syndrome (she'll fix it) and you just arent Men.
You only *think* you are

Male/Female roles are soooo undefined & personal...but whatever the case is between two people...if one has to carry the burden of everything while the other is just effectively lazy...it just wont work.

(works both ways too...alot of women are just lazy)

I know male roles have changed dramatically via feminism and alot of you have nfi what you're doing...BUT although you guys might get my empathy for it...you dont get my sympathy...cos women's roles have changed dramatically too. Its just different and neither is more important than the other.
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