| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:18:31 PM | do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
God I sure hope so. Cuz I'd sure hate to have to entertain them. Let them stay in the sandbox where they belong!
For that matter, anyone older than 20 who THINKS they are appropriate for a 17 year old girl can remain in the sandbox as well. What adult female would WANT them...
Jesus. I got tired of being a Mommy a long time ago. Let someone else babysit those childish, immature churlish gits for awhile. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:25:15 PM | That is something i'm thinking about because The last two were older.
I'm 30, and I was thinking that maybe 17 year olds are less jaded, and if
they hurt you it would be more of an innocent thing and less malicious.
They seem to have a light in their eyes, and they're truly still interested
in what you have to say. A little transparency feels good, after the
coded, secret environment of the older relationship maybe?
Plus, hey they haven't had alot of bar experience and I think that's a wonderful
thing! | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:42:38 PM |
Manipulation and predatory behaviours flourish when there is no one else around who is trying to help the younger person understand what is going on. At least I would try to talk a young person out of such a scenario, the decision will be theirs, but some people seem actually happy that these situations arise
That would only be helpful if the people who think they know what's going on actually DID know what's going on. That's obviously not always the case. Some of us are trying to explain that when we WERE nubile youths, we had a natural attraction - emotionally and intellectually - to some older people, with NO HARM DONE. That some of us were quite "old" when we were young.
these would be the people who want to date younger nubile youths.
Not necessarily. I'm legitimately, chronologically old now, and am still attracted to the same age group - 30s and older, depending on the man - as I was when I was young. I was rarely, even then, attracted to men younger than that. Is that really so difficult to believe? That different people have such varying likes and emotional capabilities?
The real Catch 22 is that I didn't date at all when I was 17 - or 18, or 19 - mostly because the men I WOULD HAVE dated were exactly like me - not particularly attracted to younger people. My loss. If I'd have been a little less shy and frankly less caught up in school and working to pay for school, I might have persued some of them and tried to convince them I was dateable despite my age. And some oldsters would have thought I was being "taken advantage of." Shrug. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:48:32 PM | Ahhhh! I can't believe I'm actually responding to this forum But I've read enough and I felt I needed to say something about this topic.
At the age of 18, I felt much older than the guys my age. I hated the way they talked about women, their bashings and cynical stupid laughs on anything concerning my gender...going on dates was even worse! We couldn't talk about anything. They didn't wanna know anything about my age, let alone my goals or aspirations in life, for them they just landed a date with a hot girl who's smart ( like that even mattered ) and one more thing to talk to their guys friends about.. So they'd sit there pretending they're actually listening but their " blank " is growing and start to have all these notions in their head. And If I happen to fall under that, then maybe they'd get lucky and get a kiss or maybe even more than that " but never too far ". I need a man that challenges me, a man that understands and wants to know about me.; and I've found in my years of dating that older men ( not older than 30 ), if they're sincere actually can be quite good for you. my first boyfriend at the age of 16 was about 21 years old and being with him were truly the best years of my life. That's a kid who was so motivated at being the best, caring, so kind and just great overall.
Dating a young girl of 17 when you're about 20 something can never be too easy; but believe it or not most " girls " that age already know what they want. I would know because i was there...there's certain naivety about them at that age but also on most men i've met as well; or most people. I don't wanna side on anyone on this forum but I would just like to state my personal experience and what I like.
It is a bit disturbing to see a man in his thirties be interested on a 17 year old but I would keep repeating " most girls at the age of 17 already know what they want "
the way i see it either way a man will never fully grow up. He gets better at a certain age but not any greater. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:10:01 AM | Is it really too much to ask for a guy that's over 21 to possibly wait until the girl is out of high school? Age difference is one thing; going after teens is quite another (counting "teens" as high school aged...once out and 18...or maybe out of the parent's house). As I posted earlier, mental age difference is exponential. a few years difference as a teen is about equal to ten when both parties are over 30. Even a 60 year old has more in common as far as life experiences with a 30 year old than a 30 year old does with a 17 year old.
I actually have to agree with Mis Eyre on this one. I just couldn't bring myself to accept a guy that had any sort of inclination towards a teenager whatsoever. I don't care if the guy is 50 and wants a 20 year old, but going after high school kids once one is over 21 seems wrong and selfish.
I understand the arguments made towards historical facts or how other parts of the world do it, but kids are not socialized in the US to be responsible adults when they are teens. They really belong discovering the world with other kids their age, including in the sexual realm, not some old 'has-beens' that want to relive their glory days. Also, there's no way I believe that there are more women dating younger men than the other way around. There are just too many men who would never consider a woman older than them, and out of the few that would, most only for a fling. Current "tradition" still dictates that the man is either the same age or older by a bit. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 6:29:05 AM | Hum...loaded question. I would like to date someone who is mature, and at a similar stage in life that I am. I don't usually see that in girls 18-20, they're still in the high school mindset as far as I'm concerned. But there are always exceptions to the rules. Around my age seems to be the way to go.
To be honest, the only reason I DON'T usually go for older women is just because I feel they're a little beyond my current stage in life. I've just started into a career, working towards a higher position, have no kids, don't own a house/alot of possessions yet...ect. ect., whereas women in their 30's, or slightly older than me, are hopefully beyond that. It's in my head that I need to either be the provider or I need to be in the better off position. Maybe I'll swing that...I don't think I will be able to though.. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 7:55:24 AM | My take on this subject has always been:
The age of consent may be one thing, the age of GOOD TASTE another. 
This is a heated debate topic, and there’s no clear answer one way or the other: some are horrified at the prospect, some are outraged/disgusted, some can see the allure but wouldn’t go for it, and some are all for it so long as it’s legal. I guess the schism can be attributed as to what constitutes old-fashioned standards, as let’s not forget that it’s only in recent decades that we have a tendency to infantilize our teens. There was a time centuries ago where people were being groomed for marriage in their teens... 
I side on the “to each their own so long as it’s legal” front, though it’s personally not for me and I HAVE been tempted on occasion... 
For instance I’m an assistant karate instructor during the evenings, and in our association we get some women from all age ranges, from kids, teens, college students, young professionals, and even mature ladies. The teens are the most dangerous ones in the bunch for the young male instructors like myself in our mid-twenties, not because we desire them overtly, but they have a tendency to flirt with us the most.
To give you all perspective, here is a brief tale of three types of girls I’ve encountered, all aged 16-19, where romantic dilemmas could have risen had I not side-stepped them early on:
Girl A – 16, adorable high school student: This girl is a sweetheart, just finding her way through life and trying to gain some self-confidence. Thankfully I’m old enough that I can simply appreciate her as a cute kid, i.e. NO SEXUAL thoughts even enter my mind as far as she’s concerned, it would be paedophilia in my eyes both because of her look AND personality – she hasn’t grown into her own yet. <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_202.gif border=0>
Girl B – 18, kinky schoolgirl just wrapping up college: This girl is the extroverted high-school tease type – She’s been aware of her sexuality for a few years, clearly sexually-active, and she exudes pheromones like a cat in heat, hitting on various cute male instructors over the last year or two, myself being the latest victim. Now she was a bit of a dilemma: a) she’s 18, b) she’s sexually-uninhibited, c) she’s playful, d) she’s hot and e) she’s into me. That’s a pretty tough offer to turn down as a single guy on the prowl, however I declined for two primary reasons: 1) she’s my student, and when it comes to karate I prefer not to crap where I eat, and 2) despite the physical allure, I just can’t see myself having any kind of normal relationship with her as we have little in common aside from lust. <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_202.gif border=0>
Girl C – 19, mature young lady just about to start university: This girl IS a sweetheart, has a great head on her shoulders, and is kind and absolutely stunning. We get along great as friends despite the age difference, and we’ve often joked that we’ll be married some day down the road. The main problem with her being, I’m actually tempted to follow through with it!
The only thing that stops me there is that she thankfully lives far away at the moment, and also I care about her too much to interfere in her development. Despite her maturity, she’s going to change a LOT during the university years, like I did and most people do, and I just wish for her happiness too much to be some old dude in her way during this important phase of her development. The girl I find adorable now may not be the same woman three years down the road, and I owe it to her to let her discover that on her own... 
So the net result? Three young temptations, and all three have gotten the thumbs down from me. Personally at 28, I'll date any woman from 20 up to 38 so long as they're interesting and attractive to me...
I’m not saying all guys think this way, but I wanted to show the female posters that have been quick to bash everyone as a child-molester what the flipside of the coin may be like for those that might actually try to date younger women... It’s not always about the novelty, you’d be surprised what you can find in common with people from ALL walks of life...  | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 9:12:26 AM | I think a guy goes for younger women because the older one's are all attached, married and have years of guys on their plate that they hav'nt let go of.
A younger women might be more single and more available. I don't think it's always sick thinking like most make it out to be. If a guy is not attached and fully available he may want someone who is really available.
The thing is too, if a 17 year old is going on dating sites, guys will talk to them. If teens go on adult dating sites pretending to be over 18, guys will talk to them. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2008 9:46:20 AM | | ^^^^^ Cougars?? Where are they? Cougars, by definition, go after young boys,.. i dont recall reading a post from a single lady on here advocating going after young men on this thread. Bitter> Meh, well.. maybe by your definition keng,.. I'm presuming that I'm one of the 'bitter' ones you are referring to,.. but I'm no cougar, far from it.. but either way, glad we 'bitter' women have amused you. Its always good to make someone smile, is'nt it? Miss Eyre. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 11:22:25 AM | In general, girls/women look their physical best around their college years 18 - 22. That's the appeal.
And women buy into that as well, as most cover girls and photo models in women's fashion mags are in that age range.
Of course many women look amazing well into their 30s, 40s and even 50s.
I can't imagine why any grown man above 21 would want to date a 17 year old. The conversation would be as inane as watching the Real World. It's also illegal to have sex and socially embarassing to be seen as a couple among people who know you. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:06:04 PM | | I think it is the whole innocence/virgin appeal. Even though anymore the majority of girls have lost this by the time they are 15 or so, the old school thought of it is still there. Its purely sex driven. As far as relationships go, I am 22 and getting to the point where I'm not sure I would date someone under 25. This is because from my experiences the majority of "college age" (18-23/24) young women immature in the relationship department compared to men of this age range. What I mean by this is young women have no idea what they want when it comes to relationships. To them it seems the grass is always greener on the other side. Young men on the other hand know exactly what they want...mostly just sex. I don't feel this makes them immature, especially when the majority will admit it, it makes them human. Young women rarely admit their sex drive or what they truly want from a relationship because they don't know, yet they act like they do. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:12:57 PM | I'm curious on something. Do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls over women who are older?
Funny and as loaded they get
You've given the answer with your own question.
I'd say men like women and boys like girls, age is a poor measure of maturity it seems.
I'd be horrified if a man took advantage of her.
Also that you assume that any guy dating below his age is "taking advantage" is very telling.
t is a bit disturbing to see a man in his thirties be interested on a 17 year old but I would keep repeating " most girls at the age of 17 already know what they want "
the way i see it either way a man will never fully grow up. He gets better at a certain age but not any greater.
That hilarious.
One of the biggest difference I've seen on this continent opposed to Europe is that females are very much girls and only really start to become Women in their thirties.
Younger women are more attractive for sexual appeasement. Having a conversation with or relationship with, an older woman is preferred.
Not at all, Women are more attractive sexually as typically they will be more mature, know what they want and are past the games and manipulation stages of trying to get what they want and actually try communicating.
Depends on you and what you like.
As is the answer with 99% of the questions on this forum ....... | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:39:03 PM | | Why would any man with a pure mind ( <--- that's an important qualifier here folks) have any interest in a girl who's still in high school ? I guess there are always exceptions to rules but by and large, if you're 22 or so and up you should be considering yourself out of the high school dating pool. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:40:14 PM | I think one of the reasons is that some men mature later than women, dating a teenager takes the emphasis off 'growing up' and 'settling down', which a woman of their own age would possibly be looking for in a relationship.
My daughter had also been asked out by men closer to me in age, but turned them down as too old for her, although they obviously did not consider themselves as such.
A man of 34 is old enough to be the father of a 17 year old..! | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:52:44 PM | | ^Actually, I'm not so sure I buy the whole idea that girls mature sooner in life than do boys anymore. I mean, for every girl I know who is "mature" I know a guy who is just as mature. The difference is in interests and how much time they spend developing aspects of their character. She can dress "mature" while he might "act" mature. With that said, in both cases, it doesn't actually change the reality behind the facade which is that neither of them are grown up in any way recognizable to an adult in his or her thirties. | |
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| do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women?
Posted: 3/10/2008 3:54:37 PM | I dont see too much of a problem if your in your 20 and 30, well early 30s to date a young girl 18 and over. Under 18 is disgusting, no matter how mature they may say they think the girl is, that is just BS. Adding to this, men that are over 35 and wanting to date 17 years old well, you can guess what I think of that---carnal or not, you need help.
dont let the computer age, turn you into something you really dont want to be. | |
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