| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:50:30 AM | We all kinda cars.........but very few are brand new here even if they fool themselves. We all quite used...at least we had our drivers before, huh?
The one who is sitting in the corner may consider himself not used, I guess sounds sad for me
I prefer to drive and be used rather than sit in the corner................it's exactly what i am doing now. The only difference - I am not looking for a driver anymore. For a while | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 6:53:01 AM |
Whenever I check out profiles its like checking out options on a vehicle.
I personally like to compare it to shopping myself..........but not for vehicles blueeyedbaldman! I tend to think of shoes. What is the proper fit and how comfortable pop up first. Then you must consider the quality construction and materials that make the difference overall.
On a different note, don't worry about your smoking or having that bald head! Any woman that shuns you for either is not a woman with many brains. The biggest turnoff in a profile you ask? That would be the man that thinks he has everything and feels the need to continually try to be convincing all the way through his profile. Also, no sense of humour in a profile is monotonous.
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 7:24:20 AM | Hoepfully people are way more cautious than jsut buying a 2nd hand car and more choosy, if your looking for someone to shre your precious life with thenit should be done with care and a great deal of thought and patience........
Your wording in your profile is off, and you probaly dont meanto come across as you do.....
It doesnt matter whether yoru family think you are good catch or not, its up to the woman to decide that.
your a bit negative and youcan't use bait to catch a woman, it sounds a bit wrong.
Men dont realise that most women are not totally visual creatures, it is more about what we hear and read, it has to make us feel totallycomfortable and secure and if the man doesnt come across confident and secure then we won;t be able feel thaat way about you either.
I t had a bit of a sales pitch, and again men do this alot, they refer to themselves as good looking or something that sounds the same, again that is up to the individual to decide.
It needs to be more about your life and your direction and thoughts and feelings
My profile is probaly not alright either and could be better, but Its how I was thinking at the time I put it up......
It just doesnt sound positive or like you have any energy. Perhaps you were feeling that way when you did the profile, maybe rethink it in when your feeling more energetic about the whole thing and more positive.
Understand that caution is required, no one want s to make another mistake, its not about attracting a huge volume of people its about attracting the right one for you, you only need to attract one person, hjopefully it wil bethe right one for you......
People jsut pu tto much into these sites and have unreal expectations. Most women are looking for along term relationship and its not about meeting as many people as you can or having your ego boosted by attracting loads of people, its about siftng throught to find the one for you, Ithink most men just respond to the photos they think are attractive and are not thinking in any depth about the rest of the pitcure, and the women can see that by the mis matched profiles......
Change your pofile when your in a different mood from time to time.......... | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 7:28:31 AM | Used car? Nope. Brand new shoe? Yes. 
But I can understand your humor. When I was 19 an older woman once said to me "In dateing you have to be able to offer someone something." and though she didn't say it I knew a good follow up line would be, "Somethng THEY value."
My biggest turn-off is anyone who discribes themselves as laid back and seems to be so. I am considered ambitious (I never thought that till someone told me) and all the "laid-back" experiences I had were never to my tastes. Granted laidback for some people (after reading their profiles) seemed to mean they were open to trying anything at least once. | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 7:35:28 AM | ahhh well if I have to compare myself to a 'used' car.... I would have to promote myself as a "Classic" from the “The Fabulous Fifties”..... If you were a car lover and grew up in the 50's....they really were fabulous. Fins were in and so were ragtops, chrome, fender skirts, fuzzy dice, outside remote spotlights, spinner hubcaps, malt shops and drive-in movies... also known as "Passion Pits!"
hmmmmm ... but I be a Chevrolet Corvette Convertible. VERY RARE ... | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 7:44:52 AM | I re read your profile again, and I still come up with it being a bit negative and unsure, even though it doesnt read that way, and I its is because your selling yourself a bit , Icant put my finger on it and not being specific about what you want, it seems that anyone will do and your open to whatever they want,and that means that women will have to lead the way, and most won't
its jsut what I got after quickly reading it.
Be specific you know what you want and and that will make the woman feel more secure and like your on top of it all, I know you said your shy, but you will have to get over it., and the best way to get over shyness is to face the fear and conquer it.
Strong and confident is how most of us like the man, and divorce does take that away from men.
You have lost your confidence as we all do and you need to get it back and get over being shy and be forward you may get rejected alot but you wont win if you dont do it....
if a hundred women reject you and only one accepts that is great, if you date ten women out of a thousand then you will be narrowing your search for the right one and will have mastered your shyness, you have nothing to lose and hopefully someone to gain.......
Talk about your dreams and tell the woman what you want, paint the pitcure for her.
I need to take my own advice and I will change my profile as well, this post has really helped me figure out my own problem with all of this
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:08:41 AM | OP
Funny that you should compare us humans to being a used car. Thinking further about that, what I observe in women and their cars is that they are prone to trading off their reliable older auto as the car ages because they want a "new" vehicle because in their view the new vehicle is flawless, looks shiny and new, they can select the latest options, rationalizing the new expensive car wont break down at an awkward moment and subject them to being stranded or having to seek repairs. They are willing to dump their current auto and go into long term debt to achieve that sense of security (false that it may be,,,,,,new vehicles break down also). Men on the other hand are prone to repairing what they have, viewing the occassinal breakdown as a nuiscance , not a life threatening happening. Men will have their existing vehicle equipped with the latest ego-boosting options. And yes, sometimes men will go deeply into debt to buy the new, expensive toy , trading off their old one because it no longer is glamorous to them. Yep, I do often feel like POF and other sites are an auto mart.......LOL | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:21:37 AM | No I don't feel like a used car. 'Used' suggests worn out, had it's life etc. But actually just like the human body, when you use it it grows and gets fitter (bodybuilding/fitness etc) the human heart as it gets used to loving and forgiving and trying...then the bigger it's capacity to give more love.
So, I think you start off a Mini and become a Bentley unless of course you respond to the trials and tribulation of relationships with bitterness/regret...well then you stay a Mini. I think the best thing that ever happened to me personally was my last long term g/f...she cheated on me with dozens of men etc....I actually forgave her, ended it of course, we are friends but what I learned was the huge amount of cheating that goes on.....married people, pervs, whatever it's horrendous for straight good people like me. Hopefully I will be able to spot it early...so in a way you might be right about the 'used car' idea....I was used but trying to restore the shine to my Bentley, I am still a Bentley just lost my shine a bit, offers over £10k. Dan | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:27:44 AM |
"Thats why you should look under the hood, check the chassis, inspect the interior, make sure the bumpers are firm, then take em for a thorough test drive before making an offer!"
Truly one of the BEST responses I've ever read to a Forum Q on here!!
Female inspections of all used vehicles includes the following: "We check the engine for any malf*ktions, we kick the tires to make sure they're firmly grounded, we turn their cranks for good measure, and last, but certainly not least, we slide the dipstick all around to make sure it's a very tight fit!"
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:50:22 AM | | Actually tigerlily1, I have been told by many people that my profile was nice. Its all in the eye of the beholder. Just like a used car lol. I dont come off arrogant or aggressive in it because Im not. You made me look at it again and I feel it describes me for who I am. I know many women and men put things on there profiles or glamour pics to try and impress people but I would rather impress with who I am and not who someone wants me to be. I am shy at first but not THAT shy. I have always had a close circle of friends and great family so I dont let just anyone in my life. I didnt read your profile but I will now to see what I think. I appreciate your honesty though and thats what makes us individuals. Were all different. Good luck to you. :) | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 9:01:14 AM | | Ok tigerlily1, I just read your profile and from a guys point of view I thought it was very nice except for 2 things. Putting prefer not to say if you want children comes off to me that you have something to hide. Why not just put undecided? Also you spelled the word " someone" wrong in your profile. I am not a profile basher so I would not have brought it up but since you were being honest I figured I would be too. I know most people ( especially women) hate when improper grammer is used. Personally though I think you have a very nice profile. | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 3:04:25 PM | Hi, and thanks for the comment, I was up late and probably rambled on, I have the flu and and have bee doing the forums while I have been ill, I put prefer not to say about wanting children because I dont take the time to put undecided, I did the profile quickly and that is that.
I read your profile quickly and that was the impression I got and I am a single woman close to your age..... I ramble on a bit....... but I am honest and don't hold back, I amnot every one's cup of tea as I am strong and straight forward, offer my opinions easily, but I do accept it is jsut my opinion...... I love to receive other peoples opinions, the more open honest and blunt the better, thats just me......
I sense you didnt recieve what I said well, no harm intended........ | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 3:24:39 PM | You are very good looking, my typing is way off, I have long nails and tend to bash a hundred miles a minute on the board, I am noticing how much I ramble on and I do tend to miss the point and go on needlessly, My sons are always telling me so, I delve straight into un needed advice, I need to stimulate my brain more and fidn my sense of humour, and be more light hearted about communicating, perhaps check my typing errors, but then again who has time.
I will take more time on the forums now and put more thought into it, in future.
I dont' know what happened to my SOH, I am enjoying everyone elses and am lucky no one has told me to drop off.
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 3:40:52 PM | Biggest turn offs in profiles for me are:
1) incorrect spelling, bad grammar, semantic errors.
makes me feel the guy cannot think and has no education; he'd drive me nuts in 5 seconds
2) shirtless photos.
makes me find him very shallow, self-absorbed and likely a player
3) Short no-content profile, no specific interests stated, no real ideas about what he wants.
makes me feel he is immature, uncentered, hence unstable, and also... boring.
Humour (wit), intelligence, composure and a mix 0f attractiveness and being-a-good-human being are among the most attractive features for me. | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/8/2008 3:58:11 PM | | Lets see used car do they come with a warranty, or are they as is. It jsut seems to me i must be looking in the junk yard or something. I need to find a new car lot. I did like the post about taking the car for a test run. | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/9/2008 10:35:51 AM | | I’m a ’48 Tucker Torpedo! Very rare (only 51 were ever made); full of innovative features and modern styling; 166hp flat 6 rear engine (pull my finger!); fuel injected; and a padded dashboard (hubba-hubba). Though my drag coefficient is only .27, I do enjoy show tunes. I also make an extremely fast getaway when faced with allegations of fraud. | |
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| Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car?
Posted: 3/9/2008 10:51:30 AM | I wouldn't be a car at all... I am all truck... I sit up tall and think big. A truck can go places I have never been before with no worries.... I am definately a truck!
As for things that I find a turn off in profiles... a man that insists he is the cats meow so to speak. I am really not interested in words of what a person can do. Words are words and a dime a dozen. So many people tend to put in their profile what they are looking for in a woman or man.... I don't know what I am looking for... Each person is different and exploring different ideals and interests are interesting to me. I guess I will know what I am looking for when I find it.........Just because a man is bald, or smokes, doesnt' mean we couldn't get along and even find a connection. At the very least end up with a very good friendship. Setting a criteria for what you expect in a person limits you, and you may have just chased away the best thing that could have come into your life because of being different... Opposites can attract. If everyone was alike there would be no individialism. JMHO | |
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