| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/16/2008 9:21:55 PM | Sorry you girls seem to have found a real jerk in this fish pond. So good for you for kicking him to the curb. There are some of us out here really trying to find the right person for us. Guys and gals with his attitude hurt us all. Don't let this guy discourage you. Most ponds will have a leach in them. and of course they come in 2 sexes. So in closing good luck as you continue search. I am pulling for YA.
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/29/2008 10:55:15 AM | | This week I received an email from a man who because he didn't like the way I look,figure he needed to make me feel bad about myself. I know I am not built like a barbie doll but for him to write and tell me he feels the need to "strap me to a treadmill" was just downright rude!I know I don't appeal to everyone and that's okay but what gave him the right to be that mean spirited?If he didn't like what he saw when looking at my picture,why would he not just keep"fishing"?It's made me contemplate removing my profile from POF. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/29/2008 11:10:01 AM | ^^^^ You can't let morons like that get to you. Obviously he is either just a kid having some fun, or a complete idiot. They do that just to get a reaction, so don't give it to them. The only person you need to please is you, and as long as you are ok with who you are then pi$$ on anyone else. Whatever you do, don't delete your profile over something as assinine as that...enjoy your fishin'....  | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/29/2008 12:27:19 PM | unique, You ask what gives him the right to email you and say hateful things to you? Well the computer allows slimey weasels like him to hide behind a computer screen and act like a complete tool.
Don't you dare delete your profile as you would be allowing that idiot to win.
What he says about you, to you etc, doesn't mean squat.
Don't give him that power, period.! | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:13:22 PM | Shygirl ... trust me, it's not just guys doing it. I probably receive an email once a month from someone whose only purpose in sending me an email is to insult me. Got another one today. I just laugh and shrug it off. I have no desire in meeting those type of people anyway, so it's not like they are breaking my heart by telling me I'm a jerk for being so blunt in my profile.
I actually had one woman email me just to say "I wouldn't date you if you were the last man on earth."
I emailed her back telling her not to worry ... that if I were the last man on earth, she wouldn't stand a chance | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:55:37 PM |
I actually had one woman email me just to say "I wouldn't date you if you were the last man on earth."
I emailed her back telling her not to worry ... that if I were the last man on earth, she wouldn't stand a chance
Just randomly emailed you and say that or in response to an email?
I am in shock if it is that a woman actually just randomly emailed you to be that mean | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/7/2008 7:03:54 PM | When did it become ok for people to be a..holes? Sadly, they are everwhere though..not just on a dating site. You can't hold the whole site accountable for one jerk (is a girl a jerk too??). Don't you just wish you could publish their names and save the rest of the decent folk from having to read these nasty messages.
Its one thing to get into a fight and have your feelings hurt and saying something rude. But to signal someone out just to be nasty, that amazes me. Just remember what a miserable loser that person must be. His/her life is so sad that he has nothing better to do with his time.
PS I just read Prairie's profile and loved it. She must have been one of those wackos who has no clue what a sense of humour is. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/7/2008 7:26:58 PM |
I thought his profile was very funny
I only have to disagree with this:
3) If you have 6 pictures and you're not smiling in any of them, I'm not interested. Sorry...it's just a thing I have. If you can't smile for the camera, I'm sure you won't be able to smile for me either...and I have no desire to be around unhappy people.
As my friends know, I simply hate having my pic taken. I've went outside of myself to try to make it more tolerable
But I smile a lot and I laugh a lot and I make my friends laugh a lot
Not liking your pic being taken does not equal being unhappy ;-) | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/7/2008 7:30:51 PM |
I actually had one woman email me just to say "I wouldn't date you if you were the last man on earth."
I'd find that hard to believe as an initial email!! Maybe in response to an initial email, but not an initial one!!
When did it become ok for people to be a..holes?
We've been around for centuries!!
When I see a woman that is 48 looking for men in the age range of 21 - 55 I just have to say something sarcastic! | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/8/2008 3:31:35 AM | I've had all manner of insults written to me...some were well deserved too lol.Having someone delete an email without reading it is probably one of the most ignorant things I've had happen.I don't mind someone not writing back but,it only takes a second to open the damn thing.The interesting thing about that is this...There have been many times I wasn't writing to express interest in the actual person but,to comment on their profile or
maybe the heading they chose.Its funny just how many people are transformed once they get a profile on here.They go from Average to Extraordinary in just a few short emails.I should point out that most women Ive written to have been very nice even if they didn't have a romantic interest | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/8/2008 4:43:29 AM | "I'd find that hard to believe as an initial email!! Maybe in response to an initial email, but not an initial one!!"
YOU'D find it hard to believe ... imagine how I felt !!!
Nope, it was the original email alright. I stopped sending out initial emails long ago on this site. Pretty much here just for the forums and to keep up with a couple of friends I made when I was living on Vancouver Island. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/14/2008 5:36:58 AM | "3) If you have 6 pictures and you're not smiling in any of them, I'm not interested. Sorry...it's just a thing I have. If you can't smile for the camera, I'm sure you won't be able to smile for me either...and I have no desire to be around unhappy people".
Smiling doesn't mean you are happy.Not smiling doesn't mean you are unhappy.Im usually uncomfortable taking a picture..not unhappy.If you ever ended up on my doorstep for a visit,rest assured I'd have a big smile and a hug waiting for you | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:25:31 AM | Just randomly emailed you and say that or in response to an email?
I am in shock if it is that a woman actually just randomly emailed you to be that mean
All this time on here Paige and you can still be shocked... Now I'm surprised. :)
Or maybe you were just shocked that a woman could do this? Either way, now I'm surprised. :)
Nevertheless, it happens. I've gotten many hate letters out of the blue with no prior interaction. Please don't bother looking on my profile to try to figure out why. It's too long and you probably have far better things to do. Does it really matter if there's something there anyway?
What gives people the right to act this way? We did. You did. I did. We decided as a society a long time ago that we would rather put up with a few assholes than restrict peoples freedom of expression. When the assholes are gone so will all of the poets critics and commentators. We will lose the people that move the human race forward when all the people that can make your day unsunny are gone as well. We need the outliers.
Once someone's been an asshole to you then you have a variety of potential reactions. May I suggest giving them all of the attention they so richly deserve by doing nothing more than clicking delete?
(I suppose another reaction is to recognize that POF, in it's little microcosm, is actually a dictatorship perfectly willing to decide who is and is not dateable and will remove people if you complain loud enough or with enough evidence. The preceding snide description aside... it's been pretty well proven that moderators to internet discussion improve it, just as reasonable rules of conduct in Parliament or any large body of people meeting together in real life greases the discourse. ) | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:28:32 AM | (blowing my 2 in 10)
OK, I used asshole liberally in the last post, but really, anyone acting like this is clearly a wounded animal just lashing out at whatever happens to wander by. Your profile wandered too close. They are to be pitied. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:56:10 AM | Its not men! in general who wanna make women feel bad nor is it women! in general who wanna stress a guy every 5 seconds lol.
It must be a personal experience of yours cause this happens on both ends, its comes down to the person not the sex, if you find a couple losers who do this then move on and find someone who isn't like that, this advice can work for both men and women. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:19:31 PM | | I've gotten a couple of mean emails from women out of the blue that I didn't even know. Just tell them off and forget about it. Case closed. Judging by the spelling in the email, the guy has a grade one education so I wouldn't take it to heart. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 5/2/2008 9:02:50 PM | this is normal psychology from either a man or a women that is seeking attention..
after all flirting with someone is a form of teasing and is a form of trying to make a women feel bad or inadequate. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:33:06 AM | To the Op's post. I don't feel bad when people send messages like that. People that judgemental live in a little bubble and are social cripples. Chance are, I wouldn't date them anyway so they are just speeding up the process saving some of my time.
There are lots of possibilities to every action. You can think in your own head what the probabilities are but if you lean to negative possiblilities all the time you are likely to see the world in a really negative way. I prefer to have realistically positive people in my life. and people like the guy who messaged you is more than likely an unwanted anchor. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 5/4/2008 12:01:55 PM | ^ ^ ^
bitterness is such an unattractive quality
POF .. the place for chicks with Bfs pretending to be single .. looking for something better.. " opportunity costs" this is why I hate north americans and prefer europeans they have a spine... | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 12:56:09 PM | ^^^^^ lol its the truth I am not bitter at all.. before degrading this convo into a flame war..
here is my rational behind the lack of spine remark not that I really give what anyone thinks cause everyone is entiled to their own opinion myself included
1. All europeans agree that north americans aka canadians, americans are spineless and direct proponents of global terrorism via bullying and foreign policy.
2.Chris Columbus f u c k ed up you, this country was founded by his mistake... great ofcourse but a mistake .. nonetheless in stead for india he fucked up and sailed into north america and then had the odasity to call Aboriginals Indians.
3. The invadors lol essentially like all invadors took over the "indians" or "aboriginals lands" and in less then 400 years of history the people of our fabulous country think they are god..
4. History has a funny way of being cyclic ... and repeating itself and superpowers are also cyclic... in fashion and change hands every so often.
Anyone telling me I am bitter just hasnt seen all my points ( there is more) ofcourse this would require many many hours of discussion and many beers lol and much debate
therefore,
the lack of a spine comment is directly derived from our subculture which is derived from this egotistic invincibility cloak we think we have as compared to other countries . ( you can read in to this as much as you want) bitter I am not... more amused if anything.
No one ever says what they mean anymore right off the top of their head, I am not one of them.. I really don't care about political correctness I care about truth or perhaps the search for truth because even my facts may be catty and mistaken
cheers ...
( this is a direct responce to the last post and has nothing to do with this thread) | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 5/4/2008 1:38:38 PM | ^^^^ You really do need to start speaking for yourself and not for others.
What a crock of 'do do' saying all Europeans think this way, and all North Americans are that way.
I really get cranky when I see someone generalizing on these forums!
Come on .. I hope you are a young person and have a lot more growing to do.! | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 5/4/2008 2:41:43 PM | you get cranky by what someone types... I sure hate to see what happens when someone drives a car through your living room.
never mind... I was going to say something nice.. but.. instead .. I am glad its making you cranky because its the start of your cure from brainwashing. | |
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